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Is lonliness bad for your health?
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
I read an interesting article about it and there were some things that I agreed with and some I didnt, it is basically saying that the more lonely you have been over your life, the more likely you are to have conditions that affect your heart health.
What I agree with is that, it can lead to isolation and loneliness.
But what I dont agree with is that there are just one type of loneliness, for example, as I see it, alone doesnt have to mean lonely, if one is happy being on their own and like their own company. I dont think that they would be affected the same way of someone who are just lonely.
What is your view about it and also are there just one type of loneliness?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes loniness is very bad for your health and emotional state.
Being alone doesn't necessarily mean loniness. You can have friends and family around you but be lonely.
I think being around toxic friends and family is worse for your health than loniness.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loneliness is not necessarily about being alone, most people are content in their own company. It's more about your mindset, you can be surrounded by people and still feel alone.
Feeling like no one understands your situation can be lonely. Feeling like you're the only person going through a particular thing can be lonely. A big life change where you lose someone from a household can be lonely. Changing jobs or moving to a new area of unfamiliarity can be lonely.
There are so many different types of loneliness which many people experience. The important thing is to reach out and ask for support when you feel like this, most of the time others are feeling it too. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think it can affect your health in terms of being touch deprived. It’s a scientific fact. I can definitely say this is an issue for me, although I’m alone but not lonely, if it makes sense. "
Yes and one can be touch deprived as well as a result of it too.
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yes loniness is very bad for your health and emotional state.
Being alone doesn't necessarily mean loniness. You can have friends and family around you but be lonely.
I think being around toxic friends and family is worse for your health than loniness.
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Yes and that is also right about being around toxic friends too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Part of my job was to befriend people. Sit and talk for an hour and half so they do not feel cut off.
Regarding fab, different altogether Shag.
Did I join a lonely hearts column, no.
Is my heart lonely, no.
Am I looking for another lonely heart... No.
Hearts get broken, people hurt each other, that to me wards me off any kind of lonely.
I do that in my job, spend all day with people who need support. When home I need my own life to be just me.
Lonely for sex.. Not desperate no.
I enjoy my life. Do you shag?
Or does Christmas make people feel lonely to be loved, love making? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Part of my job was to befriend people. Sit and talk for an hour and half so they do not feel cut off.
Regarding fab, different altogether Shag.
Did I join a lonely hearts column, no.
Is my heart lonely, no.
Am I looking for another lonely heart... No.
Hearts get broken, people hurt each other, that to me wards me off any kind of lonely.
I do that in my job, spend all day with people who need support. When home I need my own life to be just me.
Lonely for sex.. Not desperate no.
I enjoy my life. Do you shag?
Or does Christmas make people feel lonely to be loved, love making?"
Or the build up of Christmas make us feel lonely, and, is being with
Family enough |
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Not me. I’ve always been a natural loner.
My heart wept during Covid for all those people who couldn’t mentally cope with the isolation & lack of human contact.
But me?…
Been prepping for it my whole life 
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Yes, in my line of work I see the effects of loneliness in the elderly.
I think there is a vast difference between choosing to being alone and being lonely."
Yes and you are right there, there is a big difference between those things too |
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I've been alone my whole life and I struggle to make friends with people.
I'm good at being on my own and I don't often feel lonely when I am alone...
But my heart does ache when I spend time around others and I can see happy couples or groups of friends going out and having fun |
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I went through years of being in large groups of friends but as the dr*gs came in I distanced myself from the groups. I tend to spend a lot of time alone now and it’s probably for the better although I do occasionally crave the company now and then |
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"I read an interesting article about it and there were some things that I agreed with and some I didnt, it is basically saying that the more lonely you have been over your life, the more likely you are to have conditions that affect your heart health.
What I agree with is that, it can lead to isolation and loneliness.
But what I dont agree with is that there are just one type of loneliness, for example, as I see it, alone doesnt have to mean lonely, if one is happy being on their own and like their own company. I dont think that they would be affected the same way of someone who are just lonely.
What is your view about it and also are there just one type of loneliness? "
Yes, especially in later life. Research shows that one of the key determinants for health in older people is having a social network. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can be in a crowded room full of people you love and know and still be lonely "
As the song says..‘I’ve been alone, when I’m surrounded by friends..’
I think those of us who experience this are a little bit dysfunctional, but being aware of it helps.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a B:friender - the organisation works with isolated /lonely people... You get to share the most wonderful memories and connections with people. I thoroughly recommend it. I'm also involved with an organisation that write letters to residents of care homes - the impact it has is tremendous.
Get out and volunteer in your local community, honesty it will fill your soul with joy, give you purpose and have a profound impact on someone else.. Do it  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I read an interesting article about it and there were some things that I agreed with and some I didnt, it is basically saying that the more lonely you have been over your life, the more likely you are to have conditions that affect your heart health.
What I agree with is that, it can lead to isolation and loneliness.
But what I dont agree with is that there are just one type of loneliness, for example, as I see it, alone doesnt have to mean lonely, if one is happy being on their own and like their own company. I dont think that they would be affected the same way of someone who are just lonely.
What is your view about it and also are there just one type of loneliness?
Yes, especially in later life. Research shows that one of the key determinants for health in older people is having a social network."
Yes, you are right there about later in life and having a social network is the key too |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I went through years of being in large groups of friends but as the dr*gs came in I distanced myself from the groups. I tend to spend a lot of time alone now and it’s probably for the better although I do occasionally crave the company now and then "
I can relate to this, both drink or du*gs, if it wasn't one it was the other. People would be out for a mid week pint then a phone call the next day for another. You realise much as you're mates, you're a drinking buddy first. Distanced myself from all of that years ago but making true friends since as anyone knows is hard. |
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"I went through years of being in large groups of friends but as the dr*gs came in I distanced myself from the groups. I tend to spend a lot of time alone now and it’s probably for the better although I do occasionally crave the company now and then
I can relate to this, both drink or du*gs, if it wasn't one it was the other. People would be out for a mid week pint then a phone call the next day for another. You realise much as you're mates, you're a drinking buddy first. Distanced myself from all of that years ago but making true friends since as anyone knows is hard. "
I hear both of you, I don't want to drink, it's not good for my mental health but it seems that's the only way my friends will socialise, bit of a catch 22  |
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Humans are social animals, so we're better with sufficient social contact, as it's a core part of our wellbeing. Individual preferences and experience may mean that we isolate but there are lots of studies that show the benefits of social support. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Part of my job was to befriend people. Sit and talk for an hour and half so they do not feel cut off.
Regarding fab, different altogether Shag.
Did I join a lonely hearts column, no.
Is my heart lonely, no.
Am I looking for another lonely heart... No.
Hearts get broken, people hurt each other, that to me wards me off any kind of lonely.
I do that in my job, spend all day with people who need support. When home I need my own life to be just me.
Lonely for sex.. Not desperate no.
I enjoy my life. Do you shag?
Or does Christmas make people feel lonely to be loved, love making?
Or the build up of Christmas make us feel lonely, and, is being with
Family enough"
Hi becs. I see and that is a good job too and yes. I also enjoy my life, some might feel that during christmas, being with family would be enough as well |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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I do think loneliness is bad for your health but it can be hard to change the habits of a life time especially if growing up you were mostly the odd one out who struggled to fit in and still don’t know what their purpose is in life , family , work |
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I worked nightshift for 3 years. Sleeping was fine, but it definitely wasn't good for me mentally. Taking a hit on my social life and literally only talking work with people for weeks on end sucked |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Loneliness isn't the same as being alone.
Loneliness is horrible and definitely bad for physical and mental health. It makes people vulnerable to less than scrupulous people too "
Yes and you are right there, loneliness isnt the same as being alone, those are good examples as well you did there. |
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By *rigbyMan
over a year ago
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I hesitate to write this as I've shared to similar posts before and been basically branded an attention seeking sad case,but ive been lonely all my life,even amongst family,and friends,and a relationship i stayed in just so i wouldn't be alone.
Im now 62, all the opportunity on youth has long gone..i feel much older than my years and don't see anything on the horizons to change that.
If i could say one thing to people,don't assume people who seem ok really are,take time to ask are you doing ok,because the ones you think are sometimes really arent |
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"I hesitate to write this as I've shared to similar posts before and been basically branded an attention seeking sad case,but ive been lonely all my life,even amongst family,and friends,and a relationship i stayed in just so i wouldn't be alone.
Im now 62, all the opportunity on youth has long gone..i feel much older than my years and don't see anything on the horizons to change that.
If i could say one thing to people,don't assume people who seem ok really are,take time to ask are you doing ok,because the ones you think are sometimes really arent"
I agree with your last paragraph.
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I saw a quote that resonated with me Shag
"I do not fear being alone, I fear being in a room full of people I cannot trust""
Hi ms tinwelindon, that quote is a good one too and it is right as well |
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