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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you seen or heard this said when someone regards someone's partner to be super hot.
I've known someone get deeply offended by someone saying they were a lucky man.
What do you make of the statement?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's always a narrative that one person in a couple should be grateful than the other. Physical side doesn't come into it, if they are both good people, they are lucky to have each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely looks are only part of it.
Saying someone is lucky based upon their partners looks I would take no notice of. And beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Someone said to me once
“No one knows what goes on behind closed doors”, could be the most attractive person physically and mentally horrible |
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My response is always that there's no luck involved. The people I adore I adore because they're amazing, it's fuck all to do with luck, I wouldn't have hooked up with any random noodle that happened to initiate contact at that moment instead of the people I choose.
I often hear that my partners are lucky to have me. They're not. They're willing to put up with all my chaos and shit, they showed me who they are and that person feels right to me. Luck is for coin tosses and roulette, neither of which I deal with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My response is always that there's no luck involved. The people I adore I adore because they're amazing, it's fuck all to do with luck, I wouldn't have hooked up with any random noodle that happened to initiate contact at that moment instead of the people I choose.
I often hear that my partners are lucky to have me. They're not. They're willing to put up with all my chaos and shit, they showed me who they are and that person feels right to me. Luck is for coin tosses and roulette, neither of which I deal with."
Your answer was the same as mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My response is always that there's no luck involved. The people I adore I adore because they're amazing, it's fuck all to do with luck, I wouldn't have hooked up with any random noodle that happened to initiate contact at that moment instead of the people I choose.
I often hear that my partners are lucky to have me. They're not. They're willing to put up with all my chaos and shit, they showed me who they are and that person feels right to me. Luck is for coin tosses and roulette, neither of which I deal with."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really a compliment. Can be seen as a backhanded way of meaning you’re not good enough for them
Luck works both ways, to find them, to find a way to make it work and not to run when things get tough |
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By *wing2meCouple
over a year ago
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I've had people say Mrs S is gorgeous and I'm lucky, but my view on that is I feel the same. It's not to imply I'm falling short but quite simply I'm lucky to have crossed paths and now I get to spend most my time with them. They may actually mean it in a negative way but that's generally how I take it  |
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When I first met my ex she was way taller than me and very attractive. No one ever assumed the troll behind was with her. When we went to restaurant they would ask to seat then assume I wasn't with her  |
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Also when I show my male friends the women I am seeing or dating they always comment " not being funny mate but wtf does she see in you" ??????...my mum has said it to the face of everyone one of my dates she has met |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's always as sinister a comment as some may assume.
I think it's sometimes their way of saying they wish they were in the position of the supposed lucky one. |
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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
I'd never use that saying.
I find it deeply offensive and demeaning both parties of the couple.
Sexualising one person and saying the other isn't good enough.
Absolutely no reason for that language.
Just my thoughts.
You may not agree but that's what discussion is for. |
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It's a throwaway phrase meant to compliment both parties I think. At our daughter's wedding all our son in laws friends were telling him he was punching etc. Our daughter is stunningly beautiful and on her wedding day even more so if that's possible but even though I knew it's 'just what people say' and they meant it as a compliment I thought it was rude.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got genuinely lucky when I met Mrs Wick.
It was the mistaken click of the wrong name on an internet chat room.
I don’t click that name, life will look real different.
I’d probably be wanking into a sock over the freemans catalogue. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"My response is always that there's no luck involved. The people I adore I adore because they're amazing, it's fuck all to do with luck, I wouldn't have hooked up with any random noodle that happened to initiate contact at that moment instead of the people I choose.
I often hear that my partners are lucky to have me. They're not. They're willing to put up with all my chaos and shit, they showed me who they are and that person feels right to me. Luck is for coin tosses and roulette, neither of which I deal with."
Now that did make me smile. |
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I’d question why someone would be deeply offended by someone saying they’re lucky to have a hot partner.
Surely that’s a great opportunity for a cheeky reply
But hey ho I guess we’re all different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My man has had messages saying he is a lucky man but I honestly think I am the lucky one lucky that he choose me to build a life with and go to bed with every night and wake up next to each morning |
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"Have you seen or heard this said when someone regards someone's partner to be super hot.
I've known someone get deeply offended by someone saying they were a lucky man.
What do you make of the statement?
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Happens to me all the time
Makes me happy and proud having a beautiful wife  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The one I absolutely hate is "your punching there mate"
I really don't like it. So belittling. It's been said to my hubby. They get a frosty response from myself.
Bothers me more than him
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I (the male half) have had it forever. I have heard it said by randoms in regular clubs/pubs. I have even had, less sensitive friends ask ‘jokingly’ how my kids are so beautiful. It used to worry me. I wanted to be that guy that could pull without trying instead of having to be smart, funny, confident and actually loving women’s company. Then I realised the end result was the same and, if I had been born deveststingly attractive, I would probably have been an arsehole and my knob would have fallen off from over use! I consider myself to be the luckiest man alive to be with my partner and luckily she feels the same about me. Strangely we were counting our blessings about how wonderful life is only last night on the sofa. We are not rich but we have each other, fabulous kids, a roof over our heads, food on the table and annual holidays and a few nights away together . We also get to have three different people at the same time giving us sexual pleasure all at once on occasion. Life is good. But, to return to the OP’s question. It’s not nice to hear so I would avoid saying it. It actually diminishes those saying it. Mrs Merton has a lot to answer for. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I’ve had it said to me and said about me, either way I feel that it puts the person down that it’s said to.
I also find it strange when people message a person’s partner with surprise that they’re with them. By strange I mean nasty |
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"Have you seen or heard this said when someone regards someone's partner to be super hot.
I've known someone get deeply offended by someone saying they were a lucky man.
What do you make of the statement?
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I wouldn’t think anything of it. Ive had it said both ways. Not offended at all |
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"I’ve had it said to me and said about me, either way I feel that it puts the person down that it’s said to.
I also find it strange when people message a person’s partner with surprise that they’re with them. By strange I mean nasty "
Yes I agree with this.
It's an insult to the person it's being said to, you might as well say I don't value you as a person and your partner has questionable judgment..
Marc
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I don’t find it offensive and I’m sure the intent is to be genuinely positive. Unless it’s clear that you’re saying that someone is punching
“No matter how hot he/she is, there is someone out there sick of dealing with their shit” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Recently, on a weekend away with my guy some random stranger stopped him and told him he was so lucky to have me, high fived him, and even gave him a hug. A complete stranger in a vanilla setting. It was awful. In addition, this man was with his partner. I felt terrible for her as he did this in front of her too. It’s so icky, as if a prize has been won by having the partner one has.  |
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"Recently, on a weekend away with my guy some random stranger stopped him and told him he was so lucky to have me, high fived him, and even gave him a hug. A complete stranger in a vanilla setting. It was awful. In addition, this man was with his partner. I felt terrible for her as he did this in front of her too. It’s so icky, as if a prize has been won by having the partner one has. "
That’s pretty awful for his partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you seen or heard this said when someone regards someone's partner to be super hot.
I've known someone get deeply offended by someone saying they were a lucky man.
What do you make of the statement?
I wouldn’t think anything of it. Ive had it said both ways. Not offended at all "
I had a very sexy BF at uni and knew people thought he was way too hot for me! I’ve equally dated guys where friends have asked me what I could possibly see in them physically. So have had it said both ways and genuinely hasn’t offended me - it’s a clumsy compliment but still one |
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"Have you seen or heard this said when someone regards someone's partner to be super hot.
I've known someone get deeply offended by someone saying they were a lucky man.
What do you make of the statement?
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In most cases I’d imagine it’s meant as a compliment. Not a good one perhaps, but a compliment nonetheless. To take a offence, well, I guess that’s a choice the individual can make if they want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's patronising as fuck to both parties. It's basically saying the "lucky one" is ugly and the other one can do better"
Yeah, pretty much this. I don't think it's an OK thing to say. It's so shitty and provides nothing positive. And who are you anyway to judge who is and isn't attractive and then speak about a couple like they aren't deserving of each other because you think one isn't as good looking.
Absolute bellend behaviour. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had this said to me - about me and also about my partner.. I took it with lighthearted positive intent that they meant a compliment
I've also said it from an envious pov - never thinking it could be taken negatively.. So food for thought for me. |
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I get offended yes i know my partner is better looking in my opinion but to be honest our relationship and why we are together is nobody else's business.
It's not so much i am lucky but the comments that normally follow wondering what he see's in me that i find offensive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It never even occurred to me that anyone would be offended for being called lucky for having an attractive partner. If I followed it up with ‘because you’re such a minger or waste of space’ I could understand it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It never even occurred to me that anyone would be offended for being called lucky for having an attractive partner. If I followed it up with ‘because you’re such a minger or waste of space’ I could understand it. "
In my opinion if it’s solely related to the aesthetics looks of one partner, it’s in bad form.
If someone tells my partner they are lucky to have me because I’m such a thoughtful, kind, intelligent lady then it’s not negative in my eyes. |
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We're not lucky, we've just found Jutice in this world. We have each found the awesome person we deserve.
Likewise our Ex spouces ended up with just the sort of people they deserve
People say we're very lucky for having each other and the relationship we have. We say no, we just got what we deserve in the end after all the shit. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
I'm always being told I'm a lucky man, it doesn't bother me as I know l make my own luck in life.
Quite often those same guys that called me lucky send a cock pic when we've not asked for one, bombard us with really dull messages, ghost us on the day of the social or continuously brag about their branded possessions - I wonder if they then think they were unlucky not to meet the woman I was lucky to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I take it as it was meant, as a compliment. What is wrong with people that they have to over analyse everything??"
Someone will be along shortly to analyse that for you.  |
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