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By *eavenNhellCouple 47 weeks ago
carrbrook stalybridge |
The morning of the day he passed during a brief period of lucidity was able to confirm my mum and sisters were on there way seamed to give him comfort .
7 years now and miss him every day .go speak to your dad what ever it is he will listen and love you .you never know when they will be gone cherish every moment |
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Uhh, maybe 20 years ago?
I remember he decided to try and be a dad around the time I was becoming an adult, but I'd had an excellent step dad for the previous decade and wasn't interested in the sperm donor trying to buy my interest. Haven't heard from or wanted to contact ever since I made that clear  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 47 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Last night when I popped round to see my folks. He wasn't up when I went over this morning, but I'll see him again at dinner time.
I love having my mum and dad living 200 yards away. I get to see a lot of them  |
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On the phone a few days ago, to try and get him to turn the radiators back on because he'd turned them all down to zero and then rang me to tell me the boiler was broken.
He emailed me last night. It's bizarre that despite dementia making it difficult or impossible for him to do a bunch of stuff, he can remember how to do email. |
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"The morning of the day he passed during a brief period of lucidity was able to confirm my mum and sisters were on there way seamed to give him comfort .
7 years now and miss him every day .go speak to your dad what ever it is he will listen and love you .you never know when they will be gone cherish every moment "
I used to live in carrbrook  |
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By *olf and RedCouple 47 weeks ago
Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston |
40 years ago, he died very young. Saw him on the Thursday when they took him into hospital during the night. He passed away on the Saturday. He hadn’t wanted us to see him in there. He was a wonderful Dad.
OP- hope it goes ok for you today.
Red |
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I don’t remember a day I didn’t speak to or see him. I don’t know how I would have got through the last 15/20 years without him. He made a mistake when he was 19 and he says it’s the best mistake he ever made  . I’m quite emotional now! I love him so bloody much .
Hope it goes well pickle x |
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Not sure, but definitely this week. He's been divorced from my mum for many years. It's been a very difficult year for my whole family for many reasons, but since my mum died in October,they amount of care and compassion my dad has shown has kind of surprised me a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 47 weeks ago
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"Last night. I speak to him every day.
What makes you nervous about speaking to him? "
Lots of things led to us not speaking for the last 5 years but I need to today. |
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"Last night. I speak to him every day.
What makes you nervous about speaking to him?
Lots of things led to us not speaking for the last 5 years but I need to today. "
I understand.
Good luck. I reckon he'll be as nervous as you  |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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Never had a great relationship with him but he's 90 and with my mum dying last year he's not got a lot of time left so I made the long trek north to visit him last week. |
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Yesterday by text.
Although that was only because he knows I'll call over Christmas morning to see my little brother as he'll be home visiting and is probably feeling awkward that it's been 5 months since he last made contact.
He literally lives a 5 minute drive from me but when I stopped being the one to make an effort the contact stopped .
He'll blame me for the lack of contact .
Out of sight out if mind and all that.
He has time for my sister though 
Good luck today Stephen
Em x |
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"Last night. I speak to him every day.
What makes you nervous about speaking to him?
Lots of things led to us not speaking for the last 5 years but I need to today. "
I hope it goes OK. I imagine he is equally nervous.
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"Mid 90s before his cancer took away his ability to comprehend and speak.
Mine was the same - I hope your doing okay xx"
So sorry to hear that x I still miss my dad as we had a good relationship. The way he died a slow death was heartbreaking to see.
x |
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By *r_PinkMan 47 weeks ago
london stratford |
"5 days before he suddenly died. It was a good, happy chat. "
5 year ago.
and it was the night before he dies.
AND it was one of the best chats I ever had with him (I did not know he was going to die but I think he had an inkling).
I miss him as much today as the day he died!
RIP Dad xxxx I luv you |
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18th December 1995 at approx 6 pm on the phone! Sadly I cut the call short as had to go collect some students that were staying with me! I said I will pop over to his in the week with his Xmas present! He died in the night x |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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In over a year. My dad (adopted) is awesome. I have learned so much from this amazingly kindhearted, patient and humble man. My biological dad died when I was young. He had left my mum after I was born and she married my stepdad who went on to adopt me. My biological mum is a cruel, selfish manipulative woman who made my childhood a living hell. My stepdad was that Ray of light that made life better. Last year when my little brother died *his natural son) I had to cut my mum out of my life. Sadly they come as a package. He has terminal cancer and I thought he would be dead by Christmas last year as losing my brother broke his heart. I think he keeps going so she is not left alone. It breaks my heart not having him in my life but I cannot be around that toxic, evil woman ever again. |
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By *istalloverCouple 47 weeks ago
Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance |
February
Had the phone call to get back to Shropshire as quick as we can .
Left Northern France ,got on the next ferry , broke all the speed limits and got there to share his last 5 hours .
Christmas will never be the same . |
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"February
Had the phone call to get back to Shropshire as quick as we can .
Left Northern France ,got on the next ferry , broke all the speed limits and got there to share his last 5 hours .
Christmas will never be the same ."
Really sorry to hear that |
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9yrs and 3 months ago. Sent him a reply text saying "no worries, I will come get you in morning. Love you too. PS mum was at mine but has gone home now"
And then he did not arrive at the airport in the morning for me to collect. I did not take him home and he was gone forever.
MrsAbz
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Probably 1979 one of the maybe 3 times I ever met him. 1961 for the other two he turned up around my 11 th birthday I said theres a man at the door he says he is my father shall i let him in .
As you can see we were not close |
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By *izzy.Woman 47 weeks ago
Stoke area |
"My dad didn’t answer"
Sorry that important call didn't happen. Hopefully he'll call back or you can try again.
I last spoke to both my parents over 20 years ago. Mum died 1999 and dad 9 months later in 2000. I miss them both terribly. |
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By *zeroMan 47 weeks ago
Glasgow |
"Just out from seeing him. His brain is rapidly getting worse so his stories are becoming a bit stranger every day.
That must be hard to deal with x hugs "
He has good and bad days. Its more he's been thinking of various things or he's had a dream and it all gets jumbled up into one odd story. |
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"Just out from seeing him. His brain is rapidly getting worse so his stories are becoming a bit stranger every day.
That must be hard to deal with x hugs
He has good and bad days. Its more he's been thinking of various things or he's had a dream and it all gets jumbled up into one odd story."
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"Just out from seeing him. His brain is rapidly getting worse so his stories are becoming a bit stranger every day."
Brain issues can be harrowing to watch a loved one go through.
Inbox always open to offload into, been through similar. |
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By *batMan 47 weeks ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
Thanks to all those that shared such touching stories.
My parents are in their eighties, still in love, reasonably fit and great company.
I speak to them fairly regularly, but after reading this thread, will speak to them more often.
Cheers,
Gbat |
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A few days before my 16th Birthday, about an hour before he was carried out of our house by the paramedics. It was out of the blue, he was a healthy man and not yet 50 (I think). He was being treated for cancer but caught early and looking to be going well. He was expected to overcome it fine. But in the space of an hour he went from perfectly fine to totally confused and in an ambulance. I didn't get to go with him to the hospital and when I woke up in the morning he was gone.
I would give anything to talk to him again. He was the wisest man I knew. We had such great conversations and games of chess when he would come home from work. Sometimes I would stay up so late just to share half an hour with him. He worked so hard for us all and he never got to enjoy the fruits of the future he'd been working towards.
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I'm super fortunate that I see my Dad most Sunday mornings for a brew and my mum during the week, I do not take them for granted and value dearly. Big love to all of you who are missing a parent at this time xx |
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I think it was either late August or early September 2007, less than a month before his accident at work. I was already living in UK then, for a couple of months, phoned home as I always did on a Sunday to have a chat with Mum (he was not much of a talker on the phone). I forgot that Mum went away to the seaside that weekend, with my sister, so Dad answered the phone and we had a short conversation. He passed away about a month or so later, as a result of an accident at work, so that was our last conversation. |
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Cant pinpoint the exact day but it was about 6 months ago.
Went into hosp, he was very ill.
They gave him 4 weeks while he was in hosp, didnt make it 4 days.
Never had a proper Father son relationship.
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5 minutes ago.
He died 4 years ago.
He's still a knob, although thankfully doesn't read The Sun any more.
But he's always my knob, and I'm always his, and we love each other.
Even though we're complete knobs.
Did I say he's a knob? Like me? xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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I try to every day now
He had a massive stroke back in March and was completely reliant on 24/7 care for a month, he’s now 95% recovered and only a pretty bad memory and a tad doddery on his feet every so often..just thankful for every day he’s here now. He’s 80 next month |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"5 years ago when I was with him while he passed away. Would give anything to speak to him again.
Mrs "
Life is too short, S
Hope your nightshift is going ok for you x |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"Last night when I popped round to see my folks. He wasn't up when I went over this morning, but I'll see him again at dinner time.
I love having my mum and dad living 200 yards away. I get to see a lot of them "
That's lovely to hear that wish you all Merry Christmas xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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Last month on our birthdays, mine is the day before his.
I can't call him anymore because he's going deaf and also has awful tinnitus, but we have a WhatsApp group with him and my sisters and keep in touch there with texts a couple of times a week. We exchanged cat pics yesterday 
I'll see him Boxing Day at the big family 2nd Christmas Dinner and look forward to the usual long chat while we clean up the kitchen together |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 47 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"Thanks to all those that shared such touching stories.
My parents are in their eighties, still in love, reasonably fit and great company.
I speak to them fairly regularly, but after reading this thread, will speak to them more often.
Cheers,
Gbat "
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 47 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"A few days before my 16th Birthday, about an hour before he was carried out of our house by the paramedics. It was out of the blue, he was a healthy man and not yet 50 (I think). He was being treated for cancer but caught early and looking to be going well. He was expected to overcome it fine. But in the space of an hour he went from perfectly fine to totally confused and in an ambulance. I didn't get to go with him to the hospital and when I woke up in the morning he was gone.
I would give anything to talk to him again. He was the wisest man I knew. We had such great conversations and games of chess when he would come home from work. Sometimes I would stay up so late just to share half an hour with him. He worked so hard for us all and he never got to enjoy the fruits of the future he'd been working towards.
Mr"
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Very moving stories .. good to read . Sad to see when like me people have no relationship with a parent never called a man Dad . Never wanted by that parent , It does cloud your life in many ways . Thankfully i had a loving caring Mum. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 47 weeks ago
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After 5 years. I spoke to him on the phone today and will likely see him tomorrow.
Sometimes you have to endure each other’s company for the sake of others. |
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"After 5 years. I spoke to him on the phone today and will likely see him tomorrow.
Sometimes you have to endure each other’s company for the sake of others. "
Sometimes it causes the least amount of aggravation. It's sometimes a bitter pill to swallow though. Hope you handle it ok |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 47 weeks ago
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"After 5 years. I spoke to him on the phone today and will likely see him tomorrow.
Sometimes you have to endure each other’s company for the sake of others.
Sometimes it causes the least amount of aggravation. It's sometimes a bitter pill to swallow though. Hope you handle it ok"
Back to my regular scheduled programme afterwards. |
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"After 5 years. I spoke to him on the phone today and will likely see him tomorrow.
Sometimes you have to endure each other’s company for the sake of others.
Sometimes it causes the least amount of aggravation. It's sometimes a bitter pill to swallow though. Hope you handle it ok
Back to my regular scheduled programme afterwards. "
Hope it goes well for you, I feel your pain |
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April 1995, a phone call to tell him I was coming down to see him because I had news to tell him.
I wanted to tell him I was pregnant but I never got the chance, he died 2 days later.
I ended up writing a letter and putting it in his coffin
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