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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.
Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"
I'd need more information to make an informed decision  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.
I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult. "
Agree with this one |
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"It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.
I’m disappointed, to say the least. "
I am a partner not a prison guard... my partner or any other person in my life is entitled to see whom ever they please. Just as I don't like someone, doesn't mean they aren't a valid part of their life |
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"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.
Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"
Are they doing anything physical ?
And it wouldn't change how attracted I would be , would be a turn on if you got told details and invited  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While it wouldn’t be my place to dictate who they see or associate with, it IS my place to maintain my boundaries for myself. If I really don’t want person x connected to my life in any way, and a partner doesn’t respect that, it’s finished. |
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"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.
I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.
This. I’d end it. And I have before "
Pretty sure this is what will happen.
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"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.
I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.
This. I’d end it. And I have before
Pretty sure this is what will happen.
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I didn’t say why. It’s not up to me what other people do but it’s up to me what I do x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its a sexual partner, then it's none of my business. If its an actual partner, it's still none of my business but I'd step in if I thought they were truly toxic to their life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.
I’m disappointed, to say the least. "
That sounds tough. Hugs.
If they don't have the sense to see that, there isn't much you can do. They can just exercise their freedom and find out for themselves what life means without you perhaps. If they care, they will find ways to make it work without dismissing your feelings. X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.
I’m disappointed, to say the least. "
If it was a platonic friendship then I’d voice my concerns if I thought that person wasn’t bringing out the best in them.
But ultimately it’s up to them on wether the continue that friendship or not. If it was causing problems for us and they failed to recognise that, I’d walk away. |
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"It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.
I’m disappointed, to say the least.
That sounds tough. Hugs.
If they don't have the sense to see that, there isn't much you can do. They can just exercise their freedom and find out for themselves what life means without you perhaps. If they care, they will find ways to make it work without dismissing your feelings. X
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Thank you. This is good advice x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's varying degrees, right? Most people have a friend that's a dick and it'd be mildly annoying having to tolerate the dick's company, however if they were aligned with Combat 18 I'd probably drop them out. |
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It depends really on what it was I don't like about them. If it was something nebulous like their political views or general outlook, then I'd try to move past it. But if it was something profound selfishness, mis-treating others, harming animals or generally going through life hurting and upsetting other people without giving a damn, then being friends (or more) would reflect rather poorly on my partner, in my eyes. That my he could dismiss that kind of behaviour for his own gratification would lower my opinion of my partner.
Mrs W |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.
Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"
Would depend who the other person I didn’t like was! For example if it’s her Ex or someone who has a crush on her or vice versa  then it’s goodbye haha
If it’s her annoying friend she’s known for years for example, then it’s fine long as they hangout away from my house  . We not all always gonna get along with all our partners family & friends & it’s ok |
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I would try to be tolerate, enlightened- all the good stuff. But I would probably fail because my partner's tastes would reflect their character, and by extension mine. You seem a pretty special kind of person, OP. Remind your partner how very very lucky they are! |
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"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.
Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"
I'd be annoyed we hadn't had a good conversation about it first. A partner is free to do as she wishes, but if I was worried for her, or had to live with the consequences of their friendship, like bad mood, irritibality, etc, I'd object. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.
Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?
Yes.  "
But proper communication is necessary to sort out any issues arising. |
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"It depends really on what it was I don't like about them. If it was something nebulous like their political views or general outlook, then I'd try to move past it. But if it was something profound selfishness, mis-treating others, harming animals or generally going through life hurting and upsetting other people without giving a damn, then being friends (or more) would reflect rather poorly on my partner, in my eyes. That my he could dismiss that kind of behaviour for his own gratification would lower my opinion of my partner.
Mrs W"
Yeah. It’s the latter. And that’s what’s upsetting for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.
I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.
It’s not platonic  "
Oh then I would find that very difficult and could potentially be a boundary for me. I don't like to dictate to people who they can spend time with but if they're someone that you hate that's kind of shitty.
I guess it would depend on the history between the two women. If they hate each other etc.
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"It depends really on what it was I don't like about them. If it was something nebulous like their political views or general outlook, then I'd try to move past it. But if it was something profound selfishness, mis-treating others, harming animals or generally going through life hurting and upsetting other people without giving a damn, then being friends (or more) would reflect rather poorly on my partner, in my eyes. That my he could dismiss that kind of behaviour for his own gratification would lower my opinion of my partner.
Mrs W
Yeah. It’s the latter. And that’s what’s upsetting for me."
Someone going though life harming people and not giving a damn. Or worse, possibly enjoying themselves.
I feel that choosing to be friendly with a person like that reflects poorly on their judgement and also their own character. |
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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago
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"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.
I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.
It’s not platonic "
I can't tell you what to do, but if it was me (for my own sanity) our relationship would be ended.
It can't be good for your health or mental state.
I feel for you...
Sending you virtual hugs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"While it wouldn’t be my place to dictate who they see or associate with, it IS my place to maintain my boundaries for myself. If I really don’t want person x connected to my life in any way, and a partner doesn’t respect that, it’s finished. "
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