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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When is the last time you received a compliment? Do you believe them, or take it for what it was intended? And do you often give them?
What’s the biggest compliment you can be given?  |
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The most recent ones have complimented my character or how my arse looks in jeans.
The most recent I have given have been to compliment them on how good a friend and how valued they are.
I can't remember if ever getting a compliment from a complete stranger and I know I've never given one to someone I don't know.
How I receive a compliment depends entirely on the person giving it and how genuine I know them and therefore their compliment to be rather than just lip service. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yesterday. I received a few actually and I'm not talking about on Fab, I mean face to face.
It's really situational, it's not as simple as yes or no. I try to believe them but also being aware of the environment they're given.
I wouldn't say I often give them but if I genuinely mean something I'm more than happy to say it.
The biggest compliment for me? When people want to spend time with me. Listen to me, talk to me, do whatever. Not because I've got a couple of cute holes but because I'm me. |
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I'm weird with compliments if it's someone I know I'll believe them maybe, if it's some randomer then I just assume he wants a hole to stick it in and generally won't believe them.
I'm more likely to accept a compliment from a woman, don't ask me why?
I do give out compliments if I mean them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find it easy to give compliments, and I’m honest in them.
I’m awkward getting compliments and never believe them. "
I find it easy giving compliments to someone that I think deserves them, or needs them.
I don’t give them out like sweets.  |
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On my work I get compliments plenty, and from friends and family yes but I find them all a little hard to take and maybe the work ones a bit obligatory. The later because they usually come at those times when I'm not quite as happy as normal. Though, those are probably the best times to receive compliments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had a few compliments from here regarding my physique. Always very grateful for these and I won’t be reaching for the block button if I don’t like the person making the compliment  |
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Biggest compliment I got and it was better than any verification was at a house party and ended up with a gorgeous housewife and while we were lost in passion she said to me "it's a Crime your Single" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve had a few compliments from here regarding my physique. Always very grateful for these and I won’t be reaching for the block button if I don’t like the person making the compliment "
Damn.
Go you compete in comps? If not, you should. 
That’s a men’s magazine pose right there, I’m not jealous at all.
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A few days ago.
Someone called me a beautiful surprise! I've never been called that before and yes I believed it.
The best compliment would be something non sexual, something that's about me as a person.
Em x |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"A few days ago.
Someone called me a beautiful surprise! I've never been called that before and yes I believed it.
The best compliment would be something non sexual, something that's about me as a person.
Em x"
Weird! You are weird! |
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Compliments are good for the soul as long as are genuine and not associated with any other ulterior motive. Last cheeky one yesterday about the one and only public pic on profile which was nice and unexpected. |
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"A few days ago.
Someone called me a beautiful surprise! I've never been called that before and yes I believed it.
The best compliment would be something non sexual, something that's about me as a person.
Em x
Weird! You are weird! "
It's the company I keep... |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"A few days ago.
Someone called me a beautiful surprise! I've never been called that before and yes I believed it.
The best compliment would be something non sexual, something that's about me as a person.
Em x
Weird! You are weird!
It's the company I keep..."
Is that a compliment? |
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I think this is quite an interesting societal behaviour. When we’re out as a couple Jen will receive lots of compliments from random strangers - on hair, clothes, make up, pick random thing - whereas Paul rarely gets any.
I guess this could be an indication of Paul, but it feels like men in general give and receive compliments far less often than women. Which is a shame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ha! Thank you very kind words.
I do have aspirations to compete, Men’s Physique class purely amateur and it would be good to go through a show prep and get properly diced. Just once!
"I’ve had a few compliments from here regarding my physique. Always very grateful for these and I won’t be reaching for the block button if I don’t like the person making the compliment
Damn.
Go you compete in comps? If not, you should.
That’s a men’s magazine pose right there, I’m not jealous at all.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"on here on bum, boobies, nipples! Feel awkward! would rather have on humour, wit and fun, dont quite know how to respond. But then I do compliment profiles that I like, nice bum, great pics so"
Swings and roundabouts eh? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think this is quite an interesting societal behaviour. When we’re out as a couple Jen will receive lots of compliments from random strangers - on hair, clothes, make up, pick random thing - whereas Paul rarely gets any.
I guess this could be an indication of Paul, but it feels like men in general give and receive compliments far less often than women. Which is a shame. "
This is not rare, men do not get compliments. Or if we do, we can remember when/where/who gave it, what exactly was said. It stays with us, we appreciate it a lot. We like them just as much as anyone else would. But why are people afraid to give them,
Or do we simply not deserve em? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think this is quite an interesting societal behaviour. When we’re out as a couple Jen will receive lots of compliments from random strangers - on hair, clothes, make up, pick random thing - whereas Paul rarely gets any.
I guess this could be an indication of Paul, but it feels like men in general give and receive compliments far less often than women. Which is a shame.
This is not rare, men do not get compliments. Or if we do, we can remember when/where/who gave it, what exactly was said. It stays with us, we appreciate it a lot. We like them just as much as anyone else would. But why are people afraid to give them,
Or do we simply not deserve em? "
Straight men don’t take compliments well. Just sayin. |
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I get compliments often. Both the usual sycophantic tripe from people looking to get their end away and the genuine kind that genuinely warm my cold dead heart.
The best ones are about the choices made rather than what I was born with  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone recently told me I had a nice arse, that one kept me warm all day.
I like being told I help people and make a difference in people's lives, with work and with friends. Not just a endorphin kick but I like having validated purpose. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think this is quite an interesting societal behaviour. When we’re out as a couple Jen will receive lots of compliments from random strangers - on hair, clothes, make up, pick random thing - whereas Paul rarely gets any.
I guess this could be an indication of Paul, but it feels like men in general give and receive compliments far less often than women. Which is a shame.
This is not rare, men do not get compliments. Or if we do, we can remember when/where/who gave it, what exactly was said. It stays with us, we appreciate it a lot. We like them just as much as anyone else would. But why are people afraid to give them,
Or do we simply not deserve em?
Straight men don’t take compliments well. Just sayin. "
Oh. Wait? Really?
How so!?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Umm. Someone called me peng on Monday and I smiled ear to ear. I believe her too.
The best compliment I can get is probably someone telling me they think I’m intelligent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Umm. Someone called me peng on Monday and I smiled ear to ear. I believe her too.
The best compliment I can get is probably someone telling me they think I’m intelligent"
When someone says you (or anyone) is intelligent what they really mean is they are intelligent enough to see you are intelligent. So they complimenting themselves and letting you have an ego improving stroke of their compliment. Probably. I’ve been known to be ‘wrong’. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think this is quite an interesting societal behaviour. When we’re out as a couple Jen will receive lots of compliments from random strangers - on hair, clothes, make up, pick random thing - whereas Paul rarely gets any.
I guess this could be an indication of Paul, but it feels like men in general give and receive compliments far less often than women. Which is a shame.
This is not rare, men do not get compliments. Or if we do, we can remember when/where/who gave it, what exactly was said. It stays with us, we appreciate it a lot. We like them just as much as anyone else would. But why are people afraid to give them,
Or do we simply not deserve em?
Straight men don’t take compliments well. Just sayin.
Oh. Wait? Really?
How so!? "
That’s a very good reply Woody. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think this is quite an interesting societal behaviour. When we’re out as a couple Jen will receive lots of compliments from random strangers - on hair, clothes, make up, pick random thing - whereas Paul rarely gets any.
I guess this could be an indication of Paul, but it feels like men in general give and receive compliments far less often than women. Which is a shame.
This is not rare, men do not get compliments. Or if we do, we can remember when/where/who gave it, what exactly was said. It stays with us, we appreciate it a lot. We like them just as much as anyone else would. But why are people afraid to give them,
Or do we simply not deserve em?
Straight men don’t take compliments well. Just sayin.
Oh. Wait? Really?
How so!?
That’s a very good reply Woody. "
Haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Umm. Someone called me peng on Monday and I smiled ear to ear. I believe her too.
The best compliment I can get is probably someone telling me they think I’m intelligent
When someone says you (or anyone) is intelligent what they really mean is they are intelligent enough to see you are intelligent. So they complimenting themselves and letting you have an ego improving stroke of their compliment. Probably. I’ve been known to be ‘wrong’. "
 you’re funny
What if someone thinks of you intelligent on the basis of you knowing what they don’t know? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Umm. Someone called me peng on Monday and I smiled ear to ear. I believe her too.
The best compliment I can get is probably someone telling me they think I’m intelligent
When someone says you (or anyone) is intelligent what they really mean is they are intelligent enough to see you are intelligent. So they complimenting themselves and letting you have an ego improving stroke of their compliment. Probably. I’ve been known to be ‘wrong’.
you’re funny
What if someone thinks of you intelligent on the basis of you knowing what they don’t know? "
Does that make someone intelligent though? Or someone who knows something. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Umm. Someone called me peng on Monday and I smiled ear to ear. I believe her too.
The best compliment I can get is probably someone telling me they think I’m intelligent
When someone says you (or anyone) is intelligent what they really mean is they are intelligent enough to see you are intelligent. So they complimenting themselves and letting you have an ego improving stroke of their compliment. Probably. I’ve been known to be ‘wrong’.
you’re funny
What if someone thinks of you intelligent on the basis of you knowing what they don’t know?
Does that make someone intelligent though? Or someone who knows something. "
No it doesn’t but someone could be intelligent and know what you don’t know?
Even with no real physics knowledge beyond school, I feel like I could call a physicist intelligent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Umm. Someone called me peng on Monday and I smiled ear to ear. I believe her too.
The best compliment I can get is probably someone telling me they think I’m intelligent
When someone says you (or anyone) is intelligent what they really mean is they are intelligent enough to see you are intelligent. So they complimenting themselves and letting you have an ego improving stroke of their compliment. Probably. I’ve been known to be ‘wrong’.
you’re funny
What if someone thinks of you intelligent on the basis of you knowing what they don’t know?
Does that make someone intelligent though? Or someone who knows something.
No it doesn’t but someone could be intelligent and know what you don’t know?
Even with no real physics knowledge beyond school, I feel like I could call a physicist intelligent. "
I am thinking now, how relative is intelligence?
I hate my brain |
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I received a compliment from a stranger on here this morning but that means nothing to me. Compliments only mean something if the person says it to my face and it's without any ulterior motives behind it.
One of the best compliments is when someone who is close to me tells me how good a Mum I am to my children. That really counts to me.
Ruby |
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By *ortyairCouple
over a year ago
Wallasey |
"Ha! Thank you very kind words.
I do have aspirations to compete, Men’s Physique class purely amateur and it would be good to go through a show prep and get properly diced. Just once!
I’ve had a few compliments from here regarding my physique. Always very grateful for these and I won’t be reaching for the block button if I don’t like the person making the compliment
Damn.
Go you compete in comps? If not, you should.
That’s a men’s magazine pose right there, I’m not jealous at all.
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You have got a great physique.
Just said to my hubby he should ask you how to get a similar physique as you are about the same age. He said he might but he hopes you have J-Lo's number cos she's older than me but I could ring her to find out how I could get some nice boobs, legs and a decent ass... cheeky fucker, Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Umm. Someone called me peng on Monday and I smiled ear to ear. I believe her too.
The best compliment I can get is probably someone telling me they think I’m intelligent
When someone says you (or anyone) is intelligent what they really mean is they are intelligent enough to see you are intelligent. So they complimenting themselves and letting you have an ego improving stroke of their compliment. Probably. I’ve been known to be ‘wrong’.
you’re funny
What if someone thinks of you intelligent on the basis of you knowing what they don’t know?
Does that make someone intelligent though? Or someone who knows something.
No it doesn’t but someone could be intelligent and know what you don’t know?
Even with no real physics knowledge beyond school, I feel like I could call a physicist intelligent. "
If a physicist has memorised all the physics but is unable to do any new physics, is that physicist an intelligent physicist? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get complimented everyday just lately especially since I've lost a lot of weight which is nice to hear but makes me a little uncomfortable as I don't know how to take it.
The best compliments are more about who you are as a person rather than looks wise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe them from people who know me and my personality.
Those who message me calling me hot or sexy without seeing my face, I take with a punch of salt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not good at taking compliments. I am very self conscious and always been that way.
Mrs"
compliments are a bit ingratiating. how about striking up a topic of conversation instead of appealing to one's ego by flattery? |
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I had my first compliment in work tonight. I was told I look like a cross between Jamie Dornan and Justin Timberlake. The lady was d*unk as a skunk but that has made my night lol so much so that I thought I'd share  |
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I had one at work the other week. A staff member thanked me for resolving an issue. Then they emailed my boss their thanks. Then my boss came over and thanked me.
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And inside I was like "WTF is all this nonsense ? I'm just doing my job. Like I do every day. I get paid to do this. THAT is my thanks."
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Then internally, I started thinking transactionally of the interactions.
A surplus of 3 additional interactions that were completely unnecessary.
Essential Action 1 : Person asks me for help.
Essential Action 2 : I help person
(Balance Restored)
Non-Essential Action 3 : Person thanks me for something I am paid to do.
Non-Essential Action 4 : Person contacts my boss to express their thanks
Non-Essential Action 5 : Boss thanks me
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I could break it down further because each of the Non-Essential Actions involves the time of 2 people.
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So after balance was restored, 6 additional actions occurred that were not necessary.
Non-Essential Action 5 was detrimental to me, as it interrupted me assisting another person and delayed things for a moment, which annoyed them.
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So yeah, I neither like to give compliments nor receive them. I find them superfluous, personally.
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People are odd (tongue in cheeck) |
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