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"I'm very happy staying single, I think I'm at the age I'll probably remain that way now... Does anyone 'middle aged', feel they get grief for being solo? "
I like being single. No grief for me.. I'd rather find f budy yo date ect but stay single |
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over a year ago
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I am the same way. I'm genuinely very happy being single and I cannot see that changing.
Everyone that knows me understands my stance on it and they accept my choice. |
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Hi there ive been single for a year and a half now and i like the independance. I have a regular fuck buddy though, we go out for drinks meals etc. So i get the best of both worlds lol
Would be nice to have a high heeled queen though |
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"When someone asks me why I haven't 'settled down', I like to fake cry and wail "because no one will have meeeeeee"
This is an enormous source if amusement to me. "
Hmmm, not sure I feel the need to fake cry, nor wail. I normally just tell them to fuck off, and mind their own business  |
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"When someone asks me why I haven't 'settled down', I like to fake cry and wail "because no one will have meeeeeee"
This is an enormous source if amusement to me.
Hmmm, not sure I feel the need to fake cry, nor wail. I normally just tell them to fuck off, and mind their own business "
I like that response, straight to the point! Lol |
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over a year ago
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After a short conversation, they quickly lose any confusion why I’m single. …. 
If anyone does ask, I normally make a joke, or make it weird , that sorts that out. 
I’m not happy being single, but I’m also not crying about it either. |
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"After a short conversation, they quickly lose any confusion why I’m single. ….
If anyone does ask, I normally make a joke, or make it weird , that sorts that out.
I’m not happy being single, but I’m also not crying about it either. "
What would your ideal be? |
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over a year ago
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"After a short conversation, they quickly lose any confusion why I’m single. ….
If anyone does ask, I normally make a joke, or make it weird , that sorts that out.
I’m not happy being single, but I’m also not crying about it either.
What would your ideal be?"
Simple answer is, not to be single  |
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over a year ago
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"After a short conversation, they quickly lose any confusion why I’m single. ….
If anyone does ask, I normally make a joke, or make it weird , that sorts that out.
I’m not happy being single, but I’m also not crying about it either.
What would your ideal be?
Simple answer is, not to be single "
Hahah no shit |
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"But you're essentially still a 'couple' though yes?... Or are you both solo singles? "
We keep telling people we're not a couple because in the traditional sense we're not. We're poly too and both free to do as we please but we find it more fun exploring together.
We're just two people who get each other really x |
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"But you're essentially still a 'couple' though yes?... Or are you both solo singles?
We keep telling people we're not a couple because in the traditional sense we're not. We're poly too and both free to do as we please but we find it more fun exploring together.
We're just two people who get each other really x"
I totally get that and I've been part of a poly thruple myself in the past... But you're still essentially a couple right?... Or else you'd just both be single? |
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"After a short conversation, they quickly lose any confusion why I’m single. ….
If anyone does ask, I normally make a joke, or make it weird , that sorts that out.
I’m not happy being single, but I’m also not crying about it either.
What would your ideal be?
Simple answer is, not to be single
Hahah no shit "
I suppose that’s the bonus of being single. NO SHIT!! |
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Yeah my mono friends ask why I'm a longterm single, who dates at the weekends. "because I'm happy" is my answer, I've zero intention of forging a "proper" relationship. I'm loving my longterm fwb's instead |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You only stigmatise yourself nobody gives a toss "
…. This is supposed to cheer us up?….
Haha. … I never wanted to drink alone so early in the day. I’ll be in the corner,,… crying and realising nobody gives a shit about me … |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope.
Majority of my friends envy I don't have a guy to deal with on a daily basis.
Some people are just meant to be alone.
Relationships suck.
Love is a crock of shit.
Men LIE!!!!
*I'm actually in a good mood though I may not seem it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I adore being single.. I only want to be responsible for my own happiness no one else's. I think of men like people think if children that aren't theirs .. It's lovely to see them but it's nice when they go home. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.
Majority of my friends envy I don't have a guy to deal with on a daily basis.
Some people are just meant to be alone.
Relationships suck.
Love is a crock of shit.
Men LIE!!!!
*I'm actually in a good mood though I may not seem it. "
I’d like to say, love is dangerous, it’s definitely not shit, it’s powerful and has so much potential of giving you everything you need and want. A bit like uranium in a nuclear reactor …. It can also explode and kill you if handled incorrectly by someone with carelessness
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.
Majority of my friends envy I don't have a guy to deal with on a daily basis.
Some people are just meant to be alone.
Relationships suck.
Love is a crock of shit.
Men LIE!!!!
*I'm actually in a good mood though I may not seem it.
I’d like to say, love is dangerous, it’s definitely not shit, it’s powerful and has so much potential of giving you everything you need and want. A bit like uranium in a nuclear reactor …. It can also explode and kill you if handled incorrectly by someone with carelessness
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Only an idiot plays with uranium... |
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I am happy to be single and I intend to stay that way. And to answer the other part of your question OP, I don’t feel stigmatised by my friends or family. They can see the reasons behind me never going to be trying to enter any “relationship”, whatever that can be and respectand and understand that.
I think it’s the societal pressure that sometimes makes us feel that way but it’s not always the simple answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.
Majority of my friends envy I don't have a guy to deal with on a daily basis.
Some people are just meant to be alone.
Relationships suck.
Love is a crock of shit.
Men LIE!!!!
*I'm actually in a good mood though I may not seem it.
I’d like to say, love is dangerous, it’s definitely not shit, it’s powerful and has so much potential of giving you everything you need and want. A bit like uranium in a nuclear reactor …. It can also explode and kill you if handled incorrectly by someone with carelessness
Only an idiot plays with uranium..."
It’s normally a Russian. |
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Friends don't mind or don't bother me anymore, they know I'm happy and that's that. Family will regularly ask, 'why don't you meet a nice girl?', as if it's essential i do or the world will break. Then I have to tell them once again that I'm not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.
Majority of my friends envy I don't have a guy to deal with on a daily basis.
Some people are just meant to be alone.
Relationships suck.
Love is a crock of shit.
Men LIE!!!!
*I'm actually in a good mood though I may not seem it. "
Love is everything? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After a short conversation, they quickly lose any confusion why I’m single. ….
If anyone does ask, I normally make a joke, or make it weird , that sorts that out.
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This!  |
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"I'm very happy staying single, I think I'm at the age I'll probably remain that way now... Does anyone 'middle aged', feel they get grief for being solo? "
Nope.
Never.
I'd laugh in someone's face if they thought to do it, and I bloody love a giggle, me.
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I do enjoy it the majority of the time, i like not having to check with anyone and do what I want when I want. However there is a part of me that wonders why no one wants me for anything more than sex. What is so wrong with me that no one wants to love me. I often get asked about am I dating anyone. I just mumble something and they lose interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.
Majority of my friends envy I don't have a guy to deal with on a daily basis.
Some people are just meant to be alone.
Relationships suck.
Love is a crock of shit.
Men LIE!!!!
*I'm actually in a good mood though I may not seem it.
Love is everything?"
Er no. |
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"I'm very happy staying single, I think I'm at the age I'll probably remain that way now... Does anyone 'middle aged', feel they get grief for being solo?
I like being single. No grief for me.. I'd rather find f budy yo date ect but stay single"
Not sure why people equate being in a relationship as having grief...that's more about finding the right person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do get some judgement to be sure, like I must have been an arsehole in every previous relationship.
Reality is I travel so much it’s hard on a relationship. It’s not like the military when there are long periods away and and long periods home, and while away the other person has all the other wives and girlfriends for support. I’m away for weeks at a time and back for days for 80% of the year. |
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As a childless woman living alone in my late thirties, I quite often get those weird pitying looks from people who dont know me.
But people who know me know how fucking miserable I'd be any other way |
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over a year ago
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After nearly 8 years of being single my friends and family have mostly stopped commenting on it.
I’m fairly happy and content with my single life.
I think society puts pressure on people to think they need to be in a couple as it’s the “norm”.
If you’re happy then that’s what matters the most. |
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I used to get comments from the more mature family members, aunts mainly, at weddings.
They’d give you that look and say, ‘ahh, you’ll be next’.
Soon put a stop to that, next funeral we were at I looked at one of them and said, ‘ you’ll be next’ , with a smile.
Never heard it again |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I used to get comments from the more mature family members, aunts mainly, at weddings.
They’d give you that look and say, ‘ahh, you’ll be next’.
Soon put a stop to that, next funeral we were at I looked at one of them and said, ‘ you’ll be next’ , with a smile.
Never heard it again "
Such a charmer |
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"I used to get comments from the more mature family members, aunts mainly, at weddings.
They’d give you that look and say, ‘ahh, you’ll be next’.
Soon put a stop to that, next funeral we were at I looked at one of them and said, ‘ you’ll be next’ , with a smile.
Never heard it again
Such a charmer "
I am charm personified
I see you still haven’t got that dress mended |
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"I'm very happy staying single, I think I'm at the age I'll probably remain that way now... Does anyone 'middle aged', feel they get grief for being solo? "
Your friends tell you that you 'deserve more/better'. Yeah, thanks  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I used to get comments from the more mature family members, aunts mainly, at weddings.
They’d give you that look and say, ‘ahh, you’ll be next’.
Soon put a stop to that, next funeral we were at I looked at one of them and said, ‘ you’ll be next’ , with a smile.
Never heard it again
Such a charmer
I am charm personified
I see you still haven’t got that dress mended "
No point, It’ll only get ripped off again  |
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I'm not single but of my four friends, two are and I have one 'good acquaintance ' who is too. They are asked why sometimes and people often speculate as to the reason. I wouldn't say they're stigmatised but people are very aware that they're single in a way they wouldn't be if they were partnered, this particularly applies to the guy and there has been speculation as to his sexual orientation in my ear shot...as if it matters or is anyone's business  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am 22 and never dated anyone ever so it’s abit embarrassing  "
A comment that has been passed over.
Not sure why it is embarassing. Clearly you are happy to meet people, and it's up to you whether those meets become more frequent and are tgen termed dates. Just enjoy being young and having fun (and being single). |
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I think I got it more in my 30s, people would ask if I'd thought about having another child. Even though I was single, I was like why? I've had one, been there done that, don't really want to be tied down for an extra 10/15 years after the first one has left home.. certainly didn't want to be left doing it all on my own again either.
I get asked less often now I'm mid 40s.
I see what other people go through with their partners... Not that many are truly happy, I think here is a good reflection of that, the number that aren't satisfied at home and looking elsewhere.
I'd rather just be on my own, to do what I want, when I want, with who I want! |
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I love being single. I'm not keen on someone else occupying my space.
If I was to be in a rship then seeing them every 2nd or 3rd weekend and maybe a holiday once a year and a few weekends away would suffice.
No wonder I'm single really |
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"After nearly 8 years of being single my friends and family have mostly stopped commenting on it.
I’m fairly happy and content with my single life.
I think society puts pressure on people to think they need to be in a couple as it’s the “norm”.
If you’re happy then that’s what
matters the most."
Thats bang on. |
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My friends and family absolutely understand why I’m single and that I’m happy as I am. I find it odd that people who don’t know me think it’s appropriate to comment on it. Like the kids thing. Mind your business. |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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Only time I ever feel stigmatised for being single is when I go to a table service bar and get ignored because the staff assume I'm waiting for a guy. Really grinds my gears. Otherwise everyone I know accepts and understands why I chose to be single |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men don't generally get grief but I've known plenty of single ladies talked about and family saying it's not right but it's your life do what you want as long as your enjoying it so be it. |
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I do get asked by people who dont know me that well when am I going to get snapped up. My family and friends however know that I'm too much of a lone wolf. I'm happily single and unless I manage to find a partner who also wants to remain living separately, I shall remain that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am painfully sarcastic, full of inappropriate and offensive jokes and spend an unhealthy amount of time working or on holiday.
Nobody questions why I am single. They know why i am single. |
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over a year ago
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"I am painfully sarcastic, full of inappropriate and offensive jokes and spend an unhealthy amount of time working or on holiday.
Nobody questions why I am single. They know why i am single. "
And to be fair you’re from Aylesbury? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do get asked by people who dont know me that well when am I going to get snapped up. My family and friends however know that I'm too much of a lone wolf. I'm happily single and unless I manage to find a partner who also wants to remain living separately, I shall remain that way "
Is that because you have a patio full of bodies? |
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over a year ago
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"I am painfully sarcastic, full of inappropriate and offensive jokes and spend an unhealthy amount of time working or on holiday.
Nobody questions why I am single. They know why i am single.
And to be fair you’re from Aylesbury?"
Fantastic place I think |
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over a year ago
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"I am painfully sarcastic, full of inappropriate and offensive jokes and spend an unhealthy amount of time working or on holiday.
Nobody questions why I am single. They know why i am single.
And to be fair you’re from Aylesbury?
Fantastic place I think"
For single people apparently. |
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"Mgtow is the way .. too many unhappy couples. Dont really think as a species we are meant to partner up long term. "
Really? An openly misogynistic community advocating for no female contact is an odd choice for someone on fab.
J |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
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"Mgtow is the way .. too many unhappy couples. Dont really think as a species we are meant to partner up long term.
Really? An openly misogynistic community advocating for no female contact is an odd choice for someone on fab.
J"
Not true. Not needing a partner isn't misogynistic. I would argue to opposite is true. |
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over a year ago
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"I am painfully sarcastic, full of inappropriate and offensive jokes and spend an unhealthy amount of time working or on holiday.
Nobody questions why I am single. They know why i am single.
And to be fair you’re from Aylesbury?
Fantastic place I think
For single people apparently."
I think there's a few happy couples here too.
We have great food options. Must be why |
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"Mgtow is the way .. too many unhappy couples. Dont really think as a species we are meant to partner up long term.
Really? An openly misogynistic community advocating for no female contact is an odd choice for someone on fab.
J
Not true. Not needing a partner isn't misogynistic. I would argue to opposite is true."
Not needing/wanting a partner isn't misogynistic. MGTOW is misogynistic. |
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over a year ago
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"I am painfully sarcastic, full of inappropriate and offensive jokes and spend an unhealthy amount of time working or on holiday.
Nobody questions why I am single. They know why i am single.
And to be fair you’re from Aylesbury?
Fantastic place I think
For single people apparently.
I think there's a few happy couples here too.
We have great food options. Must be why"
Must be |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
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"Mgtow is the way .. too many unhappy couples. Dont really think as a species we are meant to partner up long term.
Really? An openly misogynistic community advocating for no female contact is an odd choice for someone on fab.
J
Not true. Not needing a partner isn't misogynistic. I would argue to opposite is true.
Not needing/wanting a partner isn't misogynistic. MGTOW is misogynistic. "
in what way ? Men going their own way ... not requiring women to survive ? Being totally independent. |
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"Mgtow is the way .. too many unhappy couples. Dont really think as a species we are meant to partner up long term.
Really? An openly misogynistic community advocating for no female contact is an odd choice for someone on fab.
J
Not true. Not needing a partner isn't misogynistic. I would argue to opposite is true.
Not needing/wanting a partner isn't misogynistic. MGTOW is misogynistic. in what way ? Men going their own way ... not requiring women to survive ? Being totally independent. "
Someone has been red-pilled
J |
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Yes.
I (and the one remaining singleton from our circle of friends) have been ostracised from the group.
If you haven't got kids you get get invited.
Unless they need you for something, obviously. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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The grief of the do-gooders, and the never ending match-making from friends & relatives who 'someone like you shouldnt be single, we know someone, recently single, great personality'...blah blah blah
We don't all have to spawn  |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
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"Mgtow is the way .. too many unhappy couples. Dont really think as a species we are meant to partner up long term.
Really? An openly misogynistic community advocating for no female contact is an odd choice for someone on fab.
J
Not true. Not needing a partner isn't misogynistic. I would argue to opposite is true.
Not needing/wanting a partner isn't misogynistic. MGTOW is misogynistic. in what way ? Men going their own way ... not requiring women to survive ? Being totally independent.
Someone has been red-pilled
Just go straight to Incel then ... Jesus. I'm totally independent. Don't hate women. Don't need a woman. Don't expect anything from a woman. I honestly believe long-term relationships Don't work . . A lot of women are happy alone too .
J"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I'm single but it's attrituble to me.being
1. Unlucky with the choice of woman
2..I'm so fucking shite at picking women up its an art form
3. Disasterous relationships.. (see no. 1)
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"Mgtow is the way .. too many unhappy couples. Dont really think as a species we are meant to partner up long term.
Really? An openly misogynistic community advocating for no female contact is an odd choice for someone on fab.
J
Not true. Not needing a partner isn't misogynistic. I would argue to opposite is true.
Not needing/wanting a partner isn't misogynistic. MGTOW is misogynistic. in what way ? Men going their own way ... not requiring women to survive ? Being totally independent.
Someone has been red-pilled
Just go straight to Incel then ... Jesus. I'm totally independent. Don't hate women. Don't need a woman. Don't expect anything from a woman. I honestly believe long-term relationships Don't work . . A lot of women are happy alone too .
J"
I'd be more careful with the acronyms you use then. MGTOW was banned from Reddit for breaking the site's policies against promotion of violence and hate. I mean banned from Reddit! 
J |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
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"Mgtow is the way .. too many unhappy couples. Dont really think as a species we are meant to partner up long term.
Really? An openly misogynistic community advocating for no female contact is an odd choice for someone on fab.
J
Not true. Not needing a partner isn't misogynistic. I would argue to opposite is true.
Not needing/wanting a partner isn't misogynistic. MGTOW is misogynistic. in what way ? Men going their own way ... not requiring women to survive ? Being totally independent.
Someone has been red-pilled
Just go straight to Incel then ... Jesus. I'm totally independent. Don't hate women. Don't need a woman. Don't expect anything from a woman. I honestly believe long-term relationships Don't work . . A lot of women are happy alone too .
J
I'd be more careful with the acronyms you use then. MGTOW was banned from Reddit for breaking the site's policies against promotion of violence and hate. I mean banned from Reddit!
J"
Thats certainly news to me ... and certainly not my take on it. |
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"I'm very happy staying single, I think I'm at the age I'll probably remain that way now... Does anyone 'middle aged', feel they get grief for being solo? "
I'm not single, but we are LAT. It's perfect.
A x |
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