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This is probably the most commonly asked question in our inbox.
So what are you looking for on fab? A quick fuck? A FWB?
Something else?
Has what you're looking for changed over the course of your fab journey?
I can honestly say I don't quite know right now what I'm looking for, I don't think I'm looking for anything at the moment, fabs a hard place to form a connection & that's something I need.
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I thought this was going to be another “I wish people wouldn’t ask…” thread. You can read someone’s profile a dozen times and still not know what they actually want, so I’m not sure why some people get so would up about being asked. |
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I had no expectations when I first joined apart from exploring the unexplored.
Over the years that hasn't really changed but I decided I could have as much fun doing that with someone on a regular basis.
I have met a wonderful friend and the benefits are just a bonus.
If I was just looking for sex I could have met a lot more people than I actually have but I'm very picky about who I choose to get naked with. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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What I'm looking for has changed over time from when I first joined.
Took a few years off and came back with different want/needs.
I'm more in an exploratatory phase now. More selective meets, maybe more singles. Still working it all out myself but keeping a loose mindset about it.
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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A light entertainment mostly. The rest is stumbling upon things/people and playing along or moving on 
Searching can be tiresome and sometimes it's good to just let things happen.
T. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 50 weeks ago
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I was looking for a distraction.
I told myself that would eventually develop into perhaps a meeting or two, but actually, I'm happy with the distraction and chatting part.
When people ask me what I'm looking for, I tell them I'm just chatting on the forums. A couple of guys have told me it's a shame or a waste - like I'm some sort of commodity. I'm not really worried; I don't owe anyone a shag.  |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS 50 weeks ago
About 3 feet away from the fence |
What I want probably has changed a bit over time, and whenever it does change I'll be sure to put it in the profile so anyone asking me this lazy, nothingy, milktoast question in a message, expecting me to just spoonfeed them all the information they need to get into my knickers, will have demonstrated that they didn't have enough respect for my time to just read the damn profile anyway & find out 
Not in the spirit of the thread, but I just find this question infuriating. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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So what are you looking for on fab? A quick fuck? A FWB?
Something else?
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I can honestly say I don't quite know right now what I'm looking for, I don't think I'm looking for anything at the moment, fabs a hard place to form a connection & that's something I need.
Mrs "
A connection. ? That’s a thing I need. It can be superficial one for something that’s just superficial sex for a good time we both can share.
Right now, I don’t want nothing more than good conversations that are open and honest, I’m not looking for sex. Fab is a good place with lots of good people, and it’s my social media. If I find something, or someone (which does happen) good socials are always good. I’ll stick to them for a bit.
I’ll come back to this question op, which is always good to ask. you sound like you’re in a similar place like me. A little bit, ‘what am I doing here?’ |
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So what are you looking for on fab? A quick fuck? A FWB?
Something else?
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I can honestly say I don't quite know right now what I'm looking for, I don't think I'm looking for anything at the moment, fabs a hard place to form a connection & that's something I need.
Mrs
A connection. ? That’s a thing I need. It can be superficial one for something that’s just superficial sex for a good time we both can share.
Right now, I don’t want nothing more than good conversations that are open and honest, I’m not looking for sex. Fab is a good place with lots of good people, and it’s my social media. If I find something, or someone (which does happen) good socials are always good. I’ll stick to them for a bit.
I’ll come back to this question op, which is always good to ask. you sound like you’re in a similar place like me. A little bit, ‘what am I doing here?’ "
Yes I totally am with you Woody.
This at the moment is also my social media, I love the social events & find them much easier in terms of future meets but right now I'm just meh......
I'm sure if the right person came along I wouldn't say no but I'm not looking.
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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I don't know what I am looking for particularly on here ...I think I'm ok to just browse the forums or find a F sidekick to visit clubs with.
TBH my experiences on here have severely lessened my desire to do meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"anthropological research"
A bit of this.
A bit of procrastination and mucking about on forums.
A bit of hope for finding some longer term play partners to explore some kinks with.
Quick fucks are easily found in the real world and party scene, and now bore me. I need connection now and depth and a challenge. |
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By *ary69321Man 50 weeks ago
Newcastle upon tyne |
I would like to meet a fwb, if something was to happen further down the line great, but I'm not getting any younger, I don't think I'm in the right place to meet someone I could call a girlfriend. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Someone with a healthy to high sex drive, that will do affection, cuddles, sex, kink, going out, bonus points for a night or weekend away somewhere, going Dutch if course throughout, that is also open to doubling up for club occasionally, yet understands it's not a relationship and doesn't push for that or exclusivity, yet keeps contact going without being needy or demanding and generally being somewhat invested.
I'm asking a lot. But that would be the ideal. I kinda imagined guys that are married to their job or travel a lot and unable to maintain a relationship would be well suited.
I can dream.
A respectful fuck buddy would be good too. One that doesn't play games. |
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Our ideal would be to find a couple we can be friends with and do lots of social things with but have that added element of adventurous sex and exploring, we are open with our friends about what we do and our sex life but they don’t understand it so would be good to have people who do |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Looking to explore new things with interesting people, ideally single ladies and couples who'd be interested in helping me tick off all my naughty list items |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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“When you were here before
Couldn't look you in the eye
You're just like an angel
Your skin makes me cry
You float like a feather
In a beautiful world
I wish I was special
You're so fuckin' special!
But I'm a creep
I'm a weirdo
What the hell am I doin' here?
I don't belong here… “
Sometimes I feel like that. But then I think, maybe I do, I’m with other people who probably feel the same. It’s like how you found people to hang around with in school, you just gravitate towards each other, you know.
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Everything has changed for me, I went a bit wild when I first came out as swinger 20+ years ago, now I don't meet at all
I'm just here for the forums and chats |
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By *ookie46Woman 50 weeks ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
Over the course of the last five and a bit years what I was seeking and had definitely changed. From wanting NSA to being in a relationship with someone from here which was totally unexpected.
Now I’m really not sure what I’m looking for but I do know I don’t want one offs.
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"I came here looking for a coffee loving, intriguing conversationalist.
I discovered most want coffee and sex. The audacity!
Don't they talk to you over a coffee and through sex?!"
No, I’m too sensible. A hot drink in hand during sex would make for skin burns. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Not looking
Not meeting too hard to decipher
I not changed in my outlook.
Not here to make friends.
Watching masterchef.. They look for perfect tastes in all manners. I believe that is me. Layers of connections, taste that lingers and enjoys marinating well mating.
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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I'm not really looking for anything at the minute. I feel like looking for something only leads to disappointment when you can't find it so I just plod along doing my own thing and if something or someone pops up to take my fancy, I decide what I want from there |
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By *oxesMan 50 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"This is probably the most commonly asked question in our inbox.
So what are you looking for on fab? A quick fuck? A FWB?
Something else?
Has what you're looking for changed over the course of your fab journey?
I can honestly say I don't quite know right now what I'm looking for, I don't think I'm looking for anything at the moment, fabs a hard place to form a connection & that's something I need.
Mrs "
It might not be clear but it's on my profile |
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A FB that's somewhere in the NW, someone who I can arrange to meet up with as and when it suits us both. Preferably in the daytime in the week as I work nights through the week.
No strings, no pressure, just lots of enjoying each other's presence and bodies, and lots of laughter and smiles. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"I’ve only ever been looking for FWBs. That’s never changed and won’t change either x"
I’m young and short and we don’t see eye to eye but other than those important factors I think we’re literally perfect for each other init |
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"Dick pics
Your fire alarm gone off yet? Because I can smell burning "
It must be what I’m looking for because I get so many of them! The reverse logic approach is to support my attempt at remaining positive here |
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"mmm to rediscover part of myself that has been dormant for a while - the rest is a unicorn !!!!
I'm guessing more than 25 mins of attention then  "
oh god yes! Unicorn searching continues! Obviously he wont get a recall!
Oh yea - your profile probably coukd do with a re-write  |
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At this point I don’t know.
I still like to meet and have fun but I’ll be honest I had a brief taste of somebody being in my life and it was good. I liked it.
If only I could get that with someone who would be happy to share me, enjoyed loud noisy gigs often proceeded by a road trip and that I fancied then that’s the dream. Until then I’ll muddle along like everyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"At this point I don’t know.
I still like to meet and have fun but I’ll be honest I had a brief taste of somebody being in my life and it was good. I liked it.
If only I could get that with someone who would be happy to share me, enjoyed loud noisy gigs often proceeded by a road trip and that I fancied then that’s the dream. Until then I’ll muddle along like everyone else. "
Hope you find what you want |
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I think most of the time nothing! Occasionally, waiting to be pleasantly surprised.
it can be a really tough question to answer. Using a creative approach, you could start by listing all the things you’re definitely not looking for, it might help. |
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By *rettyflamingoWoman 50 weeks ago
Where the flamboyance of flamingos live |
Wasn’t t looking for anything for anything other than great sex with lovely people. As I said on my profile to ask me what I’m looking for demonstrates a lack of understanding for what swinging is.
That’s changed as I stumbled upon someone on here and we’re now in a relationship and very happy. |
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By *eliWoman 50 weeks ago
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There's not a particular thing. I don't think I've ever really looked for something whilst being on here. People. Seeing whatever unfolds, whether it's platonic, sexual or even romantic.
Right now? I'm the furthest away from looking for something on Fab than I've been in the past few years. And that works for me, beautifully. |
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By *RWoodyCouple 50 weeks ago
Lincolnshire |
"This is probably the most commonly asked question in our inbox.
So what are you looking for on fab? A quick fuck? A FWB?
Something else?
Has what you're looking for changed over the course of your fab journey?
I can honestly say I don't quite know right now what I'm looking for, I don't think I'm looking for anything at the moment, fabs a hard place to form a connection & that's something I need.
Mrs "
Its a good question Mrs Knights!
Our living situation has changed a fair bit since joining Fab, which has made us change a little too I think.
I've also very recently discovered that I'm much more nervous in the company of a third (unknown/stranger) than I thought I would be. Has that changed things? Not really sure yet.
I do like the distraction from everyday life on here, and I've had some chats with some great people. I think for now that'll be ok.
It's been really interesting to read everyones posts on this topic.
J x
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Think my reality changes regularly!
Real people, fun sex and friendship that you want whoever back again and again.
Dont want the dramatic people who promise and consistently hide.
How hard can it be!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Well since you asked
A woman who still has it together Despite the crap life has thrown at her .kind ,funny ,oh looks good in LBD when the need arises. Likes sex
OH lives in Norther Ireland
Wow pig just few passed my bedroom window things looking up LOL |
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"This is probably the most commonly asked question in our inbox.
So what are you looking for on fab? A quick fuck? A FWB?
Something else?
Has what you're looking for changed over the course of your fab journey?
I can honestly say I don't quite know right now what I'm looking for, I don't think I'm looking for anything at the moment, fabs a hard place to form a connection & that's something I need.
Mrs "
I'm looking for my wallet |
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At first I joined fab for the forums and to perv to kill time. I use other apps for meets and would only do ONS.
But now I've changed my mind. I'm game for making friends to attend clubs, socials and of course meets for sex - FWB scenario....until I meet someone Long term |
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A genuine connection with someone who wants to converse too.
The amount of people who make FAB hard work is amazing!
No pics, just dick pics, couples with only the woman in pics and a cock pic. Single guys who are just after a quick fuck and single women who don’t reply after one/two messages as your message is lost in the sea of messages!
So someone who genuinely wants to connect with a couple would be lovely 
K |
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"A genuine connection with someone who wants to converse too.
The amount of people who make FAB hard work is amazing!
No pics, just dick pics, couples with only the woman in pics and a cock pic. Single guys who are just after a quick fuck and single women who don’t reply after one/two messages as your message is lost in the sea of messages!
So someone who genuinely wants to connect with a couple would be lovely
K"
I'm with you on all of this, I think it's why I've given up on here a bit.
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Hmm a little confidence really, I know that probably sounds a little selfish but fuck it. Also if that leads to great experiences with awesome people then that's brilliant |
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"What I thought I was looking for, isn't what I found, and I'm glad about that, because who I found, she turned out to be more than I ever expected, and enhances my life beyond words.....
Mr "
Ahhh this is lovely.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Friends and friends with benefits mostly. Funnily enough the only people that ever ask that question are men in my DMs so I simply say "Women and femboys" and they never message me again for some reason!
My sights have never changed as I simply have no interest in normal men, I like my men to be man up and put on the skirt but so many are scared to. |
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"This is probably the most commonly asked question in our inbox.
So what are you looking for on fab? A quick fuck? A FWB?
Something else?
Has what you're looking for changed over the course of your fab journey?
I can honestly say I don't quite know right now what I'm looking for, I don't think I'm looking for anything at the moment, fabs a hard place to form a connection & that's something I need.
Mrs "
It started off to have fun but as time goes on it would be cool to meet someone that enjoys this life style as well and share that . But I do love chatting with friends I’ve made on here |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Good consistent regular kinky sexy fun times.
I've only been here a few months so not changed my fab goals yet, and have found one lovely new playmate already. Although the regular part isn't as regular as I'd like so far because we've had conflicting travels. |
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"What I thought I was looking for, isn't what I found, and I'm glad about that, because who I found, she turned out to be more than I ever expected, and enhances my life beyond words.....
Mr "
Oh this makes my heart happy 
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"What I thought I was looking for, isn't what I found, and I'm glad about that, because who I found, she turned out to be more than I ever expected, and enhances my life beyond words.....
Mr "
Aw (heart grows three sizes) |
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By *oxesMan 48 weeks ago
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"What I thought I was looking for, isn't what I found, and I'm glad about that, because who I found, she turned out to be more than I ever expected, and enhances my life beyond words.....
Mr
Oh this makes my heart happy
Tinder "
I'm glad you found someone on fab who turned it to be that special one. |
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"What I thought I was looking for, isn't what I found, and I'm glad about that, because who I found, she turned out to be more than I ever expected, and enhances my life beyond words.....
Mr
Faith you’re so beautiful
Aw (heart grows three sizes) "
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I was looking for a couple and I found a lovely one I meet regularly. I wasn't looking for more friends but I've found those too and they've really added something to my life, especially over the last year when I've been through quite a hard time and my Fab friends turned out to be most supportive.
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"I was looking for a couple and I found a lovely one I meet regularly. I wasn't looking for more friends but I've found those too and they've really added something to my life, especially over the last year when I've been through quite a hard time and my Fab friends turned out to be most supportive.
Thanks!!"
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"I was looking for a couple and I found a lovely one I meet regularly. I wasn't looking for more friends but I've found those too and they've really added something to my life, especially over the last year when I've been through quite a hard time and my Fab friends turned out to be most supportive.
Thanks!!"
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By *inamicMan 48 weeks ago
Blackpool |
Easy going see where things go I never say never to anything just depends what happens on the journey. Probably friendship and fun and go from there that would be how I start out with anyone. Then whatever comes to be will be.
Que sera sera |
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By *erces LetiferMan 48 weeks ago
Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters |
I used to think it was to learn, have a laugh and possible make some friends (oh, you sweet summer child).
Now I realise it's mostly to keep my self-esteem in check. I just log on whenever the ol' ego needs a good knock or two. Works like a charm |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Someone with a healthy to high sex drive, that will do affection, cuddles, sex, kink, going out, bonus points for a night or weekend away somewhere, going Dutch if course throughout, that is also open to doubling up for club occasionally, yet understands it's not a relationship and doesn't push for that or exclusivity, yet keeps contact going without being needy or demanding and generally being somewhat invested.
I'm asking a lot. But that would be the ideal. I kinda imagined guys that are married to their job or travel a lot and unable to maintain a relationship would be well suited.
I can dream.
A respectful fuck buddy would be good too. One that doesn't play games."
Yep I would that thanks for reminding me .Oh Merry Christmas |
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For us we always want a connection, our main focus is couples (but happy to connect with single men or women) but we don’t have much free time to meet so happy chattering and doing pics until the time is available as well as the right person/s!
But our minds are always open as don’t need to be too prescriptive |
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