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Verifications turn off?
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Amount doesn’t bother me.
Lots of clubs people are verified by friends and club hosts not all play veris. If someone was meeting daily and getting new play veris all the time it would turn me off.
Veris are a massive turn off for me when they are very detailed and graphic, or from people who go against their “type”/ profile preferences. Just looks desperate to me.
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If someone has a lot because of social events that is fine but then there's like over 50 sex veris then I tend to get a bit turned off depends though cause that person could have been on the site for years and years and just built up a lot of veris |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the quality and type of verification. People who attend social events can often run well in to triple figure. Like everything needs to be taken as a starting point and use your own intuition.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you correlating number if verifications with ‘loose standards’? Why does the number of verifications bother you?
Would it matter if the person had loads of verifications which were mostly from socials? If you attend a handful of well attended socials you’d end up with loads of verifications? Does that indicate anything other than being a socisl butterfly?
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We have lots of verifications. Some sexual meets, some not. We have played safe and test. We thinks it’s fucking crazy to consider a swinger who has met many people to be a bad thing. We aren’t here to get married to people. We are here to explore new and different people and enjoy good fun with others. If you think too many verifications is bad, you’re missing the entire point. Perhaps dating sites are better suited… |
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Overly graphic verifications are off-putting for me. Or when someone has numerous verifications from the same person, pretty much all saying the same thing.
I'm not massively concerned about numbers. I tend to glance through recent ones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I might actually be getting there to be honest. I have a lot from socials but wouldn't want people put off by the ones where I've actually had sex with people and raising any kind of expectations. |
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"Yes . We are starting to understand. Once again the last thing we are is judgmental people. "
Ok, so the way to approach it is that if someone has a lot of good verifications, they’re probably a decent person. That’s the crux of it. A good person, who provided the “service” well, is a good thing. And therefore a higher number is validation, not just verification. This is the swinging world.
Play safe, and enjoy as much of it as you can before your time is up. You get one life, enjoy it to the full.
You’re not gonna be new for long. You’ll either be new until you stop immediately, or you’ll become someone with verifications and hopefully they’ll be because you provided a ton of fun for the people you played with, who, hopefully you got some fun from too. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
never .....because the people who are real swingers will always have alot more ive been on this scene just over 30 years if i still had my old profiles from just fab its would be a massive list ..
swinging is a lifestyle based on sex and socials thats the whole point if people are going to turn you off for maving to many then the question must be do you really want to be a swinger..  |
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I find it odd to display them all and ones from the same person but ultimately it's their profile, so can do what they want.
Would it influence my opinion to play with them. Probably if I'm being honest. The overly graphic ones definitely put me off. Those could be private but again their profile their rules. I find it a handy filter. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
also veri's mean nothing ie its no indicator for how many sexual pertners many couples and women dont ask for or want veri's then theres clubs where people can havec many playmates in one night and alot of swinging is being done underground more and more ie word of mouth and privvate parties ...
then you have dogging and men who cruise for sex too so veri's mean bugger all |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
i dont display mine as its cause's grief i only meet guys via fab and trust me when i say this quite a few are deranged bitter and twisted and jealous of other men and they use the veri's to spread the vile bile |
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I read veris and I judge individuals not on the total number but by the kind of people they meet. Veris are also useful for ing out dreamers (last veri 5 years ago? not interested) and couple profiles which are obviously just the husband cruising Fab these days for kicks as his wife lost interest back in 2018…
I think Cam veris are pointless - how is ‘I watched this person masturbate on my phone’ any sort of useful valid verification? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
You can take a rough guess how long someone has been on the site from the date on their oldest photo.
So if someone has hundreds but has been here 15 years+, goes to clubs, socials and parties....then they may well have less veris per year than someone meeting just for a quick bunk up weekly that's been here a year or two.
Numbers mean little. Content does. |
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield |
As ever, context is important, combined with what you're looking for. Some people might accumulate 20 social verifications from parties or events in a month or two, some might have two over a year. Setting a purely arbitrary number that's "too many" seems a strange thing to do to me. |
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"It's about time they introduced an option to turn off being verified on here, not everyone wants to be verified, we certainly aren't fussed as we only really attend clubs. "
It’s an option whether to display verification info or not. |
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"It's about time they introduced an option to turn off being verified on here, not everyone wants to be verified, we certainly aren't fussed as we only really attend clubs. "
Just ask people not to verify you?
I do it all the time. I don’t want reams and reams of socials veris so say I don’t do them. No one’s been bothered really. The ones I have prove I’m legit i don’t need loads more saying similar x |
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I don't take heed of them much.
I've been verified by people I've never spoken to or messaged. Men who bombard with messages who get no reply. They then verify me asking to meet or they've made up an encounter. It's really weird.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try not to out too much stock into how many verifications people have. They could have been here for years, lots of people meet others at clubs and socials etc. |
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We're proof and point of the social verifications. We have had 19 this year yet we've had sex with nobody other than ourselves. We switched off all of the older ones from when we were active pre pandemic and a lot of them were from 'physical' meets but figure we should keep it fresh and not have it appear like notches on a bed post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any more than 102, I'm out. But on a serious note, who cares? They could have said hello in a club, just be a social or rode every single one of them like a pony. People read too much into verifications, whatever people do with others outside of my own relationship with them is none of my business. |
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Most of mine are from one off social meets.
Less than 10 percent have led to more and that's by choice rather than circumstance.
I am put off by big numbers but only because it means that person is more involved in the party or social scene than I wish to be so it's obvious that we are on different paths.
I am put off more though by content or by who wrote them. |
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The number of verifications doesn't put us off. Some people have been on this site since is started, some people organise or attend a lot of socials, or some people just enjoy sex with lots of different people which is absolutely fine.
It's more what the verifications say that we go by. |
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"I don't take heed of them much.
I've been verified by people I've never spoken to or messaged. Men who bombard with messages who get no reply. They then verify me asking to meet or they've made up an encounter. It's really weird. "
Yeah I have had fake veris left before j just report it to admin |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"At what stage does the amount of verifications actually become a turn off. We are responsible new and find it can be."
You're meeting people online for sex - it's dirty, horny, seedy, nervy stuff. It's up to you what is acceptable or not but veris are not a history of people. They could be sleeping with random's on a Friday night out, having gangbangs each week, cheating on their partners, go to clubs, display those that make them sound good or be totally fake.. the list is endless really.
It might put you off in the beginning but if you get through the spam and begin to enjoy it, you'll soon be at 5 then 10, then 20 then.. 3yrs later  |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
I like reading verifications. Whether they turn me off or not depends on a range of factors including how many from sexual encounters over what time period, who they met, where they met, what they did, what the person said about them.... I'm a picky so and so |
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The amount doesn't put me off (i personally think thats alittle judgey, considering the nature of the site). However I like reading them because they can reveal whether they are the type of individual you will click with |
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"We have lots of verifications. Some sexual meets, some not. We have played safe and test. We thinks it’s fucking crazy to consider a swinger who has met many people to be a bad thing. We aren’t here to get married to people. We are here to explore new and different people and enjoy good fun with others. If you think too many verifications is bad, you’re missing the entire point. Perhaps dating sites are better suited…"
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Nope. The quality of the verifications is what matters. If you are concerned about too many, you’re judging people for enjoying swinging. Which is THE reason people are here. New experiences with new people is not a bad thing. |
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