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By *V1guy OP Man 49 weeks ago
Coventry |
So long story short(er) I'm a straight guy, I'm not attracted to guys at all, they're just not my jam. Some of my friends are and I literally don't care as long as everyone enjoys themselves and it's consensual.
I've got a real life friend on my friends list here who is a gay guy and he's a close friend, he's one of those 4 or 5 people you really know in life, and we still do movie night once a week and hang out to this day. He's a true brother to me and I love him to bits. We're close and we've known each other long before either of us were here. He's the guy who pulled me out of a black hole when my last relationship tanked, and he always gives me good advice, so I owe him a lot.
Here's the rub, I'm straight and he's gay, and he's on my friends list. I seem to be getting people thinking I'm bisexual or assuming so, or like I'm hiding something and secretly bi as a gay man is on my friends list. Thing is, I get it. I understand where they're coming from.
I got more or less rejected earlier as the person thought I wasn't straight and that's what they like, and to be honest, I can completely understand why. I think me and my mate are the exception rather than the rule in that regard, I don't think too many are close friends before coming here, but we're totally open and honest with each other so should I raise it with him? At the same time I don't want him to feel like I'd be deleting him maliciously or I'm ashamed of him or anything like that, because I'm not. Like I say he's a true brother, I'd choose him over anyone here in all honesty, but I really really don't want to shag him. I just don't like men.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking for is your thoughts. What would you think if you looked and seen a straight guy with a gay guy on his friends list? Would you think I'm gay, or bi or something? Should I have a chat with him and remove him from my friends list? He's got my number and we're on each others social medias too, and we talk daily off the site so it's not like we'll lose touch. Would you be upset if you were him and I deleted you?
It's just a bit delicate, I don't want to screw it up, he's a great bloke, but at the same time I don't want to start off on the wrong foot either. Anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading and your comments |
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By *V1guy OP Man 49 weeks ago
Coventry |
"Tell him, bro, you're seriously vaj blocking me on here.
You gotta go.
You could put something on your profile explaining why he's on your profile. It wouldn't bother me who you're friends with. "
Haha to be honest you're right. I'll give him some grief tomorrow, you know, because he's a mate and that's what friends are for. 
Yeah I've added a little disclaimer at the bottom today saying why he's there. Try it and see I guess? |
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"Tell him, bro, you're seriously vaj blocking me on here.
You gotta go.
You could put something on your profile explaining why he's on your profile. It wouldn't bother me who you're friends with.
Haha to be honest you're right. I'll give him some grief tomorrow, you know, because he's a mate and that's what friends are for.
Yeah I've added a little disclaimer at the bottom today saying why he's there. Try it and see I guess? "
yeah that’s not gunna work, maybe block single guys from messaging you too, most true straights males do that. |
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By *V1guy OP Man 49 weeks ago
Coventry |
"hide your friends list?
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This does make a lot of sense to be fair. To be honest I'm usually (about 99%) on here on my mobile so I never even look at people's friends list. I wasn't really aware it was a thing you could do before today, or yesterday as it is now. |
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"So long story short(er) I'm a straight guy, I'm not attracted to guys at all, they're just not my jam. Some of my friends are and I literally don't care as long as everyone enjoys themselves and it's consensual.
I've got a real life friend on my friends list here who is a gay guy and he's a close friend, he's one of those 4 or 5 people you really know in life, and we still do movie night once a week and hang out to this day. He's a true brother to me and I love him to bits. We're close and we've known each other long before either of us were here. He's the guy who pulled me out of a black hole when my last relationship tanked, and he always gives me good advice, so I owe him a lot.
Here's the rub, I'm straight and he's gay, and he's on my friends list. I seem to be getting people thinking I'm bisexual or assuming so, or like I'm hiding something and secretly bi as a gay man is on my friends list. Thing is, I get it. I understand where they're coming from.
I got more or less rejected earlier as the person thought I wasn't straight and that's what they like, and to be honest, I can completely understand why. I think me and my mate are the exception rather than the rule in that regard, I don't think too many are close friends before coming here, but we're totally open and honest with each other so should I raise it with him? At the same time I don't want him to feel like I'd be deleting him maliciously or I'm ashamed of him or anything like that, because I'm not. Like I say he's a true brother, I'd choose him over anyone here in all honesty, but I really really don't want to shag him. I just don't like men.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking for is your thoughts. What would you think if you looked and seen a straight guy with a gay guy on his friends list? Would you think I'm gay, or bi or something? Should I have a chat with him and remove him from my friends list? He's got my number and we're on each others social medias too, and we talk daily off the site so it's not like we'll lose touch. Would you be upset if you were him and I deleted you?
It's just a bit delicate, I don't want to screw it up, he's a great bloke, but at the same time I don't want to start off on the wrong foot either. Anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading and your comments "
what a lovely honest post I'm sure if he's a true friend he wouldn't mind you deleting him as long as you explained it as eloquently as you have here but their is something to be said for standing by your man and not caring what others like to think and believing in your written word "I'm straight" I'll let you decide  |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Don’t allow strangers to affect a true friendship… if you’d take a fuck ovr a friend then the issue is within you.
When fab goes your friend will still be there for you."
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"So long story short(er) I'm a straight guy, I'm not attracted to guys at all, they're just not my jam. Some of my friends are and I literally don't care as long as everyone enjoys themselves and it's consensual.
I've got a real life friend on my friends list here who is a gay guy and he's a close friend, he's one of those 4 or 5 people you really know in life, and we still do movie night once a week and hang out to this day. He's a true brother to me and I love him to bits. We're close and we've known each other long before either of us were here. He's the guy who pulled me out of a black hole when my last relationship tanked, and he always gives me good advice, so I owe him a lot.
Here's the rub, I'm straight and he's gay, and he's on my friends list. I seem to be getting people thinking I'm bisexual or assuming so, or like I'm hiding something and secretly bi as a gay man is on my friends list. Thing is, I get it. I understand where they're coming from.
I got more or less rejected earlier as the person thought I wasn't straight and that's what they like, and to be honest, I can completely understand why. I think me and my mate are the exception rather than the rule in that regard, I don't think too many are close friends before coming here, but we're totally open and honest with each other so should I raise it with him? At the same time I don't want him to feel like I'd be deleting him maliciously or I'm ashamed of him or anything like that, because I'm not. Like I say he's a true brother, I'd choose him over anyone here in all honesty, but I really really don't want to shag him. I just don't like men.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking for is your thoughts. What would you think if you looked and seen a straight guy with a gay guy on his friends list? Would you think I'm gay, or bi or something? Should I have a chat with him and remove him from my friends list? He's got my number and we're on each others social medias too, and we talk daily off the site so it's not like we'll lose touch. Would you be upset if you were him and I deleted you?
It's just a bit delicate, I don't want to screw it up, he's a great bloke, but at the same time I don't want to start off on the wrong foot either. Anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading and your comments "
Bros before hoes
Sorry but why do you need to explain yourself to anyone? If people have an issue that's their problem, why would you want to meet people like that.
Just hide your friends list, to delete him is a bit shitty if he is as good a friend as you say he is |
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I have several friends who use fab none of them are on my friends list.
Mix of gay,straight men and women we agreed to block each other.
I would not want sex with any of them so why use fab as a means of keeping in touch.
Because they are friends i have their phone number and other means to chat with them.
I would find it weird non sexual real life friends having access to my fab pictures and would not want to see theirs.
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Od be more concerned about losing a friend.
If people don't read your profile correctly that's their fault.
Going by the many many many threads on a similar vein regardless of what you have on profile guy's will want to fuck you.
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"So long story short(er) I'm a straight guy, I'm not attracted to guys at all, they're just not my jam. Some of my friends are and I literally don't care as long as everyone enjoys themselves and it's consensual.
I've got a real life friend on my friends list here who is a gay guy and he's a close friend, he's one of those 4 or 5 people you really know in life, and we still do movie night once a week and hang out to this day. He's a true brother to me and I love him to bits. We're close and we've known each other long before either of us were here. He's the guy who pulled me out of a black hole when my last relationship tanked, and he always gives me good advice, so I owe him a lot.
Here's the rub, I'm straight and he's gay, and he's on my friends list. I seem to be getting people thinking I'm bisexual or assuming so, or like I'm hiding something and secretly bi as a gay man is on my friends list. Thing is, I get it. I understand where they're coming from.
I got more or less rejected earlier as the person thought I wasn't straight and that's what they like, and to be honest, I can completely understand why. I think me and my mate are the exception rather than the rule in that regard, I don't think too many are close friends before coming here, but we're totally open and honest with each other so should I raise it with him? At the same time I don't want him to feel like I'd be deleting him maliciously or I'm ashamed of him or anything like that, because I'm not. Like I say he's a true brother, I'd choose him over anyone here in all honesty, but I really really don't want to shag him. I just don't like men.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking for is your thoughts. What would you think if you looked and seen a straight guy with a gay guy on his friends list? Would you think I'm gay, or bi or something? Should I have a chat with him and remove him from my friends list? He's got my number and we're on each others social medias too, and we talk daily off the site so it's not like we'll lose touch. Would you be upset if you were him and I deleted you?
It's just a bit delicate, I don't want to screw it up, he's a great bloke, but at the same time I don't want to start off on the wrong foot either. Anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading and your comments "
Give it a go you might enjoy it.
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Just to be the bahhh humbuger, be ready to get no more attention from women and couples when you remove or hide him from when you didn't. Blokes have blokes as mates on here as blokes can have blokes as mates and veris from them - it's a very liberal club that's going on. Gangbangs, parties, socials exist, it's different having someone irl on here but it'd take big balls to call someone out over it. |
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I wouldn't but i don't think these guys need a lot of encouragement. If talk to your friend about it and see if you can come up with a solution. The only way to stop all messages from men is to block all men. Otherwise just delete all messages from men it doesn't take long. |
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"So long story short(er) I'm a straight guy, I'm not attracted to guys at all, they're just not my jam. Some of my friends are and I literally don't care as long as everyone enjoys themselves and it's consensual.
I've got a real life friend on my friends list here who is a gay guy and he's a close friend, he's one of those 4 or 5 people you really know in life, and we still do movie night once a week and hang out to this day. He's a true brother to me and I love him to bits. We're close and we've known each other long before either of us were here. He's the guy who pulled me out of a black hole when my last relationship tanked, and he always gives me good advice, so I owe him a lot.
Here's the rub, I'm straight and he's gay, and he's on my friends list. I seem to be getting people thinking I'm bisexual or assuming so, or like I'm hiding something and secretly bi as a gay man is on my friends list. Thing is, I get it. I understand where they're coming from.
I got more or less rejected earlier as the person thought I wasn't straight and that's what they like, and to be honest, I can completely understand why. I think me and my mate are the exception rather than the rule in that regard, I don't think too many are close friends before coming here, but we're totally open and honest with each other so should I raise it with him? At the same time I don't want him to feel like I'd be deleting him maliciously or I'm ashamed of him or anything like that, because I'm not. Like I say he's a true brother, I'd choose him over anyone here in all honesty, but I really really don't want to shag him. I just don't like men.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking for is your thoughts. What would you think if you looked and seen a straight guy with a gay guy on his friends list? Would you think I'm gay, or bi or something? Should I have a chat with him and remove him from my friends list? He's got my number and we're on each others social medias too, and we talk daily off the site so it's not like we'll lose touch. Would you be upset if you were him and I deleted you?
It's just a bit delicate, I don't want to screw it up, he's a great bloke, but at the same time I don't want to start off on the wrong foot either. Anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading and your comments "
I would stay loyal to my friend. You’ve said he’s a real friend. Anyone you’re compatible with won’t make those assumptions about you. |
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"You can hide your friends list anyway (which you already seem to have done) so I don't really understand what the issue is 
You know, if you want to convince everyone how straight you are, one of the best ways to do it is to make a post in the fabswingers forum informing everybody about the platonic lifelong friendship you have with your gay mate, who you regularly meet for "movie nights", and how this friendship which absolutely nobody needed to know about is damaging your chances with the ladies...  "
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Did someone say they thought that specifically because you had a gay man on your friends list here?
Fabstraight is fairly rife. Many many people on here assume everyone is secretly a little bit bi regardless of what's there. |
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My advice is ultimately you have to do what is right for you.
At some point having your friend in your friend list was a good idea so why has that changed? Because someone you don't really know has made assumptions about you?
Everything had a consequence. You need to figure out what they could be and avoid the worser.
I've always been an advocate for the social aspects of swinging and having friends of different backgrounds and sexual orientation in my eyes is a good thing. It gives a better well adjusted view point.
Personally I would kept that friend in my friends list and ignore those who make assumptions about you because the moment you pander to them to you are open to manipulation.
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By *AYENCouple 49 weeks ago
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"So long story short(er) I'm a straight guy, I'm not attracted to guys at all, they're just not my jam. Some of my friends are and I literally don't care as long as everyone enjoys themselves and it's consensual.
I've got a real life friend on my friends list here who is a gay guy and he's a close friend, he's one of those 4 or 5 people you really know in life, and we still do movie night once a week and hang out to this day. He's a true brother to me and I love him to bits. We're close and we've known each other long before either of us were here. He's the guy who pulled me out of a black hole when my last relationship tanked, and he always gives me good advice, so I owe him a lot.
Here's the rub, I'm straight and he's gay, and he's on my friends list. I seem to be getting people thinking I'm bisexual or assuming so, or like I'm hiding something and secretly bi as a gay man is on my friends list. Thing is, I get it. I understand where they're coming from.
I got more or less rejected earlier as the person thought I wasn't straight and that's what they like, and to be honest, I can completely understand why. I think me and my mate are the exception rather than the rule in that regard, I don't think too many are close friends before coming here, but we're totally open and honest with each other so should I raise it with him? At the same time I don't want him to feel like I'd be deleting him maliciously or I'm ashamed of him or anything like that, because I'm not. Like I say he's a true brother, I'd choose him over anyone here in all honesty, but I really really don't want to shag him. I just don't like men.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking for is your thoughts. What would you think if you looked and seen a straight guy with a gay guy on his friends list? Would you think I'm gay, or bi or something? Should I have a chat with him and remove him from my friends list? He's got my number and we're on each others social medias too, and we talk daily off the site so it's not like we'll lose touch. Would you be upset if you were him and I deleted you?
It's just a bit delicate, I don't want to screw it up, he's a great bloke, but at the same time I don't want to start off on the wrong foot either. Anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading and your comments "
I think this is more of a short story long!
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"So long story short(er) I'm a straight guy, I'm not attracted to guys at all, they're just not my jam. Some of my friends are and I literally don't care as long as everyone enjoys themselves and it's consensual.
I've got a real life friend on my friends list here who is a gay guy and he's a close friend, he's one of those 4 or 5 people you really know in life, and we still do movie night once a week and hang out to this day. He's a true brother to me and I love him to bits. We're close and we've known each other long before either of us were here. He's the guy who pulled me out of a black hole when my last relationship tanked, and he always gives me good advice, so I owe him a lot.
Here's the rub, I'm straight and he's gay, and he's on my friends list. I seem to be getting people thinking I'm bisexual or assuming so, or like I'm hiding something and secretly bi as a gay man is on my friends list. Thing is, I get it. I understand where they're coming from.
I got more or less rejected earlier as the person thought I wasn't straight and that's what they like, and to be honest, I can completely understand why. I think me and my mate are the exception rather than the rule in that regard, I don't think too many are close friends before coming here, but we're totally open and honest with each other so should I raise it with him? At the same time I don't want him to feel like I'd be deleting him maliciously or I'm ashamed of him or anything like that, because I'm not. Like I say he's a true brother, I'd choose him over anyone here in all honesty, but I really really don't want to shag him. I just don't like men.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking for is your thoughts. What would you think if you looked and seen a straight guy with a gay guy on his friends list? Would you think I'm gay, or bi or something? Should I have a chat with him and remove him from my friends list? He's got my number and we're on each others social medias too, and we talk daily off the site so it's not like we'll lose touch. Would you be upset if you were him and I deleted you?
It's just a bit delicate, I don't want to screw it up, he's a great bloke, but at the same time I don't want to start off on the wrong foot either. Anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading and your comments "
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