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Can people change from bad to good?
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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I was watching a christmas carol scrooge with the actor patrick stewart and I like the christmas message they gave that you can change yourself if you are bad to good, whats your view? I belive you can do it if the person really wants too  |
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I’m proof you can change. In my teen years I was probably a couple of bad decisions away from a life of crime, some of my friends from that time are in jail, dead or addicted to drugs. If you met me now you’d never guess I was like that when I was younger because I made a massive effort to turn my life around. |
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"You can change your actions. But you can never change your way of thinking.
I know people who are/have been a horrible cunt. They’re still a horrible cunt, they just don’t act like it.
The mr "
This^^  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was watching a christmas carol scrooge with the actor patrick stewart and I like the christmas message they gave that you can change yourself if you are bad to good, whats your view? I belive you can do it if the person really wants too "
Morning Shag 
Happy Christmas
Depends on the mind of the person. No one can force anyone to change their mindset.
Some people cannot change errs of their way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m proof you can change. In my teen years I was probably a couple of bad decisions away from a life of crime, some of my friends from that time are in jail, dead or addicted to drugs. If you met me now you’d never guess I was like that when I was younger because I made a massive effort to turn my life around."
I can relate to this so much. I found myself looking up a couple of different paths when I was younger,. I chose the wrong ones. I finally chose the right one. I once made a massive mistake, hence the reason why I’m single.
I’m the best person right now, then I’ve ever been because of self reflection, which is hard to take when you see a bad person in the mirror. That’s when you can’t live with what you’ve done, or what you’re doing.
I’ve got good morals, good integrity, good loyalty I’m the least selfish person I’ve ever been. What time is? I watch people around me, make good choices and changes in the lives for the better all the time,. Just because someone was once a Cunt, doesn’t mean they will stay that way, if theres good in someone, good will always win. I know people can change, I agree with Charles Dickens   |
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"I’m proof you can change. In my teen years I was probably a couple of bad decisions away from a life of crime, some of my friends from that time are in jail, dead or addicted to drugs. If you met me now you’d never guess I was like that when I was younger because I made a massive effort to turn my life around.
I can relate to this so much. I found myself looking up a couple of different paths when I was younger,. I chose the wrong ones. I finally chose the right one. I once made a massive mistake, hence the reason why I’m single.
I’m the best person right now, then I’ve ever been because of self reflection, which is hard to take when you see a bad person in the mirror. That’s when you can’t live with what you’ve done, or what you’re doing.
I’ve got good morals, good integrity, good loyalty I’m the least selfish person I’ve ever been. What time is? I watch people around me, make good choices and changes in the lives for the better all the time,. Just because someone was once a Cunt, doesn’t mean they will stay that way, if theres good in someone, good will always win. I know people can change, I agree with Charles Dickens "
Well said and I’m glad you managed to get to a place where you’re happy with who you are. I’m no saint but I’m a much better man than anyone ever thought I’d be and I’m content with that. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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I think it is more likely to work the other way.
I used to be a lot more forgiving towards people and particularly women
Now too many bad experiences has made me cynical. My new irmew is not changing anytime soon. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"You can change your actions. But you can never change your way of thinking.
I know people who are/have been a horrible cunt. They’re still a horrible cunt, they just don’t act like it.
The mr "
Yes, you are right there, that one can change their action too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"I was watching a christmas carol scrooge with the actor patrick stewart and I like the christmas message they gave that you can change yourself if you are bad to good, whats your view? I belive you can do it if the person really wants too
Morning Shag
Happy Christmas
Depends on the mind of the person. No one can force anyone to change their mindset.
Some people cannot change errs of their way. "
Hi and morning becs and yes, you are right there, it also depends on the mindset of the person, it might take longer for them to change too, merry christmas |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"Some people can but it takes self awareness. With some it's an innate badness that'll never change"
Yes, you are right there, it would take a lot of self awareness to be able to change too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I’m proof you can change. In my teen years I was probably a couple of bad decisions away from a life of crime, some of my friends from that time are in jail, dead or addicted to drugs. If you met me now you’d never guess I was like that when I was younger because I made a massive effort to turn my life around."
That is good that you were able to change too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s a little good in the worst of us and a little bad in the best of us I’m talking spiritually and mentally. No one has a perfect track record, but I suppose as you get older and wiser and have less testosterone you make better decisions. But is anyone always good or always bad even in the way they think? the answer is no, it’s a ying Yang situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m proof you can change. In my teen years I was probably a couple of bad decisions away from a life of crime, some of my friends from that time are in jail, dead or addicted to drugs. If you met me now you’d never guess I was like that when I was younger because I made a massive effort to turn my life around.That is good that you were able to change too "
Fair play to you pal that’s awesome |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think if people are capable of accoutability and self reflection it is possible to change.. But overcoming your unc*nscious bias is pretty hard and it will usually take quite a lot of effort
There are some thoroughly unpleasant people who will never achieve a level of self awareness |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There’s a little good in the worst of us and a little bad in the best of us I’m talking spiritually and mentally. No one has a perfect track record, but I suppose as you get older and wiser and have less testosterone you make better decisions. But is anyone always good or always bad even in the way they think? the answer is no, it’s a ying Yang situation. "
That’s a very familiar quote and if you got it from where I think you did, you understand the capacity to change.
Usually most people with bad behaviours don’t have a moment of realisation and work hard to turn it around.
I have seen plenty of people some would deem “bad” change their lives and the people around them for the better!! |
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I gave someone the chance to show they have changed, and all the tools and support to do it.
It’s my biggest regret. Not only had they not changed, their behaviour deteriorated and it turned my life upside down in the process.
People don’t change. Not in my experience. |
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Yes i totally believe in the power of change including thinking. Rascists can become woke, atheists religious and vuce versa. A lot of the time its about being open to learning and being reconditioned. |
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"You can change your actions. But you can never change your way of thinking.
I know people who are/have been a horrible cunt. They’re still a horrible cunt, they just don’t act like it.
The mr "
Another idiotic post by a horrible cunt, you are defined by your actions not your thoughts, if you were most of us would be in prison |
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"Yes i totally believe in the power of change including thinking. Rascists can become woke, atheists religious and vuce versa. A lot of the time it’s about being open to learning and being reconditioned."
Don’t you mean religious folk becoming atheists, that’s what education does |
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You can change but it takes massive effort to.
As a kid I was always in trouble with the law, it took me joining the army to turn myself around. Even now after it all I still could go back to how I was but now it's my choice not to
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"I was watching a christmas carol scrooge with the actor patrick stewart and I like the christmas message they gave that you can change yourself if you are bad to good, whats your view? I belive you can do it if the person really wants too "
Door swings both ways |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"You can change but it takes massive effort to.
As a kid I was always in trouble with the law, it took me joining the army to turn myself around. Even now after it all I still could go back to how I was but now it's my choice not to
Wolf"
Yes, you are right there, it does take a massive effort too, that is good how you were able to change as well |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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My thought on this. A female I know met with a guy . She has had child with him. Yet so far he has assaulted her three times in recent months to my knowledge . Yet she still lets him visit child. He gives no financial support to her. I have tried to tell her he will not change . ( he has a court order from another female about abuse etc) Plus a restriction from a wife about seeing children.
Yet I am in wrong in her eyes for this, so much as not messaging me . He is not going to change ever ? |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I think if people are capable of accoutability and self reflection it is possible to change.. But overcoming your unc*nscious bias is pretty hard and it will usually take quite a lot of effort
There are some thoroughly unpleasant people who will never achieve a level of self awareness "
Yes, you are right there, it will take some effort to be able to do it too |
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