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Marketing yourself

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've seen this mentioned a few times lately here. How do you feel about it? Do you market yourself on here to attract who you want to attract?

Or does the idea make you

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

Makes me

I don't think I market myself although I must do just having a profile I guess.

I'm just me people either like it dislike me and that's fine, I don't put myself out there to attract a certain type.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah, sounds like a loada hard work. If folk don’t like what I present them here, which is a snapshot of who I am, no great loss to me.

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Yes.

But....my wants and needs are niche, I'm looking for bdsm related encounters, not fucks. So when I am hunting, my pics and profile is tailored to resonance with like minded men with skills

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Makes me

I don't think I market myself although I must do just having a profile I guess.

I'm just me people either like it dislike me and that's fine, I don't put myself out there to attract a certain type.

Mrs "

We would do it for a business, I get that - but for ourselves? I find it hard to comprehend but keep seeing it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nah, sounds like a loada hard work. If folk don’t like what I present them here, which is a snapshot of who I am, no great loss to me. "

I don't think I do it so I don't know how much work it is!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am just myself.

But I am aware of what pictures/status/bio I post will attract certain types of guys. It's not a hard concept to grasp that what you put out there has an impact on what you get back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't sell myself, I'm just me, I'm not made to big myself up, never have and tbh it doesn't sit well to hear someone say how great they are.

Different things for different people so the ones that do or find it natural then I applaud them.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

Absolutely not. Quite the opposite, actually but I seem to attract the right people anyway.

I don’t like the whole idea of “marketing”. Makes me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I just googled "marketing yourself" to see what's suggested. Tell me what you think.

"Identify a target audience.

Understand your potential employers inside out.

Know your USP.

A way with words.

Show a little personality.

Keep your finger on the pulse.

Web savvy"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes.

But....my wants and needs are niche, I'm looking for bdsm related encounters, not fucks. So when I am hunting, my pics and profile is tailored to resonance with like minded men with skills

Hunting?

And does the tailoring work?

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

Is it any different to the idea that quite often guys asking for profile advice are told their profile is their shop window?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it any different to the idea that quite often guys asking for profile advice are told their profile is their shop window?"

Yeah they're not told that by me. But I guess it's the same. Also urgh. So transactional.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just googled "marketing yourself" to see what's suggested. Tell me what you think.

"Identify a target audience.

Understand your potential employers inside out.

Know your USP.

A way with words.

Show a little personality.

Keep your finger on the pulse.

Web savvy""

That's in a business sense.

Like it or not everyone does it to some extent.

You pick a username.

You post pictures.

You write a bio.

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By *tephanie63Woman over a year ago

BRIDGWATER

I think my profile does the opposite to market me. It's quite rude and arsey...x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am just myself.

But I am aware of what pictures/status/bio I post will attract certain types of guys. It's not a hard concept to grasp that what you put out there has an impact on what you get back.

That's the theory. I haven't actually found that anything I do or stop doing prevents the same type of guy messaging me? And tbh I think it's my postings on the forum that mean I end up talking with interesting men. I could be an outlier though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must market myself as a speech and language therapist considering I mostly attract mmmmmm.

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By *ustamanMan over a year ago

weymouth

Marketing, persuade folks to 'buy' something they'll ultimately be disappointed with - nah I'm just me probably a disappointment

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Nope I am what I am.. unfortunately that comes across as a complete nutcase..so most avoid me..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't sell myself, I'm just me, I'm not made to big myself up, never have and tbh it doesn't sit well to hear someone say how great they are.

Different things for different people so the ones that do or find it natural then I applaud them."

marketing doesn't need to be saying how great you are. Just highlighting features to appeal to the target market. (I threw up a little writing that)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I must market myself as a speech and language therapist considering I mostly attract mmmmmm. "

Rotf

I had a classic of the genre yesterday. They make me laugh!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I do in the sense that I am here to meet people and I have a profile. I don't look for any specific type of person or situation though.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

To be honest, I think everyone is doing it, even if not consciously. The very act of choosing pictures to display and writing a profile is essentially marketing. That doesn't mean you're looking for transactional encounters, but I think it's hard to escape as that is our first experience of each other on here.

I do it consciously if we're looking for something in particular - profile text, status updates. On the forums, not really, it's more a stream of consciousness!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't sell myself, I'm just me, I'm not made to big myself up, never have and tbh it doesn't sit well to hear someone say how great they are.

Different things for different people so the ones that do or find it natural then I applaud them.

marketing doesn't need to be saying how great you are. Just highlighting features to appeal to the target market. (I threw up a little writing that)"

Me too reading it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Buy one get one free?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't sell myself, I'm just me, I'm not made to big myself up, never have and tbh it doesn't sit well to hear someone say how great they are.

Different things for different people so the ones that do or find it natural then I applaud them.

marketing doesn't need to be saying how great you are. Just highlighting features to appeal to the target market. (I threw up a little writing that)

Me too reading it

soz

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Buy one get one free?"

Breasts? Balls?

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By *ippa 63TV/TS over a year ago

St Helens

I wouldn't say i market myself. But i do believe in you only get out what you put in.

Don't understand people who complain about fab being no good and on their profile have no piccies, not bought in and not photo verified. Takes 10 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just googled "marketing yourself" to see what's suggested. Tell me what you think.

"Identify a target audience.

Understand your potential employers inside out.

Know your USP.

A way with words.

Show a little personality.

Keep your finger on the pulse.

Web savvy"

That's in a business sense.

Like it or not everyone does it to some extent.

You pick a username.

You post pictures.

You write a bio.

Am I just arguing about the language then? But language accompanies a perspective doesn't it? Talking about marketing and shop windows and ladies of quality. I'm not a product.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People with tits arse cock pics saying they don't sell themselves. Priceless.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be honest, I think everyone is doing it, even if not consciously. The very act of choosing pictures to display and writing a profile is essentially marketing. That doesn't mean you're looking for transactional encounters, but I think it's hard to escape as that is our first experience of each other on here.

I do it consciously if we're looking for something in particular - profile text, status updates. On the forums, not really, it's more a stream of consciousness!

Mrs TMN x"

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By *ake_or_deathMan over a year ago

Manchester

I would never call it 'marketing' but ultimately I choose profile pictures in the hope that people will like them, and I choose how to present myself in my bio and on the forums - although occasionally I'm more honest than I should be which goes against me. Ultimately we like people to like us (well...most of us do) and try to present ourselves accordingly.

But I wouldn't deliberately mislead or spend ages working out some kind of strategy to market myself - I'd be doing a rubbish job of it if I were!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mine is all false advertising

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think my profile does the opposite to market me. It's quite rude and arsey...x"

The poor Hinkley C construction crew - stuck out there in their construction camps and then given short shrift by you (cheeky smile)

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Most people on here do market themselves. If they didn't in any way, they wouldn't have photos. A bio. A username. If you're talking about deliberately employing a particular strategy? I think fewer people do that.

I don't see what's quite so bad about it if I'm being slightly blunt.

I know this is very much my experience, it might be confirmation bias but I doubt it.

When I first joined I had rather graphic photos. Blowjobs, facials, my quim. My bio was very much looking for NSA. And those are exactly the sort of messages I'd receive.

Now? I'm not looking for anything in particular. I'm enjoying seeing what happens. My photos are rather dreary, my bio non-existent. I've been receiving a lot of messages asking me on dates etc. No cock pics (which does make me a cry a bit inside).

I'm not stupid. If I post a status about how good it feels to deepthroat a cock, I'm going to get messages off of men thinking "yes Meli, I've got a bit of prime man meat here for you to swallow".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I market myself or what is the point of pics and bio?

The people not marketing themselves are those with no pics or bio and I wonder how much interest they get.

Disclaimer: any woman get bombarded from the "any holes a goal" brigade but that isn't real interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well I do in the sense that I am here to meet people and I have a profile. I don't look for any specific type of person or situation though. "

Just see what turns up that you fancy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not sure I market myself … but I do like to get others opinions about what they like in profiles… because even though I do my profile for me to express myself … it’s always good to have enjoy the view & pique their interest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just googled "marketing yourself" to see what's suggested. Tell me what you think.

"Identify a target audience.

Understand your potential employers inside out.

Know your USP.

A way with words.

Show a little personality.

Keep your finger on the pulse.

Web savvy"

That's in a business sense.

Like it or not everyone does it to some extent.

You pick a username.

You post pictures.

You write a bio.

Am I just arguing about the language then? But language accompanies a perspective doesn't it? Talking about marketing and shop windows and ladies of quality. I'm not a product. "

Tbh I don't think I've seen anyone describe it as marketing before.

But most, not everyone, most people are here to meet. And they want to meet their type, and most generally write this in their bio.

Want foot play? Post a pic of feet. Like restraints? Collar/handcuffs/rope pic.

You show who you are and what you're looking for through your bio/name/status/pics.

I don't see it as marketing, just trying to find what you want.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Whether we like it or not it's inevitable that our fab profile is our shop window and how we choose to dress that can often make or break a fab journey.

If you are happy for anyone to wander in then go with the DFS year round flash sale approach.

An amazing display doesn't guarantee attractive merchandise when you push that door open though.

Some people get more of a thrill from marketing than they do from anything else.

Personally speaking I don't cold call or use high pressure sales tactics.

Me, as an option on fab, is clearly displayed in my window.

It's not flash, it's not cheap and cheerful, it's not bargain basket and at the same time it's not high end or an unnecessary luxury.

It's just one of those shops you like to peruse and find the things that are no longer available elsewhere.

I prefer to let the market find me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I do in the sense that I am here to meet people and I have a profile. I don't look for any specific type of person or situation though.

Just see what turns up that you fancy? "

Well yes indeed.

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By *hil most chillMan over a year ago

South East & Europe

You have to market yourself a little, just to let others know what to expect. I try to showcase my humour, and put my best pics forward of course. And the advice I've seen over the years on the forum has served me well too.

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By *esthetic21Man over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

No it's cringey as f

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well I do in the sense that I am here to meet people and I have a profile. I don't look for any specific type of person or situation though.

Just see what turns up that you fancy?

Well yes indeed. "

Fingers crossed!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Absolutely not. Quite the opposite, actually but I seem to attract the right people anyway.

I don’t like the whole idea of “marketing”. Makes me

I need to check out your profile. Clearly mine is a failure. But perhaps I'm not clear on my USP.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

I do to a certain extent. I chose the more flattering photos to display. I have also listed my non sexual interests to make it easier for people to connect with me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must market myself as a speech and language therapist considering I mostly attract mmmmmm. "

I'm sure it's your beauty, it brings out the stammer. Could be worse with your name they might have a rotic and you'd become 'WacyWocket'

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By *orl1971Couple over a year ago

Glasgow

Everyone is marketing themselves whether they know it or not. Some will be deliberate and good at it whilst others won’t realise they are doing it and perhaps be doing it badly (think “will fill in later” profiles).

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People with tits arse cock pics saying they don't sell themselves. Priceless.

I've never showed my cock. How very dare you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I do it consciously if we're looking for something in particular - profile text, status updates. On the forums, not really, it's more a stream of consciousness!

Mrs TMN x"

You talk sense Mrs TMN. I don't know why I have the "ick" so much. But I do.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

"People with tits arse cock pics saying they don't sell themselves. Priceless.

Guilty!

(Not a cock, though)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People with tits arse cock pics saying they don't sell themselves. Priceless.

Guilty!

(Not a cock, though)"

Damn, you made me look!

(You're correct, no cock!)

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By *ate_BMan over a year ago

London

"I've seen this mentioned a few times lately here. How do you feel about it? Do you market yourself on here to attract who you want to attract?

Or does the idea make you

If I chose to ‘market’ myself on Fab the same way I’ve done on another platform I would have a better experience, but even then it won’t guarantee anything, so I take away from what I put in and accept it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety "

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just googled "marketing yourself" to see what's suggested. Tell me what you think.

"Identify a target audience.

Understand your potential employers inside out.

Know your USP.

A way with words.

Show a little personality.

Keep your finger on the pulse.

Web savvy"

That's in a business sense.

Like it or not everyone does it to some extent.

You pick a username.

You post pictures.

You write a bio.

Am I just arguing about the language then? But language accompanies a perspective doesn't it? Talking about marketing and shop windows and ladies of quality. I'm not a product.

Tbh I don't think I've seen anyone describe it as marketing before.

But most, not everyone, most people are here to meet. And they want to meet their type, and most generally write this in their bio.

Want foot play? Post a pic of feet. Like restraints? Collar/handcuffs/rope pic.

You show who you are and what you're looking for through your bio/name/status/pics.

I don't see it as marketing, just trying to find what you want. "

It's a difference in mindsets, I guess. And I have seen it multiple times this week which prompted me to start the thread.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

"People with tits arse cock pics saying they don't sell themselves. Priceless.

Guilty!

(Not a cock, though)

Damn, you made me look!

(You're correct, no cock!)"

Sorry for that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet. "

It's funny you'd say about blank profiles given how many there are

I just take photos of myself that I like where I don't look like a dog's dinner. I've never taken one and thought will this attract the right kind of guy. Hmm.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Everyone is marketing themselves whether they know it or not. Some will be deliberate and good at it whilst others won’t realise they are doing it and perhaps be doing it badly (think “will fill in later” profiles).

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun. "

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I mean I am going to do a marketing course just to get my marketing strategy right on here, failing that I’ll have to go on dragons den

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By *ermite12ukMan over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

I market myself on Marmite:

You either love me or hate me. Simples.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it? "

I do actually live for it, hence the boobs. I’m not getting any in real life so here’s my perfect opportunity for false self validation.

(Here, I’ve said it).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet.

It's funny you'd say about blank profiles given how many there are

I just take photos of myself that I like where I don't look like a dog's dinner. I've never taken one and thought will this attract the right kind of guy. Hmm.

I take pictures that I like. I don’t necessarily think, will this attract such and such but I know that if I upload certain kinds of pictures I’ll end up with the type of messages that I don’t want. It doesn’t always work mind you

but I do believe what you put out there attracts different kinds of people to your profile.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I do it consciously if we're looking for something in particular - profile text, status updates. On the forums, not really, it's more a stream of consciousness!

Mrs TMN x

You talk sense Mrs TMN. I don't know why I have the "ick" so much. But I do. "

I think it's the terminology. I don't tend to think of it as marketing. But it's the same thing, essentially. I think it's unavoidable on a platform where you have to create a profile as your initial starting point. Even putting no pictures and minimal detail is sending out a message.

Mrs TMN x

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I've seen this mentioned a few times lately here. How do you feel about it? Do you market yourself on here to attract who you want to attract?

Or does the idea make you

I don’t think so, I’m kinda just here hanging out. And the idea makes me laugh a bit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet.

It's funny you'd say about blank profiles given how many there are

I just take photos of myself that I like where I don't look like a dog's dinner. I've never taken one and thought will this attract the right kind of guy. Hmm.

but I do believe what you put out there attracts different kinds of people to your profile. "

Although just having a vagina here can mean we end up with the types of messages we don't want....

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it? "

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet.

It's funny you'd say about blank profiles given how many there are

I just take photos of myself that I like where I don't look like a dog's dinner. I've never taken one and thought will this attract the right kind of guy. Hmm.

but I do believe what you put out there attracts different kinds of people to your profile.

Although just having a vagina here can mean we end up with the types of messages we don't want....

yep.

When I get tired of that I close all my filters so NO ONE can message me except friends or repeaters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*"

Oh now I totally agree with that. Pity we can't choose here.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"People with tits arse cock pics saying they don't sell themselves. Priceless.

I've never showed my cock. How very dare you!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself "

But even that sentence "men can see you've got a fantastic body".. What they see is a well lit. Carefully angled photo... In reality I'm a 53 year old woman whose body isn't that of a 20 year old. I met someone once in my vanilla life who told me they were a leg man and my legs were awful and they didn't want to have sex with me again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet.

It's funny you'd say about blank profiles given how many there are

I just take photos of myself that I like where I don't look like a dog's dinner. I've never taken one and thought will this attract the right kind of guy. Hmm.

but I do believe what you put out there attracts different kinds of people to your profile.

Although just having a vagina here can mean we end up with the types of messages we don't want....

Well, yeah, there is also that issue but I try

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I just googled "marketing yourself" to see what's suggested. Tell me what you think.

"Identify a target audience.

Understand your potential employers inside out.

Know your USP.

A way with words.

Show a little personality.

Keep your finger on the pulse.

Web savvy""

If that’s the criteria then no - I don’t

I don’t know what a USP is, can’t be bothered to look it up. I am definitely not web savvy. lol

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

If I do I need some lessons

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself

What a catch HE must have been

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

When I was meeting my profile and photos where tailored to attract a certain kind of guy and it worked. You can hardly complain your not attracting the right kind d of guy if your not making any effort

Effect equals rewards

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By *orl1971Couple over a year ago

Glasgow

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*"

Attention, connection, fun, excitement, whatever. Everyone is looking for something whether they protest that they are or not. If not why be on here in the first place.

You build your profile to attract what you want but sometimes you get things you don’t want.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman over a year ago

Maidstone

I'm hoping my pictures will attract some then I can win them over with my sparkling wit. Then it's too late for them to run away when they realise my pictures are just a clever marketing strategy.

That's my business plan.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself

I'm a 53 year old woman. Can I borrow your body please?

(he was a bloody dick btw)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm hoping my pictures will attract some then I can win them over with my sparkling wit. Then it's too late for them to run away when they realise my pictures are just a clever marketing strategy.

That's my business plan.

and now you've published it so they will all know!

noooooo

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*

Attention, connection, fun, excitement, whatever. Everyone is looking for something whether they protest that they are or not. If not why be on here in the first place.

You build your profile to attract what you want but sometimes you get things you don’t want. "

I've had profiles over the past year and haven't met anyone, so I guess my protests have some foundation.

it's the local updates. God I live to read how many guys are horny in Leeds. Be still my beating heart.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman over a year ago

Maidstone

"I'm hoping my pictures will attract some then I can win them over with my sparkling wit. Then it's too late for them to run away when they realise my pictures are just a clever marketing strategy.

That's my business plan.

and now you've published it so they will all know!

noooooo

Dammit. Didn't think that through, did I??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*

Attention, connection, fun, excitement, whatever. Everyone is looking for something whether they protest that they are or not. If not why be on here in the first place.

You build your profile to attract what you want but sometimes you get things you don’t want.

I've had profiles over the past year and haven't met anyone, so I guess my protests have some foundation.

it's the local updates. God I live to read how many guys are horny in Leeds.

Be still my beating heart.

Ah I see your problem now.

Leeds.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple over a year ago

kent

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself

I’m sorry someone was so awful to you. There is no excuse for that

We won’t live up to our hype, should either of us ever meet someone from the forums again. But neither of us really care. I’ve always had a passion for lovely images, and our pictures are more for ourselves than to attract other people. But we are honest about ourselves too, and I think here that’s all you can be. The things that I say are authentically me. These are my opinions, my sense of humour and fun. I always say I am quiet and bookish in real life. If people get too wrapped up in the photos and don’t pay enough attention to the words, well that’s on them. Our Fab Shop Window isn’t pretending to be something we aren’t, but it’s also just a fleeting glimpse. Should someone infer too much from it, they will probably find themselves disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do to a certain extent. I chose the more flattering photos to display. I have also listed my non sexual interests to make it easier for people to connect with me. "

I have gonks down on my profile - non sexual interests are a great conversation started

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*

Attention, connection, fun, excitement, whatever. Everyone is looking for something whether they protest that they are or not. If not why be on here in the first place.

You build your profile to attract what you want but sometimes you get things you don’t want.

I've had profiles over the past year and haven't met anyone, so I guess my protests have some foundation.

it's the local updates. God I live to read how many guys are horny in Leeds.

Be still my beating heart.

Ah I see your problem now.

Leeds."

I don't even live in Leeds. But Sheffield, Doncaster, York all just as bad!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself

I’m sorry someone was so awful to you. There is no excuse for that

I love this

and your photos

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*

Attention, connection, fun, excitement, whatever. Everyone is looking for something whether they protest that they are or not. If not why be on here in the first place.

You build your profile to attract what you want but sometimes you get things you don’t want.

I've had profiles over the past year and haven't met anyone, so I guess my protests have some foundation.

it's the local updates. God I live to read how many guys are horny in Leeds.

Be still my beating heart.

Ah I see your problem now.

Leeds.

I don't even live in Leeds. But Sheffield, Doncaster, York all just as bad! "

I'd suggest changing your location to Manchester. It's awesome.

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By *ermite12ukMan over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

"I have gonks down on my profile - non sexual interests are a great conversation started

I had to google: Thought it was Wonkos cousin, thrice removed.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I'm hoping my pictures will attract some then I can win them over with my sparkling wit. Then it's too late for them to run away when they realise my pictures are just a clever marketing strategy.

That's my business plan.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

Things I also don’t know how to do: photo filters. Not that I would want to. I’ve seen the face ones and they look weird.

Plus I’d be so disappointed if I met someone and they didn’t look like their pix. So I wouldn’t do that to anyone.

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By *ermite12ukMan over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

That's my business plan.

You have a plan? (Resisting the urge to say Stan.) Edumakated me thinks.

I just make it up as I go along.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Things I also don’t know how to do: photo filters. Not that I would want to. I’ve seen the face ones and they look weird.

Plus I’d be so disappointed if I met someone and they didn’t look like their pix. So I wouldn’t do that to anyone."

Aw I kinda want to send you your face with a filter on now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have gonks down on my profile - non sexual interests are a great conversation started

I had to google: Thought it was Wonkos cousin, thrice removed.

They're SO much better!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*

Attention, connection, fun, excitement, whatever. Everyone is looking for something whether they protest that they are or not. If not why be on here in the first place.

You build your profile to attract what you want but sometimes you get things you don’t want.

I've had profiles over the past year and haven't met anyone, so I guess my protests have some foundation.

it's the local updates. God I live to read how many guys are horny in Leeds.

Be still my beating heart.

Ah I see your problem now.

Leeds.

I don't even live in Leeds. But Sheffield, Doncaster, York all just as bad!

I'd suggest changing your location to Manchester. It's awesome. "

I might just try. But I don't live anywhere near. It will give the hundreds of men who will message me too false hope. Poor lambs.

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By *ake_or_deathMan over a year ago

Manchester

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself

I think we can all agree that that man was an utter prick. What a horrible thing to say. You deserve better than idiots like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sell myself? I can’t bloody give myself away for free!…

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sell myself? I can’t bloody give myself away for free!…

BOGOF?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

"Things I also don’t know how to do: photo filters. Not that I would want to. I’ve seen the face ones and they look weird.

Plus I’d be so disappointed if I met someone and they didn’t look like their pix. So I wouldn’t do that to anyone."

I agree with you. I rarely send face picture as I rarely meet anyone, and I mostly only attend social so everyone can see how I look like but if I do, it’s a very recent, unfiltered picture of me, no make up and all. I wouldn’t want to disappoint anyone and I hope I don’t.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sell myself? I can’t bloody give myself away for free!…

BOGOF? "

Tried that. Maybe a raffle prize?…

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By *tanley FunseekerMan over a year ago

stanley

Aldi discount aisle at 8.55pm on a Thursday lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sell myself? I can’t bloody give myself away for free!…

BOGOF?

Tried that. Maybe a raffle prize?…

Go for it! And then try ...only 4 days left etc

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Things I also don’t know how to do: photo filters. Not that I would want to. I’ve seen the face ones and they look weird.

Plus I’d be so disappointed if I met someone and they didn’t look like their pix. So I wouldn’t do that to anyone.

Aw I kinda want to send you your face with a filter on now.

Do it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The idea that you shouldn’t have to market yourself to attract other is imbedded in entitlement

A good connection is based on both parties “marketing” themselves to each other

If you expect people to show you their best side and don’t offer yours back, no wonder your alone

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By *anJenny 181Couple over a year ago

Preston

We are new to this lifestyle & we look for profiles with pictures & veryfictions & on occasions a bio catches our attention particularly if it sends out some of your own personality.

Plan profiles get overlooked so best to start upgrading or of you like marketing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*

Attention, connection, fun, excitement, whatever. Everyone is looking for something whether they protest that they are or not. If not why be on here in the first place.

You build your profile to attract what you want but sometimes you get things you don’t want.

I've had profiles over the past year and haven't met anyone, so I guess my protests have some foundation.

it's the local updates. God I live to read how many guys are horny in Leeds.

Be still my beating heart.

Ah I see your problem now.

Leeds.

I don't even live in Leeds. But Sheffield, Doncaster, York all just as bad!

I'd suggest changing your location to Manchester. It's awesome.

I might just try. But I don't live anywhere near. It will give the hundreds of men who will message me too false hope. Poor lambs.

In fairness I'm not in Notts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself

I think we can all agree that that man was an utter prick. What a horrible thing to say. You deserve better than idiots like that. "

Thank you.. I had lust goggles on at the time and really should have known better

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By *ake_or_deathMan over a year ago

Manchester

"The problem with marketing is that you have to live up to your hype.... Even filling in the body type in the profile gives me anxiety

Why would you be anxious about the body type when men can see you've got a fantastic body?

But I do relate to what you've said. I think I used to say I was a pain in the arse on my profile. Accurate. I'm never ever going to hype myself

I think we can all agree that that man was an utter prick. What a horrible thing to say. You deserve better than idiots like that.

Thank you.. I had lust goggles on at the time and really should have known better "

Those bloody lust goggles cause so many problems, don't they?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you.. I had lust goggles on at the time and really should have known better

Those bloody lust goggles cause so many problems, don't they? "

Does Amazon sell them, or should I risk Temu?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you.. I had lust goggles on at the time and really should have known better

Those bloody lust goggles cause so many problems, don't they?

Does Amazon sell them, or should I risk Temu?"

Just put them straight into the bin!!

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By *G LanaTV/TS over a year ago

Gosport

I think I am sort of on the fence on this one. I think my profile text is to open and explanitory to really market me but my pictures are curated in a manner to try and attract people I would be intereted in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you.. I had lust goggles on at the time and really should have known better

Those bloody lust goggles cause so many problems, don't they?

Does Amazon sell them, or should I risk Temu?

Just put them straight into the bin!! "

I forgot how much I liked your contributions.

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan over a year ago

Belfast

I have pictures and a profile description and I'll post to forums for craic and also to show a little of my personality but that's about the height of marketing for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you.. I had lust goggles on at the time and really should have known better

Those bloody lust goggles cause so many problems, don't they?

Does Amazon sell them, or should I risk Temu?

Just put them straight into the bin!!

I forgot how much I liked your contributions.

wait... Have is this my calling... a fab forumite

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The idea that you shouldn’t have to market yourself to attract other is imbedded in entitlement

A good connection is based on both parties “marketing” themselves to each other

If you expect people to show you their best side and don’t offer yours back, no wonder your alone "

Yes. I mean YASS. I'm an entitled lonely brat for not embracing the opportunity to market myself to men for sex. What was I thinking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

Attention from people I respect and think are cool, that’s great.

Just plain old attention? *hides behind the drapes*

Attention, connection, fun, excitement, whatever. Everyone is looking for something whether they protest that they are or not. If not why be on here in the first place.

You build your profile to attract what you want but sometimes you get things you don’t want.

I've had profiles over the past year and haven't met anyone, so I guess my protests have some foundation.

it's the local updates. God I live to read how many guys are horny in Leeds.

Be still my beating heart.

Ah I see your problem now.

Leeds.

I don't even live in Leeds. But Sheffield, Doncaster, York all just as bad!

I'd suggest changing your location to Manchester. It's awesome.

I might just try. But I don't live anywhere near. It will give the hundreds of men who will message me too false hope. Poor lambs.

In fairness I'm not in Notts

Oh I thought you were in ... and I (apparently) and in Trouble.

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

I don't think I've marketed myself, ever. A career in sales is my idea of hell, let alone in my personal life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think I've marketed myself, ever. A career in sales is my idea of hell, let alone in my personal life."

But if you don't do it, I'm told, you're entitled to expect hot women to land on your thighs. Or summat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People with tits arse cock pics saying they don't sell themselves. Priceless.

Guilty!

(Not a cock, though)"

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By *G LanaTV/TS over a year ago

Gosport

It never ceases to amaze me how many members there are who seem to be one the site regularly with virtually blank profiles even after an extended time. It always makes me wonder if they ever get any positive responses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think I've marketed myself, ever. A career in sales is my idea of hell, let alone in my personal life.

But if you don't do it, I'm told, you're entitled to expect hot women to land on your thighs. Or summat. "

That reads wrong! You are BEING entitled to expect hot women to land on your impressive thighs without marketing yourself.

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

"I don't think I've marketed myself, ever. A career in sales is my idea of hell, let alone in my personal life.

But if you don't do it, I'm told, you're entitled to expect hot women to land on your thighs. Or summat. "

Excellent. I'll just wait here.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I don't think I've marketed myself, ever. A career in sales is my idea of hell, let alone in my personal life.

But if you don't do it, I'm told, you're entitled to expect hot women to land on your thighs. Or summat.

Excellent. I'll just wait here."

How flexible are you on hot?

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"The idea that you shouldn’t have to market yourself to attract other is imbedded in entitlement

A good connection is based on both parties “marketing” themselves to each other

If you expect people to show you their best side and don’t offer yours back, no wonder your alone

Yes. I mean YASS. I'm an entitled lonely brat for not embracing the opportunity to market myself to men for sex. What was I thinking?"

YEAH. I’ll bet you live with CATS. So THERE.

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By *ake_or_deathMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I don't think I've marketed myself, ever. A career in sales is my idea of hell, let alone in my personal life.

But if you don't do it, I'm told, you're entitled to expect hot women to land on your thighs. Or summat.

Excellent. I'll just wait here.

How flexible are you on hot?"

And could they land on my face rather than my thighs?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

" my quim. "

My penis. Like that bit in LOTR where they declare they’re in with their weapons.

Mr TMN

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We like a certain type of person(s) so we market ourselves to try and attract the people we want to connect with.

To some our profile might be overkill, to others it’ll be the type of profile that makes them want to message. Which is fine, as all profiles either attract or deter others.

If we are on here looking then it makes sense to sell yourself as best you can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The idea that you shouldn’t have to market yourself to attract other is imbedded in entitlement

A good connection is based on both parties “marketing” themselves to each other

If you expect people to show you their best side and don’t offer yours back, no wonder your alone

Yes. I mean YASS. I'm an entitled lonely brat for not embracing the opportunity to market myself to men for sex. What was I thinking?"

This response speaks for itself

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

"I don't think I've marketed myself, ever. A career in sales is my idea of hell, let alone in my personal life.

But if you don't do it, I'm told, you're entitled to expect hot women to land on your thighs. Or summat.

Excellent. I'll just wait here.

How flexible are you on hot?"

It's compulsory. Struggling to find someone who can recite an out of date periodic table, though...

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple over a year ago

Manchester-ish

" my quim.

My penis. Like that bit in LOTR where they declare they’re in with their weapons.

Mr TMN"

And my axe (wound)

Maybe not

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple over a year ago

kent

" my quim.

My penis. Like that bit in LOTR where they declare they’re in with their weapons.

Mr TMN

And my axe (wound)

Maybe not

You can have my sword Xx

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By *G LanaTV/TS over a year ago

Gosport

"It's compulsory. Struggling to find someone who can recite an out of date periodic table, though..."

If you don't need them in the right order look for Tom Lehrer fans although most of them are probably fairly old now.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple over a year ago

Manchester-ish

" my quim.

My penis. Like that bit in LOTR where they declare they’re in with their weapons.

Mr TMN

And my axe (wound)

Maybe not

You can have my sword Xx"

In. As long as you're okay with hairy hobbit toes!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Hairy hobbit toes. I may need to work on my marketing

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple over a year ago

kent

" my quim.

My penis. Like that bit in LOTR where they declare they’re in with their weapons.

Mr TMN

And my axe (wound)

Maybe not

You can have my sword Xx

In. As long as you're okay with hairy hobbit toes!

I have Proudfoot hobbit feet. You’re in good company Xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"The idea that you shouldn’t have to market yourself to attract other is imbedded in entitlement

A good connection is based on both parties “marketing” themselves to each other

If you expect people to show you their best side and don’t offer yours back, no wonder your alone

Yes. I mean YASS. I'm an entitled lonely brat for not embracing the opportunity to market myself to men for sex. What was I thinking?"
You can hardly complain your not getting what your looking for then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You choose the photos most likely to attract those you want, you post updates, you post on forums. They’re all ways of getting attention which is essentially what marketing is for.

And most people are on here for attention which hopefully leads to them having fun.

Ah. Attention. Do some of us shy away from the thought of that? Or say we hate it when we actually live for it?

I do actually live for it, hence the boobs. I’m not getting any in real life so here’s my perfect opportunity for false self validation.

(Here, I’ve said it).

Nothing false from what I've seen and certainly worth validation.!

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By *edeWoman over a year ago

the abyss

Oh jesus I never realised I had to market myself. I just shine my weirdo light and hope someone isn't too freaked out by it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t market myself I’m just me

I do make an effort when engaging with others I feel I have something I’m common with, mostly for me that revolves around reading a profile and having similar interests and mindset, like friendship, involving the mind and building that connection. Also I do try reflecting that in my pictures, I don’t just take a quick picture I like to think about what I share hopefully attracting the right people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The idea that you shouldn’t have to market yourself to attract other is imbedded in entitlement

A good connection is based on both parties “marketing” themselves to each other

If you expect people to show you their best side and don’t offer yours back, no wonder your alone

Yes. I mean YASS. I'm an entitled lonely brat for not embracing the opportunity to market myself to men for sex. What was I thinking?

This response speaks for itself "

Doesn't it just?

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Oh jesus I never realised I had to market myself. I just shine my weirdo light and hope someone isn't too freaked out by it

Does that make me a weirdo moth?

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By *allandathleticMan over a year ago

Asgard

Far easier to market some personality through the forums. Than it is to write a profile.

The forums are varied and you get a feel for who's genuine and Who's a wind up merchant.

I don't have the time to scroll through profile after profile. Reading what people have written about themselves. And nor do I expect they will read mine.

Although what I will say is. Someone reading this will click my name and view my profile. So I guess this is a bit of marketing? *shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think I've marketed myself, ever. A career in sales is my idea of hell, let alone in my personal life.

But if you don't do it, I'm told, you're entitled to expect hot women to land on your thighs. Or summat.

Excellent. I'll just wait here.

How flexible are you on hot?

It's compulsory. Struggling to find someone who can recite an out of date periodic table, though..."

Runs off to find a periodical table poster I bought in 2002!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Things I also don’t know how to do: photo filters. Not that I would want to. I’ve seen the face ones and they look weird.

Plus I’d be so disappointed if I met someone and they didn’t look like their pix. So I wouldn’t do that to anyone.

Aw I kinda want to send you your face with a filter on now.

Do it!

Working on it!

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

It's an odd one but I do make a conscious decision what kind of photos I upload. I once uploaded a picture that had quite dominant vibes and my in box went a bit crazy. So I won't do that now as it's not my personality it was just a picture I liked. So I try to post pictures that will attract the kind of attention I want, if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The idea that you shouldn’t have to market yourself to attract other is imbedded in entitlement

A good connection is based on both parties “marketing” themselves to each other

If you expect people to show you their best side and don’t offer yours back, no wonder your alone

Yes. I mean YASS. I'm an entitled lonely brat for not embracing the opportunity to market myself to men for sex. What was I thinking?

YEAH. I’ll bet you live with CATS. So THERE.

(Hides dog) Adds cats to shopping list...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't even know how to market myself. I havn't really been trying with anything on here, I just kinda post photos and type random stuff in the forums and call it a day. Would be fun to give it a go though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's an odd one but I do make a conscious decision what kind of photos I upload. I once uploaded a picture that had quite dominant vibes and my in box went a bit crazy. So I won't do that now as it's not my personality it was just a picture I liked. So I try to post pictures that will attract the kind of attention I want, if that makes sense?"

Oh I know sometimes they have an unintended effect! I have one of my legs in stockings which I posted on another site - couldn't understand why I had all these guys asking about a foot fetish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't even know how to market myself. I havn't really been trying with anything on here, I just kinda post photos and type random stuff in the forums and call it a day. Would be fun to give it a go though!"

Refer to my list at the top! I think you already have a USP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh jesus I never realised I had to market myself. I just shine my weirdo light and hope someone isn't too freaked out by it

Does that make me a weirdo moth?

I think that makes a few weirdo moths

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet. "

This.

Whether you see it as marketing, a shop window or just an insight into you - everyone who posts photos, writes profile text and who has an active profile is in some way 'marketing'.

Even if you're not targeting a specific audience you will in some way via preferences stated, filters used and even interests, be attempting to put off some people from contacting you.

It doesn't have to be blatant marketing as if you were a product.

But just having a profile involves some aspect of marketing.

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By *edeWoman over a year ago

the abyss

"Oh jesus I never realised I had to market myself. I just shine my weirdo light and hope someone isn't too freaked out by it

Does that make me a weirdo moth?

Well I do like moths

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet.

This.

Whether you see it as marketing, a shop window or just an insight into you - everyone who posts photos, writes profile text and who has an active profile is in some way 'marketing'.

Even if you're not targeting a specific audience you will in some way via preferences stated, filters used and even interests, be attempting to put off some people from contacting you.

It doesn't have to be blatant marketing as if you were a product.

But just having a profile involves some aspect of marketing. "

Lots of people have probably said the same sort of thing, but I kinda read the OP, scrolled to the bottom and spotted that wise "not as old as some people" Obi had quoted and said what I want to say.

So... that.

I mean, I could have just left well alone but I haven't called him old in a couple of weeks and I needed to

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By *afa19Man over a year ago

london

I'm door to door kind of marketing guy, drop a massage to the profile suites my demands.. Very picky so don't do the mass market

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Oh jesus I never realised I had to market myself. I just shine my weirdo light and hope someone isn't too freaked out by it

Aaaaaand that is you doing it right there

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet.

This.

Whether you see it as marketing, a shop window or just an insight into you - everyone who posts photos, writes profile text and who has an active profile is in some way 'marketing'.

Even if you're not targeting a specific audience you will in some way via preferences stated, filters used and even interests, be attempting to put off some people from contacting you.

It doesn't have to be blatant marketing as if you were a product.

But just having a profile involves some aspect of marketing. "

Maybe I just really don't like marketing then, Obi? Here or elsewhere. I've struggled with it work-wise too. It's been very interesting reading all of the perspectives put forward.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm door to door kind of marketing guy, drop a massage to the profile suites my demands.. Very picky so don't do the mass market

Drop a massage or a message?

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"We all market ourselves in one way or another, If we didn’t we’d all have blank profiles.

The pictures I upload are there to hopefully attract the type of people I want to meet.

This.

Whether you see it as marketing, a shop window or just an insight into you - everyone who posts photos, writes profile text and who has an active profile is in some way 'marketing'.

Even if you're not targeting a specific audience you will in some way via preferences stated, filters used and even interests, be attempting to put off some people from contacting you.

It doesn't have to be blatant marketing as if you were a product.

But just having a profile involves some aspect of marketing. "

Yes exactly this and can’t believe the word marketing causes such a stir. Call it what you wish but it’s obvious people have to do something to make themselves attractive and stand out to the type of people that interest them. Men obviously have to do it a bit more as so many of us relatively but even a lady has to market herself (even if she might not want to call it that). A lady with a blank profile and no pics is going to struggle to find the right people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Far easier to market some personality through the forums. Than it is to write a profile.

The forums are varied and you get a feel for who's genuine and Who's a wind up merchant.

I don't have the time to scroll through profile after profile. Reading what people have written about themselves. And nor do I expect they will read mine.

Although what I will say is. Someone reading this will click my name and view my profile. So I guess this is a bit of marketing? *shrugs*"

Actually I do agree wholeheartedly with this. Many of my current chats are from a comment I made or a thread I started. I'm crap at describing myself. And apparently feisty doesn't mean what I thought it did so that's our. Much better to show my personality arguing on threads about misogyny.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't and never have 'marketed' myself.

BUT... if I was after something or someone i'd market accordingly.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Far easier to market some personality through the forums. Than it is to write a profile.

The forums are varied and you get a feel for who's genuine and Who's a wind up merchant.

I don't have the time to scroll through profile after profile. Reading what people have written about themselves. And nor do I expect they will read mine.

Although what I will say is. Someone reading this will click my name and view my profile. So I guess this is a bit of marketing? *shrugs*"

The forum is not the entire site. In fact it's a tiny part used by a small percentage of members. You'd need a profile for all members to read. No point in relying on forum personality unless you really want a barrel rather than an ocean.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple over a year ago

Stoke

We just put up pictures we like and that's about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know it's a thing here but the idea of doing so makes me die inside a little.

I used to refer to it as "flag flying" here - people put up a certain flag they hope will attract others...

All seems disingenuous to me, but I've become jaded by this place over the years.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Tits and cake

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By *hagTonightMan over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

By being here, we are all doing it automatically

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By *urious2SeeCouple over a year ago

Leicester

Not sure if this is marketing myself or just letting people know what I want lol but I’m looking for a good looking guy to keep me entertained, not necessarily to meet, so distance isn’t an issue. Just someone I can chat with normally and someone that’s very good with erotic chat as I love getting horny on messages. Happy for inboxes, but please attach face pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Far easier to market some personality through the forums. Than it is to write a profile.

The forums are varied and you get a feel for who's genuine and Who's a wind up merchant.

I don't have the time to scroll through profile after profile. Reading what people have written about themselves. And nor do I expect they will read mine.

Although what I will say is. Someone reading this will click my name and view my profile. So I guess this is a bit of marketing? *shrugs*

It's easier to hit something shooting in a barrel. Just saying.

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By *ressupgurlTV/TS over a year ago

Belfast

I tend to chat to others for a while to see if they remain polite and in control. After that, I offer a live meet and depending on how that goes, I may meet again or choose not to. I'd welcome any thoughts or advice from others and also PM me if you wish to chat or more x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know it's a thing here but the idea of doing so makes me die inside a little.

I used to refer to it as "flag flying" here - people put up a certain flag they hope will attract others...

All seems disingenuous to me, but I've become jaded by this place over the years."

You can probably tell it makes me die a little too. And it's not just the language used. It's a reflection of how far meeting people has moved from going to a local dance and liking the look of someone. It just makes me sad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't and never have 'marketed' myself.

BUT... if I was after something or someone i'd market accordingly."

Yeah you say that but your profile pic makes my minge drip. And the air of mystery drains my balls.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The fuck reviews, the pics, the sex menu tick boxes. Not marketing at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't and never have 'marketed' myself.

BUT... if I was after something or someone i'd market accordingly."

I'd rummage through your broken biscuit tin.

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"I've seen this mentioned a few times lately here. How do you feel about it? Do you market yourself on here to attract who you want to attract?

Or does the idea make you

Like the word or not. But that's exactly what those people who are trying to meet or want something from others are doing.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Oh jesus I never realised I had to market myself. I just shine my weirdo light and hope someone isn't too freaked out by it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BOGOF

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By *obilebottomMan over a year ago

All over

It all sounds rather clinical as if you are dealing with a product. Each to their own of course but not all that glittets is gold. Talking to people is really all you need and you soon find out whether a transaction, whatever that means to someone, is on the cards or not.

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