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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When it comes to the kiss?
A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.
I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..
So are you the leaner? The leanee?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine.
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"When it comes to the kiss?
A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.
I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..
So are you the leaner? The leanee? "
With you, I’d take a risk and be the leaner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually use the standardised rulse of joust, lean in fully, commit, with intention to splinter or break the opposition's exposed lance for the point.
Dead good at kissing, me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine.
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Would you consider vagina  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine.
Would you consider vagina "
I'm not particularly fond of my own so I'd have to say no. |
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"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine."
^ This. What she said.
With the genders reversed, and with the penis in my case already being mine. But otherwise bang on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When it comes to the kiss?
A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.
I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..
So are you the leaner? The leanee? "
If there is no resistive force in the separating space then Newton’s 6th law of motion suggests there should be no leaning involved. It’s called magnetic attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine.
Would you consider vagina
I'm not particularly fond of my own so I'd have to say no. "
Lol you know I was joking right?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When it comes to the kiss?
A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.
I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..
So are you the leaner? The leanee? "
Leanee, I don't know its gonna happen til they pounce  |
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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago
Lagos, Portugal// Andover |
"I never lean in , mostly because I'm thinking that they are thinking " wtf is she doing" so to spare myself any embarrassment I don't do it "
I have never thought about it, and only recall who leaned in once. The rest of the time it just felt right.
I met a woman this year at a club. We had been talking and I asked "Do you kiss?"
She said yes and we leaned in together. |
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"I never lean in , mostly because I'm thinking that they are thinking " wtf is she doing" so to spare myself any embarrassment I don't do it
I have never thought about it, and only recall who leaned in once. The rest of the time it just felt right.
I met a woman this year at a club. We had been talking and I asked "Do you kiss?"
She said yes and we leaned in together. "
Fair enough... i just have crippling self doubt... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine.
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And they say romance is dead!
Never mind, I'll settle for lust... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine.
^ This. What she said.
With the genders reversed, and with the penis in my case already being mine. But otherwise bang on."
We're gonna end up a serious head injury |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't ever think about it in those terms. Just happens. I can't even recall who did what first when I am overtaken by the sensation. 
Someone should film it and show me for scientific purposes.
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I'm 50...Ive been snogging and kissing etc for 37 years. I think I've done all the percentages of leans.
My fave at the minute is to go all in..Im very happy in my thirst for kisses and want my people to know that I'm all in for them! Maybe 90%..so they have 10% choice of refusal ha!
I'm sure it will change again at some point.
There's something nice about meeting halfway.
All the possibities.
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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago
Lagos, Portugal// Andover |
"I tend to make sure they have something solid behind them like a wall, so when I go in for a hot passionate wild kiss, they can't run away! "
Would a moderately firm bed be exceptable? |
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"Leanée.
Always the leanée. 
Mind you, there were a few times I felt like being a leaner at the last social, but didn’t dare to.  back to a first proper social in 2 years, so need to pace myself. "
*clears throat* *nods*
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As a 21st century man I am absolutely the leanee unless I have had enthusiastic consent that a kiss is welcomed. I'm too shy to ask and she would need to go to 99 because I'm too dumb to pick up any signals as subtle as going 90
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to make sure they have something solid behind them like a wall, so when I go in for a hot passionate wild kiss, they can't run away! "
This is a very solid advice. The first time M. Kissed me I almost dented the side of the car.. 
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"As a 21st century man I am absolutely the leanee unless I have had enthusiastic consent that a kiss is welcomed. I'm too shy to ask and she would need to go to 99 because I'm too dumb to pick up any signals as subtle as going 90
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B"
Trust me, B, you know when someone is even going 60% |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to make sure they have something solid behind them like a wall, so when I go in for a hot passionate wild kiss, they can't run away!
This is a very solid advice. The first time M. Kissed me I almost dented the side of the car..
T
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You do make me laugh ... |
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"When it comes to the kiss?
A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.
I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..
So are you the leaner? The leanee?
If there is no resistive force in the separating space then Newton’s 6th law of motion suggests there should be no leaning involved. It’s called magnetic attraction."
You can’t go straight to 6th law.
Kissing is 1st law surely? That there needs to be an outside force (therefore leaning). Definitely not wanting 3rd law because then there would be leaning followed by slapping |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When it comes to the kiss?
A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.
I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..
So are you the leaner? The leanee? "
Lean in.. I am not necking nor into love bites. Nor tower of pizza.. I do not kiss folk who are not my type either.
It does not mean I love them either.
Not sure I want to kiss anyone |
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And to answer the question…
Generally I wouldn’t say I lean. I’m definitely the leanee. Playing it cool…
I apologise wholeheartedly to the poor innocent fella on Friday who I disproved that rule to |
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"As a 21st century man I am absolutely the leanee unless I have had enthusiastic consent that a kiss is welcomed. I'm too shy to ask and she would need to go to 99 because I'm too dumb to pick up any signals as subtle as going 90
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B
Trust me, B, you know when someone is even going 60%"
This sprung to mind as I read this
https://youtu.be/UsPbfP2OYpc?si=RLsRHmB-_M-b4fc3 |
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"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine.
"
Well there you go. Boom boom |
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"As a 21st century man I am absolutely the leanee unless I have had enthusiastic consent that a kiss is welcomed. I'm too shy to ask and she would need to go to 99 because I'm too dumb to pick up any signals as subtle as going 90
.
B
Trust me, B, you know when someone is even going 60%
This sprung to mind as I read this
https://youtu.be/UsPbfP2OYpc?si=RLsRHmB-_M-b4fc3"
Omg that one is awful |
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"I think I'm the leaner.  I need to stop being so forward with my lips.
J
Absolutely not. Never. Beautiful lips
You leaned in first on Friday. "
I have to be honest I offer free snogs. It’s just my way of getting to know someone better. You didn’t lean away |
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"As a 21st century man I am absolutely the leanee unless I have had enthusiastic consent that a kiss is welcomed. I'm too shy to ask and she would need to go to 99 because I'm too dumb to pick up any signals as subtle as going 90
.
B
Trust me, B, you know when someone is even going 60%
This sprung to mind as I read this
https://youtu.be/UsPbfP2OYpc?si=RLsRHmB-_M-b4fc3
Omg that one is awful "
I feel like that dude is me but oblivious not to be shady.
B |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.
But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.
And bam. Penis is mine.
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" And bam. Penis is mine."
I love it! |
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It's that moment of lingering eye contact where you're thinking, "does she want me to kiss her?, should I go for this?". Then I'll inch my face a little closer (not too close though so as to be able to smile and inch back again without looking too much the fool if I think I've read it wrong) and pause, if she moves in herself then we're on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I feel a connection then I tend to just lean in as soon as appropriate.
Quite often you can tell within moments if a spark exists and you can feel the sexual tension building. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know. I've never really thought about it. I guess it depends?
I'm quite cautious when it comes to potentially having my erm, advances, rejected so possibly more the leanee? Sounds right. |
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