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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do gauge how someone is out of your league yes can be attractive but surely you have the confidence in your own looks and body well thats my opinion |
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"How do gauge how someone is out of your league yes can be attractive but surely you have the confidence in your own looks and body well thats my opinion "
Sadly not everyone does and I have mates who on a night out won’t approach a hot girl for fear of rejection
I’d rather approach and be turned down than think what if |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't believe in leagues.
I know, how fucking clichéd can a forum user be? Might as well say I love a connection and kissing as well.
I think people have different things that can make them attractive to others. It doesn't mean someone is in a lower or higher league. Maybe it's because I'm demi but I rarely experience sexual attraction immediately. Actually, maybe once in the past five years or so. I kind of view messaging people differently differently to most I imagine. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Nobody is out of my league. I'm fucking awesome.
However, on a society level view of leagues, all the fucking time. There are extremely sexy and attractive people on here. Some would, but most wouldn't give me a second look. I know because I've lived it.
That said I'm still genuinely and pleasantly shocked by the interest, time, energy and attention I've been given by some of these women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know where I stand on the spectrum of attractiveness and don’t go too higher than what I deserve
I get matches sometimes with women quite out of my league on the apps and just unmatch before talking. It’s nice to know I might meet their physical requirements but I know where I stand |
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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago
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I recently plucked up the courage to message someone I’ve had my eye on for ages - but thought he wouldn’t be interested in me.
We met up and I had the best meet I’ve had in almost 10 years (on and off) of being here, and I’ve had some great meets over the years. This was off the scale.
Lesson learned!!! What had I got to lose really? Worst he could have said no or ignored me.
Life is too short, don’t wait around take a chance. |
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Without a doubt give it a shot!
I'm far from desperate so if its a no it a no. But if you don't try you'll never ever know.
Sometimes they'll bin you off, others havebalready liked you, and sometimes it's literally that you've caught them when they're really horny. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I recently plucked up the courage to message someone I’ve had my eye on for ages - but thought he wouldn’t be interested in me.
We met up and I had the best meet I’ve had in almost 10 years (on and off) of being here, and I’ve had some great meets over the years. This was off the scale.
Lesson learned!!! What had I got to lose really? Worst he could have said no or ignored me.
Life is too short, don’t wait around take a chance. "
This is it really. Nothing to lose. Years of rejection by strangers taught me that. A rejection changes nothing, it's the acceptance which makes new changes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I focus on building connections with people who share similar interests and values, making it more likely to establish meaningful connections and relationships.
If they can't forge those connections, or if they don't want to, then regretfully, I'm out of their league. 
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"How do gauge how someone is out of your league yes can be attractive but surely you have the confidence in your own looks and body well thats my opinion
Sadly not everyone does and I have mates who on a night out won’t approach a hot girl for fear of rejection
I’d rather approach and be turned down than think what if "
Yep that's be you don't know till you try a and I find if I get knocked back buy someone realy as you put it out of my league I do find it's less of a knock back.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here ..As most don't show their faces I message those whose pictures attract and words that interest
In the real world if I've noticed some hint(s) positive body language I'll approsch
Leagues are for sports teams |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When selecting a potential playmate to message do you
Message those you perceive to be out of your league anyway
Or
Retire gracefully and not try your luck ?
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I never let that stop me, people all bleed and die no matter how rich or posh they claim to be, it's bullshit. |
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I tend to shy away from super hot men and women and go for still attractive but not super attractive people instead with reasonable success
Not so much these days just tend to get ghosted or left waiting like a pleb  |
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"When selecting a potential playmate to message do you
Message those you perceive to be out of your league anyway
Or
Retire gracefully and not try your luck ?
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Depends what's in their bio.
If it's the cliche hot,tall, hung, then I don't bother.
If they come across down to earth, then yes, regardless how good they look.
Majority of my ex girlfriends were really out of my league.
I mean most guys fancied them and many even prettier girls approached me.
I didn't cheat though, but I had a lot of offers.
Especially when I was with the hot milf in my 20's.
I was a pussy magnet and I look better now. Advantages of being ugly. Either look the same or look better with age. I've never been hot, tall or hung, but always had the balls to approach any woman I wanted.
They weren't with me because of my huge cock, handsome face or my height.
To be honest I have sent 1 message in the last 1 month probably.
My ego needs to heal a little bit.
Mostly feeling humiliated, ashamed, naive or stupid after messaging recently.
I even tried to aim lower.
That made me feel even worse than messaging out of my league.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Attraction is the only thing that matters, there's no such thing as leagues. Same as the people who say it's their loss, no it isn't, they aren't missing out on anything extraordinary. |
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"When selecting a potential playmate to message do you
Message those you perceive to be out of your league anyway
Or
Retire gracefully and not try your luck ?
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I don't do messages to play... Occasionally I will ping someone a compliment, and almost always the ones who respond are the ones above my weight so to speak... Which is a metaphor because no way are they above my physical weight! |
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"Attraction is the only thing that matters, there's no such thing as leagues. Same as the people who say it's their loss, no it isn't, they aren't missing out on anything extraordinary."
I think there are leagues in a lot of peoples minds |
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"Thinking about this the other day but us not so good looking tend to be very aware of it but do the attractive ones know they are and think I can do so much better?
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It’s tricky I’ve heard some very attractive ones don’t get approached on nights out because guys think they wouldn’t be interested |
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I haven’t been brave to message anyone yet but when I’ll finally pluck up the courage, I’ll pick the hottest ones (hottest in my opinion though, which can greatly differ from what others think is hot). Because what have I got to lose? |
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"I haven’t been brave to message anyone yet but when I’ll finally pluck up the courage, I’ll pick the hottest ones (hottest in my opinion though, which can greatly differ from what others think is hot). Because what have I got to lose? "
Exactly, apart from a bit of pride you’ve got nothing to lose and everything to win |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do you tell what league they are in? Can you tell before of after a face pic and conversation?
I think I've mirrored exactly what I did before fab on fab.
Actually no fab has been worse in one respect. A heck of a lot worse. |
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"How do you tell what league they are in? Can you tell before of after a face pic and conversation?
I think I've mirrored exactly what I did before fab on fab.
Actually no fab has been worse in one respect. A heck of a lot worse."
Make mates of mine go by there looks “she’s to hot for me”
It’s too long a story to tell but after one very sad experience I NEVER didn’t take a chance again |
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"How do you tell what league they are in? Can you tell before or after a face pic and conversation?
And how does promotion/relegation work? Is there a transfer window?"
Absolutely, get hit by a bus “relegation” visit a beautician “promotion” pay for it “transfer window” |
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"When selecting a potential playmate to message do you
Message those you perceive to be out of your league anyway
Or
Retire gracefully and not try your luck ?
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I retire gracefully wondering what if but being blanked or just deleted is not something I care for  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I just assume that anyone I find attractive isn't going to be interested in me. But I'll happily message anyone for a chat.
I've always been surprised by the utter gorgeousness of the people who, as it turns out, actually are attracted to me. Who knew  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just assume that anyone I find attractive isn't going to be interested in me. But I'll happily message anyone for a chat.
I've always been surprised by the utter gorgeousness of the people who, as it turns out, actually are attracted to me. Who knew "
I understand that it's the fact that you are from Sydney Uni itself that is a major factor, the boys cannot resist an academic and want to be involved in your research*
(* I was led to believe that you have the official Sydney Uni Research Dept uniform, and have issued it to other research students) |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I just assume that anyone I find attractive isn't going to be interested in me. But I'll happily message anyone for a chat.
I've always been surprised by the utter gorgeousness of the people who, as it turns out, actually are attracted to me. Who knew
I understand that it's the fact that you are from Sydney Uni itself that is a major factor, the boys cannot resist an academic and want to be involved in your research*
(* I was led to believe that you have the official Sydney Uni Research Dept uniform, and have issued it to other research students) "
You would be correct!
So what you're saying is they want me for my clothes... not for me?
Aww man |
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I'm nothing special but occasionally I've managed to attract some very beautiful women who I would have absolutely thought were out of my league.
Have I learned anything from these experiences? Absolutely not. I still believe in leagues even though my personal experience tells me they don't exist (or at least not always). |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
i dont look at others and think they are above or below i only go with people i sexual attracted to and enjoy the messages / confidence that lead up hopefully they feel the same .... no one is above me no one is below me
im not interested in people who think they are above me or below im just looking for confident fun people so easy to spot those who think there shit dont stink or those who have zero confidence |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
cheshire |
"i dont look at others and think they are above or below i only go with people i sexual attracted to and enjoy the messages / confidence that lead up hopefully they feel the same .... no one is above me no one is below me
im not interested in people who think they are above me or below im just looking for confident fun people so easy to spot those who think there shit dont stink or those who have zero confidence "
,,, this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't believe anyone is out of my league. Not here or offline. Nor am I out of anyone's.
There's just preferences and likes/dislikes. It doesn't matter how amazing anyone is, they won't be everyone's cup of tea. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"When selecting a potential playmate to message do you
Message those you perceive to be out of your league anyway
Or
Retire gracefully and not try your luck ?
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Hey… if you don’t shoot your shot you never know!
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"When selecting a potential playmate to message do you
Message those you perceive to be out of your league anyway
Or
Retire gracefully and not try your luck ?
Hey… if you don’t shoot your shot you never know!
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Yep, made one huge mistake on my yoof, never again and wondering what if is worse than a bit of short term rejection pain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just assume that anyone I find attractive isn't going to be interested in me. But I'll happily message anyone for a chat.
I've always been surprised by the utter gorgeousness of the people who, as it turns out, actually are attracted to me. Who knew
I understand that it's the fact that you are from Sydney Uni itself that is a major factor, the boys cannot resist an academic and want to be involved in your research*
(* I was led to believe that you have the official Sydney Uni Research Dept uniform, and have issued it to other research students)
You would be correct!
So what you're saying is they want me for my clothes... not for me?
Aww man "
I believe I was saying that it's your brain they are after, but your acolytes acquired the uniform in homage to your prowess! |
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By *t500Man
over a year ago
Hitchin |
It's obvious that the odds are stacked in the favour of single females but that's not a reason to not make the effort and take a chance with someone you think you'd get on with. Go for it, the worst you'll get is a no  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I just assume that anyone I find attractive isn't going to be interested in me. But I'll happily message anyone for a chat.
I've always been surprised by the utter gorgeousness of the people who, as it turns out, actually are attracted to me. Who knew
I understand that it's the fact that you are from Sydney Uni itself that is a major factor, the boys cannot resist an academic and want to be involved in your research*
(* I was led to believe that you have the official Sydney Uni Research Dept uniform, and have issued it to other research students)
You would be correct!
So what you're saying is they want me for my clothes... not for me?
Aww man
I believe I was saying that it's your brain they are after, but your acolytes acquired the uniform in homage to your prowess!"
See... you made it better  |
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I'll message most people as I generally don't expect a response but if I get a conversation it's a bonus any more is phenomenal
I don't have the most confidence but I like to think I present myself well and can hold a conversation
So yeah not desperate but not arrogant
I treat people fairly and I hope for the same
And just have fun
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"When selecting a potential playmate to message do you
Message those you perceive to be out of your league anyway
Or
Retire gracefully and not try your luck ?
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I don't believe anyone is out of my league, I'm not arrogant but no one plays with my confidence.
I don't come across my type on here much either |
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"For me it's not so much the individual BUT if i look at verifications and see that previous people they've met are really hot then I wouldn't meet them. "
But … but … you’re really hot as well! I don’t understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I feel like they are out of my league there’s no way I’d reach out first.
As mentioned above I’d also check out their veris to check out who they’ve met previously. I know it’s awful comparing yourself to others but I do sometimes. |
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"How do gauge how someone is out of your league yes can be attractive but surely you have the confidence in your own looks and body well thats my opinion
Sadly not everyone does and I have mates who on a night out won’t approach a hot girl for fear of rejection
I’d rather approach and be turned down than think what if "
Go for it! Just because a girl appears 'too hot' that doesn't mean anything.
She may turn out to be high maintenance though....haha |
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I recommend always trying your luck, you never know someone elses tastes.
