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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No.
Only on here 
I don’t know if I’ve been called it on here. But my teachers used to call me it. Bastards. "
In the case of you, Swing, it’s jealousy x |
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"No.
Only on here
I don’t know if I’ve been called it on here. But my teachers used to call me it. Bastards.
In the case of you, Swing, it’s jealousy x"
anyone jealous of me needs their fucking head read  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No.
Only on here
I don’t know if I’ve been called it on here. But my teachers used to call me it. Bastards.
In the case of you, Swing, it’s jealousy x
anyone jealous of me needs their fucking head read "
They probably used to hit back in your days  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the difference between arrogance and confidence?
Probably the main difference is how much the person likes you  "
I’m fucked then
But honestly there are times when you can appear either.
In the internet world most definitely as messages don’t contain tone.
Also at work, the surgeon, the manager, whoever can appear arrogant when actually they are confident |
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"No.
Only on here
I don’t know if I’ve been called it on here. But my teachers used to call me it. Bastards.
In the case of you, Swing, it’s jealousy x
anyone jealous of me needs their fucking head read
They probably used to hit back in your days "
That looks suspiciously like English *shakes stick* |
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Looking back yes I probably was in a sporting context. I was a pretty handy cricketer and for sure sometimes I was arrogant when playing at my first club, which was in a league that wasn’t a massively high standard. Needless to say the arrogance got beaten out of me when I stepped up a few leagues and I wasn’t top dog any more.
Never been called it here though. I take that as a positive |
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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago
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"What’s the difference between arrogance and confidence?"
Arrogance is misplaced confidence. Someone who overplays their strengths/abilities but overlooks any of their flaws.
I have been called arrogant before but only by people who don't actually know me and/or don't know what arrogant actually means. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I am. I assume that there are people who think I am. "
I know that I'm not, and no-one in real life would think it either. But on here and elsewhere, I can be chatting to someone for a while and then meet them socially, and towards the end of the meet, they'll say that they thought that I was a bit arrogant but they're surprised that I'm really nice. It's only happened a few times in a decade, but it bothers me a bit because I'm really modest, generous and very caring. I think it may be that I put too much l humour in messaging and that it is easily mistaken. |
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"What’s the difference between arrogance and confidence?"
To me - a confident person knows they are reliable , trustworthy, lives life by following a good set of values and knows they are a decent person and likes themselves well enough. They respect others and know their own limitations.
An arrogant person overstates their ability , acts as if they know more than others and as if they are more important than others. It can be born from low self esteem but more often than not it's born of being overly praised and not being taught empathy or humility. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Don't think so, don't think so. But maybe.
Would be a bit arrogant of me to assume I'm not based upon my own perspective. I may very well be but I'm not going to admit it am I, just pass it off as confidence instead.
I can't speak for what others say about me, nobody has said it to my face or directly at least. |
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I think the most arrogant are easily wounded and would gain pleasure from being rude/unkind/bullying ...... because it makes them feel better for a tiny while but then it's soon back to internal fears. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the difference between arrogance and confidence?"
Confidence is from a genuine belief in oneself, positiveness, openness and empathy for others. Arrogance from insecurity, an inflated sense of self-importance, lacks empathy. |
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"Don't think so, don't think so. But maybe.
Would be a bit arrogant of me to assume I'm not based upon my own perspective. I may very well be but I'm not going to admit it am I, just pass it off as confidence instead.
I can't speak for what others say about me, nobody has said it to my face or directly at least. "
Ffs sake ..... it's not a bad thing to know yourself and be able to state it.
I'd say you are NOT arrogant. Not the you that lives in here anyway. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"What’s the difference between arrogance and confidence?"
The main thing is the lack of humility and being humble.
Humility is the quality of being modest, respectful, and humble, while arrogance is the attitude of being overconfident, self-important, and conceited. Humility can help one learn from mistakes, appreciate others, and grow as a person, while arrogance can lead to isolation, conflict, and stagnatio |
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There's a lot of perception involved.
I know my value, my strengths, my abilities.
Other people won't see them the same way. Meaning that to them, I am arrogant, because as far as they're concerned my value is not as much as I think it is.
But my worth is not determined by the opinions of strangers.
And I refuse to play the modest and demure submissive role just because it's what is expected of a woman in my position.
I love me. I should love me. If that bothers people enough to call me arrogant, fuck em  |
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There's someone on here who is very confident and they have reason to be so but people are always batching and trying to put them down. Same when Annie Wilkes was here. People are always telling us to love ourselves yet when someone does people don't like it. Go figure |
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"There's someone on here who is very confident and they have reason to be so but people are always batching and trying to put them down. Same when Annie Wilkes was here. People are always telling us to love ourselves yet when someone does people don't like it. Go figure"
It's always the same. Be confident but not too confident. If you're attractive don't dare say you know it because it's immodest but if you feel unattractive it's ok for other people to say you are. Give to charity but don't say you do, be a good person but don't push yourself forward.
It's daft! |
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"There's someone on here who is very confident and they have reason to be so but people are always batching and trying to put them down. Same when Annie Wilkes was here. People are always telling us to love ourselves yet when someone does people don't like it. Go figure"
This is very true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's someone on here who is very confident and they have reason to be so but people are always batching and trying to put them down. Same when Annie Wilkes was here. People are always telling us to love ourselves yet when someone does people don't like it. Go figure
It's always the same. Be confident but not too confident. If you're attractive don't dare say you know it because it's immodest but if you feel unattractive it's ok for other people to say you are. Give to charity but don't say you do, be a good person but don't push yourself forward.
It's daft!"
There’s a fine line!!!!
And I’m sure sone overstep that line sometimes. A show of arrogance doesn’t mean to n my r they are arrogant, it’s just at that moment they have the confidence to flex and show off!! And why not?
But when someone IS arrogant, you just know they are and that’s their character. And that not becoming for anyone, no matter how much you give to charity or how attractive you are. |
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". People are always telling us to love ourselves yet when someone does people don't like it. Go figure"
“Love ourselves” can cover a multitude of bases.
If you are not confident then giving yourself some love is a good thing because it resets the negative balance you are in.
If you are super confident then loving yourself and telling everyone how brilliant you are becomes very tedious for everyone else.
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"There's a lot of perception involved.
I know my value, my strengths, my abilities.
Other people won't see them the same way. Meaning that to them, I am arrogant, because as far as they're concerned my value is not as much as I think it is.
But my worth is not determined by the opinions of strangers.
And I refuse to play the modest and demure submissive role just because it's what is expected of a woman in my position.
I love me. I should love me. If that bothers people enough to call me arrogant, fuck em "
I like this post. |
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"There's someone on here who is very confident and they have reason to be so but people are always batching and trying to put them down. Same when Annie Wilkes was here. People are always telling us to love ourselves yet when someone does people don't like it. Go figure"
Yep, absolutely this |
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Yes people have called me arrogant at times as i am extremely blunt to a point and mentally energy efficient talking to people at times .
They confuse arrogance with fast efficiency in conversations is all  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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". People are always telling us to love ourselves yet when someone does people don't like it. Go figure
“Love ourselves” can cover a multitude of bases.
If you are not confident then giving yourself some love is a good thing because it resets the negative balance you are in.
If you are super confident then loving yourself and telling everyone how brilliant you are becomes very tedious for everyone else.
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Indeed. I can and do love myself, surprisingly I know. Yet I don't feel the need to make sure everyone else knows it all the time. |
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Arrogance more often than not conveys an inadequacy (to me) in the perpetrator.
It's a bluff or bravado masking a shortfall.
(Despite having American relatives, when travelling their nationality have been the greatest perpetrators!!!)
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"Absolutely not, theres definitely a line between confident and arrogant.
Momma always said “good manners cost nothing”"
Did Momma tell you that saying please and thank you isn't out of the reach of the arrogant ?
Arrogance is not a lack of manners. |
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"There's someone on here who is very confident and they have reason to be so but people are always batching and trying to put them down. Same when Annie Wilkes was here. People are always telling us to love ourselves yet when someone does people don't like it. Go figure
Yep, absolutely this "
I couldn't agree less with the comment above.
A person can know they are physically attractive and state it without being arrogant. They can also show their lack of confidence and low self esteem via their over inflated attempts to prove themselves through argument , misunderstanding and an inability to change or make decisions.
Which is what I have witnessed in here in the past.
Stating things out loud about yourself isn't usually a sign of confidence and more a sign of attempting to convince others.
( p.s. I am not talking about you personally I just attached to your comment re the above post ) |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I don’t think I am, and people who know me well say I’m not.
I think one or two people probably think I am I don’t really know me. I can be very strong willed
I think the people answering that they are, or maybe are, are among the least arrogant people here . Truly arrogant people surely would say no ? Arrogance is that quality we believe you are actually better than you really are. People hide their arrogance well on here, they hide it behind, sickly sweet & limp lettuce leafs
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Loves an arrogant pig headed tribute to arrogancy.
Aftershave bit sour 
