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By (user no longer on site) OP 49 weeks ago
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Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?
Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. |
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"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?
Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
Those sound like the problems of someone who gets too much sex LOL
I like the effort & uncertainty.
To quote Jurassic Park...
"He doesn't want to be fed, he wants to hunt"
Sex to me I’d like pizza...
If it’s bad, it still good
If it’s not my choice of topping, it’s dtill good
If it’s cold & days old...it’s still good  |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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If no connection i would not be meeting … even with a connection it’s not just about the sex, everything in between can be just as exciting … if not more … the intensity when 2 similar minds collide is simply extraordinary !!! |
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In terms of cock twitch, and orgasm sensations around the cock/balls area - wanking is usually a lot better.
You know what you need and when you need it, better than anyone.
In terms of the rest of body feelings, eye contact, kiss, caress, brutal steam-train energy, biting, pulling hair...and about a million other things...
Wanks aren't even in the same universe.
Sadly, the other human is required for that, and that's where it gets messy. Someone great "on paper" can be a bit disappointing in reality, vice versa, or someone who was once great can get stale. Socially and sexually.
That applies to their experiences with me as much as my experiences with them.
A wank very rarely lets you down.
It just can't take you to the other places anywhere near as well though. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?
Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
Absolutely
Once you’ve had enough casual sex you get bored of it and need more of a connection. That connection takes far more effort
Very easy going out on a Saturday night and finding a warm body to shack up with for the night
Much harder to find someone you wanna sleep next to after and actually hang out |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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Yes and no depends
It’s to much for a quick 5-10 minute splat and run
but if a person is willing to go rounds and have a joyful time along the way say 4-5-6-7 hours all night and the next morning
Or 2-3 days then it’s most definitely worth the time
And for those wondering I don’t mean just straight sex for all those hours there’s so mucb more that can be done and when you do the hours just fly by
For instance ok
So round one then a break
Maybe a glass off bubbly or something and so chit chat
On to round two break during that break a little outfit change maybe some more talk
And a lap dance and what not
On to round 3 then break
Maybe a little fleshing up at this point jump in a shower together and tease
Then come out maybe bring a couple off outfits out have another glass off bubbly
While changing in and out off outfits give mini lap dances and parding around
Then let them pic they favourite one and on to round 4
By this point we 4-5 hours deep
We had a wonderful time and it’s been all worth it
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"Yes and no depends
It’s to much for a quick 5-10 minute splat and run
but if a person is willing to go rounds and have a joyful time along the way say 4-5-6-7 hours all night and the next morning
Or 2-3 days then it’s most definitely worth the time
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Wot Natalie sed . |
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Absolutely. It's fun as fuck but the person needs to be just that - fun.
When people start acting like they are better than others because they think they are highly desirable the sexual attraction dwindles like a beast. So you have a good midriff, probably down to your sexy parents genes. It doesn't make you fetch. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?
Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
It’s easier to have a wank, if I just wanted sex.
It’s easier to just get a local meet if I just wanted sex, but that’s not without some effort.
But if I thought I was making too much effort, I’d it really worth it?
I like the feeling of it being effortless and wanting to meet them no matter what. You just do it.  |
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"I just sleep with people I call friends.
All the travel and whatnot, it's worth it that way for far more things than a fistful of orgasms, which is also my fave western.
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Oh I like that one too! Has it got spaghetti? |
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"Absolutely. It's fun as fuck but the person needs to be just that - fun.
When people start acting like they are better than others because they think they are highly desirable the sexual attraction dwindles like a beast. So you have a good midriff, probably down to your sexy parents genes. It doesn't make you fetch."
“Stop trying to make fetch happen!” |
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"Yes and no depends
It’s to much for a quick 5-10 minute splat and run
but if a person is willing to go rounds and have a joyful time along the way say 4-5-6-7 hours all night and the next morning
Or 2-3 days then it’s most definitely worth the time
And for those wondering I don’t mean just straight sex for all those hours there’s so mucb more that can be done and when you do the hours just fly by
For instance ok
So round one then a break
Maybe a glass off bubbly or something and so chit chat
On to round two break during that break a little outfit change maybe some more talk
And a lap dance and what not
On to round 3 then break
Maybe a little fleshing up at this point jump in a shower together and tease
Then come out maybe bring a couple off outfits out have another glass off bubbly
While changing in and out off outfits give mini lap dances and parding around
Then let them pic they favourite one and on to round 4
By this point we 4-5 hours deep
We had a wonderful time and it’s been all worth it
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Splat and run! Lmao - Liz Phair would be proud I think x |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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No sex it’s worth it. And if it’s too much hassle then I just do it with someone else. It can be hard developing a roster but I also enjoy meeting people, going on dates/ socials. |
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Any day can be manufactured to be a drag but we make it to be a lot better than that. Sure, we could wa nank ourselves silly but we learn to shape our partner selection and engagement to be earth shattering bliss. And rest when we need to |
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"Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
Yes, sex is sometimes too much work. But, no, I don't think a wank is the same, at all. A connection and a give-and-receive of pleasure that results in an orgasm is hardly the same as merely shooting my load. |
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"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?
Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
You've hit the perverbial nail on the head  |
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"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?
Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
Sex is sex when no woman available most of time now can’t be arsed to be fair I know men can be hard work relationship wise finding it difficult on fab pastures new as they say to old for this shit  |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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An orgasm by myself does not compare to the one I can have with a bed mate.
The weight of the person, the feel of them, the way they smell, their touch how they touch me.
It isn't comparable. |
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"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?
Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
Lack of connection would mean no meet, I've zero time for shit sex I'd rather have amazing sex at home than bother to meet someone we've zero connection with.
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All part and parcel of it for us anyway and there has to be a "Conection/spark/attraction" for us both for us to even consider butting uglies or similiar and deffo not into turn fumble/fuck n go type of meets but each to their own we say xxx  |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"An orgasm by myself does not compare to the one I can have with a bed mate.
The weight of the person, the feel of them, the way they smell, their touch how they touch me.
It isn't comparable."
A bed mate!!! I need one of those.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?
Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm.
Lack of connection would mean no meet, I've zero time for shit sex I'd rather have amazing sex at home than bother to meet someone we've zero connection with.
Mrs "
As a couple, that’s go to be lucky to find a connection all ways. |
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By *amesB66Man 49 weeks ago
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"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated? The finding someone to meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.
Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
I disagree. The pre meet organization, flirting, preparation and anticipation is a huge part of the excitement.
You hope, by that stage, that those you may not gel with have revealed themselves and you've aborted, but on the odd occasion one does slip through the net, then yes, I agree, it's disappointing.
The prospect of great sex, with an interesting woman, far out weighs the known pleasure of my right hand. |
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By *eliWoman 49 weeks ago
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No. If it felt like too much hard work or had the potential to be a damp squib I wouldn't bother with it. I've got a fiancé at home so I'm not exactly sex starved.
I've never seen a connection as being "effort" - I love making and exploring them and seeing what unfolds.
And no, the orgasms from me wanking or me having sex with another are very different. Both enjoyable don't get me wrong but I'd always choose the latter. |
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By *amesB66Man 49 weeks ago
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"No. If it felt like too much hard work or had the potential to be a damp squib I wouldn't bother with it. I've got a fiancé at home so I'm not exactly sex starved.
I've never seen a connection as being "effort" - I love making and exploring them and seeing what unfolds.
And no, the orgasms from me wanking or me having sex with another are very different. Both enjoyable don't get me wrong but I'd always choose the latter. "
Absolutely |
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"God yes. Too much effort. Or I'm too lazy. Possibly both.
^pillow princess.
*it’s a joke from another topic here.  "
For me it's too much effort finding someone to get to the wanting sex stage with. Once you get there it's easy.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"God yes. Too much effort. Or I'm too lazy. Possibly both.
^pillow princess.
*it’s a joke from another topic here.
For me it's too much effort finding someone to get to the wanting sex stage with. Once you get there it's easy. "
I can relate in some way. |
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