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What is the one thing you have gone though and don't want to go through again
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"Hysteroscopy including biopsy with no pain relief... and driving the 15 miles home afterwards.
Nita
Some medical procedures are barbaric aren't they"
Yes, they are...
Apparently, I should have been told to take pain killers beforehand... and had someone to drive me home...at least I know now  |
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"Hysteroscopy including biopsy with no pain relief... and driving the 15 miles home afterwards.
Nita
Some medical procedures are barbaric aren't they
Yes, they are...
Apparently, I should have been told to take pain killers beforehand... and had someone to drive me home...at least I know now "
I insisted on gas and air when I had mine done the second time and general anaesthetic for the first one. They let Mr N come in with me the second time |
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"Hysteroscopy including biopsy with no pain relief... and driving the 15 miles home afterwards.
Nita
Some medical procedures are barbaric aren't they
Yes, they are...
Apparently, I should have been told to take pain killers beforehand... and had someone to drive me home...at least I know now
I insisted on gas and air when I had mine done the second time and general anaesthetic for the first one. They let Mr N come in with me the second time "
The only option I got was to go back another day... gas & air would have been great. I decided to just get it over and done with. |
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"Hysteroscopy including biopsy with no pain relief... and driving the 15 miles home afterwards.
Nita
Some medical procedures are barbaric aren't they
Yes, they are...
Apparently, I should have been told to take pain killers beforehand... and had someone to drive me home...at least I know now
I insisted on gas and air when I had mine done the second time and general anaesthetic for the first one. They let Mr N come in with me the second time
The only option I got was to go back another day... gas & air would have been great. I decided to just get it over and done with. "
Sometimes it's the least worse option. You were brave though |
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"Hysteroscopy including biopsy with no pain relief... and driving the 15 miles home afterwards.
Nita
Some medical procedures are barbaric aren't they
Yes, they are...
Apparently, I should have been told to take pain killers beforehand... and had someone to drive me home...at least I know now
I insisted on gas and air when I had mine done the second time and general anaesthetic for the first one. They let Mr N come in with me the second time
The only option I got was to go back another day... gas & air would have been great. I decided to just get it over and done with.
Sometimes it's the least worse option. You were brave though"
Thank you ??
Fortunately, I know I have a high pain threshold so should get through it OK. I wouldn't recommend it. |
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As an adult probably several miscarriages then being walked out on when pregnant in a cost of living crisis to be left a single parent.
But actually none of that is as bad a losing both parents as a kid and becoming "a looked after child".
On the plus side, that's something you can only go through once! |
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over a year ago
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Reading the above comments is truly humbling, the shit people go through, the heartbreak of losing a child I know to a point but not like some above, my heart goes out to many of you. For some things there just isn't the words.
Sending love and all the best wishes in the world.  |
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"Hysteroscopy including biopsy with no pain relief... and driving the 15 miles home afterwards.
Nita
Some medical procedures are barbaric aren't they
Yes, they are...
Apparently, I should have been told to take pain killers beforehand... and had someone to drive me home...at least I know now
I insisted on gas and air when I had mine done the second time and general anaesthetic for the first one. They let Mr N come in with me the second time
The only option I got was to go back another day... gas & air would have been great. I decided to just get it over and done with.
Sometimes it's the least worse option. You were brave though
Thank you ??
Fortunately, I know I have a high pain threshold so should get through it OK. I wouldn't recommend it."
This surprises me, But also it makes me feel a bit better.
I went for one and had a biopsy done, I went alone. No pain relief nothing but I didn't find it massively painful either. But I left in tears being very triggered in several different ways and cried. And I felt a total pathetic twat for it. Reading this I don't think it was that pathetic really. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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Getting run over at work by a fork lift truck weighing over 6 tons and crushing my steel toecap boot onto my foot was a tad unpleasant and I'd happily not experience that again. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Divorce. It was very amicable and all went rather well, all told, but it seemed as if the system was designed to punish and inconvenience us both for just wanting to have new lives.
Also, a crash on my pushbike. It turns out steelwork is harder than my face.
In fairness, in comparison to some of the posts here, I've had it extremely easy. |
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Family court, once to try and stop my ex moving my kids 350 miles away from me. Then again to try and get them home after they were coming back home not looked after, everything from untreated head lice to untreated athletes foot letting my sons foot crack up the middle. My eldest moved back with me when he was 15 and my other son is desperate to come home too.
Rant over.... |
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"Death of my son, 2 years ago. "
I'm helping my best mate's Mum (also a mate) through the same thing right now.
It's beyond awful, so for all those on this thread who have said similar, I really don't know what to say. It's shit. It stays shit. The shit gets a bit easier to live with over time, but it's always going to be shit.
I'm going to answer the original OP question humorously know though.
The one thing I've been through that I never want to go through again?
Well, my Mummy's vagina.
Once was definitely enough for both of us, and twice would have been icky, wrong, and against Forum rules to post about   . |
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"taking care of my mum before she passed away  "
That's also hard. Were you able to take good things from it as well though? I went through the same rollercoaster - and as draining as it was, bruising in its effects, there was an awful lot of good in being there for her, and "reviewing" her and "us" from my adult viewpoint instead of just my childhood viewpoint.
It gave me more than it took.
But it does take a lot for sure. |
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Getting a quick shag pregnant and raising a child in constant conflict their mother.
At this age definitely would not like to go through parenthood again period!!!
Yes monthly periods on time every time please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being cheated on by a pedo when I was 14. When I was 14 I dated a 27 year old. He cheated on me with another person my age at the time. It's probably the reason why I can't make a distinction between cheaters and nonces, that shit fucks with your mentality so hard. |
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"Hysteroscopy including biopsy with no pain relief... and driving the 15 miles home afterwards.
Nita
Some medical procedures are barbaric aren't they
Yes, they are...
Apparently, I should have been told to take pain killers beforehand... and had someone to drive me home...at least I know now
I insisted on gas and air when I had mine done the second time and general anaesthetic for the first one. They let Mr N come in with me the second time
The only option I got was to go back another day... gas & air would have been great. I decided to just get it over and done with.
Sometimes it's the least worse option. You were brave though
Thank you ??
Fortunately, I know I have a high pain threshold so should get through it OK. I wouldn't recommend it.
This surprises me, But also it makes me feel a bit better.
I went for one and had a biopsy done, I went alone. No pain relief nothing but I didn't find it massively painful either. But I left in tears being very triggered in several different ways and cried. And I felt a total pathetic twat for it. Reading this I don't think it was that pathetic really. "
Not pathetic at all... the procedure is very invasive, regardless of the pain level.
Nita |
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Mental abuse, looking back all three of my serious relationships before Marc involved it in some form, I went from one bad relationship straight to another. I spent time on myself and recognise the flags now.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some heavy stuff on here. I feel for all those that's been through the turmoil.
Hopefully you've come through it all and can move forward head held high and keep enjoying life xx |
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Discovering my wife had been cheating on me and then manipulated in such away that she makes you feel you're crazy and making the whole thing up. Makes you feel so horrible and disgusting for believing such stuff. Questioning your santity and reality is a horrible place to be. Luckily the little voice in the back of my head told be to keep digging for truth and I did. Then feeling of being totally betrayed, abandoned, completely lost and broken is a dark place. Especially when marriage and family is everything to you. Truely the lowest period of my life. Add the worry of the impact to your young family and how it will effect the children's future.
And that was the darkest place of my life. Some say Divorce, but for me although the divorce process is grueling I'm glad I started it and divorced her. Starting the process was actually part of my building myself back up. It was the point I come to stand up and say its over, I won't be treated this way no more and I'm taking positive action towards the future. Starting the divorce was a big step in a new future for me and the kids into a scary new world as a single parent.
And as dark and destructive as that period of my life was it was a stepping stone to the life I have now and paved the way to being ready for Mrs Misfit. So I wouldn't change anything based on the path it's lead me. But I wouldn't want to ever be in that dark place again. |
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By *hippy 1Man
over a year ago
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"The death of a child x
My heart goes out to you. I think everything else pales into significance.
The death of two children. "
My heart goes out to anyone that has to go through the loss of a child , absolutely the wrong equation in the process of life?? |
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Acute myeloid leukemia. Aortic aneurysm followed by dissection.
That said I'd happily go through both again if we could have been spared the terminal spinal injury that took our dog, during lockdown, so we couldn't be with her when she was put to sleep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being in a boating accident when I was 18 almost drowning trying to save a man’s life. The hardest part was seeing his young daughter the next day and knowing she’ll never see her dad again because I couldn’t save him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1) Depression, although not entirely free of it now it’s nowhere close to how it was once.
2) Almost going bankrupt during the GFC in 2008/9. Horribly stressful. |
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but suicide grief takes the winning spot here. 
to everyone who's been through awful things .xx
