Having been around a while, I remember when Fab was a relatively polite and respectful place and people wanted to get to know each other before progressing to the bedroom. Recently I feel that it’s mainly either time wasters, fake profiles or people wanting quick and meaningless sex.
Does anyone still do things the old way, or am I the last of a dying breed? |
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It's stated very clearly in my profile that I insist on a social.
Anyone seeking to bypass that or feel that it doesn't apply to them can move along.
There are many people on here who don't meet without a social first. |
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"We're all about the social, if there's no 'click' then we don't take it any further than friendship."
Yes, that’s partly what I mean. There has to be some interest there on a physical or cerebral level to make the sex worthwhile for me, but even if there’s no sexual attraction it doesn’t mean that we can’t be friends. It would be nice to get to know more people in the swinging scene, regardless of whether it’s going to lead to more or not! |
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Part of a dying breed like us !! and just a sex site nowadays where no one seems to have sex though ?? going by our local updates ( all great and excited friday/saturday BUT come sunday/monday ) and full of lots and lots of promises of free sex on a plate ? but as you say mostly fake/timewasters or couples where the fem has no idea she's on here arranging to meet up ( but her hubby/partner is wanking himself blind at the thought of ??) all rather sad really xxx  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I wouldn't meet anybody who doesn't do a social first.
I the past I've had people try and get me to meet without one, I always stopped chatting then.
I like them both for my safety & so we can see if there's a mutual attraction and connection.
It would pretty damn awkward to meet to get straight to it and find there's not enough attraction on one side. |
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"We're all about the social, if there's no 'click' then we don't take it any further than friendship.
Yes, that’s partly what I mean. There has to be some interest there on a physical or cerebral level to make the sex worthwhile for me, but even if there’s no sexual attraction it doesn’t mean that we can’t be friends. It would be nice to get to know more people in the swinging scene, regardless of whether it’s going to lead to more or not!"
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" Part of a dying breed like us !! and just a sex site nowadays where no one seems to have sex though ?? going by our local updates ( all great and exciting Friday/Saturday BUT come Sunday/Monday) and full of lots and lots of promises of free sex on a plate? but as you say mostly fake/timewasters or couples where the fem has no idea she's on here arranging to meet up ( but her hubby/partner is wanking himself blind at the thought of ??) all rather sad xxx "
So true. A few hubbies have written to me faking they are their wives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always felt like I was born in the wrong era, now I feel like I missed the good part of fab.
Love a social first but finding guys don't want to do that and want to cut to the chase instead and not even have a conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always socials 1st here.
Catfished on our 1st meet taught us some valuable lessons.
Plus i struggle to gauge via text if I'm into someone or not I need a face and personality.
Mrs "
Same. Social within a couple of weeks chatting, no point wasting time chatting for ages if we don't get on in person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me it would have to be a social meet in the first instance. That's when it'll be completely apparent if there's a definite chemistry between myself and the other person to determine if its going to go any further. If not, hopefully nice chat +/- making a new friend  |
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"I feel the same, like the last dinosaur here.
Even when somebody agrees to a social, suggests it should happen in the bar of the hotel with the room key in his pocket. "
You’re not the last dinosaur. Wether as a couple or singles, social meets are very much part of the journey for us, with no expectations of anything to follow x |
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I always social first, I wouldn't feel safe going straight in for a meet.
People can often be very different in real life from messages and it sometimes takes me a minute to make my mind up about them. |
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"I feel the same, like the last dinosaur here.
Even when somebody agrees to a social, suggests it should happen in the bar of the hotel with the room key in his pocket. "
Or in their car...
Or they try and invite themselves round after |
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By *OMKRAVMan
over a year ago
Stockport |
It's bitter sweet as a newbie to read this thread. I've only been meeting in clubs since I started as I like the chemistry too much. I'm also old skool in the sense I prefer phone calls than messages. Barely knowing their name makes it feel too much like a transaction. I would like to see more social events in the North West for the same reasons you've already said. No social, no point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often think I’d love a social at lunch in the city etc. never happens. I think soo much choice leads to last minute change of plans / better offers. But then I see lots of fakes / let downs etc.
Not sure I know the answer.. but I would have thought socials would have been easier. |
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"Always socials 1st here.
Catfished on our 1st meet taught us some valuable lessons.
Plus i struggle to gauge via text if I'm into someone or not I need a face and personality.
Mrs "
Exactly - if there’s no personality there, then things aren’t really going to go very far! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social meet ALL THE TIME
I've had some horrible experiences and thank feck I met em socially on neutr ground Before they knew where live., Or get into an awkward predicament at their place |
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"I've always felt like I was born in the wrong era, now I feel like I missed the good part of fab.
Love a social first but finding guys don't want to do that and want to cut to the chase instead and not even have a conversation."
Totally, and it’s a shame that you missed out on how things used to be. It’s changed a lot since then, and just because you meet someone e doesn’t mean that it HAS to lead to sex. You can still have a great time with someone without wanting to jump into bed with them! |
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"Social meet always... Now matter how much you chat or how many pics you see, it's not until you've met in the flesh, that you know if there's chemistry and you want to actually get naked."
Yes - but you can still get on well with someone socially and want to see them again, without necessarily wanting to get physical? |
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"Social meet always... Now matter how much you chat or how many pics you see, it's not until you've met in the flesh, that you know if there's chemistry and you want to actually get naked.
Yes - but you can still get on well with someone socially and want to see them again, without necessarily wanting to get physical?"
So true |
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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago
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When I first started on this scene in my 20's, seems so long ago now, the social was very much expected and the attraction was either there or not. I find on here, as a married guy playing alone, the odds are doubly stacked against me an doffering for a social first leads to me being blocked (or maybe Im just a minger  ). In short its a social for me first and then you can ask me anything you want |
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