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I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me  |
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it  "
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it
Nope, attracts the wrong ones in the inbox that 'think' they know what that all involves and takes."
Wannadoms? Dommabes? Buzz buzz.
They are a plague. Collar pictures do draw them in. I don't recommend it  |
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it
Nope, attracts the wrong ones in the inbox that 'think' they know what that all involves and takes."
Good point,dont blame you,bet you look amazing though x |
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By *osie89Woman 48 weeks ago
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I have a plain silver bangle that I wear everyday as a 24/7 symbol of ownership. At home I wear the leather collar in my profile pic unless we are doing a job that requires going in and out the house a lot, or if I’m instructed otherwise.  |
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it
Nope, attracts the wrong ones in the inbox that 'think' they know what that all involves and takes.
Wannadoms? Dommabes? Buzz buzz.
They are a plague. Collar pictures do draw them in. I don't recommend it "
Is it worth the time and effort to "train" someone? |
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I have a collar that I haven't worn for ages, in fact this thread reminded me of it so I will need to dig it out as I love it, nothing wrote on it though, plain and black leather..... off to find it!
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it
Nope, attracts the wrong ones in the inbox that 'think' they know what that all involves and takes.
Wannadoms? Dommabes? Buzz buzz.
They are a plague. Collar pictures do draw them in. I don't recommend it "
Yep, you know exactly what I'm talking about. |
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By *osie89Woman 48 weeks ago
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it
Nope, attracts the wrong ones in the inbox that 'think' they know what that all involves and takes.
Wannadoms? Dommabes? Buzz buzz.
They are a plague. Collar pictures do draw them in. I don't recommend it "
I must be doing something wrong, because most of the messages I receive assume I’m a Domme!  |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it
Nope, attracts the wrong ones in the inbox that 'think' they know what that all involves and takes.
Wannadoms? Dommabes? Buzz buzz.
They are a plague. Collar pictures do draw them in. I don't recommend it
I must be doing something wrong, because most of the messages I receive assume I’m a Domme! "
I've had that on a past profile...pose for a picture confidently with a collar on and they assume you're not submissive because of the confidence you show. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it
Nope, attracts the wrong ones in the inbox that 'think' they know what that all involves and takes.
Wannadoms? Dommabes? Buzz buzz.
They are a plague. Collar pictures do draw them in. I don't recommend it
Is it worth the time and effort to "train" someone? "
After two experiences where I was willing to show someone what I liked I wouldn't entertain training someone ever again. It's really easy to get burnt doing that especially when it comes to aftercare. I learned very severely on that one last time. I wouldn't recommend it at all. Even when someone talks like they understand they can change their tune afterwards and be an utter dickhead. I would only go with someone experienced and naturally wired the way I need them to be. |
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"I absolutely love being in a collar, it's been a long time since I had mine on. It has such an effect on me and changes my demeanor in seconds. Its not something I let just anyone do either. God I miss that, why can't I find a decent guy for this side of me
Think you need to put a pic on your profile wearing it
Nope, attracts the wrong ones in the inbox that 'think' they know what that all involves and takes.
Wannadoms? Dommabes? Buzz buzz.
They are a plague. Collar pictures do draw them in. I don't recommend it
I must be doing something wrong, because most of the messages I receive assume I’m a Domme!
I've had that on a past profile...pose for a picture confidently with a collar on and they assume you're not submissive because of the confidence you show. "
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Been thinking a lot about this now. I wore a Vivienne Westwood pearl c h o k e r last night and it was so hot when he had his hand around my neck as I orgasmed. 
A discreet purpose one would be amazing- though I don’t think I can get away wearing one at work. 
*keeps browsing* |
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I wear a day collar every day. It has an inscription inside that's for our eyes only. He sometimes switches my day collar for something more robust & leather - it's his choice and depends what we're doing. |
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By *asha86Couple 48 weeks ago
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We like the day collar as no one knows what it means as its inconspicuous. The evening collar/s come out when we are in play mode. We did alot of research before we started with collars and what they represent |
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I do like a collar. They add a little something to any outfit or give a great look.
A collar can mean so much more in the Fet scene, but I just in it for the aesthetics and the practicality of attaching a lead in fetish play. |
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I absolutely love when he puts a collar around my neck, love the feeling as it tightens, the cold leather against my skin, the way my back arches as he yanks on the lead, or wraps it around his wrist and pulls me in close
Aesthetically I think they make for great photos too yes they are meant to symbolise submission in a woman but to be honest I feel like a bad ass when I wear one, I’m wearing it because I feel good in it not because I belong to someone or that I am an advocate for control - that said I’d only wear one with him as there’s trust and respect there and I can let myself go in his hands xx |
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C has two - a day to day one that’s inconspicuous and the other is a dark red soft leather collar that has a lead with it.
Haven’t used the red one for a while but they are hot.
It’s not a symbol of ownership though - she looks hot wearing them.
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"I love a collar on a woman or other x do you have a collar and what does it say? (If it says anything?)
There’s a woman in the village who’s always in a collar, but then she is the vicar "
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Miss collars me for Embargo every month, it's not about ownership, dominance, for us it's a symbol that I give myself entirely to her control whilst I wear it. It empowers us both and makes an unbreakable bond. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I love a collar on a woman or other x do you have a collar and what does it say? (If it says anything?)
There’s a woman in the village who’s always in a collar, but then she is the vicar kinkiest ones going "
Submission to God, her Master! |
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By *eliWoman 37 weeks ago
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I have quite a few from previous relationships. I have one currently that I like an awful lot.
I did tell him not to get one as I won't be collared. It's beautiful though. Thin but a satisfying weight to it day collar.
If they don't have the weight of expectation attached to them, I like them.  |
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"I have quite a few from previous relationships. I have one currently that I like an awful lot.
I did tell him not to get one as I won't be collared. It's beautiful though. Thin but a satisfying weight to it day collar.
If they don't have the weight of expectation attached to them, I like them. "
I find the collaring thing has ruined for some what really is just a sex tool and a sign of being sub. I wish they had a sort of wedding ring for owning and not use a collar. I love collars on subs and put them on them for sessions and love it if they have one, for me it's a tool to put a leash on and makes the sub easier to handle. Also fantastic to pull on when fucking doggy style x |
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"I have quite a few from previous relationships. I have one currently that I like an awful lot.
I did tell him not to get one as I won't be collared. It's beautiful though. Thin but a satisfying weight to it day collar.
If they don't have the weight of expectation attached to them, I like them. I find the collaring thing has ruined for some what really is just a sex tool and a sign of being sub. I wish they had a sort of wedding ring for owning and not use a collar. I love collars on subs and put them on them for sessions and love it if they have one, for me it's a tool to put a leash on and makes the sub easier to handle. Also fantastic to pull on when fucking doggy style x"
There’s the ownership / owned symbol.
People use collars for what it means to them , I’d never use as a sex toy and very rarely put a woman on a lead, I think twice in my life but love her in a pretty collar kneeling |
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By *eliWoman 37 weeks ago
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"I have quite a few from previous relationships. I have one currently that I like an awful lot.
I did tell him not to get one as I won't be collared. It's beautiful though. Thin but a satisfying weight to it day collar.
If they don't have the weight of expectation attached to them, I like them. I find the collaring thing has ruined for some what really is just a sex tool and a sign of being sub. I wish they had a sort of wedding ring for owning and not use a collar. I love collars on subs and put them on them for sessions and love it if they have one, for me it's a tool to put a leash on and makes the sub easier to handle. Also fantastic to pull on when fucking doggy style x"
Yes, I can understand what you mean.
That doesn't mean I like secondhand collars (a person once tried to give me a used one, politely accepted it and then threw it away) but it does mean I don't want all the connotations of something that I find hot and kinky until I want it. If at all. Leashes are so deliciously hot! And underappreciated. |
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"I have quite a few from previous relationships. I have one currently that I like an awful lot.
I did tell him not to get one as I won't be collared. It's beautiful though. Thin but a satisfying weight to it day collar.
If they don't have the weight of expectation attached to them, I like them. I find the collaring thing has ruined for some what really is just a sex tool and a sign of being sub. I wish they had a sort of wedding ring for owning and not use a collar. I love collars on subs and put them on them for sessions and love it if they have one, for me it's a tool to put a leash on and makes the sub easier to handle. Also fantastic to pull on when fucking doggy style x
Yes, I can understand what you mean.
That doesn't mean I like secondhand collars (a person once tried to give me a used one, politely accepted it and then threw it away) but it does mean I don't want all the connotations of something that I find hot and kinky until I want it. If at all. Leashes are so deliciously hot! And underappreciated."
indeed x I would happily buy a sub one a new one for the use in sessions and for leashed hard sex |
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"I have quite a few from previous relationships. I have one currently that I like an awful lot.
I did tell him not to get one as I won't be collared. It's beautiful though. Thin but a satisfying weight to it day collar.
If they don't have the weight of expectation attached to them, I like them. I find the collaring thing has ruined for some what really is just a sex tool and a sign of being sub. I wish they had a sort of wedding ring for owning and not use a collar. I love collars on subs and put them on them for sessions and love it if they have one, for me it's a tool to put a leash on and makes the sub easier to handle. Also fantastic to pull on when fucking doggy style x"
I think there’s a lot of misconceptions about collars.
Collars are a fun play toy. People like to put them on for sex/scenes because they look cute and because they can be fun for manhandling a guy or dragging him around on a lead. They’re also obviously big in the pet play community.
There’s also the term “collaring” which is a term in the Ownership kink scene, in a master/sl*ve relationship. Very rare though, and often not a “collar” at all. I have collared with a bracelet and I’ve collared with a cock ring. Both were handmade, engraved, and beautiful.
Some people were collars to signify being a sub, but in my experience most people don’t. I know a dominant woman who wears a collar to clubs because it’s cute and she likes it.
I have a load of collars I get guys to wear. They’re not “second hand”, they are just kept for playtime. They are all different and serve different purposes. |
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" Wish I had a collar given to me by a really kinky dominant cpl or Hung Master. And it could say "Sissy Whore", "Sissy Fuckhole" or "Daddy's Bitch"."
I’m sure there’s plenty of guys here who would love that (not me). I prefer pets with cuter names like puppy, kitten or baby fucktoy |
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"I have quite a few from previous relationships. I have one currently that I like an awful lot.
I did tell him not to get one as I won't be collared. It's beautiful though. Thin but a satisfying weight to it day collar.
If they don't have the weight of expectation attached to them, I like them. I find the collaring thing has ruined for some what really is just a sex tool and a sign of being sub. I wish they had a sort of wedding ring for owning and not use a collar. I love collars on subs and put them on them for sessions and love it if they have one, for me it's a tool to put a leash on and makes the sub easier to handle. Also fantastic to pull on when fucking doggy style x
I think there’s a lot of misconceptions about collars.
Collars are a fun play toy. People like to put them on for sex/scenes because they look cute and because they can be fun for manhandling a guy or dragging him around on a lead. They’re also obviously big in the pet play community.
There’s also the term “collaring” which is a term in the Ownership kink scene, in a master/sl*ve relationship. Very rare though, and often not a “collar” at all. I have collared with a bracelet and I’ve collared with a cock ring. Both were handmade, engraved, and beautiful.
Some people were collars to signify being a sub, but in my experience most people don’t. I know a dominant woman who wears a collar to clubs because it’s cute and she likes it.
I have a load of collars I get guys to wear. They’re not “second hand”, they are just kept for playtime. They are all different and serve different purposes."
There are some beautiful mostly silver jewelry collars with symbol or concept only in form of bracelet, necklace and also bondage ring. I love this stuff, it’s quite rare. I design bondage rings in 14ct, it’s the most beautiful wedding gift
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By *eliWoman 37 weeks ago
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"I have quite a few from previous relationships. I have one currently that I like an awful lot.
I did tell him not to get one as I won't be collared. It's beautiful though. Thin but a satisfying weight to it day collar.
If they don't have the weight of expectation attached to them, I like them. I find the collaring thing has ruined for some what really is just a sex tool and a sign of being sub. I wish they had a sort of wedding ring for owning and not use a collar. I love collars on subs and put them on them for sessions and love it if they have one, for me it's a tool to put a leash on and makes the sub easier to handle. Also fantastic to pull on when fucking doggy style x
I think there’s a lot of misconceptions about collars.
Collars are a fun play toy. People like to put them on for sex/scenes because they look cute and because they can be fun for manhandling a guy or dragging him around on a lead. They’re also obviously big in the pet play community.
There’s also the term “collaring” which is a term in the Ownership kink scene, in a master/sl*ve relationship. Very rare though, and often not a “collar” at all. I have collared with a bracelet and I’ve collared with a cock ring. Both were handmade, engraved, and beautiful.
Some people were collars to signify being a sub, but in my experience most people don’t. I know a dominant woman who wears a collar to clubs because it’s cute and she likes it.
I have a load of collars I get guys to wear. They’re not “second hand”, they are just kept for playtime. They are all different and serve different purposes."
I'm quite aware of the term collaring, and the reason he gave it to me. I also know the myriad of ways a person can be collared - as in what with.
I used the term secondhand. In my eyes, it is. I don't want to wear something another has during sex. I also don't particularly like sex toys that have been used on others used on me.
That's where clear communication comes in. And compatibility. There's no right or wrong way of approaching it, it depends on your dynamic. What you're comfortable with, together. What it signifies to you. And if relevant, the other. |
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By *edeWoman 37 weeks ago
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I do one or several.
I love wearing them, but they are more than just a pretty piece of jewellery/attire to me. It's how they make me feel when I wear one of them.
I am aware everyone is different though and may not have the same reason of wearing them as I do so I would never presume  |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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I now have one, its exciting to wear - i wanted a day one, but was drawn to a gorgeous chunky one with an anodised ring, so i don't think I'll get away with that on zoom!
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Of course i have my very discrete unicorn bracelet that i wear in the day |
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By *edeWoman 37 weeks ago
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"I now have one, its exciting to wear - i wanted a day one, but was drawn to a gorgeous chunky one with an anodised ring, so i don't think I'll get away with that on zoom!
Pics on profile
Of course i have my very discrete unicorn bracelet that i wear in the day "
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"I now have one, its exciting to wear - i wanted a day one, but was drawn to a gorgeous chunky one with an anodised ring, so i don't think I'll get away with that on zoom!
Pics on profile
Of course i have my very discrete unicorn bracelet that i wear in the day
I have my anklet "
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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It really depends on what is going on in the wearer's secret life. Most of them are worn for the look, but some are worn for a reason. I once spotted a classy business lady with a stainless steel collar in Boots ar Canary Wharf. She looked at me and realised I knew she wore it for somebody, likely a dare or hardcore devotion. I smiled and walked the other way, but it was one of those "I know what you are doing/I know you know" moments. |
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We both wear collars.
They mean different things to different folks.
We love the way they look on people. And whatever it symbolises for them is great. Or even if they just like wearing them as just an accessory.
Our collars are our way of showing our personal commitment to each other. I never take mine off.
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I had a collar that said slut on it ..it was for when I was with my friend but I felt if we had extra company over the guy/s thought I was a slut for them to but it wasn’t what I wanted so that collar is put away now & I only wear a collar with a love heart on it |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Ive got a couple of thin black leather ones but favourite one is a soft leather one in red n black with a couple of rows of steel spike studs in it.
Might get a photo with it on and stick it on here to judge reactions??? |
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