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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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Have you ever disliked someone and then been like, ‘actually I was wrong about you, you’re alright’ ?
It’s a weird feeling, that. Being wrong. Not sure I like it. |
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By *eliWoman 49 weeks ago
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Not disliked them because I don't give that much energy to a person before I know them.
I've been pleasantly surprised before when I've found out people were more my sort of person than I originally thought. I like when that happens.  |
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I've been wrong a couple of times with people I initially thought were sound only to see them in a different light.
So far I've never changed my opinion on anyone I originally disliked.
Not out of stubbornness on my part but just because they really are a cunt. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"Not disliked them because I don't give that much energy to a person before I know them.
I've been pleasantly surprised before when I've found out people were more my sort of person than I originally thought. I like when that happens. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"I've been wrong a couple of times with people I initially thought were sound only to see them in a different light.
So far I've never changed my opinion on anyone I originally disliked.
Not out of stubbornness on my part but just because they really are a cunt."
Fair enough. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"Have you ever disliked someone and then been like, ‘actually I was wrong about you, you’re alright’ ?
It’s a weird feeling, that. Being wrong. Not sure I like it.
Erm let me think ………"
Don’t think too hard it’s only fab   |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"On fab, just 2.
I had them blocked and then they became 2 of my fav people. Well 1 has buggered off now.
I remember that guy"
One of the few decent ones on here.
If we're talking about the same guy
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In a training session I was sat next to a young guy who I thought was too loud and a bit of an idiot. However within an hour working on a project with him I realised he was very knowledgeable and his personality was quite refreshing, he was bloody honest about everything.
So I try to no longer judge on first impressions anymore unless it’s obvious the person is a prat. |
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By *eliusMan 49 weeks ago
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Rarely, I seem to be lucky in that if I think you’re a dick you most certainly are and if you are worth getting to know I won’t hesitate to change other people’s opinion of you. That said, it does take a while for me to warm up to you, so maybe that’s why my dick-ometer is so finely tuned. |
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"There have been times when I've dismissed someone as just not my people and have changed my mind after a bit more exposure to them."
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First time I saw your profile, when I was single, I initially thought you were unapproachable but after reading forum posts it became clear you were just very pragmatic and honest, some people may mistake that foe something else but it led me to message you and I'm glad I did.
Of course, plenty of chance to bugger it all up by being an arse in person but that's a problem for future-me |
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"There have been times when I've dismissed someone as just not my people and have changed my mind after a bit more exposure to them."
That’s about as far as I’d go. Can’t dislike someone I’ve never actually had any dealings with.
… or CAN I ?
THEY KNOW WHO THEY ARE!!! |
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When it all comes down to it, it's nothing but one person's hero is another person's villain.
We are all twats on some level, it just means you like the kind of twat they are. Your perception of the twatishness changed, but they are still that initial twat you thought they were in the first place too. |
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This happened to me all the time in football playing days.
Play for one team and absolutely detested a lad who played for another local team, constantly had verbals etc.
Later I joined his team was player I was dreading playing with the most, but a few other teammates from former clubs had also made the switch, turned out we got on like a house on fire.
Had conversation in the changing rooms after about a month of playing there where he said to me “you know I used to hate you, but you are actually all right” I replied “the feeling was mutual”. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"On fab, just 2.
I had them blocked and then they became 2 of my fav people. Well 1 has buggered off now.
I remember that guy
One of the few decent ones on here.
If we're talking about the same guy
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Yeah the guy we all thought you were banging |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"I’m probably the other way. Liked someone then seen some of their interactions and realised actually I don’t like them "
I think this is normal. Common. Happens to me a lot. You go off people when you actually get to know them |
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By *eliWoman 49 weeks ago
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"Not disliked them because I don't give that much energy to a person before I know them.
I've been pleasantly surprised before when I've found out people were more my sort of person than I originally thought. I like when that happens.
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I dunno Pickle, I thought you were cool but then you attacked my virtue and I in another thread.  
Being serious, it's great when people prove me wrong. I love it. I like surprises, being reminded that people are so much more than a singular facet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"Not disliked them because I don't give that much energy to a person before I know them.
I've been pleasantly surprised before when I've found out people were more my sort of person than I originally thought. I like when that happens.
I dunno Pickle, I thought you were cool but then you attacked my virtue and I in another thread.
Being serious, it's great when people prove me wrong. I love it. I like surprises, being reminded that people are so much more than a singular facet. "
I went to see jada pinkett smith recently and she was talking about how she had to remind herself of that factor about people. Not sure it’s the same lol but she talked about how she had to realise like her Dad wasn’t put on this earth JUST to be her dad. So there’s more to him than how he is as a dad. If that makes sense? You saying this just triggered this memory that I wanted to share with you and all |
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I run off instinct like most and probably like most, it's usually a good indicator that rarely fails me. In RL I got it wrong once or twice, but always happy to change my opinion. One of the few mantras I stand by is 'a mate of a mate is always a mate' and that has never failed me. Someone on a thread a while back eluded to this about the company you keep reflects you.
On here. It's different purely because I don't know and haven't met 99.9% of people and never will. Sure there have been people that I disagree with and visa versa. So what, that's life. There are a myriad of personalities on here and as long as they stay true to themselves, fair play.
We all form opinions based on forum threads. I kind of know who I would enjoy a beer with and those who I probably struggle with but in relevance to your question I don't think I would be far off the mark but would remain open minded and happy to be corrected. |
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I hear this a lot when people from Fab meet me in person 
I don’t judge people too firmly, but there are definitely people I’ve met where I’ve been positively surprised that they were much more pleasant (and more my type of individual) in person |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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Yep. Had a uni friend who I strongly disliked for the first year of knowing her. She ended up back at my place after a night out with mutual friends, and we talked properly over the old peace pipe, and 20+ years later we're still great friends.
Sometimes you just need to dig a bit below the masks people wear to see the real person. |
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No, if I've taken a dislike to someone, it's usually for a good reason. On the odd occasion where its just been a gut instinct, I've tried to look past it but have still found I can't warm to said people. So I take the approach of just being civil and polite but not purposely allowing them near me where possible.
I'm sure one day though, I'll have my mind pleasantly changed |
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"I hear this a lot when people from Fab meet me in person
I don’t judge people too firmly, but there are definitely people I’ve met where I’ve been positively surprised that they were much more pleasant (and more my type of individual) in person "
Knew you loved me really, knobhead!  |
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By *ustBoWoman 49 weeks ago
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I usually go with my gut instinct,the one time I didn't I realised after a while my initial impression impression of them was spot on. They were not someone I wanted to know or be friends with. |
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By *929Man 49 weeks ago
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A few times in real life
One bloke I went to price a job for him and his wife and I thought he was an annoying nerd so never sent the price then he got in touch asking for his price so I felt bad and sent it and got the job turns out he was great crack and had good laugh with him the time we were there.
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By *r_PinkMan 49 weeks ago
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I have been "that person" a few times.
I have been told on many occasions "you aint as bad as i/we thought you where"/
I always say, don not judge a book by its cover. pick the book up and read a few pages first! |
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"A few times in real life
One bloke I went to price a job for him and his wife and I thought he was an annoying nerd so never sent the price then he got in touch asking for his price so I felt bad and sent it and got the job turns out he was great crack and had good laugh with him the time we were there.
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Wait,his wife thought he was an annoying nerd??
She sounds like a lovely person..not! |
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"I hear this a lot when people from Fab meet me in person
I don’t judge people too firmly, but there are definitely people I’ve met where I’ve been positively surprised that they were much more pleasant (and more my type of individual) in person
Knew you loved me really, knobhead! "
Oh Shuddup Ya Face
I knew you’d be a sweetheart in person, despite your hard faced forum persona |
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By *929Man 49 weeks ago
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"A few times in real life
One bloke I went to price a job for him and his wife and I thought he was an annoying nerd so never sent the price then he got in touch asking for his price so I felt bad and sent it and got the job turns out he was great crack and had good laugh with him the time we were there.
Wait,his wife thought he was an annoying nerd??
She sounds like a lovely person..not!"
Sorry no that was my poor punctuation that was my first impression of him not his wife’s |
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By *otSoPoshWoman 49 weeks ago
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I've actually not been wrong when I've thought that someone is an utter dick up front. It doesn't happen often though.
I've often been wrong when I've thought that they're a person I'd like. Some people have been very good at hiding their dickheadedness.
More often than not I tend to try and keep an open mind about people until I have personal experience of them. This is actually something that it took me a very long time to learn, and I still struggle sometimes.
I don't necessarily think it's true that a mate of a mate will be your kind of person though... I get on well with people that some of my closest friends don't like and I think some of their friends are dickheads. |
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On Fab, no not really. Sometimes it takes a while to understand someone's sense of humour on here, and to appreciate they're not as abrasive as I once thought.
It happens the other way around more often I would say. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts "
They should get lives and live our smol bird alone  |
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
Ditto 
Oh Fife not you too "
Sadly, my good nature gets abused |
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
They should get lives and live our smol bird alone "
Ah fuck em I say… they certainly don’t feature high on my “being arsed about” list |
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
Ditto
Oh Fife not you too
Sadly, my good nature gets abused "
This makes me sad because you are utterly lovely x |
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
They should get lives and live our smol bird alone
Ah fuck em I say… they certainly don’t feature high on my “being arsed about” list "
Your arse is high on my list  |
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
They should get lives and live our smol bird alone
Ah fuck em I say… they certainly don’t feature high on my “being arsed about” list
Your arse is high on my list "
Not that high. I’m smol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
They should get lives and live our smol bird alone
Ah fuck em I say… they certainly don’t feature high on my “being arsed about” list
Your arse is high on my list
Not that high. I’m smol "
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
Ditto
Oh Fife not you too
Sadly, my good nature gets abused "
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"Have you ever disliked someone and then been like, ‘actually I was wrong about you, you’re alright’ ?
It’s a weird feeling, that. Being wrong. Not sure I like it. "
Nope always right with instinct and first impressions if you’re a prick you’re a prick no changing that male or female
Shit is shit whichever way you coat it |
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
They should get lives and live our smol bird alone
Ah fuck em I say… they certainly don’t feature high on my “being arsed about” list
Your arse is high on my list
Not that high. I’m smol "
Beautiful things come in small packages |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
They should get lives and live our smol bird alone
Ah fuck em I say… they certainly don’t feature high on my “being arsed about” list
Your arse is high on my list
Not that high. I’m smol
Beautiful things come in small packages "
Don’t be so tough on your little guy I’m sure he’s at least average  |
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"No darling OP. But I’ve been very wrong the other way round making friends with what I thought were genuine people and actually they’ve been utter backstabbing cunts
They should get lives and live our smol bird alone
Ah fuck em I say… they certainly don’t feature high on my “being arsed about” list
Your arse is high on my list
Not that high. I’m smol
Beautiful things come in small packages
Don’t be so tough on your little guy I’m sure he’s at least average "
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"It takes me ages to warm up to people so probably all the time!
You’re nice. I like you
Yeah but I've been here for 5 years
Omg same! Yess girl  
slow burners "
I am only 26, I got all the time in the world, baby |
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"It takes me ages to warm up to people so probably all the time!
You’re nice. I like you
Yeah but I've been here for 5 years
Omg same! Yess girl
slow burners
I am only 26, I got all the time in the world, baby "
I'm 53  times running out man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"It takes me ages to warm up to people so probably all the time!
You’re nice. I like you
Yeah but I've been here for 5 years
Omg same! Yess girl
slow burners
I am only 26, I got all the time in the world, baby
I'm 53 times running out man "
Ah. Sucks to be you |
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"It takes me ages to warm up to people so probably all the time!
You’re nice. I like you
Yeah but I've been here for 5 years
Omg same! Yess girl
slow burners
I am only 26, I got all the time in the world, baby
I'm 53 times running out man
Ah. Sucks to be you "
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"It takes me ages to warm up to people so probably all the time!
You’re nice. I like you
Yeah but I've been here for 5 years
Omg same! Yess girl
slow burners
I am only 26, I got all the time in the world, baby "
You’re 26 this week then Pickle?
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"Its usually the other way around.
People I thought were good people , turn out not to be.
Usually if I don't like you from the outset, I'm right. "
Urgh, does that mean I have to keep being "nice"? |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Its usually the other way around.
People I thought were good people , turn out not to be.
Usually if I don't like you from the outset, I'm right.
Urgh, does that mean I have to keep being "nice"? "
yes! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"It takes me ages to warm up to people so probably all the time!
You’re nice. I like you
Yeah but I've been here for 5 years
Omg same! Yess girl
slow burners
I am only 26, I got all the time in the world, baby
You’re 26 this week then Pickle?
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I don’t get it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"It takes me ages to warm up to people so probably all the time!
You’re nice. I like you
Yeah but I've been here for 5 years
Omg same! Yess girl
slow burners
I am only 26, I got all the time in the world, baby
You’re 26 this week then Pickle?
I don’t get it "
I just got it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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"It takes me ages to warm up to people so probably all the time!
You’re nice. I like you
Yeah but I've been here for 5 years
Omg same! Yess girl
slow burners
I am only 26, I got all the time in the world, baby
You’re 26 this week then Pickle?
I don’t get it
I just got it"
No I still don’t get it |
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Yes both ways, I've well maybe not disliked but not liked people then met them in reality and they have been great whereas on fab I'd have not looked twice.
It's why I prefer meeting at socials it's hard to guage a person on here.
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No. I’m always prepared to give people the benefit of the doubt to begin with. But I have experienced the reverse, in that I’ve built friendships with people who for some reason have grown to not like me after a while. |
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