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Off the back of the how long your meets last.
Who does or doesn't do over night stays?
If you do or don't, why?
Does it feel too much like "relationship privileges"?
I can't actually remember the last time I spent the night with someone, I either send them home or I leave to go home. Or we do a daytime meet. I don't always sleep well and I'm not a morning person, plus I don't want to be pestered for sex during the night or first thing. I think I'd have to REALLY like someone to actually sleep with them.
What say you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally, get out!
I think there's very few guys I'd be comfortable staying the night with and not in a cuddly way, there's definitely
a pillow wall been built. Just in a I know them way so I aren't bothered if they see me looking scary as hell first thing on a morning. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I quite like overnighters. No, that's an utter lie, anyone who knows me will know that. I adore them. I love relaxing into another's company, enjoying and savouring time with another. Falling asleep entwined in them but our lives not being entwined after that.
However... I've been saying no to staying over recently. I'm just... not there. The there I think he wants me to be. So I don't want to complicate things further. |
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People have stayed the night. It's fine as long as the lady understands what we are and aren't doing. The biggest issue for me is that it makes it more difficult for me to sleep as I'm not used to sleeping next to someone anymore  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t. I have to get back for my three dogs, the kids and my mam.
For casual sex I would prefer not to stay the night anyway. It’s a bit intimate. Nobody needs to see my bed head hair unless they’re fond of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love them.
The cuddles intertwining us together.
Their body heat keeping me warm.
The middle of the night hard-ons waking me up.
The early morning licking, sucking, fucking.
The ability to feel comfortable with someone to be able to do this is rare. It’s not just doing it, it’s the doing it without muddying the waters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Off the back of the how long your meets last.
Who does or doesn't do over night stays?
If you do or don't, why?
Does it feel too much like "relationship privileges"?
I can't actually remember the last time I spent the night with someone, I either send them home or I leave to go home. Or we do a daytime meet. I don't always sleep well and I'm not a morning person, plus I don't want to be pestered for sex during the night or first thing. I think I'd have to REALLY like someone to actually sleep with them.
What say you?
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Certainly not the first time but who is to say what happens if you start a regular thing |
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We usually have overnight stays or even weekend stays.
This works perfectly with singles.
A couple of times we’ve shared a bed but other times we’ve been in separate beds.
Play has been relaxed due to having extended time but it’s better as we’ve built a good connection.
This makes our relationship stronger.
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I like my space, my home, my own, mine.
But, I can accept someone I care about sharing that space for a night or two if it means we get to spend more time together.
Fuck buddies and casuals, absolutely no to overnights with those. |
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I absolutely love overnight hotel stays on neutral ground. It’s my luxury after a stressful week and especially when I know I can be totally relaxed with someone and get all the attention I want.
And all the morning sex, of course.
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I prefer overnights. The end not focusing on an orgasm or a hard limit, but can linger on with breakfast, flirting, maybe round two (or four, who's counting?). It's not something I'd do unless I'm really comfortable with you, particularly if it isn't a hotel situation. But it's a better way to have the friendship be part of the meeting, not just the fucking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Currently I don’t think I’d even be sleeping with someone if I wasn’t comfortable enough to have them stay over
Sure years ago I’d want to kick them out after, but I’ve grown up |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I have and do, but it is not random people, since it's closer to a friend situation, it's no different than staying at any other friend's place, or with a friend in a hotel... Just in the same bed... After sex. But it's not really that big of a deal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People have stayed the night. It's fine as long as the lady understands what we are and aren't doing. The biggest issue for me is that it makes it more difficult for me to sleep as I'm not used to sleeping next to someone anymore "
Last part very true for me too. I do not believe I would whether the storm. The hassle of clean sheets, food, my electricity and so on and so on.. Plus snorers plus I be awake and yes, not on a first night or any night. |
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I like them a lot tbh ..
Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...
Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !! |
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"I like them a lot tbh ..
Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...
Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !! "
Don’t be silly. Feelings and affection are taboo on here. They’re too scary and not allowed! |
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"I like them a lot tbh ..
Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...
Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !!
Don’t be silly. Feelings and affection are taboo on here. They’re too scary and not allowed!"
I'll join you for the night if you promise not to fall in love Nora x |
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"I like them a lot tbh ..
Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...
Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !!
Don’t be silly. Feelings and affection are taboo on here. They’re too scary and not allowed!
I'll join you for the night if you promise not to fall in love Nora x"
I’ll try but I do kinda love the people I’ve met. Doesn’t mean I wanna lock them in the attic and have their babies though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The last time I did, he got really angry in the middle of the night. So I'm quite anxious about doing it again although I'd like to.
Did you steal the duvet?"
That's a really unpleasant response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok, given the context I'll raise the room this:
If you're not happy to sleep next to the person it was purely mechanical.
I understand this will exclude couples, but the sentiment remains. And there's nothing wrong with that either, just not for me personally. |
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"Ok, given the context I'll raise the room this:
If you're not happy to sleep next to the person it was purely mechanical.
I understand this will exclude couples, but the sentiment remains. And there's nothing wrong with that either, just not for me personally."
I agree. It’s not for me either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So this can accomodate.. Means have your fun and leave. No putting them up for night. Yes, a bed for debauchery but I need my bed and it is not up for debate about staying the night.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Staying over night isn’t for me. Not just because it feels too much like relationship privileges but I genuinely don’t enjoy staying away from home. I like my own comforts. I don’t think I’d be able to fully relax and enjoy the night like I should. |
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I’ll do an overnight hotel with 2/3 guys off here who I know well- but it’s only because we don’t live close and when travel to a club.
I don’t do overnight other than that. Even if I book a hotel I expect them to leave (communicated before hand) x |
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"The last time I did, he got really angry in the middle of the night. So I'm quite anxious about doing it again although I'd like to.
Did you steal the duvet?
That's a really unpleasant response "
Perhaps he got angry at your unpleasant response  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Give me an overnight/weekend meet over a couple of hours in a hotel anytime.
It means it's not just about the sex. It involves conversation, 'normal life' stuff, company and connection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the person for me and how strong the connection is as like others have said the waters can be muddied over time as it feels like relationship privileges. With some it just feels like 2 mates sharing a bed and others a little more so you need to tread carefully so you don’t ruin a good thing |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
I've done full weekends with someone after jumping on a plane to see them, after chatting to them for a while.
Got everything we both wanted from it, plus the company, managed some sightseeing,food out and just enjoyed the relaxing time away somewhere different.
Still friends now,chat often so no harm in it with the right person.
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"I like them a lot tbh ..
Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...
Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !!
Don’t be silly. Feelings and affection are taboo on here. They’re too scary and not allowed!"
Oh yes .. Must avoid |
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"I've done full weekends with someone after jumping on a plane to see them, after chatting to them for a while.
Got everything we both wanted from it, plus the company, managed some sightseeing,food out and just enjoyed the relaxing time away somewhere different.
Still friends now,chat often so no harm in it with the right person.
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Exactly how it should be |
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By *ixenitedWoman
over a year ago
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"Off the back of the how long your meets last.
Who does or doesn't do over night stays?
If you do or don't, why?
Does it feel too much like "relationship privileges"?
I can't actually remember the last time I spent the night with someone, I either send them home or I leave to go home. Or we do a daytime meet. I don't always sleep well and I'm not a morning person, plus I don't want to be pestered for sex during the night or first thing. I think I'd have to REALLY like someone to actually sleep with them.
What say you?
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I let a fb stay over mine once a long time ago as we'd met up late did his washing as he came from work, he works with his hands so tends to get very dirty, then got straight on my knees an gave him a blowjob to kick off our night of fun, after he flung me round the bedroom we stuck a movie on and snuggled an fell asleep in eachothers arms, it was nice, though i woke up in the night as I tend to do and found that having another human in my bed during my supposed sleeping hrs felt so wrong so dirty lol
Never say never to overnight stays with a fb freind but sleeping is something I preffer to do alone as I'm normally up an down all night tossing and turning.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to a lot but they don't interest me now. Overnights bring feelings in my opinion which in turn can bring drama.
I want just straight forward good sex with a nice goodbye at the end until the next time  |
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"Only tried twice and both times I gave up at about 3am and said I needed my own space.
Lesson learnt never again.
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I think this would be my issue, I'm usually awake around 3/4am. Get up, wonder round, have a drink, go to the loo.
My biggest pet peeve is people who snore too... Maybe if I knew they didn't, it would be ok. |
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In the early days of fab I meet a girl on a Friday night of a bank holiday weekend, we stayed until Monday night and we fucked like rabbits, took her home Monday night and i stayed at hers, we were together for over 5 years before splitting but we are still good friends to this day.
So no, no overnights, once the clingons sink their claws into you it can be a job and a half trying to get rid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends. I like someone staying overnight as its leisurely and a nice end to a day, but with most it has not been overnight and I have only stayed away once. |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
"Love them.
The cuddles intertwining us together.
Their body heat keeping me warm.
The middle of the night hard-ons waking me up.
The early morning licking, sucking, fucking.
The ability to feel comfortable with someone to be able to do this is rare. It’s not just doing it, it’s the doing it without muddying the waters. "
Precisely this, but from the guy's perspective. I love overnighters and weekenders even better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've spent overnight with someone, but that was mainly because of the distance between us that wouldn't have made it feasible so meet and then leave. It never felt like a relationship thing to me |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Off the back of the how long your meets last.
Who does or doesn't do over night stays?
If you do or don't, why?
Does it feel too much like "relationship privileges"?
I can't actually remember the last time I spent the night with someone, I either send them home or I leave to go home. Or we do a daytime meet. I don't always sleep well and I'm not a morning person, plus I don't want to be pestered for sex during the night or first thing. I think I'd have to REALLY like someone to actually sleep with them.
What say you?
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I'm a meet and leave person too fussy to stay all night unless in a relationship  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love an overnighter, especially if you don't end sleeping much.
Some I will and some I won't and depends on the dynamic.
Although now I'm a hell of a lot more cautious about an overnighter when I've had someone read into it more than they should have done and another that hid me.
Some people like the snuggles after sex and waking up in the morning for more. Others don't. I'm fine with it either way if they treat me right.
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
I don’t do overnight sleepovers unless meeting a couple & we really click.
Stayed the night at a London lass’s place only for her supposed ex to show up at 7:30 next morning & he’s banging the bedroom door to get in! 
I’ve let 1 person sleepover as we had fucked all night like rabbits & was scared she would fall asleep behind the wheel  I was such a gentleman that day haha |
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