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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do this every year for someone in our local community. You buy food and essentials for a family make up a hamper and they give you a list of families to deliver it too. I had said I'd deliver it on Friday, they said sorry were not in Friday, so I said Saturday night they said were at a party Saturday night could you do Sunday. I said yes but it would have to be after 5 when I finished work, I delivered it to a house brighter than Blackpool Illuminations and a young Lass early 20's just took the hamper and said nothing, no merry Xmas or anything. It's really pissed me off. Sorry rant over  |
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I can imagine that was a bit disheartening. Unfortunately there will always be people who play the system, I hope it doesn’t detract from the times you have made a massive positive impact on someone’s Christmas. |
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"I can imagine that was a bit disheartening. Unfortunately there will always be people who play the system, I hope it doesn’t detract from the times you have made a massive positive impact on someone’s Christmas. "
We've actually donated to the same family for the last 4 years, but they moved away in the summer so had to choose a different family this year.
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"I can imagine that was a bit disheartening. Unfortunately there will always be people who play the system, I hope it doesn’t detract from the times you have made a massive positive impact on someone’s Christmas. We've actually donated to the same family for the last 4 years, but they moved away in the summer so had to choose a different family this year."
That's really shit.  Hope it doesn't put you off.
Maybe they had all the lights on just for Christmas to celebrate and will be freezing again next week. Also the girl may have felt embarrassed and didn't know what to say. X |
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"I do this every year for someone in our local community. You buy food and essentials for a family make up a hamper and they give you a list of families to deliver it too. I had said I'd deliver it on Friday, they said sorry were not in Friday, so I said Saturday night they said were at a party Saturday night could you do Sunday. I said yes but it would have to be after 5 when I finished work, I delivered it to a house brighter than Blackpool Illuminations and a young Lass early 20's just took the hamper and said nothing, no merry Xmas or anything. It's really pissed me off. Sorry rant over "
Ungrateful sods |
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We did this last year. Made up a hamper, asked her what meat she would like, put in quite a few tasty extras, only to deliver it to find someone answering the door with a modern smartphone and fag in her hand. I did get a thank you but not a heartfelt one. Makes you wonder why you bother. |
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"Charitable acts are difficult when the recipients dont react how you hoped they would. Your good intentions still stand though.
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I hope this comes across "right", but charity should be performed because it's the right thing to do. Not because one will receive a specific response or plaudit or whatever. In my humble opinion, anyway.
In a connected way, this is why I dislike the insistence of people who want to "help" me out and about, when I'm clearly perfectly fine. When one says "no thank you" and they keep on with "are you sure" or "it won't take me a minute" etc, it feels* like they're actually wanting to "help" for their own needs, not mine.
Again, hope that makes sense?
*Feels - as in, that's my feeling. It might or might not be the truth. |
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"Charitable acts are difficult when the recipients dont react how you hoped they would. Your good intentions still stand though.
I hope this comes across "right", but charity should be performed because it's the right thing to do. Not because one will receive a specific response or plaudit or whatever. In my humble opinion, anyway.
In a connected way, this is why I dislike the insistence of people who want to "help" me out and about, when I'm clearly perfectly fine. When one says "no thank you" and they keep on with "are you sure" or "it won't take me a minute" etc, it feels* like they're actually wanting to "help" for their own needs, not mine.
Again, hope that makes sense?
*Feels - as in, that's my feeling. It might or might not be the truth. "
It's a difficult one. A simple thank you for a gift isn't difficult, I'm guessing in this instance the people knew they would be receiving it and the op has gone to a lot of trouble to fit in with them. If the op had just turned up on the assumption their gift would be well received it would be different imo. It's a bit like when people give a homeless person a drink and a sandwich without asking if they're hungry or what they'd like to eat and taking umbrage when they refuse.
I think your example of people getting a bit miffed because someone says "no thanks" to an offer of help is them being a bit daft though. |
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