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I'm usually pretty upbeat and positive especially when it comes to swinging but birthday's really hit me these days. Got mine this week and really put me in a down mood. Anyone else? Wondering what age birthdays switched from being fun to being slightly depressing? Not sure if it is life generally or feeling that the swinging clock is ticking away and for every older man having fun there are endless cases of men losing interest or ability.
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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I definitely don’t judge my life by my swinging probability factor as I get older.
I would agree that years seem to go quicker as we get older but has nothing to do with swinging |
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By *inamicMan 49 weeks ago
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I'd look at it another your getting to celebrate another year on earth, not everyone always gets that chance. I'm going through abit of a down patch myself right now, but I just look to keep moving forward you can't enjoy the highs without the lows and life has a very good way of throwing up changes in a heartbeat. Happy Birthday for this coming week and regards to the end of your message well if you dnt ask you won't get and you will never know what might be around the corner. |
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"Why be depressed about a birthday?
Clearly you've never suffered with depression.
Op message me if you like. 
OP makes no mention of suffering from depression. "
Well I didn't mention suffering in the clinical sense but actually have in the past. Fortunately I don't feel like that now |
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It was my birthday very recently. The only people who remembered were Ailsa, my parents, and only one friend. I was working, and so it came and went with barely any acknowledgement. That so few people remember makes me sad - I don’t rate very highly in the minds of people, but that’s probably as much my doing as theirs - but as for getting older, I don’t much care at this point. |
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"I definitely don’t judge my life by my swinging probability factor as I get older.
I would agree that years seem to go quicker as we get older but has nothing to do with swinging "
It's not just swinging for me but I think it is a bigger part of my life than for many and I'd be lying if I said it doesn't play on my mind sometimes. Ironically I've had the most fun time ever so far in my 50's and but can't help but notice the decreasing pool of opportunities. Hopefully a small pile of bodies on a bed at the weekend at a club or somewhere will cheer me up |
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"Why be depressed about a birthday?
Clearly you've never suffered with depression.
Op message me if you like.
OP makes no mention of suffering from depression.
Well I didn't mention suffering in the clinical sense but actually have in the past. Fortunately I don't feel like that now "
Good to hear.
But serious question … what is it about birthdays that gets you down? I had the same conversation with w close friend when she told me she was super stressed because she was turning 50 . Basically she thought 50 sounded old, and was having a pity party … eventually realised it that it was completely unrelated to her whether her 50th was a big, fun, month-long celebration, or a self-declared day of mourning. She opted for the party approach.
I honestly can’t see why a birthday should be a source of anxiety or unhappiness. Can you explain? |
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By *zeroMan 49 weeks ago
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I think there's a lot of pressure to have a good time on your birthday. It's been drummed into your head you should look forward to a cake, cards, a big fuss but like you said op some people just feel a bit meh about it.
I tend to treat it like any other day and if anyone says Happy Birthday or whatever its a bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"I stopped celebrating mine in my early twenties. They don't mean anything.
At the very least they’re an excuse for cake and a balloon Xx"
Not a big fan of cake and balloons are only good for popping. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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It’s only Mrs Wick and my immediate family that remind me when my birthday is, or I’d just let it pass by with no mention.
As I draw close to 50, I’m getting asked “what are you doing planning to recognise/celebrate?”
Erm, nowt. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"It’s only Mrs Wick and my immediate family that remind me when my birthday is, or I’d just let it pass by with no mention.
As I draw close to 50, I’m getting asked “what are you doing planning to recognise/celebrate?”
Erm, nowt. "
This, I'm an adult thanks. If I want to do something I don't have to wait till my birthday!. |
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"I stopped celebrating mine in my early twenties. They don't mean anything.
At the very least they’re an excuse for cake and a balloon Xx
Not a big fan of cake and balloons are only good for popping. "
I play golf, and for my birthday each year I try to play a course I haven’t posted before, making it a special course for birthdays with zeroes.
Stopped caring about parties, presents a very long time ago, now I just set that day up as a day that I will enjoy. |
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By *a LunaWoman 49 weeks ago
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It’s my birthday today and whilst I’m not depressed about it, I am very aware that next year I will be 50.
Don’t be blue about your birthday OP. It’s just a celebration of your time on earth and should be celebrated how you want to. Quietly or loudly. With friends or without.
But don’t be sad. You’re a Sagittarius like me, so look online and plan some future adventures that will raise a smile.
That’s an order!! |
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"I'm usually pretty upbeat and positive especially when it comes to swinging but birthday's really hit me these days. Got mine this week and really put me in a down mood. Anyone else? Wondering what age birthdays switched from being fun to being slightly depressing? Not sure if it is life generally or feeling that the swinging clock is ticking away and for every older man having fun there are endless cases of men losing interest or ability.
56 this week - threesome with two 28 year old might even up the numbers and fix the problem I guess "
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After 40 it gets a bit less exciting.
Most people passing the realistic half time marker.
A threesome with two 28 year old would cheer me up on my death bed.
They would lick my tears off anyway.
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"It’s only Mrs Wick and my immediate family that remind me when my birthday is, or I’d just let it pass by with no mention.
As I draw close to 50, I’m getting asked “what are you doing planning to recognise/celebrate?”
Erm, nowt.
This, I'm an adult thanks. If I want to do something I don't have to wait till my birthday!."
You’ll be joining me in not having one of these newly popular “birthday weeks” then.  |
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Oh, I love birthdays. The alternative is worse
*shrug*
Once I bought a renowned jazz engineer a birthday cake while he was working a convention. It turned out to be his last ever birthday cake. He was only 58, and he had a sudden brain aneurysm about 9 months after the convention. He was really touched by the gesture. I was glad I could make someone smile. We never know which birthday will be our last. |
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"Oh, I love birthdays. The alternative is worse
*shrug*
Once I bought a renowned jazz engineer a birthday cake while he was working a convention. It turned out to be his last ever birthday cake. He was only 58, and he had a sudden brain aneurysm about 9 months after the convention. He was really touched by the gesture. I was glad I could make someone smile. We never know which birthday will be our last."
***Scratching the 25 years old blonde next door off the list.
Inviting Faith to my 44th birthday.*** |
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"It’s my birthday today and whilst I’m not depressed about it, I am very aware that next year I will be 50.
Don’t be blue about your birthday OP. It’s just a celebration of your time on earth and should be celebrated how you want to. Quietly or loudly. With friends or without.
But don’t be sad. You’re a Sagittarius like me, so look online and plan some future adventures that will raise a smile.
That’s an order!! "
Happy birthday! |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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Getting older is a privilege not everyone enjoys.
I have a photo I keep, transferring it from phone to phone. It’s a young girl helping her terminally ill little brother who is being sick. When I start to get a bit meh and overindulgent in the mental brick bats I look at that photo. It just keeps me in check that actually life isn’t that bad, getting older is ok, shit happens but it doesn’t all happen to be shit.
Eat the cake. Someone made it with love.
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