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Would saying sorry you’re not my type be classed as rude? What would be a more suitable response. Just saying no thanks seems a bit blunt.
A couple who checked us out ALOT finally messaged, sent face pics, I (f) declined since he was not my type. She then turned psycho ranting how rude I was for saying this. And that I wasn’t his type (why message us then) and that she wasn’t impressed with my photos etc (then why keep looking about 8 times a day for the past month ) and then blocked us.
Why are people weird? Why will I never know the answers to my questions. Why am I amused by all of this. Why can some not take rejection. Why is it so bloody cold 
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"Would saying sorry you’re not my type be classed as rude? What would be a more suitable response. Just saying no thanks seems a bit blunt.
A couple who checked us out ALOT finally messaged, sent face pics, I (f) declined since he was not my type. She then turned psycho ranting how rude I was for saying this. And that I wasn’t his type (why message us then) and that she wasn’t impressed with my photos etc (then why keep looking about 8 times a day for the past month ) and then blocked us.
Why are people weird? Why will I never know the answers to my questions. Why am I amused by all of this. Why can some not take rejection. Why is it so bloody cold
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They're lashing out because they're emotionally immature and their ego got bruised. |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"Would saying sorry you’re not my type be classed as rude? What would be a more suitable response. Just saying no thanks seems a bit blunt.
A couple who checked us out ALOT finally messaged, sent face pics, I (f) declined since he was not my type. She then turned psycho ranting how rude I was for saying this. And that I wasn’t his type (why message us then) and that she wasn’t impressed with my photos etc (then why keep looking about 8 times a day for the past month ) and then blocked us.
Why are people weird? Why will I never know the answers to my questions. Why am I amused by all of this. Why can some not take rejection. Why is it so bloody cold
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How would you want to be rejected if someone doesn't fancy you? |
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By *host63Man 52 weeks ago
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"Would saying sorry you’re not my type be classed as rude? What would be a more suitable response. Just saying no thanks seems a bit blunt.
A couple who checked us out ALOT finally messaged, sent face pics, I (f) declined since he was not my type. She then turned psycho ranting how rude I was for saying this. And that I wasn’t his type (why message us then) and that she wasn’t impressed with my photos etc (then why keep looking about 8 times a day for the past month ) and then blocked us.
Why are people weird? Why will I never know the answers to my questions. Why am I amused by all of this. Why can some not take rejection. Why is it so bloody cold
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I tend to find women take rejection quite badly.
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We try to be polite where possible especially if they have read the profile but we’ve had it where they totally turned on us and said that we were “idiots, she’s no oil painting and we are time wasters” all because they weren’t for us haha |
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"Would saying sorry you’re not my type be classed as rude? What would be a more suitable response. Just saying no thanks seems a bit blunt.
A couple who checked us out ALOT finally messaged, sent face pics, I (f) declined since he was not my type. She then turned psycho ranting how rude I was for saying this. And that I wasn’t his type (why message us then) and that she wasn’t impressed with my photos etc (then why keep looking about 8 times a day for the past month ) and then blocked us.
Why are people weird? Why will I never know the answers to my questions. Why am I amused by all of this. Why can some not take rejection. Why is it so bloody cold
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sounds like a single males actions  |
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Cover your bases and expect a shite comment from a disgruntled twat. So just say something subtle like ...
"Fuckin Jesus, how can someone with only one head be that ugly? You're not for us. Sorry  "
*Make sure you apologise and leave the laughing emoji too. |
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I think ‘sorry you’re not my type’ is fine. Anyone responding badly to that clearly has their own issues.
I think often people stray into more detail though, which can sometimes be rude;
‘I’m not into skinny guys’
‘I’m not into fat girls’
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I put....
Thanks for your message
I'm sorry but you don't fit what I'm looking for.
Happy fabbing
It covers so many reasons why they're not for me and isn't a direct rejection of them based on looks alone. |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I don't even bother trying to be polite anymore. I just delete and block if they're not my type. You can never tell which ones will come back angry over a "sorry, no thanks" or "thanks but you're not my type" - I prefer to protect my peace  |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I honestly don't get it. Met a lovely lady at a club, hit it off, had a greet time, she even left me a glowing review. Then when I messaged to say I might go again and would like to see her, all I got was 'I don't want to meet you again'. It felt rather nasty and made me wonder what the point of being so kind and friendly was. |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"I honestly don't get it. Met a lovely lady at a club, hit it off, had a greet time, she even left me a glowing review. Then when I messaged to say I might go again and would like to see her, all I got was 'I don't want to meet you again'. It felt rather nasty and made me wonder what the point of being so kind and friendly was. "
Perhaps she realised that you were only being "kind and friendly" to get a fuck.  |
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"I don't even bother trying to be polite anymore. I just delete and block if they're not my type. You can never tell which ones will come back angry over a "sorry, no thanks" or "thanks but you're not my type" - I prefer to protect my peace "
This is what i do now after receiving some vile messages from sending polite replies …..some people just can’t handle rejection |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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"I honestly don't get it. Met a lovely lady at a club, hit it off, had a greet time, she even left me a glowing review. Then when I messaged to say I might go again and would like to see her, all I got was 'I don't want to meet you again'. It felt rather nasty and made me wonder what the point of being so kind and friendly was.
Perhaps she realised that you were only being "kind and friendly" to get a fuck. "
I meant her being kind and friendly. But I was actually 'kind and friendly' because that's the vibe of the club. |
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"I honestly don't get it. Met a lovely lady at a club, hit it off, had a greet time, she even left me a glowing review. Then when I messaged to say I might go again and would like to see her, all I got was 'I don't want to meet you again'. It felt rather nasty and made me wonder what the point of being so kind and friendly was. "
All the veris I leave say nice things about the person, but it doesn’t mean I want to do it again. |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I reply "You're not for me, enjoy fabs" then block before they can reply. It saves the drama, possible abuse back and keeps my peace
Fabs is supposed to be fun right!
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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Some rejections get very personal...I declined a woman on here and being a decent kind of chap I didn't block...but she took it one step further and stalked me on the forums, literally shitting all over my posts.
She was the reason I stepped away for a while
So no disrespect ladies, but women can be equally as bad as men |
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I just send No, thanks, we aren’t a good much, happy fabbing.
But I am thicked skin guy whatever nasty message I might get in return doesn’t touch me in slightest. I will just ignore
From the other side I completely understand these who are more sensitive or have worst experience so think NO Response and Deleted message is polite enough for this site.
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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This is on them not on you lovely.
I do a mix of delete and no reply, saying ‘thanks but not for me’, ‘unfortunately not for me but happy fabbing or similar if the message I got was particularly nice.
I also get annoyed when people then vent and abuse me and o block and report! |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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If someone takes the time to message and say “no thanks” I’ll always reply with something along the lines of “no worries, happy fabbing”
If someone replies with “no chance you fool” then I’ll block them. If I’m lacking maturity at that particular moment, I’ll probably also call them a **** |
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By *ullyMan 52 weeks ago
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I say "thanks but no thanks".
" you are not my type",
Or I don't think we are suited.
With others that clearly have not read my profile I simply but politely ask them to go back and read it.
What gets me though are those that argue, Like really??
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"Would saying sorry you’re not my type be classed as rude? What would be a more suitable response. Just saying no thanks seems a bit blunt.
A couple who checked us out ALOT finally messaged, sent face pics, I (f) declined since he was not my type. She then turned psycho ranting how rude I was for saying this. And that I wasn’t his type (why message us then) and that she wasn’t impressed with my photos etc (then why keep looking about 8 times a day for the past month ) and then blocked us.
Why are people weird? Why will I never know the answers to my questions. Why am I amused by all of this. Why can some not take rejection. Why is it so bloody cold
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I can answer the last question!! It's so bloody cold because we have a north easterly blowing from Scandinavia and it's already one of their coldest winters for a long while.
Fuck knows on the rest of it though  |
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Welcome to fab lol.
It always gets abusive when you say no.
Anyone who isn’t for me, straight delete. Don’t even reply anymore cos this gets so bad.
I’m always beautiful when they message and then fat when I say no ha.
Not worth a response. Site FAQ’s state a deleted message = a polite no thanks. X |
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On the rare occasions that I reply to a random unsolicited message, I say something along the lines of “not for me thank you, happy fabbing x” and usually block immediately.
If I’ve been chatting to someone and for some reason get the ick either something they say or a pic that isnt my thing I try to explain briefly that I’ve decided we’re not right for each other and therefore am going to block. Then send, block, delete thread from sent items and inbox.
But for me, this is why I like to exchange face pics pretty early on in the convo and also check marital status / living arrangements etc.
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"Would saying sorry you’re not my type be classed as rude? What would be a more suitable response. Just saying no thanks seems a bit blunt.
A couple who checked us out ALOT finally messaged, sent face pics, I (f) declined since he was not my type. She then turned psycho ranting how rude I was for saying this. And that I wasn’t his type (why message us then) and that she wasn’t impressed with my photos etc (then why keep looking about 8 times a day for the past month ) and then blocked us.
Why are people weird? Why will I never know the answers to my questions. Why am I amused by all of this. Why can some not take rejection. Why is it so bloody cold
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The usual Fab shenanigans. As others have said perhaps a more general “Sorry not for us. Happy Fabbing” message is better. I can see the merit in not replying at all if just one message. Harder to do that if chatted for a while or even met. One thing about I’ve learnt is that best to just keep it general and impersonal as you never know when you might meet them if on the house party / club circuit and it can get awkward |
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