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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you think you have more chance regaining a friendship when you were fwb, a fling or relationship? Is there a range within each of those ie how deep or shallow it was, how good the friendship was before it became fwb etc? Does it depend on the people involved or how the encounters progressed and what the starting point was?
I was just wondering that this morning, I know it's a thinky post, but I was interested in other people's opinions on that point as I was mulling that one over in the car to work.
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I’m happy to remain friends, but I don’t like being used as a sexual relief tool which sometimes happens with folk you’ve had sex with in the past.
“Oh I’m feeling horny and XxXx isn’t around so I’ll try and sext that chick I was once banging”
If they want to be friends but they can’t keep it friend based (as in proper two way friendship - non sex related) then I don’t really see the point to be honest.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That depends what you mean by regaining a relationship. How was the relationship lost in the first place?
It's not about who they were, it's what they did. It will never be the same and the question is whether you are happy with the new dynamic - is it enough? Is it safe? Or will it cause same issues as in the past? There is a good reason usually why they are ex as they say. I'll be always conscious of that. I don't believe people change as such, their motivation does but their core not really.
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
Essex |
I have only ever had one FWB relationship which lasted several years.
We are still friends but I now live in a different part of the country.
We have been friends for nearly 40 years. Although we don’t see each other very often and this has been the case for 20 years, we have had sex over that time when the opportunity has arisen.
When we were living closer together we would meet at least once a week not always for sex that seemed secondary. We first fucked in our teens then she moved away. We were not close at this time we’d just ended up together at a party while at school.
The next time we met was in our late teens. One of the guys said he had a new girl he’d met and she was coming to the pub that night.
M came in and I was a little shocked, he didn’t know we had known each other before.
Anyway as things do their bf/gf didn’t last long nothing to do with me, more to do with his controlling over possessive nature.
She carried on hanging around our larger crowd one sunny afternoon sitting in the beer garden she said we going into town as it’s boring here? Ok but I need to go home change etc.
we went to mine I left her in my room and went to the bathroom to shower when I cane back in wrapped in a towel she was sat on my bed in her t shirt and short skirt a bit rocky/punky looking. I made some comment about how she looked good, she said you don’t look to shabby and laughed the next I knew she was pulling the towel off me while getting up and kissing me.
We ended up fucking very quickly and didn’t set off for town for a couple of hours. On the way into town on the train we started talking and it was awkward as we both wanted to say the same thing but didn’t know how to as we didn’t want to upset the other.
In the end it was M who said it. Lee that was great fun we had but I don’t want a relationship. We are friends and don’t want to loose that. I said phew she looked at me and said what. I said I was thinking the same but added I do like fucking you though.
Well she said we can fuck but no bf/gf? Ok by me I replied. We did end up in bed again later that night and many other occasions since.
The sex has always been great we know things about each other that others do not know.
A lot of people thought we would end up together as we were close.
The sex has always been great but is that because we both know neither of us is bringing baggage into it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone, I think it does really dependent on the people and all of the circumstances, be it how they broke up, why as well as why they drifted apart as well asa host of other things.
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By *sus82Man
over a year ago
Derby |
I met someone then became fwb ... something happened meant we couldn't really sleep together, but still kept talking and social meets ... now she is one of my closest friends... the possibility of sex is there but not acted upon yet. But atm I'm not bothered as hot as she is the friendship we have is great |
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All depends on the individual.
One of my closest female friends who I've known since we were 11/12 was a FWB/fuck buddy for a couple of summers when we were 16/17. Took her V and we both did things to each other we've not done to partners since.
However, we're still very good friends. Just because we've fucked doesn't spoil anything. It's natural, at the time we both fancied each other and did what horny teenagers do. Even to this day I think she's hot but I'm happy she's settled, got a good degree and job, and has met a great guy she hopes to marry. We still talk weekly even though she now lives abroad. |
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