I have seen a increase in what's called a bratty sub. Which is kind of good and kind of hard to get around. It's a break from the standard, some subs used to purposely break rules to be punished . Are you a bratty sub and if so how do you like to show this side. And if your a Dom or Domme how do you like to handle the bratty sub? |
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I am a sub. So take it with a pinch of salt. The truck is to find a punishment that the sub doesn't particularly enjoy but is willing to do. If the sub enjoys the punishment, you will end up with them intentionally trying to be punished. |
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over a year ago
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I'm a sub.
I like to be cheeky now and again, wind up etc but I'm not ever a bitch or mean.
Where does cheekyness turn to brattiness which can turn to being a bitch I wonder.... |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I am a sub. So take it with a pinch of salt. The truck is to find a punishment that the sub doesn't particularly enjoy but is willing to do. If the sub enjoys the punishment, you will end up with them intentionally trying to be punished."
Withholding orgasms and sex usually works |
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I can be sub with hubby which usually turns into me being a bratty. Especially when we’re out and about so cannot be overly sexually in public.
I’m just in for the spanks and the hard pounding I’ll get when we get home for being cheeky |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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"I am a sub. So take it with a pinch of salt. The truck is to find a punishment that the sub doesn't particularly enjoy but is willing to do. If the sub enjoys the punishment, you will end up with them intentionally trying to be punished.
Withholding orgasms and sex usually works "
This is why I could never be a Sub - bratty or otherwise. If someone tried that with me that wouldn't get another crack at the whip! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I am a sub. So take it with a pinch of salt. The truck is to find a punishment that the sub doesn't particularly enjoy but is willing to do. If the sub enjoys the punishment, you will end up with them intentionally trying to be punished.
Withholding orgasms and sex usually works
This is why I could never be a Sub - bratty or otherwise. If someone tried that with me that wouldn't get another crack at the whip! "
Same, I’d be like nice knowing you - bye! |
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"I have seen a increase in what's called a bratty sub. Which is kind of good and kind of hard to get around. It's a break from the standard, some subs used to purposely break rules to be punished . Are you a bratty sub and if so how do you like to show this side. And if your a Dom or Domme how do you like to handle the bratty sub?"
We have a dom sub contract with a tally system for strikes.
Strikes equal a myriad of punishments |
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I believe being able to deal with a bratty submissive separates the fake Doms from the real ones who actually understand what the D/s dynamic is all about.
Wouldn’t say I’m “Dom” but do have dominant tendencies. My partner is full submissive with a bratty side. She enjoys pushing the limits to a degree as well and I enjoy putting her in her place when needed to  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't really say I'm a sub but I do have a slight, minor bratty streak. Possibly.
It really depends on the nature of the dynamic I have with a person - it doesn't mean I'm like that always.
Some people I guess I'm more teasing with? I like erm... challenging people a little bit. Seeing how they'll respond. Those little growls where I know that I'm really going to be fucked. Hard.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m definitely submissive with my hubby. I think most ladies like a man to take control, but bratty to me, rings out childish, and it just ain’t for me . |
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For me there is a line
I like a brat. Someone who can challenge me in the regards that they won’t necessarily do anything or all that I ask. That for me can become boring.
So yes push back on things, some call it a brat and others will say it’s the submissive wanting to know the reason. Otherwise they may not understand the reason behind something being it be for good or punishment.
That said I also like when they receive a look that the proverbial tug on the leash has occurred
Bratting for fun and/or understanding then yes.
Bratting for trying to top from the bottom. No |
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"I am a sub. So take it with a pinch of salt. The truck is to find a punishment that the sub doesn't particularly enjoy but is willing to do. If the sub enjoys the punishment, you will end up with them intentionally trying to be punished.
Withholding orgasms and sex usually works
This is why I could never be a Sub - bratty or otherwise. If someone tried that with me that wouldn't get another crack at the whip! "
Can't imagine anyone withholding sex after seeing your sexy ass  |
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"I have seen a increase in what's called a bratty sub. Which is kind of good and kind of hard to get around. It's a break from the standard, some subs used to purposely break rules to be punished . Are you a bratty sub and if so how do you like to show this side. And if your a Dom or Domme how do you like to handle the bratty sub?
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We have a dom sub contract and our dynamic is protocol based with a tally system for strikes.
Strikes equal a myriad of punishments.
We don’t really use pain as a punishment as A is pain adverse so we have to be creative.
Our scenes tend to be more fun when A is channeling her inner brat as there is a different level of energy that reverberates between us both, and I know she is looking for punishment when she is playing up like that, she will often try and goad a response from me. The most effective punishment is touch deprivation, A has a real need for sensual touch and removing this as punishment has the desired effect. |
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"For me there is a line
I like a brat. Someone who can challenge me in the regards that they won’t necessarily do anything or all that I ask. That for me can become boring.
So yes push back on things, some call it a brat and others will say it’s the submissive wanting to know the reason. Otherwise they may not understand the reason behind something being it be for good or punishment.
That said I also like when they receive a look that the proverbial tug on the leash has occurred
Bratting for fun and/or understanding then yes.
Bratting for trying to top from the bottom. No "
The second would not be tolerated in our dynamic and would come with the strongest response possible. |
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"I'm a sub.
I like to be cheeky now and again, wind up etc but I'm not ever a bitch or mean.
Where does cheekyness turn to brattiness which can turn to being a bitch I wonder...."
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"I believe being able to deal with a bratty submissive separates the fake Doms from the real ones who actually understand what the D/s dynamic is all about.
Wouldn’t say I’m “Dom” but do have dominant tendencies. My partner is full submissive with a bratty side. She enjoys pushing the limits to a degree as well and I enjoy putting her in her place when needed to "
I disagree. It's not, but its up to integration but a good Dom have set rules, a good sub also does. Some bratty girls/subs are trying to Dom from the bottom and should maybe really review their own place as well. It's like saying a good boss will always make a team work. No a good boss knows who to sack, who to promote and who to train |
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"I believe being able to deal with a bratty submissive separates the fake Doms from the real ones who actually understand what the D/s dynamic is all about.
Wouldn’t say I’m “Dom” but do have dominant tendencies. My partner is full submissive with a bratty side. She enjoys pushing the limits to a degree as well and I enjoy putting her in her place when needed to I disagree. It's not, but its up to integration but a good Dom have set rules, a good sub also does. Some bratty girls/subs are trying to Dom from the bottom and should maybe really review their own place as well. It's like saying a good boss will always make a team work. No a good boss knows who to sack, who to promote and who to train "
Never really thought of it that way… however I’m sure the bratty sub isn’t trying to top from the bottom, but more see how much their Dom is willing to do and if they can really lay the down the law (if that’s what they’re claiming) all within the boundaries of consent of course. A good boss will make a team work to a certain degree, sacking someone should only come with every other Avenue has been explored but hasn’t been successful |
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I am a brat to me it's about an energy and not dealing with it in the best way so need an equal to help me. I can feel the brat energy starting to bubble away. Where I start daydreaming of ways to provoke the other half, thinking of the best way to generate the response I'd like. But I want to be good and well behaved. So I pack those thoughts away and get on with my day. But those thoughts and ideas, will get the better of me eventually, they always do. Maybe I should tell him the way I'm thinking? That would be the sensible way would it not? But we both know I'm not wired that way. When that energy gets on top of me I like pushing your buttons seeing how far I can push you. Safe in the knowledge that no matter how ridiculous I'm being he's my safe place. After I tested him to his limits it's his turn to push me to mine. That then restoring the balance to our relationship. And uses that energy up which left to its own devices comes out in unfortunate ways. So this is how we channel it and use it. Plus we find it like a mental game of chess, as long as both parties know and are happy with the rules it's all good, is it not? |
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I’ve seen the same and in most cases it feels like a sun looking to be punished h (masochistic tendencies) or a switcher.
Personally I'm in the camp that says subs should be submissive. I'm all for testing limits and pushing boundaries when it's driven bytheDom but let's not get carried away here.
For me, a bratty, Saab is walking a very fine line and whilst mentally stimulating also very frustrating and no sub once of frustrated Dom. Or do they?for me, a bratty, Saab is walking a very fine line and whilst mentally stimulating also very frustrating and no sub once of frustrated them |
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"I’ve seen the same and in most cases it feels like a sun looking to be punished h (masochistic tendencies) or a switcher.
Personally I'm in the camp that says subs should be submissive. I'm all for testing limits and pushing boundaries when it's driven bytheDom but let's not get carried away here.
For me, a bratty, Saab is walking a very fine line and whilst mentally stimulating also very frustrating and no sub once of frustrated Dom. Or do they?for me, a bratty, Saab is walking a very fine line and whilst mentally stimulating also very frustrating and no sub once of frustrated them"
Why do a lot of Dom’s think all punishment has to be masochistic in nature?
It sounds you prefer your subs to be a door mats.
The whole you will do as I say and will follow everything I say no questions as seems more like a 50 shades bully than a dom.
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I generally don't play with bratty subs. Not my dynamic.
I don't expect a sub to be a doormat and do everything I say. I welcome respectful discussion between Dom and sub. What I don't like is misbehaviour in order to manipulate a scene. |
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I used to think I was a brat back in the day.
I'm not. I'm not even a sub. Luckily I've found partners who know and appreciate who and what I am.
But if people want to play with that dynamic that's up to them  |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"I generally don't play with bratty subs. Not my dynamic.
I don't expect a sub to be a doormat and do everything I say. I welcome respectful discussion between Dom and sub. What I don't like is misbehaviour in order to manipulate a scene."
This, I don't do brats. I generally like strong minded subs, and there is a huge difference between being manipulated and polite feedback. There are what I call the "cheeky chappie" subs. It is part of their nature to goof around and nothing to do with the submission. However, they may sometimes need to be reminded of the line, and consequences of crossing it. Personally I don't want an Inspector Clouseau and Cato relationship, others like it. It is preference not a sign of "domliness".
I recently ran into a friend who tried to be my submissive a number of years back but constantly misbehaved. She told me that she has realised that she is not a submissive but liked the B/D and S/M but not the D/s.
People have different styles of submission, in the same way people have different styles of domination. There is no true way. A submissive does not have to put up with an overbearing Dom. Likewise a Dom does not have to put up with a sub they does not play nice. |
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