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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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So after just watching an episode of Catfish it makes me think if I could be “caught” in that way?
How do you protect yourself from potential catfish on here?
Ask for a video call?
Verifications and photos can be fake verified.
So what do you do? |
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I've been here 7 years and never had a no show or been catfished.
In fact I've never even chatted to a fake profile.
I find them really easy to spot so they aren't even an inconvenience.
I've never needed a video chat either and I don't use verifications to decide if someone is genuine.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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"I've been here 7 years and never had a no show or been catfished.
In fact I've never even chatted to a fake profile.
I find them really easy to spot so they aren't even an inconvenience.
I've never needed a video chat either and I don't use verifications to decide if someone is genuine.
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What are the signs to spot? |
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"I've been here 7 years and never had a no show or been catfished.
In fact I've never even chatted to a fake profile.
I find them really easy to spot so they aren't even an inconvenience.
I've never needed a video chat either and I don't use verifications to decide if someone is genuine.
What are the signs to spot?"
The problem with saying what they are is that people then change their behaviour to get around that which is why I never give advice on profile review threads.
I much prefer to see the real them rather than a boxticking exercise. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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"I'm an adult and I just trust my own judgement. It's not hard to do if you think with your head instead of your penis.
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I think watching the programme and the tinder swindler there’s as many woman who have been caught out |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"We make a judgement on whether the verifications are real or fake, most are easy to tell. We'll arrange to meet at a club, if they don't turn up we're having a good night anyway  "
That would be a timeaster.. if they turn up and arent who they were in the pic that is a catfish
Suppose the only way to not be catfished is to facetime with them and always go with ur gut instincts |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"I just have a sense of reality that people like George Clooney aren't interested in Karen from Leeds.. it's common sense really."
22 year old porn stars are interested in Bert from Croydon.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"So after just watching an episode of Catfish it makes me think if I could be “caught” in that way?
How do you protect yourself from potential catfish on here?
Ask for a video call?
Verifications and photos can be fake verified.
So what do you do?"
Everyone is a Catfish in some way, just different degrees.
Depends on why for me.
I've happily chatted to a man pretending to be a woman for months because s/he was cool.
It's immediately obvious to many women when men do that. Can't explain why. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 50 weeks ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Someone i know from fab set up a meet - in a cafe first - he was expecting a woman... But a bloke calked Dave tapped him on the shoulder  
Catfished lol"
Just to clarify, this wasn't me.
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Someone i know from fab set up a meet - in a cafe first - he was expecting a woman... But a bloke calked Dave tapped him on the shoulder
Catfished lol"
I met someone who thought I'd be a bloke called Derek.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Someone i know from fab set up a meet - in a cafe first - he was expecting a woman... But a bloke calked Dave tapped him on the shoulder
Catfished lol
Just to clarify, this wasn't me.
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Alright Dave, how's that beard |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"If she looks suspiciously like Katy Perry then it’s probably too good to be true."
Oh I don’t know. I’ve been surprised at how gorgeous someone is, and they turn out to be true.
Not all stunningly gorgeous women turn out to be a Dave.  |
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"If she looks suspiciously like Katy Perry then it’s probably too good to be true.
Oh I don’t know. I’ve been surprised at how gorgeous someone is, and they turn out to be true.
Not all stunningly gorgeous women turn out to be a Dave. "
It was a reference to an episode of catfish where someone believed they were meeting Katy Perry  |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Someone i know from fab set up a meet - in a cafe first - he was expecting a woman... But a bloke calked Dave tapped him on the shoulder
Catfished lol
I met someone who thought I'd be a bloke called Derek. "
Whuuut how did that come about lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"If she looks suspiciously like Katy Perry then it’s probably too good to be true.
Oh I don’t know. I’ve been surprised at how gorgeous someone is, and they turn out to be true.
Not all stunningly gorgeous women turn out to be a Dave.
It was a reference to an episode of catfish where someone believed they were meeting Katy Perry "
Haha. Yes, that would be a bit dissapointing when she didn’t turn up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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"If she looks suspiciously like Katy Perry then it’s probably too good to be true.
Oh I don’t know. I’ve been surprised at how gorgeous someone is, and they turn out to be true.
Not all stunningly gorgeous women turn out to be a Dave.
It was a reference to an episode of catfish where someone believed they were meeting Katy Perry
Haha. Yes, that would be a bit dissapointing when she didn’t turn up. "
And even at the end thought it was really her |
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"Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos."
Oh, I hate it when a prospect displays / sends outdated photos. Even if it was them in that 10 year old pic, it’s not anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos.
Oh, I hate it when a prospect displays / sends outdated photos. Even if it was them in that 10 year old pic, it’s not anymore. "
Who the hell doesn’t show or display flattering photos though? I don’t mean year old photos, I mean you don’t show an unflattering photo.
Also, expectations!
I’ve been told many times I look taller in my photos. ‘How tall do you think 5’8 is? It’s 5’8 no matter what angle I take that photo at. !! Ffs.
So am I catfishing?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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"Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos.
Oh, I hate it when a prospect displays / sends outdated photos. Even if it was them in that 10 year old pic, it’s not anymore.
Who the hell doesn’t show or display flattering photos though? I don’t mean year old photos, I mean you don’t show an unflattering photo.
Also, expectations!
I’ve been told many times I look taller in my photos. ‘How tall do you think 5’8 is? It’s 5’8 no matter what angle I take that photo at. !! Ffs.
So am I catfishing?
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Photos can be really deceptive. Clever angles. Filters.
I am open about my “bag”. If that doesn’t suit others then so be it because any “deception” will be soon found out if and when you meet |
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"Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos.
Oh, I hate it when a prospect displays / sends outdated photos. Even if it was them in that 10 year old pic, it’s not anymore.
Who the hell doesn’t show or display flattering photos though? I don’t mean year old photos, I mean you don’t show an unflattering photo.
Also, expectations!
I’ve been told many times I look taller in my photos. ‘How tall do you think 5’8 is? It’s 5’8 no matter what angle I take that photo at. !! Ffs.
So am I catfishing?
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There's one photo of me in which I look tall with long legs. I'm 5ft half an inch, I wonder if anyone has been bitterly disappointed but too polite to say |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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"Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos.
Oh, I hate it when a prospect displays / sends outdated photos. Even if it was them in that 10 year old pic, it’s not anymore.
Who the hell doesn’t show or display flattering photos though? I don’t mean year old photos, I mean you don’t show an unflattering photo.
Also, expectations!
I’ve been told many times I look taller in my photos. ‘How tall do you think 5’8 is? It’s 5’8 no matter what angle I take that photo at. !! Ffs.
So am I catfishing?
There's one photo of me in which I look tall with long legs. I'm 5ft half an inch, I wonder if anyone has been bitterly disappointed but too polite to say "
I would say no. Your profile says you’re 5’1.
I would say catfishing is if said you were taller or smaller than your actual size in this instance |
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"Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos.
Oh, I hate it when a prospect displays / sends outdated photos. Even if it was them in that 10 year old pic, it’s not anymore.
Who the hell doesn’t show or display flattering photos though? I don’t mean year old photos, I mean you don’t show an unflattering photo.
Also, expectations!
I’ve been told many times I look taller in my photos. ‘How tall do you think 5’8 is? It’s 5’8 no matter what angle I take that photo at. !! Ffs.
So am I catfishing?
There's one photo of me in which I look tall with long legs. I'm 5ft half an inch, I wonder if anyone has been bitterly disappointed but too polite to say
I would say no. Your profile says you’re 5’1.
I would say catfishing is if said you were taller or smaller than your actual size in this instance "
But we all know people don't read the instruction manual they just look at the pictures |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos.
Oh, I hate it when a prospect displays / sends outdated photos. Even if it was them in that 10 year old pic, it’s not anymore.
Who the hell doesn’t show or display flattering photos though? I don’t mean year old photos, I mean you don’t show an unflattering photo.
Also, expectations!
I’ve been told many times I look taller in my photos. ‘How tall do you think 5’8 is? It’s 5’8 no matter what angle I take that photo at. !! Ffs.
So am I catfishing?
There's one photo of me in which I look tall with long legs. I'm 5ft half an inch, I wonder if anyone has been bitterly disappointed but too polite to say "
I always thought you were like 5'8. You should pose next to a Lynx can.  |
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"Once been kitten fished... Fella turned up and had that aged beyond his years, grey look of a heavy smoker that wasn't evident from the face pics he had supplied. Other than that, everyone I have met have looked just like their photos.
Oh, I hate it when a prospect displays / sends outdated photos. Even if it was them in that 10 year old pic, it’s not anymore.
Who the hell doesn’t show or display flattering photos though? I don’t mean year old photos, I mean you don’t show an unflattering photo.
Also, expectations!
I’ve been told many times I look taller in my photos. ‘How tall do you think 5’8 is? It’s 5’8 no matter what angle I take that photo at. !! Ffs.
So am I catfishing?
There's one photo of me in which I look tall with long legs. I'm 5ft half an inch, I wonder if anyone has been bitterly disappointed but too polite to say
I always thought you were like 5'8. You should pose next to a Lynx can. "
Good idea!
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"Being weight catfished it pretty common, which is why I also ask for full length body pics before meeting "
Do you mean people turning out to be bigger/heavier than they made themselves out to be?? You probably won't want to meet me then lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Being weight catfished it pretty common, which is why I also ask for full length body pics before meeting
Do you mean people turning out to be bigger/heavier than they made themselves out to be?? You probably won't want to meet me then lol"
It’s actually less about their size, more about the way they go about trying to hide it
I lve bbw/curvy women
What I don’t like is when I’m purposely mislead to believe your a size 10 and a size 20 turns up
Even if I find the size 20 attractive, I’m turned off by their attempt to hide it |
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"Being weight catfished it pretty common, which is why I also ask for full length body pics before meeting
Do you mean people turning out to be bigger/heavier than they made themselves out to be?? You probably won't want to meet me then lol
It’s actually less about their size, more about the way they go about trying to hide it
I lve bbw/curvy women
What I don’t like is when I’m purposely mislead to believe your a size 10 and a size 20 turns up
Even if I find the size 20 attractive, I’m turned off by their attempt to hide it "
Fair enough well I'm a 20/22 I'm never gonna be a 10 so I'm not going to try and be it lol I don't see the point... I'm very much a what you see is what you get with me lol |
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If you're operating here, you need to develop and refine your own processes for filtering out the unsuitable. You will attract people differently from others, so what you do and how you present, will differ from the rest of us. Some things are common sense, yet enough people still fall for Nigerian Prince scams to make them worthwhile.
We typically learn best from our mistakes, so be sure to learn from yours |
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"Have a video call with someone before you meet to avoid being catfished. If they refuse then they got something to hide or they not the person they said they were"
Or they just don't want to do that |
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"Have a video call with someone before you meet to avoid being catfished. If they refuse then they got something to hide or they not the person they said they were"
We won’t video call before meeting and we have nothing to hide. |
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"Have a video call with someone before you meet to avoid being catfished. If they refuse then they got something to hide or they not the person they said they were
Or they just don't want to do that "
ask yourself why they dont what they hiding? |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Being weight catfished it pretty common, which is why I also ask for full length body pics before meeting
Do you mean people turning out to be bigger/heavier than they made themselves out to be?? You probably won't want to meet me then lol
It’s actually less about their size, more about the way they go about trying to hide it
I lve bbw/curvy women
What I don’t like is when I’m purposely mislead to believe your a size 10 and a size 20 turns up
Even if I find the size 20 attractive, I’m turned off by their attempt to hide it
Fair enough well I'm a 20/22 I'm never gonna be a 10 so I'm not going to try and be it lol I don't see the point... I'm very much a what you see is what you get with me lol"
Good for you, that’s the right way to be
Why pretend you’re a 10 in pics, surely just find a guy that likes the size you are!
But it happens so often I’ve had to take action |
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"Have a video call with someone before you meet to avoid being catfished. If they refuse then they got something to hide or they not the person they said they were
Or they just don't want to do that ask yourself why they dont what they hiding?"
I wouldn't video call |
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"Have a video call with someone before you meet to avoid being catfished. If they refuse then they got something to hide or they not the person they said they were
Or they just don't want to do that ask yourself why they dont what they hiding?
I wouldn't video call "
Nor me. We must be fakes. |
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"Then I have to assume you're hiding something which could be a reg flag
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I am same if someone can’t be bothered this day and age to do a few min vid call I just view it we are incompatible on how safety / meets with strangers are working
Each to their own and I am certainly not going to worry about not meeting a stranger by any means.
There is so many ways to hide your number for a cam chat or even use a dead cam room here
People have to work how they work. Only time I won’t bother with s vid chat is if I am going to a club / party so I couldn’t really careless then if they no show or are not what they said. |
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By *ustBoWoman 50 weeks ago
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"Have a video call with someone before you meet to avoid being catfished. If they refuse then they got something to hide or they not the person they said they were"
I've nothing to hide but I won't do video calls as I don't like them it's as simple as that. And anyone who would be pushing constantly for one I'd find pushy and wouldn't meet. |
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By *abioMan 50 weeks ago
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Isn’t it really just a case of not letting your genitalia rule your head, and going through your own checklist… and if someone doesn’t meet them for any reason then don’t let them compromise
It’s very much a learning process.. no two people are going to be the same
My checklist works for me…. Could I probably have met more people if I loosened them.. sure
But I can count the number of times I have been catfished in the many years I have doing this on one hand |
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"Have a video call with someone before you meet to avoid being catfished. If they refuse then they got something to hide or they not the person they said they were
I've nothing to hide but I won't do video calls as I don't like them it's as simple as that. And anyone who would be pushing constantly for one I'd find pushy and wouldn't meet. "
Exactly this, I wouldn’t meet anyone who demands anything. |
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It's hard we have been catfished on a couple of occasions now.
It's both frustrating and an absolute waste of precious time!
I hate video calls but will if I have a feeling they aren't being entirely truthful but always a social 1st.
We rarely meet off fab anyway I prefer to meet at the organised socials there's zero chance of being catfished there, face to face is so much easier.
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"Have a video call with someone before you meet to avoid being catfished. If they refuse then they got something to hide or they not the person they said they were
I've nothing to hide but I won't do video calls as I don't like them it's as simple as that. And anyone who would be pushing constantly for one I'd find pushy and wouldn't meet.
Exactly this, I wouldn’t meet anyone who demands anything."
Obviously would video call for Wilts but generally I would find it pretty awkward, I don't really like video calls and I wouldn't dress femme for a short call so won't look like my pics anyway. But if I wanted to meet them and it made them feel safer then sure. I would rather meet in a public place though to see if we vibe, a lot of rapport gets lost in a call. |
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"If she looks suspiciously like Katy Perry then it’s probably too good to be true.
Oh I don’t know. I’ve been surprised at how gorgeous someone is, and they turn out to be true.
Not all stunningly gorgeous women turn out to be a Dave.
It was a reference to an episode of catfish where someone believed they were meeting Katy Perry "
He still believed that when they showed him the real woman too, some are totally deluded so it's no wonder they belive all they're told. |
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"So after just watching an episode of Catfish it makes me think if I could be “caught” in that way?
How do you protect yourself from potential catfish on here?
Ask for a video call?
Verifications and photos can be fake verified.
So what do you do?"
Combination of gut feeling and If something seems to good to be true it usually is
I just hope the offer of an orgy with the Swedish womens beach volleyball team that I turned down wasn't genuine |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"So after just watching an episode of Catfish it makes me think if I could be “caught” in that way?
How do you protect yourself from potential catfish on here?
Ask for a video call?
Verifications and photos can be fake verified.
So what do you do?
Combination of gut feeling and If something seems to good to be true it usually is
I just hope the offer of an orgy with the Swedish womens beach volleyball team that I turned down wasn't genuine "
They were Norwegian. |
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