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By *illan-Killash OP Man 47 weeks ago
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The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears. |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 47 weeks ago
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"I've had some pretty shit Christmas in my time. That's why I keep it very very low key but I don't dwell on the past"
I hear you.
Some memories bring a mixture of sadness and joy. All we hope is the joy outweighs the sadness. |
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Bad shit always used to happen to me at Christmas so much so it left such an impact making me always down for no real reason even when things were going great.
Hopefully turned the corner these past couple of years. |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 47 weeks ago
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"Bad shit always used to happen to me at Christmas so much so it left such an impact making me always down for no real reason even when things were going great.
Hopefully turned the corner these past couple of years. "
Well done on turning that corner. Keep faith in yourself.
You've got this. |
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears."
I'm the same near my birthday (which is less than a couple of weeks before Christmas and Christmas is part of the "shit").
I get my teeth and carry on. Initially for my children, now theirs. |
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears.
I'm the same near my birthday (which is less than a couple of weeks before Christmas and Christmas is part of the "shit").
I get my teeth and carry on. Initially for my children, now theirs."
Get my teeth?  GRIT |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears."
I hate Christmas and new year, there you go I said it! Awful time of year ha |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 47 weeks ago
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears.
I'm the same near my birthday (which is less than a couple of weeks before Christmas and Christmas is part of the "shit").
I get my teeth and carry on. Initially for my children, now theirs.
Get my teeth? GRIT "
Get was a better mental image.
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 47 weeks ago
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears.
I hate Christmas and new year, there you go I said it! Awful time of year ha "
I hear you.
You're welcome here. |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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Last year was shit. This year looked shit, then it looked like it could be lovely, then it’s shit again.
I’ve just kinda rescued it, and got lucky to sorbs more time with my boys than I’d hoped. (Don’t be rude!!).
So that’s good.
Op, I’m trying to make a new tradition for myself, that way, I know I can enjoy it without any heeartache wherever I might be in the future.
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OP
You post made me feel really sad for you as I’ve also been in some absolute shitty places with some christmases. Keep fighting pal, it is but a month out of 12 and you’re not alone.
Go and do something normal or nice for yourself and try not to dwell.
Can I make a suggestion if you’re alone on Xmas day? Go and volunteer at a soup kitchen for the homeless, they are always grateful for the help and you get to be with other people. I did it one year |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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5 years ago, pre-Christmas, Christmas and post Christmas were incredibly challenging.
The clouds still hover
but I push through them, well, my kids pull me through them to be honest.
Not sure where I'd be now if it wasn't for my kids. |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 47 weeks ago
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"OP
You post made me feel really sad for you as I’ve also been in some absolute shitty places with some christmases. Keep fighting pal, it is but a month out of 12 and you’re not alone.
Go and do something normal or nice for yourself and try not to dwell.
Can I make a suggestion if you’re alone on Xmas day? Go and volunteer at a soup kitchen for the homeless, they are always grateful for the help and you get to be with other people. I did it one year "
Thank you, to be fair, I'm pretty OK at the moment.
But there's a lot of people who aren't. This treads for them.
Alight here and rest...... |
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Christmas can be a long way from the joy and happiness being thrown about for some people.
My aunt who had spent a lot of the previous 4 years living with us, died a week before Xmas when I was a teenager... Xmas was a less than happy affair for a while.
Sending hugs to all those having a difficult timecat Xmas xx
Nita |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 47 weeks ago
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"Christmas can be a long way from the joy and happiness being thrown about for some people.
My aunt who had spent a lot of the previous 4 years living with us, died a week before Xmas when I was a teenager... Xmas was a less than happy affair for a while.
Sending hugs to all those having a difficult timecat Xmas xx
Nita"
*relatable post ^^^
The loss of a loved one at any time is painful. At Christmas it feels even harder to process.
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears."
Lovely thread Op  |
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Christmas is shit. The foul weather, the awful music, the massive consumption, waste, and effort, the emotional noise, but most of all the sense that it’s something that you have to achieve rather than enjoy. |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 47 weeks ago
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears. Lovely thread Op "
Thanks.
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 46 weeks ago
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Morning all.
Thought of the day....
No matter where you are, geographically, physically or mentally, someone somewhere in the world is thinking of you, loves you and is there for you.
Peace and love to everyone, today and every day.
Merry Christmas |
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By *OYFBWoman 46 weeks ago
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears."
I feel you, I spend the whole of December wishing it to end.
Not long now.
I hope you’re okay.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Going to be a rough one for me - my dad was taken into hospital by ambo yesterday with pneumonia. He is 91 and has multiple health problems and a DNR is in place. Next 48 hours is critical"
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"The few weeks around Christmas are an annual reminder of the 3 most significant events that shaped my life. And they're bleak.
Historically there been times when Christmas has taken me to the edge of an abyss.
So..........
If Christmas is a shit time for anyone, feel free to find a warm embrace and comfort here.
Come on in and pull up a chair.
No judgement, just a friendly smile, broad shoulders and good ears.
I feel you, I spend the whole of December wishing it to end.
Not long now.
I hope you’re okay.
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Hope you are OK too. |
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"Going to be a rough one for me - my dad was taken into hospital by ambo yesterday with pneumonia. He is 91 and has multiple health problems and a DNR is in place. Next 48 hours is critical"
Oh bloody hell , I'm so sorry... thinking of you all xx |
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By *TaR105Man 46 weeks ago
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Yes, i do not like it at all, last 20 years been terrible, dont see it changing either,
Just always something, dont get why.
Oh well pick up my big boy pants, soon be over, tomorrow is a new day. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Shared this, a few times now :
Someone you know is preparing for their first Christmas without their husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, daughter or son. Others are preparing for their last.
Regardless of the specifics, remember that this season of joy is often times a season of sorrow for many.
Be kind, be generous, give love, give help; if nothing else, just don't give people a hard time.
** there are lots of extra support resources at xmas, even on-line - don't suffer alone this Xmas **
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Shared this, a few times now :
Someone you know is preparing for their first Christmas without their husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, daughter or son. Others are preparing for their last.
Regardless of the specifics, remember that this season of joy is often times a season of sorrow for many.
Be kind, be generous, give love, give help; if nothing else, just don't give people a hard time.
** there are lots of extra support resources at xmas, even on-line - don't suffer alone this Xmas **
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You know last night, someone posted something on here and I thought it was about me. Doesn’t that go to show how much and how many of us are in the same place? |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"OP
You post made me feel really sad for you as I’ve also been in some absolute shitty places with some christmases. Keep fighting pal, it is but a month out of 12 and you’re not alone.
Go and do something normal or nice for yourself and try not to dwell.
Can I make a suggestion if you’re alone on Xmas day? Go and volunteer at a soup kitchen for the homeless, they are always grateful for the help and you get to be with other people. I did it one year "
WELL SAID I BE VOLUNTEERING
TO DAY MATEY .
MERRY CHRISTMAS STAY POSITIVE
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Seems crazy to be posting in here now but we lost my Dad this afternoon. Apparently he had just eaten a small meal but then suddenly passed away - probably a massive heart attack.
This really has been an awful year. |
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"Seems crazy to be posting in here now but we lost my Dad this afternoon. Apparently he had just eaten a small meal but then suddenly passed away - probably a massive heart attack.
This really has been an awful year."
So sorry to hear your terrible news. You must be in shock right now. If it helps them post on here |
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"Seems crazy to be posting in here now but we lost my Dad this afternoon. Apparently he had just eaten a small meal but then suddenly passed away - probably a massive heart attack.
This really has been an awful year."
How awful for you and family..my condolences. |
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Not tragic my end but incredibly annoying and tense spending pretty much a week with my step father who is a bit of a prick and actually one of my deceased alcoholic fathers old work and drinking buddies. He doesn't drink as heavily any more but still a bottle of wine a night type level. Arrogant and overly aggressive with his obvious political opinions thst everything is shit and how he is right about everything.
I have to come see my mum on xmas day / eve and my nan who has dementia comes over and today shat on the floor. Next is 3 days at my sisters with step fsther and mum and my sis and mum barely speak at the minute. It's not how i would choose to spend time. Love my mum so do it for her. |
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"Seems crazy to be posting in here now but we lost my Dad this afternoon. Apparently he had just eaten a small meal but then suddenly passed away - probably a massive heart attack.
This really has been an awful year.
How awful for you and family..my condolences. "
My condolences too. |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 46 weeks ago
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"Shared this, a few times now :
Someone you know is preparing for their first Christmas without their husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, daughter or son. Others are preparing for their last.
Regardless of the specifics, remember that this season of joy is often times a season of sorrow for many.
Be kind, be generous, give love, give help; if nothing else, just don't give people a hard time.
** there are lots of extra support resources at xmas, even on-line - don't suffer alone this Xmas **
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this....
Stealing and sharing. |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 46 weeks ago
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"Seems crazy to be posting in here now but we lost my Dad this afternoon. Apparently he had just eaten a small meal but then suddenly passed away - probably a massive heart attack.
This really has been an awful year."
So so sorry for your loss.
Take care of yourself those around you.
Inbox is open if you need to chat. |
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"Seems crazy to be posting in here now but we lost my Dad this afternoon. Apparently he had just eaten a small meal but then suddenly passed away - probably a massive heart attack.
This really has been an awful year.
So so sorry for your loss.
Take care of yourself those around you.
Inbox is open if you need to chat."
Thank you - really appreciate that |
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 46 weeks ago
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"Not tragic my end but incredibly annoying and tense spending pretty much a week with my step father who is a bit of a prick and actually one of my deceased alcoholic fathers old work and drinking buddies. He doesn't drink as heavily any more but still a bottle of wine a night type level. Arrogant and overly aggressive with his obvious political opinions thst everything is shit and how he is right about everything.
I have to come see my mum on xmas day / eve and my nan who has dementia comes over and today shat on the floor. Next is 3 days at my sisters with step fsther and mum and my sis and mum barely speak at the minute. It's not how i would choose to spend time. Love my mum so do it for her."
We pick our friends.
Our families are a gift. Not always beautifully boxed..... |
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"Seems crazy to be posting in here now but we lost my Dad this afternoon. Apparently he had just eaten a small meal but then suddenly passed away - probably a massive heart attack.
This really has been an awful year."
I've only just seen this. I'm so sorry for your loss. 
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By *illan-Killash OP Man 46 weeks ago
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"Seems crazy to be posting in here now but we lost my Dad this afternoon. Apparently he had just eaten a small meal but then suddenly passed away - probably a massive heart attack.
This really has been an awful year.
So so sorry for your loss.
Take care of yourself those around you.
Inbox is open if you need to chat.
Thank you - really appreciate that"
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