Context! Depends on situation.
Yes it's possible to, and in some cases you would be better for it. But not all.
Or course it's important to be able to trust on fab, but at the same time it's one of the hardest places to truly trust also. |
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By *eli OP Woman 49 weeks ago
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"No but I’ve never lost trust in someone.
And then yes. Trust is important on here. "
You never ever have? You're either blessed or... I was going to say a word beginning with y but I didn't want to do you dirty like that. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"No but I’ve never lost trust in someone.
And then yes. Trust is important on here.
You never ever have? You're either blessed or... I was going to say a word beginning with y but I didn't want to do you dirty like that."
Not romantically. But when I think about other types of relationships I suppose I’ve experienced that and my answer is no I can’t trust them again.
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In real life I do trust relatively easily. On here I don't even trust myself and my own motives. It's very easy for me to become cynical if I spend too much time here.
I find it hard to get past a true breach of trust - it takes me a lot of time to build trust again. Whether the relationship can recover depends on whether I think it's worth squashing down my doubts while the trust is rebuilt. |
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By *eli OP Woman 49 weeks ago
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"Context! Depends on situation.
Yes it's possible to, and in some cases you would be better for it. But not all.
Or course it's important to be able to trust on fab, but at the same time it's one of the hardest places to truly trust also. "
Leaving something open to interpretation keeps it interesting; I want to read the myriad of ways people interpret.
It is one of the hardest places isn't it? I think that's why I possibly hold on too long to the idea that trust can grow back. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"trust again - once trust is chipped at/broken, can you trust that person again?
Is it important for you to be able to trust people on Fab? Do you trust easily or are you more cautious?"
Me. No. The slightest lie and trust is completely gone. It's vital to have honesty on Fab as much as in real life. I am completely open with people. I may appear confusing or muddled at times if asked something I have but thought about before, but I tell the truth.
I trust other people 100% from the start. I may not ask questions to find out certain things (are you married?), but that's my choice. As long as what I know is true, that's fine. |
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Trust is a choice.
Often a difficult one to make, heavily influenced by fear and pain of it happening again. And yes a large number of people can't be trusted with things again, they prove that. However what stops us from trusting again? Ourselves. The options are already there, and they may not be instant but nobody is stopping it but yourself.
Trusting blindly is dangerous. |
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I feel like, trust is an essential part of the connection with someone. It allows me to feel safe in their presence and completely comfortable with them.
If trust is broken, then, ultimately my view of that person tends to change from what it once was. I go into self protection mode and they become a potential 'danger'.
I trust most people until they show otherwise. |
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Immediate response NO. I would have had expectations of them and put my faith and trust in them. It's not hurt but realisation that they can't have my faith and trust.
Thought out response. MAYBE. It may be the only mistake they have made in a long long friendship - I mean you don't throw the whole dog out in the cold cos he did one pee in the car. It'd take some time for total trust to be rebuilt though.
Final thought. Very much context dependent. Some folk I'd die for and others I can dismiss so very easily. Funnily enough .... there are some I dislike that I could 'be' a gullible fool for. When trust is broken and they are retained for other reasons , they'd be unaware that I was aware but I'd be aware that....... you know what I mean.  |
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By *eli OP Woman 49 weeks ago
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"Agree it's down to context.
I think you can build back trust stronger once you understand why it was broken in the first place. "
Yes perhaps. No, I know it can be done. You've both got to be prepared to listen and talk to each other authentically though and quite oft emotions can seep through and hinder clear communication. It can happen though. |
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Honestly, I don't think so.
I'm currently in a situation where I'm willing to see if it's possible to rebuild once that foundation has been severely cracked. But I'm not sold on it. And I'm annoyed at myself for not walking away.
I don't trust people before I think I know them. It can be built from nothing without issue for me. It's the rebuilding from damaged trust that I struggle with the idea of. |
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First one depends on who it is and if I think the relationship is worth rebuilding.
On here I give basic trust thats all I need to give as I'm not having a deep and meaning full relationship with them |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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I’m trusting. First and foremost I trust someone. Much to my error sometimes, but I’d rather start someone in a good light, and let them be themselves than not trust them, and watch every move they make, and how long for? Do they have to go through a test period? Do they have to do something specific? So, I trust everyone until I don’t.
Yes, I can trust someone again. Easily, because people grow, and learn, and we are human.
What is difficult to get back is respect. My experience is once you break someone’s trust, they won’t ever respect you the same ever again.
So my advice to everyone, let someone trust you, and don’t ever break that trust.
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By *mf123Man 49 weeks ago
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Trust aint really an issue anymore i find if you keep people at arms length you dont need to trust them so dont get affected by anything they do unless it affects you directly |
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Takes a long time to build for me, I don't trust easily so once it's broken there's no coming back from it. I've only ever trusted one person completely and that backfired, I won't make the same mistake again as sad as that is. |
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I'm normal quite cautious. I don't tend to trust people, but I do think depending on the situation you can trust people who've broken your trust. Sometimes you realise that that broken trust was a massive misunderstanding and you can work around it. This has only happened in the context of 2 of my friends. Who I thought I wouldn't trust again, but then there were other circumstances that I was unaware of at the time. And time and talking has resolved the issue. |
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