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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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Simple question - Do you prefer the other person to make the 1st move?
Bonus question - How comfortable are you when you feel you have to make the first move?
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In terms of making the first move on ever doing it, I'd like to say I'm confident enough to initiate that step, but I'm a heavy overthinker, and usually by the time I've resolved it in my head they've already made the move.
In terms of making it known that I would like to do the sexy things now with someone I'm already comfortable with, I sometimes still struggle to verbalise, but I'm a lot better at giving the physical cues these days  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Yes but I think it’s quite selfish of me to want that.
I will make the first move if there is already a good vibe/connection there but do fear making an arse of myself if I do  "
It’s like a 50/50 thing isn’t it. I’m okay doing it, but I don’t want to!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"I’m used to making the first move, but I really like it when a woman goes for it before me."
How many times have you got to enjoy a woman seducing you? |
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Yes, because I'm shy.
A bit uncomfortable because it seems a bit weird to me writing to a couple with the long term aim of having sex with the female half. I'd prefer them to make the move, at least I'd know they are interested! |
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"How many times have you got to enjoy a woman seducing you? "
It does happen. And both of my marriages have come from a woman making the first move.
But I wasn’t really meaning ‘seducing’. I think on a perfect date the seduction is a two-way street. I was talking more about who pushes it over the line. Who leans in for the first kiss. Or says ‘shall we get out of here and into bed?’ |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"How many times have you got to enjoy a woman seducing you?
It does happen. And both of my marriages have come from a woman making the first move.
But I wasn’t really meaning ‘seducing’. I think on a perfect date the seduction is a two-way street. I was talking more about who pushes it over the line. Who leans in for the first kiss. Or says ‘shall we get out of here and into bed?’"
^he's just so darn irresistible |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"How many times have you got to enjoy a woman seducing you?
It does happen. And both of my marriages have come from a woman making the first move.
But I wasn’t really meaning ‘seducing’. I think on a perfect date the seduction is a two-way street. I was talking more about who pushes it over the line. Who leans in for the first kiss. Or says ‘shall we get out of here and into bed?’"
Yes, wether it’s an action or a question, ‘are we in the same page?’ Type of thing. It’s a do or die! |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Simple question - Do you prefer the other person to make the 1st move?
Bonus question - How comfortable are you when you feel you have to make the first move?
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We are talking chess now are we not? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Simple question - Do you prefer the other person to make the 1st move?
Bonus question - How comfortable are you when you feel you have to make the first move?
We are talking chess now are we not? "
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By *ornycougaWoman 48 weeks ago
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I am not really a cougar but more like a lion laying there waiting to have meat delivered to me. I like to feel desired and chased. I will absolutely make the first move and be calculated in getting what I want, but I need a sign that there is interest first. I would never ever go in cold. |
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I quite like making the first move. It's generally well received.
Although I can think of one recent occasion where I was stopped in my tracks by the way someone looked at me. And I knew my role was to wait for them to make their move on me.
Excuse me a hot minute 
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"I quite like making the first move. It's generally well received.
Although I can think of one recent occasion where I was stopped in my tracks by the way someone looked at me. And I knew my role was to wait for them to make their move on me.
Excuse me a hot minute
Mrs TMN x"
Did you have to wait for them to put their glasses on? |
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"I quite like making the first move. It's generally well received.
Although I can think of one recent occasion where I was stopped in my tracks by the way someone looked at me. And I knew my role was to wait for them to make their move on me.
Excuse me a hot minute
Mrs TMN x
Did you have to wait for them to put their glasses on? "
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I'd much prefer the other person made the first move as it's the only way I'm sure they're actually attracted me. I overthink so I know if I made the first move and read it wrong, I'd be thinking about it in bed at 1am 10 years later   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"I'd much prefer the other person made the first move as it's the only way I'm sure they're actually attracted me. I overthink so I know if I made the first move and read it wrong, I'd be thinking about it in bed at 1am 10 years later "
Don’t worry, by 2am you’ll nod off again. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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We prefer others to make the first move. I prefer confident men or women so it's definitely going to be a plus knowing they are confident to make the first move |
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It's nice for the other person to make a move, clear indication they are in to you as Joe and Nora say.
But honestly, grow a pair (doesn't have to be balls, but a pair of something). Missing out on so much potential things that could happen because neither of you soft cunts can muster up the courage to say "you know what, I like you". That's a universal cunts, not Joe and Nora specifically.
Rejection is only bad if things change, and you risk the loss of something. If somebody rejects your interest in them, then nothing changes, because nothing was happening regardless of you making it known or not. |
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"It's nice for the other person to make a move, clear indication they are in to you as Joe and Nora say.
But honestly, grow a pair (doesn't have to be balls, but a pair of something). Missing out on so much potential things that could happen because neither of you soft cunts can muster up the courage to say "you know what, I like you". That's a universal cunts, not Joe and Nora specifically.
Rejection is only bad if things change, and you risk the loss of something. If somebody rejects your interest in them, then nothing changes, because nothing was happening regardless of you making it known or not."
I've been rejected by people I swore were into me and snogged the face off people I was taking a real wild card shot with.
You never know people...you never know |
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"I'd much prefer the other person made the first move as it's the only way I'm sure they're actually attracted me. I overthink so I know if I made the first move and read it wrong, I'd be thinking about it in bed at 1am 10 years later "
Snap !!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"It's nice for the other person to make a move, clear indication they are in to you as Joe and Nora say.
But honestly, grow a pair (doesn't have to be balls, but a pair of something). Missing out on so much potential things that could happen because neither of you soft cunts can muster up the courage to say "you know what, I like you". That's a universal cunts, not Joe and Nora specifically.
Rejection is only bad if things change, and you risk the loss of something. If somebody rejects your interest in them, then nothing changes, because nothing was happening regardless of you making it known or not."
…. These are wise words.
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I’m happy to make the first move in person …. As it shows my desire for them. If it’s not reciprocated then we know where we stand.
If it’s with regards to messaging… then I can probably count on one hand the number of times someone else has messaged me first. |
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"It's nice for the other person to make a move, clear indication they are in to you as Joe and Nora say.
But honestly, grow a pair (doesn't have to be balls, but a pair of something). Missing out on so much potential things that could happen because neither of you soft cunts can muster up the courage to say "you know what, I like you". That's a universal cunts, not Joe and Nora specifically.
Rejection is only bad if things change, and you risk the loss of something. If somebody rejects your interest in them, then nothing changes, because nothing was happening regardless of you making it known or not."
That's exactly what happened in my case , besides I'm 99% certain the people I'm interested in are not interested in me so yeah I think I'll stick with being a " soft cunt " |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Every time I make the first move I fail. Men here like to be hunters.
Not always  "
Who said that??
Men also like to be surprised. Do you know what the biggest surprise would be?……  |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.
My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected. |
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"As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.
My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected. "
What do you mean by first, second and third move? |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.
My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected.
What do you mean by first, second and third move? "
Keep chasing! But don't be a pest! But keep trying! But don't be too persistent because it's creepy! But give it another go! Basically, it's all bullshit |
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"As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.
My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected.
What do you mean by first, second and third move?
Keep chasing! But don't be a pest! But keep trying! But don't be too persistent because it's creepy! But give it another go! Basically, it's all bullshit"
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.
My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected.
What do you mean by first, second and third move? "
Have options, always have options!!! |
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By *issMBWoman 48 weeks ago
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I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"* exhausted by reading all this, Glow is smothered in gorilla glue and runs into the crowd, confident in the brilliance of this plan. "
Be careful in the loo’s. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"* exhausted by reading all this, Glow is smothered in gorilla glue and runs into the crowd, confident in the brilliance of this plan.
Be careful in the loo’s. "
Portaloo no problem. I’ll identify as a dalek. |
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"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment."
*There* you are! Hello.
Now come here and kiss me. |
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By *issMBWoman 48 weeks ago
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"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.
*There* you are! Hello.
Now come here and kiss me. "
Pucker up, Treasure  |
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"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.
*There* you are! Hello.
Now come here and kiss me.
Pucker up, Treasure "
Oh get a room you two already  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.
*There* you are! Hello.
Now come here and kiss me.
Pucker up, Treasure
Oh get a room you two already "
Yes. … and can I watch? |
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"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.
*There* you are! Hello.
Now come here and kiss me.
Pucker up, Treasure
Oh get a room you two already
Yes. … and can I watch? "
Pervert lol... |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I am not really a cougar but more like a lion laying there waiting to have meat delivered to me. I like to feel desired and chased. I will absolutely make the first move and be calculated in getting what I want, but I need a sign that there is interest first. I would never ever go in cold. "
I think you maybe a lioness..........but big balls nevertheless! |
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I'm extremely unlikely to make a first move as I'm shy, introverted, not great at reading signals and drastically lacking in self-confidence
If you have to wait for me to make a first move it'll be awkward and you'll have a long wait for it!! |
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Normally it's me that makes the first move, which I don't mind. I will wait until I'm pretty confident it's the right move though.
Nothing worse than whipping it out and doing your best helicopter for a woman who just wants to be friends |
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