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By *ingdang OP TV/TS 49 weeks ago
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If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?
I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion. |
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"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much"
I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area  |
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"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much
I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area "
Lol people seem to confuse clean with clear. Go figure  |
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"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?
I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."
If tested and on PrEP. |
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"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much
I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area
Lol people seem to confuse clean with clear. Go figure "
I don't think that they confuse it.
They use it instead of.
Like ' clean bill of health' |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?
I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."
You’ve answered your own question |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?
I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion.
If tested and on PrEP. "
Does that prevent ALL STI's? |
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"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much
I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area
Lol people seem to confuse clean with clear. Go figure
I don't think that they confuse it.
They use it instead of.
Like ' clean bill of health'"
You will be surprised I heard someone saying they were clean, shower every day and smell good  |
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"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much
I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area
Lol people seem to confuse clean with clear. Go figure
I don't think that they confuse it.
They use it instead of.
Like ' clean bill of health'
You will be surprised I heard someone saying they were clean, shower every day and smell good "
Sadly this appears to be the bar on Fab sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?
I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."
If a majority said "go for it!" Would you?
Your body your choice.  |
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As someone who has always practiced safe sex but still ended up having a bit of a scare when I thought I had caught an STD (turned out to be nothing), I wouldn't risk that stress on my worst enemy.
As amazing as bareback feels I would not do it outside of a monogamous relationship, it just isnt remotely worth the risk. |
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"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?
I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."
Exactly,  |
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The most I'd be willing to accommodate bareback is "once we know each other better and trust one another, if we're both open with our habits and test results, can we negotiate under what circumstances the risk is worth it?"
Which is a million miles from bareback on first meet. |
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Of the 14 women I've met in the last seven years, since I started adventuring (not through Fab), six have asked for bareback and at least four clearly would have (it got to the point of me pushing my tip against their opening gently, before I fetched a condom unasked). |
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"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?
I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."
It’s a no…if your worried and in what’s considered the high risk category (men who have sex with men) it’s worth having Hep jabs asking about prep at your local clinic, safe sex is good but theres always a chance of failure or even not putting it on without your knowledge.. prep doesn’t stop stds but does protect from the most serious. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Insisting is a bit strong tbh.
Insisting is totally out of order. I would have blocked them ,,, this
Ditto..
No one has that right and it's a big red flag.."
Well, they can state a preference... everyone has the right to tell them to fuck off. Which is sot in this scenario. |
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We are a bareback couple but never insist on others doing it. We are open and upfront about it, people can make their own choices.
We test every 12 weeks and I take prep daily and that reduces the risks but doesn't remove them completely |
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