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By (user no longer on site) OP 42 weeks ago
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So my girlfriend used to be all over me, like want sex at all times of day and night, ( was very tiring) we've been dating a year now, I love her to bits, but should I worry? She only wants it maybe once or twice a week at most now, and to be honest it's probably me initiating it. She gets very wet. I've only made her squirt a couple of times, I'd love to make her do it more but she's very specific about what gets her going, any suggestions |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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The woman I’m with has completely lost her libido. We haven’t had sex in over a year.
She has reasons why that I don’t want to get into.
I’m willing to wait until she finds herself again.
It’s difficult. I just have to be patient.
I would never leave her because of it. |
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There are so many reasons, many of which are entirely biological in nature.
- Pharmaceutical Drug interaction. Many drugs affect libido
- B12 level issues
- Hormones
- Pre-menopause
- Many many more biological causes, including but not limited to Medical Illness
There there a psychosomatic causes (stress / trauma / etc)
Or a combination of one or more of all of these.
She might need to consider if the changes merit her consulting with a professional. |
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By *ames-77Man 42 weeks ago
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Sex is always frequent and intense in the first year naturally slows down a little bit.. but many things can cause a woman to feel less sexually attracted to her partner the longer they spend together.. my advice is focus on every day life things you might be doing to annoy her like if she has to clean up after you do your washing feed you support you financially not saying she is just saying these things take a toll on a woman.. if you keep her happy during the day and deliver what she wants and needs you'll see the change in sex life .. |
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By *reeSpiritElleWoman 42 weeks ago
Miles of beautiful golden sand, Dorset |
I'm no relationship expert but I would say: take sex out of the equation for a little while. Be intimate with cuddles and kisses, yes, but just do some nice non-sexual things for her, that lets her know you love her and that you appreciate her. When you take away the pressure of having sex, you can both begin to relax, and then you'll find your way back to each other sexually. Have patience and keep reassuring her of your love for her, and you'll both be fine  |
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By *red333Man 42 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"So my girlfriend used to be all over me, like want sex at all times of day and night, ( was very tiring) we've been dating a year now, I love her to bits, but should I worry? She only wants it maybe once or twice a week at most now, and to be honest it's probably me initiating it. She gets very wet. I've only made her squirt a couple of times, I'd love to make her do it more but she's very specific about what gets her going, any suggestions "
Just put her in the shower everyday its multifunctional she gets clean and wet at same time...... Sorted  |
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The honeymoon period is over op it sucks but let's face it life and work etc gets in the way and that initial excitement does dwindle it's totally normal, if you aren't happy with the amount of sex then chat to her, maybe habe a few dates together try put that spark back in.
For me sex starts in the day, the little flirting and affection, I can't just turn it on because someone wants sex now.
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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The first year of any relationship is like that, exciting where you just want to rip each others clothes off all the time but that windles away over time. Real life takes over and the other aspects of your relationship are more important. If its a real issue for you, talk to her about it but make sure you are fulfilling her in other parts of your relationship too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"….. She only wants it maybe once or twice a week at most now, and to be honest it's probably me initiating it. She gets very wet. I've only made her squirt a couple of times, I'd love to make her do it more but she's very specific about what gets her going, any suggestions "
That’s a great starting point to talk to her.
Hey babez, what turns you on? Or summut like that.
Good luck, women never tell you what’s wrong, but they’d like us to listen more…. Go figure.  |
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"So my girlfriend used to be all over me, like want sex at all times of day and night, ( was very tiring) we've been dating a year now, I love her to bits, but should I worry? She only wants it maybe once or twice a week at most now, and to be honest it's probably me initiating it. She gets very wet. I've only made her squirt a couple of times, I'd love to make her do it more but she's very specific about what gets her going, any suggestions "
Concentrate on what specifically gets her going. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"You've been dating one whole year!
And you're already complaining about her "
All that money wasted! Days out, meals, dresses. And she won't fuck all the time!
Get rid. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"So my girlfriend used to be all over me, like want sex at all times of day and night, ( was very tiring) we've been dating a year now, I love her to bits, but should I worry? She only wants it maybe once or twice a week at most now, and to be honest it's probably me initiating it. She gets very wet. I've only made her squirt a couple of times, I'd love to make her do it more but she's very specific about what gets her going, any suggestions "
I can only give my personal opinion here so take that with salt
I’ve never has a relationship where the level of sex drops. I’ve always been with woman that constantly wanted me
If that suddenly changes, I’d wonder why
Women like sex just as much as men. If she isn’t wanting it as much with you, it’s most likely because she’s wanting/getting it elsewhere
Personally, I’d just end it. It’s only a year |
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It is totally normal for the sex to die down a little as the relationship continues. But I do think you need to have a conversation with your girlfriend about it. There could be a hundred and one different reasons for her wanting sex less often.
The fact she's happy for you being on here without her means she's open minded so she will surely be willing to discuss things openly with you. |
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"So my girlfriend used to be all over me, like want sex at all times of day and night, ( was very tiring) we've been dating a year now, I love her to bits, but should I worry? She only wants it maybe once or twice a week at most now, and to be honest it's probably me initiating it. She gets very wet. I've only made her squirt a couple of times, I'd love to make her do it more but she's very specific about what gets her going, any suggestions "
Once or twice a week? Lucky you.. Haha
The sex always calms down a bit after a year or two doesn't it.
It's important that you talk to each other completely openly.
If she is losing her labido and isn't just settling in to being "normal" doing regular exercise can help. |
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"So my girlfriend used to be all over me, like want sex at all times of day and night, ( was very tiring) we've been dating a year now, I love her to bits, but should I worry? She only wants it maybe once or twice a week at most now, and to be honest it's probably me initiating it. She gets very wet. I've only made her squirt a couple of times, I'd love to make her do it more but she's very specific about what gets her going, any suggestions "
The honeymoon period, is over |
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Yes, listen to what she tells you, especially if as you say it's something specific that gets her going.
Twice a week is fine op, after a year you tend to get past the jumping on someone all the time & the relationship develops into more. |
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You should be talking to her, no one else knows the reasons. Maybe she’s getting it elsewhere. Maybe she’s stressed. Maybe you fucked up in some way and she’s waiting for you to put it right? Who knows…… but she does. And she’s probably wondering why you’ve not asked. |
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