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We’re interested to know of you that list couples as something you’re looking for how many of you actually want to experience being part of a three way sexual scenario?
Maybe include in your response, (without being too graphic), how you’d ideally want the experience to go.
If you’re straight then how comfortable do you think you’d be around the other person of your gender?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a great question.
For me and firstly all 3 people have to be equally satisfied at the end of it.
As a single it can be very easy to be the spare part in it especially once sex has finished.
I find if wanting to be with a couple it requires equal interaction. Not one of the couple speaking for the other. There is normally more interaction up front as well to make sure everyone is clear on what they want to get from it.
I have played with couples where the husband does not play but likes her to date and have photos and videos etc so that also takes trust
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Ideally I'd like the experience to go well. I'll leave the graphics for others.
As for how do I think I'd cope with another man being there, I don't think it's something you think about in the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To start with, I didn't think I would be comfortable with another guy there but having tried it, they weren't really my focus.
However, that's not to say I shouldn't still get on with both of them as thelat really tends to heighten the experience. Whether it's an MFM or the partner just watching, I need to be able to know that I'm at ease with both of them as opposed to just being a performing monkey and a spare part which is easy to think entering a three way dynamic where two of them are already so close. |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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I am open to meeting couples but have never met any on here. I am bi so want equal participation from the 3 of us. I don't want to meet a couple where she is bi-curious and is looking to experiment or for a teacher. I need to be attracted physically to both (usually I fancy one but not the other) and want to connect with both the man and the woman and to understand their dynamic - not to just rock up to their hotel room with no prior conversation.
It's like looking for a needle in a haystack. |
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I removed the looking for couples option a few years ago.
I've never experienced a threesome or moresome so I've honestly no idea how comfortable I would feel with another man there but stepping out of that comfort zone was part of the attraction.
My expectation of how it would all go was obviously completely different to how most of the couples who contacted me saw it going.
I expected to be an equal play partner whereas judging by the majority of messages I received it was pretty clear they were only interested in another cock and weren't interested in any input from me beyond that.
I will only meet couples now through my own couples profile. |
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With straight couples it's either spit roast, Dp or DVP.
Not sure about the scenario, when the hubby is just watching.
If he's a 6'5" guy, then that might be a bit intimidating.
With bi couples the same, but might get some too.
I'd need to know about that before the meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Where all three get on equally, she is bisexual and not a nothing below the waist type, where limits are discussed but theres no silly rules in place that cut out lots of sexual acts/play, kissing is a must and not banned.
And there's a connection and friendship all round, socialising being an equal part of it at the least and not a straight to the bedroom deal.
Dream scenario is being the casual girlfriend that can be with both or either one at any time. But that really is Dreamland! |
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I'm open to meeting couples and have played with them in clubs. I'd be looking for a group scenario, essentially (and yes I know couples have different dynamics to two friends or random people). I'd expect to be treated equally, the way you'd treat a friend over for dinner (except with a bit more on the menu than food). As RealityBites says, though, it's a challenging thing to find on here - you get treated as an accessory (although in my case rather than a disposable piece of genitals - I can see how that might be the male experience - I'm simultaneously a rare and exotic beast while also being condescended to because I'm single). As a bi woman there's also the performing seal element, the number of couples who want to fulfil the guy's fantasy of an FFM when the woman isn't really bi, the guy wants to watch not play, and they think they're entitled to have someone put on a show for them. I'm not a doll, and I'm not a sex worker.
Not all couples. But too many. |
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"We’re interested to know of you that list couples as something you’re looking for how many of you actually want to experience being part of a three way sexual scenario?
Maybe include in your response, (without being too graphic), how you’d ideally want the experience to go.
If you’re straight then how comfortable do you think you’d be around the other person of your gender?
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Love meets with couples. The dynamic feels really nice and I like playing the part of the couples fantasy.
I would only meet bi couples, I'm looking for a full bi experience.
For a meet I like kissing both, giving both oral, recieving oral from both. Having sex with both too is top of the list. Having sex with her while sucking him and then have him bend me over for her to watch is very hot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well how I would like it to go is how it usually goes as I'd have discussed ahead of time usually with the couple (both of them and not just one)
Sometimes the guy just wants to watch while some watch and then join in.
In a MFM scenario it's really centered around her so that's my primary focus.
I'm straight but comfortable with being watched or being a second guy in the equation and not bothered about standing next to another guy etc. I'm also not 'fab' straight as I get asked often. So far no limits have been crossed and I do what I can to ensure we are all satisfied.
I go in mentally understanding that even if he's just watching, they are a couple so I'm still the second guy. Helps provide clarity of the situation always. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have couples listed as at the minute I only have the effort for one person at a time.
But that's not to say I'm against the idea for the future. To be honest I'd be more about the guy, not being bi and all. He would be the main attraction I guess.
But I would prefer it to be a fully 'inclusive' threesome so I'd be a temporary bi for an hour or two.
Though 2+ bi guys is my dream. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't have couples listed as at the minute I only have the effort for one person at a time.
But that's not to say I'm against the idea for the future. To be honest I'd be more about the guy, not being bi and all. He would be the main attraction I guess.
But I would prefer it to be a fully 'inclusive' threesome so I'd be a temporary bi for an hour or two.
Though 2+ bi guys is my dream. "
How would you feel about 2 straight guys with all the attention on you? Would it be better if they knew each other already beforehand? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bloody brilliant question.
I’d love to be part of a threesome, I do get a few couples checking out my profile but nothing more.
I’m happy with all parties joining in whatever form that takes and to be honest, once I’m in the mode and playing, I wouldn’t be adverse to anything that goes on with the same gender or the opposite- I tend to get in the zone of ‘f**k it’ and have the best time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't have couples listed as at the minute I only have the effort for one person at a time.
But that's not to say I'm against the idea for the future. To be honest I'd be more about the guy, not being bi and all. He would be the main attraction I guess.
But I would prefer it to be a fully 'inclusive' threesome so I'd be a temporary bi for an hour or two.
Though 2+ bi guys is my dream.
How would you feel about 2 straight guys with all the attention on you? Would it be better if they knew each other already beforehand?"
See I don't want the attention. I want to watch. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
It is more of an open to couples/three situation than actually searching for couples.
The right couple, the right mood and vibe. It is extremely situational. It's rare I ever enjoy threesomes, but there have been exceptions! |
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Watching with interest 
We want, whichever gender, to be a friend to us both. Both ladies can meet together or all three of us to play together equally.
Meet socially and have the bonus of fun too - what’s not to enjoy 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In open to different dynamics. I can play straight and bi, and to different power dynamics. As the third, I see myself as an addition to their sex lives. So would want to know what they are thinking about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Preference is to meet cpls or group play,love dp/dvp and prefer working with the other male to make the female the soul focus of attention rather than just being watched (cuck play etc).
I'm straight but comfortable enough in my own sexuality not to be bothered by another guy/guys being around. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I like couples, but I don't want to be a tick on a bucket list as an available Tgirl with a pulse. Nor do I want to be a present for the Mr.
Instead, it's great fun when everyone is really into it.
Bonus points snowballing cum |
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By *miGazMan
over a year ago
Luton |
I had been with couples before. And it really depends on what they desire. One time I was just watching. Another time had the oral pleasure from both of them. And only once the lady demanded DVP. In my experience the only thing that's important is for everyone to have fun. |
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By *C79Man
over a year ago
Caterham |
I've had the pleasure of playing with some couples and 1 or 2 threesomes with all single people. To me, the whole point is that everyone is there to be involved. Obviously, rules and limits have to be agreed but surely the point of a group is to all get involved. If the agreed scenario is someone just watching, that'd have to be clear from the start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had fun with couples in the past..male of the couple watching, cuck and mfm its a very different dynamic to one to one meets.. not always easy finding that three way attraction compatibility
At the moment its not domething I'm looking to do again been there done that  |
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"I don't have couples listed as at the minute I only have the effort for one person at a time.
But that's not to say I'm against the idea for the future. To be honest I'd be more about the guy, not being bi and all. He would be the main attraction I guess.
But I would prefer it to be a fully 'inclusive' threesome so I'd be a temporary bi for an hour or two.
Though 2+ bi guys is my dream. "
I could grow a tash and get my strap on, kinda meet in the middle 
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By *ullyMan
over a year ago
Near Clacton |
As a single bi man I have had several really really good times with couples, alas both couples eventually moved far away one couple went abroad. We were quite friendly and there was an attraction all round so I was very comfortable to have sex in any and all combinations, no rush, just very good fun. Stayed overnight a few time , and on occasion would be "making out" with one or the other for the other partner to "catch us at it" and join in! Personally if a guy is not comfortable in a three way situation because of "the other guy" then he should not go there. |
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Nice to read everyone’s replies that joined in so far.
Like all serious, experienced lifestyle couples it’s always frustrating to read that guaranteed reply to threads like this about being treated like a present for the husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend or the classic performing monkey quote.
We all know it happens occasionally but the signs are always there for singles if you do due diligence.
Hoping the thread is helpful for all that participate and yes, although it’s not the main aim of this we too have read some posts that resonate with our own preferences.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always open to meeting couples
But under no illusions I understand I am the 3rd wheel and am perfectly ok with that
Don’t mind being “used” as a play toy for both or one hafe and the other sit and watch
Never really want to infringe on they relationship so take the stance that I understand I am just a toy |
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Really enjoyed the experience a few times in the past over the years. Mostly it's been after chatting over the course of a few weeks, meeting up socially first to determine compatability all round, boundaries discussed... Have had one encounter that was more on a whim, had such a lovely vibe from the pair of them, chatted throughout the day as they were travelling to stay overnight in my area. Went to their hotel and we had a genuinely lovely evening |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah no I don’t know if I can do couples for multiple reasons. Mostly for my insecurity of being an outsider/ extra in their relationship rather than being a part of the relationship. But also yeah because I don’t think I can have sex with another man present. I’ve only recently realised this and it’s a bit late having been on a swingers site for many years  |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"We’re interested to know of you that list couples as something you’re looking for how many of you actually want to experience being part of a three way sexual scenario?
Maybe include in your response, (without being too graphic), how you’d ideally want the experience to go.
If you’re straight then how comfortable do you think you’d be around the other person of your gender?
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First we would make a blood offering to the sex gods.
Then we would dance to Kevin little.
Followed by a game of Roxanne (the drinking game)
And then I imagine that goddess of a woman you chose of a life partner would end up fulfilled |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"I don't have couples listed as at the minute I only have the effort for one person at a time.
But that's not to say I'm against the idea for the future. To be honest I'd be more about the guy, not being bi and all. He would be the main attraction I guess.
But I would prefer it to be a fully 'inclusive' threesome so I'd be a temporary bi for an hour or two.
Though 2+ bi guys is my dream. "
Temporarily bi IS something now?!
Fucking finally! |
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I do enjoy playing with the right couples, but honestly 3 is the worst number for me. I love seeing the dynamics of other people's relationships but I like there to also be other people and dynamics to play with. 3 always feels like someone is being neglected to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do enjoy playing with the right couples, but honestly 3 is the worst number for me. I love seeing the dynamics of other people's relationships but I like there to also be other people and dynamics to play with. 3 always feels like someone is being neglected to me "
That’s why sangwiges were invented can’t go in to details as op doesn’t want graphical but you get the idear I am sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never looked for a threesome.
The ones I have had have all been spontaneous and followed the flow of energy in the moment. Mostly at parties or afterparties.
As for how I feel being straight with someone the same sex there - I'm capable of communicating my limits and boundaries and it's never been anything other than fun. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Limerick length? Got it.
For me, I love seeing the intimacy between a couple. Adore it. But I don't want to feel like I'm just there as a sex toy, a genuine friendship. I want to feel like in that moment, with whatever we're doing, we're all getting something from it. That both are attracted to me. We can talk and enjoy time together.
I guess I want it to feel like a casual girlfriend experience (without money exchanged!).
Laughs, lust and liking each other for however long it lasts, hours, a night. Whatever. |
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"Limerick length? Got it.
For me, I love seeing the intimacy between a couple. Adore it. But I don't want to feel like I'm just there as a sex toy, a genuine friendship. I want to feel like in that moment, with whatever we're doing, we're all getting something from it. That both are attracted to me. We can talk and enjoy time together.
I guess I want it to feel like a casual girlfriend experience (without money exchanged!).
Laughs, lust and liking each other for however long it lasts, hours, a night. Whatever. "
I couldn’t have put it better than this! bravo Meli! |
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"Limerick length? Got it.
For me, I love seeing the intimacy between a couple. Adore it. But I don't want to feel like I'm just there as a sex toy, a genuine friendship. I want to feel like in that moment, with whatever we're doing, we're all getting something from it. That both are attracted to me. We can talk and enjoy time together.
I guess I want it to feel like a casual girlfriend experience (without money exchanged!).
Laughs, lust and liking each other for however long it lasts, hours, a night. Whatever. "
This is how we see it for others - we want to give them a glimpse into our world.
Like (hopefully) watching a trailer for your favourite film and wanting to go and experience the whole film and you’re taking the popcorn to share rather than eat it whilst a drama unfolds in front of you |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Limerick length? Got it.
For me, I love seeing the intimacy between a couple. Adore it. But I don't want to feel like I'm just there as a sex toy, a genuine friendship. I want to feel like in that moment, with whatever we're doing, we're all getting something from it. That both are attracted to me. We can talk and enjoy time together.
I guess I want it to feel like a casual girlfriend experience (without money exchanged!).
Laughs, lust and liking each other for however long it lasts, hours, a night. Whatever. "
The fuck limericks have you read |
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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago
Solihull and Brentwood |
Initial meet, where all 3 of us meet for something to eat/drink.
At some stage, the lady would slip off to the loo. Leaving her partner and I to chat.
On her return she would either leave with her husband and we've all had a great evening and it's never going to go further.
Or, she will drop her knickers in front of me, on the table. All the while, looking at her partner, full in the face.
If I pick her knickers up. 99.9% certain I would. She would take her place between us. For some fun before her partner drives us back to either my place, a hotel or theirs for a coffee.
As a straight guy, having experienced a couple of threesomes in the last decade. We all played together so that the ladies had a fun and rewarding time. |
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"Limerick length? Got it.
For me, I love seeing the intimacy between a couple. Adore it. But I don't want to feel like I'm just there as a sex toy, a genuine friendship. I want to feel like in that moment, with whatever we're doing, we're all getting something from it. That both are attracted to me. We can talk and enjoy time together.
I guess I want it to feel like a casual girlfriend experience (without money exchanged!).
Laughs, lust and liking each other for however long it lasts, hours, a night. Whatever. "
This is exactly how we want someone to feel when they're with us. And it's how I wanted it to be when I was joining a couple
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think playing with a couple is amazing - either joking in with them or having someone join me and my partner. I’ve had a handful of really really wonderful, memorable experiences with a meh experience as well.
The biggest thing for me is that there is must be 3 way chemistry, and everyone must be open to do everything in whatever combination. Of course you agree boundaries but too many rules kill the fun!
I want to feel like I’m going for drinks with good friends - that just happen to have sex after! It must be fun, with lots of chatting and laughing.
Not as some has pointed out feeling like a performing seal, being a gift or accessory. And yes please the lady should ideally be proper bi!! (Although being someone’s first FF is hot too!)
Just very hard to find real 3 way chemistry unfortunately |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Limerick length? Got it.
For me, I love seeing the intimacy between a couple. Adore it. But I don't want to feel like I'm just there as a sex toy, a genuine friendship. I want to feel like in that moment, with whatever we're doing, we're all getting something from it. That both are attracted to me. We can talk and enjoy time together.
I guess I want it to feel like a casual girlfriend experience (without money exchanged!).
Laughs, lust and liking each other for however long it lasts, hours, a night. Whatever.
The fuck limericks have you read "
Ha! I was going to write a brief thing and then I thought, fuck it. I'm not. I'm not sorry.
And yes, Tinder, I think because you've had that experience of being a single woman and knowing what you like, it'll have a positive effect as a couple meeting others.  |
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