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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
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I watched a fun video from coach greg, here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK_6NV-MY8M
In the video he reviewed another video and commented of what he thought about if it matters of how many you have slept with before getting together with someone for a relationship and apparently yes, it does, well it depends who you are asking, according to the video it would matter more to the woman how many the guy have slept with and for the guy it wouldnt matter so much of how many the woman have slept with.
Before I watched the video. I got the general feeling that there seemed to be more of an acceptance towards the women than the men.
What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with  |
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I've seen this type of question pop up on here before and it's been a mixed bag of answers.
Personally, it's not a question I've ever asked a woman I've liked. If I like her then I like her. Sure, I want to know some things about her life, how ex relationships have gone is certainly good to know for a better insight into what she likes and will we be compatible in the long run, but as for numbers I don't care. If I like you, I like you
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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Numbers mean very little.
You could have been with someone for 30 years so you could have only slept with one person.
You could have been single for 30 years and slept with 5 a year so 150 people.
Any numbers or statistics can be turned in any favour |
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As long as the lady in question has been vigilant with their sexual health, I don’t care about her Bodycount.
I get tested regularly - So should they
Remember, you’re not just sleeping with them, you’re sleeping with everybody they’ve slept with. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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It doesn’t even occur to me to think about numbers like that since I was a teenager. Doesn’t concern me at all, whereas sexual health I think is very important and like to know it’s good in myself and partner. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage "
You only need one person to give you that bad experience |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience "
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates? |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?"
I think sometimes the opposite can happen too. My last long term partner had only a few relationships previously. It turned out there were reasons for that 
I'd far rather meet someone whose been around the block enough times with other folk to know who they are, and what they want. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?"
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
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Good not god. Bad typo! |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
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Probably because we never actually see that happen
We hear women say it a lot. How strong they are from past experiences
It’s just talk though. Most break and don’t recover from a bunch of bad experiences
So I just pick the ones that haven’t been broken yet |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
Probably because we never actually see that happen
We hear women say it a lot. How strong they are from past experiences
It’s just talk though. Most break and don’t recover from a bunch of bad experiences
So I just pick the ones that haven’t been broken yet "
Surely in some way we are all broken, the one that got away, the one that passed away, the one that didn’t like us as much as we did them.
Then there’s the different level of broken which can come from physical or mental abuse from either side.
For me it’s about understanding a situation and that comes with time and trust and small steps.
However broken someone is I really hope there is a way back to happiness, whatever that looks like |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
Probably because we never actually see that happen
We hear women say it a lot. How strong they are from past experiences
It’s just talk though. Most break and don’t recover from a bunch of bad experiences
So I just pick the ones that haven’t been broken yet
Surely in some way we are all broken, the one that got away, the one that passed away, the one that didn’t like us as much as we did them.
Then there’s the different level of broken which can come from physical or mental abuse from either side.
For me it’s about understanding a situation and that comes with time and trust and small steps.
However broken someone is I really hope there is a way back to happiness, whatever that looks like "
So do I, lots of broken people
But I can’t waste my time on someone that’s broke and either can’t be fixed, doesn’t want to be fixed, or doesn’t even think they are broken to start with
The best relationships (for me) come from girls that have fairly low body counts and a really good relationship with their dad |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
Probably because we never actually see that happen
We hear women say it a lot. How strong they are from past experiences
It’s just talk though. Most break and don’t recover from a bunch of bad experiences
So I just pick the ones that haven’t been broken yet "
Haven't broken yet? Yet? So you're going to discard them and in the process break them?
So you're only after perfect women? |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
Probably because we never actually see that happen
We hear women say it a lot. How strong they are from past experiences
It’s just talk though. Most break and don’t recover from a bunch of bad experiences
So I just pick the ones that haven’t been broken yet
Surely in some way we are all broken, the one that got away, the one that passed away, the one that didn’t like us as much as we did them.
Then there’s the different level of broken which can come from physical or mental abuse from either side.
For me it’s about understanding a situation and that comes with time and trust and small steps.
However broken someone is I really hope there is a way back to happiness, whatever that looks like
So do I, lots of broken people
But I can’t waste my time on someone that’s broke and either can’t be fixed, doesn’t want to be fixed, or doesn’t even think they are broken to start with
The best relationships (for me) come from girls that have fairly low body counts and a really good relationship with their dad "
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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"It is not a question i would ask nor would i expect to be asked. Its history."
Yes, you are right there, it is not a question one would ask on a date, if one did it, no doubt one would be taken by surprise by it |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
Probably because we never actually see that happen
We hear women say it a lot. How strong they are from past experiences
It’s just talk though. Most break and don’t recover from a bunch of bad experiences
So I just pick the ones that haven’t been broken yet
Surely in some way we are all broken, the one that got away, the one that passed away, the one that didn’t like us as much as we did them.
Then there’s the different level of broken which can come from physical or mental abuse from either side.
For me it’s about understanding a situation and that comes with time and trust and small steps.
However broken someone is I really hope there is a way back to happiness, whatever that looks like "
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I've never had a problem with how many people a woman has had sex with before chatting to me.
The only significance it may have is that we will not be compatible if she is a lot more experienced than I am and we will therefore be on different trajectories.
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
Probably because we never actually see that happen
We hear women say it a lot. How strong they are from past experiences
It’s just talk though. Most break and don’t recover from a bunch of bad experiences
So I just pick the ones that haven’t been broken yet
Haven't broken yet? Yet? So you're going to discard them and in the process break them?
So you're only after perfect women? "
No I just won’t date them
Aren’t you only looking for the best? I wouldn’t say being not broken = perfect |
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So what about a woman who doesn't want a man with a high count?
Do you on the 1st date ask them thier body count and tell them yours? Lol
Yet u admit u are after lots of sex and a sexoholic on ur profile lol
Sounds like u want to be a 'stud' but won't accept a woman who's a 'sexoholic'
Maybe it's guys like you that 'break' women. U get what u want and dump them.
That's just the feeling we get from your post vs your profile |
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By *osie89Woman 51 weeks ago
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No, it doesn’t matter, and if anyone asked me I’d find it seriously weird and wouldn’t take things further with them. In my experience the guys that are preoccupied with that question are usually too insecure and immature for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"I watched a fun video from coach greg, here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK_6NV-MY8M
In the video he reviewed another video and commented of what he thought about if it matters of how many you have slept with before getting together with someone for a relationship and apparently yes, it does, well it depends who you are asking, according to the video it would matter more to the woman how many the guy have slept with and for the guy it wouldnt matter so much of how many the woman have slept with.
Before I watched the video. I got the general feeling that there seemed to be more of an acceptance towards the women than the men.
What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with "
Hi op,
In my experience its not an issue. Past is past.
Experience is key.
Quantity surveyor of sex partners, new job Shag?
Exactly people can lie about how many penetrative partners.
... I do not tell as no need to |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
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"I've seen this type of question pop up on here before and it's been a mixed bag of answers.
Personally, it's not a question I've ever asked a woman I've liked. If I like her then I like her. Sure, I want to know some things about her life, how ex relationships have gone is certainly good to know for a better insight into what she likes and will we be compatible in the long run, but as for numbers I don't care. If I like you, I like you
Morning Shag! "
Morning and yes, it have come up here before, that is good and yes, the numbers wouldnt be so important, as it is the person one likes it is all about too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
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"Numbers mean very little.
You could have been with someone for 30 years so you could have only slept with one person.
You could have been single for 30 years and slept with 5 a year so 150 people.
Any numbers or statistics can be turned in any favour"
You are right there too and those are also good examples of it |
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"I watched a fun video from coach greg, here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK_6NV-MY8M
In the video he reviewed another video and commented of what he thought about if it matters of how many you have slept with before getting together with someone for a relationship and apparently yes, it does, well it depends who you are asking, according to the video it would matter more to the woman how many the guy have slept with and for the guy it wouldnt matter so much of how many the woman have slept with.
Before I watched the video. I got the general feeling that there seemed to be more of an acceptance towards the women than the men.
What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with "
it matters a lot I'd say to a lot of people. I've been told to my face that I'd make the perfect gf, if only I'd been less promiscuous |
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"I watched a fun video from coach greg, here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK_6NV-MY8M
In the video he reviewed another video and commented of what he thought about if it matters of how many you have slept with before getting together with someone for a relationship and apparently yes, it does, well it depends who you are asking, according to the video it would matter more to the woman how many the guy have slept with and for the guy it wouldnt matter so much of how many the woman have slept with.
Before I watched the video. I got the general feeling that there seemed to be more of an acceptance towards the women than the men.
What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with "
It matters if it bothers you.
If it does become a catholic priest. |
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By *a LunaWoman 51 weeks ago
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"I'm in my 50s so I'm gonna assume any man I meet has a sexual history.
I wouldn't entertain a discussion around actual numbers "
This. I don’t need to know details. It’s going forward that would matter, not their sexual past. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I watched a fun video from coach greg, here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK_6NV-MY8M
In the video he reviewed another video and commented of what he thought about if it matters of how many you have slept with before getting together with someone for a relationship and apparently yes, it does, well it depends who you are asking, according to the video it would matter more to the woman how many the guy have slept with and for the guy it wouldnt matter so much of how many the woman have slept with.
Before I watched the video. I got the general feeling that there seemed to be more of an acceptance towards the women than the men.
What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with
Hi op,
In my experience its not an issue. Past is past.
Experience is key.
Quantity surveyor of sex partners, new job Shag?
Exactly people can lie about how many penetrative partners.
... I do not tell as no need to "
Hi becs, you are right there as well, it is down to experience, not a new job, but yes, that would be a good job too to and same here. I dont tell either how many I have had |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience "
It takes 1 bad experience to create "baggage" and 1 good therapist to get your head straight.
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"What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with "
Doesn't matter in the slightest. We discussed our numbers on our first date and even now we turn each other on by re-telling some of our earlier exploits. |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
You only need one person to give you that bad experience
The more it happens the deeper its ingrained, the more it takes to get past it
Would women want to date a guy that had a a bunch of bad interactions with women and now places that burden on the new women he dates?
Interesting point of view, why is there no option here of a woman that's had bad experiences but is stronger for it and less likely to take any crap and has god level of emotional intelligence/maturity?
A woman with less bad experiences could be pushed around more easily too couldn't she?
Probably because we never actually see that happen
We hear women say it a lot. How strong they are from past experiences
It’s just talk though. Most break and don’t recover from a bunch of bad experiences
So I just pick the ones that haven’t been broken yet
Surely in some way we are all broken, the one that got away, the one that passed away, the one that didn’t like us as much as we did them.
Then there’s the different level of broken which can come from physical or mental abuse from either side.
For me it’s about understanding a situation and that comes with time and trust and small steps.
However broken someone is I really hope there is a way back to happiness, whatever that looks like "
My faith in men is somewhat restored by your comment!
Not so much by the others 
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"I watched a fun video from coach greg, here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK_6NV-MY8M
In the video he reviewed another video and commented of what he thought about if it matters of how many you have slept with before getting together with someone for a relationship and apparently yes, it does, well it depends who you are asking, according to the video it would matter more to the woman how many the guy have slept with and for the guy it wouldnt matter so much of how many the woman have slept with.
Before I watched the video. I got the general feeling that there seemed to be more of an acceptance towards the women than the men.
What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with "
Personally I wouldn't mind, it's natural to want to have sex with lots of different people...
As long as they don't have a am active history of cheating haha |
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"As long as it's at least one, I couldn't care less.
Training virgins isn't my scene 
We’re so sexually incompatible  "
Honey you don't like fishnets or lipstick and that's pretty much all I have going for me. It was a bust from the get go |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"I watched a fun video from coach greg, here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK_6NV-MY8M
In the video he reviewed another video and commented of what he thought about if it matters of how many you have slept with before getting together with someone for a relationship and apparently yes, it does, well it depends who you are asking, according to the video it would matter more to the woman how many the guy have slept with and for the guy it wouldnt matter so much of how many the woman have slept with.
Before I watched the video. I got the general feeling that there seemed to be more of an acceptance towards the women than the men.
What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with "
Body count.. how many you done away with Shag  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
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"It’s never been an issue for us as we discovered the sexual part of relationships together many many years ago.
That’s not very helpful for your thread shag but it’s all we can really add."
Hi spitroastofchristmaspast, that is good that it have never have been an issue, as you discovered the sexual part years ago |
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"Body count discussions are my favourite discussions
Really wow.. How many shags are acceptable to want to shag another "
Body counts and who should pay on a first date are definitely my top 2 |
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"Thou shalt never ask a woman how many men she has fucked, or a man how much he earns.
Bollocks.
If the sex is good and the bills are paid, why do either matter?
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I didn't say they matter. I just disagreed with your prohibition. |
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No. Two of the loveliest ex partners I had had very high body counts by conventional standards. Mine is very high. I wouldnt judge anyone else regardless of their number nor would I expect it of mine.
I actually find something very attractive about empowered women who know what they want sexually and can and do take it too. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
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"I watched a fun video from coach greg, here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK_6NV-MY8M
In the video he reviewed another video and commented of what he thought about if it matters of how many you have slept with before getting together with someone for a relationship and apparently yes, it does, well it depends who you are asking, according to the video it would matter more to the woman how many the guy have slept with and for the guy it wouldnt matter so much of how many the woman have slept with.
Before I watched the video. I got the general feeling that there seemed to be more of an acceptance towards the women than the men.
What is your view about it? Would it matter to you how many your potential partner have slept with? Mind you, one can lie about it too, so it would be hard to know, personally. I wouldnt mind how many she would of slept with
Body count.. how many you done away with Shag "
Hi becs, it is only 30 so far |
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"No, it doesn’t matter, and if anyone asked me I’d find it seriously weird and wouldn’t take things further with them. In my experience the guys that are preoccupied with that question are usually too insecure and immature for me. "
Excellently conveyed, nail on the head! |
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It's not important in the slightest as far as I am concerned. The only issue I had was extra bodies that I didn't know about when I was IN the relationship. |
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Realistically I couldn't even actually pinpoint a number if I genuinely tried. I had a very promiscuous teenage years, followed by a very long spell of self imposed celibacy after having a child (within my latter teenage years). Then a bout of sexual freedom afterwards, then not so fussed, then it now ebbs/flows... I'd say I'm in figures between 1-100... But all that really counts is my last clear set of tests
Life takes us in many different directions, at many different points. If someone wanted me to have not handled a few cocks (or vaginas) at my time of life... They'd be shit out of luck  |
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It does (in my opinion I suppose everyones different), tells a lot about someones desires/goals, self control, and also self worth. Additonally for men with high BC's, women can hate, or love it. I suppose same could be said for vice versa. So can affect future encounters 100%
Experiences/environment contribute hugely to shaping a person. All I'm trying to say is that it's not nothing, and does have impact |
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We on a swingers site talking about how many slept with !!!
Plus most of talk is how many ladies have slept with? Not so much how many men have.
I personally gave up counting when run out fingers.
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"I always love replies from WokinghamGlory. "
Me too. At least he’s honest and probably does say what a lot are thinking. Give me that any day before the men who just agree with anything any woman says in case it reduces their chances of a shag. |
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"Interesting views so far, would you say that having a person with a high body count would improve the sex as they would have more experience? "
Body count doesn’t necessarily = experience
We encounter lots of men with “high”
Body counts and they couldn’t find the A from the G spot. |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage "
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things. |
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We find it a real turn on discussing what naughtiness we got up to before we met and of course a lot after. It is a little like the separate room experience - talking about "Body count" not in terms of numbers but experiences is a massive turn on especially when there are too many to count ?? |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things. "
Maybe if more people had thus understanding we’d see less relationship drama
Stop. Dating. Broken. People. |
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We never discussed the number of sexual partners we have had, does it matter? If it does then surely that’s a trust issue. Now, Clyde actively encourages me to have as many as I like. |
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"Interesting views so far, would you say that having a person with a high body count would improve the sex as they would have more experience? "
Nope. Folk can easily get away with being an easy shit lay. If all you have are ONS no one is around long enough to teach you anything. And the worse you are the more likely it is you'll only get ONS's, as who's coming back for seconds with the pillow princess with the toothy BJ, or Mr 2 licks n 2 pumps? |
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"If someone asked me on a first date I wouldn't meet them again"
Don’t care about numbers at all. I date around my age so assume they have history behind. I am happy to talk about it at a later stage of relationship as a part of getting to know each other but not in how many direct question rather talking about experience, naughtiness and fantasies.
Interestingly enough in vanilla dating word it’s a lady who asks the question. I am open about it and don’t want any lie in potential relationship. In 50% cases they are shocked and judgemental. |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things.
Maybe if more people had thus understanding we’d see less relationship drama
Stop. Dating. Broken. People. "
Guessing you’re happily married with a completely balanced mental state?
Because by your own standards surely if you’re not then that means there is an issue with you and you are also broken!? |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things.
Maybe if more people had thus understanding we’d see less relationship drama
Stop. Dating. Broken. People.
Guessing you’re happily married with a completely balanced mental state?
Because by your own standards surely if you’re not then that means there is an issue with you and you are also broken!? "
Being not married doesn’t mean you’re broken. Where did you get that idea |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things.
Maybe if more people had thus understanding we’d see less relationship drama
Stop. Dating. Broken. People.
Guessing you’re happily married with a completely balanced mental state?
Because by your own standards surely if you’re not then that means there is an issue with you and you are also broken!?
Being not married doesn’t mean you’re broken. Where did you get that idea"
Will rephrase it then, so you are in a stable relationship with a balanced mental state?
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things.
Maybe if more people had thus understanding we’d see less relationship drama
Stop. Dating. Broken. People. "
Body count has nothing to do with baggage. Mine is lower than average and I have a whole hold full of baggage. Some guys can do it all on their own with no help.
But I kinda get what you mean, I wouldn't wanna date me. It depends what you want i guess, an easy carefree relationship, then yeah don't date anyone with "baggage". |
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"Ok so would a high number of previous sexual partners put people off of a long term relationship or perhaps marriage??"
it wouldn't me, but as I've said. Its been pointed out to me, that my number means I'm not gf material
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The actual number doesn’t matter so much to me.
But who those women are and my perceived “standard” of those women would matter to me.
A man fucking 100 super hot women is fine, a man fucking every gal in every sex club to get laid isn’t. Even if the overall number is the same.
I absolutely expect to be judged for my body count in the real world and often am. My experience is men want to fuck everyone but date the ones who don’t do the same.
I’d never disclose my number without knowing someone as I know it would hinder. |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things.
Maybe if more people had thus understanding we’d see less relationship drama
Stop. Dating. Broken. People.
Body count has nothing to do with baggage. Mine is lower than average and I have a whole hold full of baggage. Some guys can do it all on their own with no help.
But I kinda get what you mean, I wouldn't wanna date me. It depends what you want i guess, an easy carefree relationship, then yeah don't date anyone with "baggage"."
I left my partner of 30 years with very little sexual experience and a whole cart full of baggage.
It's my baggage and I don't expect anyone else to carry it.
We're all someone's baggage. |
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And i agree body count has nothing to do with baggage.
I’ve dated numerous men I’m still all friends with. No big deal, all good.
A woman dating someone super toxic has more baggage even if less men, IMO |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things.
Maybe if more people had thus understanding we’d see less relationship drama
Stop. Dating. Broken. People.
Body count has nothing to do with baggage. Mine is lower than average and I have a whole hold full of baggage. Some guys can do it all on their own with no help.
But I kinda get what you mean, I wouldn't wanna date me. It depends what you want i guess, an easy carefree relationship, then yeah don't date anyone with "baggage"."
I’d bet if you could plot on a graph body count vs baggage that they’re directly correlated
Always outliers of course. And it’s all about what you want and what your willing to accept from someone |
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I have never asked anyone this question before, I just assume most have a sexual history and it doesn't impact me. I wouldn't entertain a conversation around numbers to me it's pointless. |
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By *929Man 51 weeks ago
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As said about before numbers I wouldn’t even ask or care to know, what would bother me though is if it was potential serious relationship would be if they had been with any of my mates or with an absolute scruff I don’t think I could carry on in that case |
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"I always love replies from WokinghamGlory.
Me too. At least he’s honest and probably does say what a lot are thinking. Give me that any day before the men who just agree with anything any woman says in case it reduces their chances of a shag. "
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"Ok so would a high number of previous sexual partners put people off of a long term relationship or perhaps marriage??
it wouldn't me, but as I've said. Its been pointed out to me, that my number means I'm not gf material "
No, it just means you're not gf material with them.
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
It’s must be nice to have such simple understanding of things.
Maybe if more people had thus understanding we’d see less relationship drama
Stop. Dating. Broken. People.
Body count has nothing to do with baggage. Mine is lower than average and I have a whole hold full of baggage. Some guys can do it all on their own with no help.
But I kinda get what you mean, I wouldn't wanna date me. It depends what you want i guess, an easy carefree relationship, then yeah don't date anyone with "baggage".
I’d bet if you could plot on a graph body count vs baggage that they’re directly correlated
Always outliers of course. And it’s all about what you want and what your willing to accept from someone "
Well mine definitely isn't. Only takes one dick to give you 'baggage'. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
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"Interesting views so far, would you say that having a person with a high body count would improve the sex as they would have more experience?
Body count doesn’t necessarily = experience
We encounter lots of men with “high”
Body counts and they couldn’t find the A from the G spot."
You are right there and yes, it doesnt necessarily equals to experience |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 51 weeks ago
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"Interesting views so far, would you say that having a person with a high body count would improve the sex as they would have more experience?
Nope. Folk can easily get away with being an easy shit lay. If all you have are ONS no one is around long enough to teach you anything. And the worse you are the more likely it is you'll only get ONS's, as who's coming back for seconds with the pillow princess with the toothy BJ, or Mr 2 licks n 2 pumps?"
Yes, you are right there, one can get away with that too |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage "
How's your baggage or is it just a womans thing? |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
How's your baggage or is it just a womans thing? "
Tried to call him out on this but he swerved it. We should all ignore the opinions of misogynists. |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
How's your baggage or is it just a womans thing?
Tried to call him out on this but he swerved it. We should all ignore the opinions of misogynists."
Maybe he is a virgin? |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
How's your baggage or is it just a womans thing? "
Baggage applies to everyone. I’m sure I’ve got baggage and I’m sure I’ve been rejected by women that didn’t want to deal with my baggage. That’s the way it is |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
How's your baggage or is it just a womans thing?
Tried to call him out on this but he swerved it. We should all ignore the opinions of misogynists."
Your comment didn’t make sense so I passed on it |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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Honestly Woking...
There's been repeated evidence of copious baggagedom and then some. You're educated enough to own it, even if those delusions of grandeur get in the way. Maybe then you could see a way around the flaws? |
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"It matters to me because I don’t want a long term thing with someone that’s been ruined by a tonne of bad experiences with men
Basically, baggage
The higher a woman’s body count is, the more negativity/baggage around men they tend to have
My last serious partner was 27 with a body count of 1 and she was by far the least amount of anti-man baggage
How's your baggage or is it just a womans thing?
Tried to call him out on this but he swerved it. We should all ignore the opinions of misogynists.
Your comment didn’t make sense so I passed on it "
Do you think you've got baggage from previous partners?
Also, can you explain the kind of baggage that would deter you?
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Unless you're pretty young when you meet, I'd have thought you expect people to have had sex with others.
Numbers of previous partners was certainly not something that crossed my mind when we got together.
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By *hagTonight OP Man 44 weeks ago
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"I have never asked anyone this question before, I just assume most have a sexual history and it doesn't impact me. I wouldn't entertain a conversation around numbers to me it's pointless. "
That is good and same here. I have never asked it either and yes, as you say there, most have a sexual history too |
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No it doesn’t matter. We were both young when we got together so there’s not really a big body count but if there had been then that’s none of my business but I have seen others get twisted out of shape for it or actually quite upset x mrs x |
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"So what about a woman who doesn't want a man with a high count?
Do you on the 1st date ask them thier body count and tell them yours? Lol
Yet u admit u are after lots of sex and a sexoholic on ur profile lol
Sounds like u want to be a 'stud' but won't accept a woman who's a 'sexoholic'
Maybe it's guys like you that 'break' women. U get what u want and dump them.
That's just the feeling we get from your post vs your profile"
That's a very good shout.
If ever a post was to go off on a misogynistic tangent this was it.
I'm not surprised.
I'm not even disappointed. To be disappointed would assume you were expecting a different result.
I apologise to all the ladies reading this thread, now believing that cave men still exist in abundance. And unfortunately, he does.
There's some good news though. We're not all like that. Some of us have balanced and sensible reasoning when it comes to choosing their partner. And applying a numerical value to it is nothing short of stupidity.
Its as mad as saying I won't date her because she's a size 14, and 12 is my limit. And for balance... you've got to be 10" or bigger.
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By *hagTonight OP Man 43 weeks ago
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"No it doesn’t matter. We were both young when we got together so there’s not really a big body count but if there had been then that’s none of my business but I have seen others get twisted out of shape for it or actually quite upset x mrs x"
Hi _he kinkys, that is good that it doesnt matter and you are right there, as you both were young, the count wouldnt be so high there x |
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. I’ve had my fair share of Kit Kat. Body count doesn’t matter to me as it would be hypocritical to judge someone least I be judge too. If I met someone & it did matter to them, then it would be a short date for sure 
. And if they said they don’t mind they just curious ‘I would probably lie’ cause people ask for the truth but can’t handle the truth lol & I’m very skeptical person so I probably won’t believe their body count number either cause people lie, it’s just in our nature! And how can I 100% confirm they telling the truth? And what 1 person might call a high count, might be beginner level to someone else 