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... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me?? |
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Yes... But they are a rarity.
Mine is actually the first guy I met off here. In all honesty, no one else has ever matched up to him in terms of decency/consistency/communication etc. He's a true friend with benefits. |
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"Yes... But they are a rarity.
Mine is actually the first guy I met off here. In all honesty, no one else has ever matched up to him in terms of decency/consistency/communication etc. He's a true friend with benefits."
This is awesome and what I want to find but bugger me, it's really hard work!! |
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"It can take a while and lots of patience, but I have met some nice men over the years. To be fair, I think there are some pretty strange women on here too."
Oh I don't doubt that for a second. I'm not looking for women though so I can't comment on their normalness!  |
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over a year ago
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Weird in what way?
I don't think normal really exists. Everyone has quirks that you either find endearing or turn you right off. I like to think the people I've had sex with have been on my wavelength on a personal level as well as a sexual one  |
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over a year ago
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"Yeah I go on dates away from here too occasionally
Hmm you've not said if they or you are normal "
They’re normal, I’m
Ex military… I don’t think anyone ex mil
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
I've met some great people on here.
Some I meet regularly and are pretty much friends as well now as we get on well.
I think that you have to sound people out and see uf they are your people.
But, I am very relaxed and easygoing too so it may just be me... |
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"Weird in what way?
I don't think normal really exists. Everyone has quirks that you either find endearing or turn you right off. I like to think the people I've had sex with have been on my wavelength on a personal level as well as a sexual one "
I think I just mean anyone who says they are someone looking for something and they are just that. I don't get all the pretence and games. |
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"Yeah I go on dates away from here too occasionally
Hmm you've not said if they or you are normal
They’re normal, I’m
Ex military… I don’t think anyone ex mil
Is normal "
You're also a guy. I'm not questioning women. We all seem pretty switched on. Not sure what happens to guys!! |
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By *rRiosMan
over a year ago
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"It can take a while and lots of patience, but I have met some nice men over the years. To be fair, I think there are some pretty strange women on here too."
Haha I was talking with my female friend the other day. She was complaining about the guys she’s meeting being weird, and I was saying the girls I meet are odd too.
Maybe we’re all just strange and we are willing to let a lot of stuff slide when we’re not trying to have sex with them!  |
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"Yeah I go on dates away from here too occasionally
Hmm you've not said if they or you are normal
They’re normal, I’m
Ex military… I don’t think anyone ex mil
Is normal "
Normal is not all it is cracked up to be anyway.
I don't think I want to be exactly like anyone else .
You've come out of the forces with a smile still and that is really something these days.
Great smile there too by the way.
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"Just a thought Scarlet Seduction. Are you the common denominator in this equation? Perhaps they actually were all normal????
Gbat "
Ah yeah. I made them all suddenly married which they had forgotten about. Not able to meet because the dog died, can't cope because I'm on a swingers site (er yeah, that's where we met honey). Yeah. It's me. |
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We had a single guy we played with for over a year but he’s just got himself a GF  …so we are looking too and have to agree, you get chatting then they either tell you about their partner they don’t mention on their profile or they just cease chatting…
…it’s time and effort to find the right person(s) and I think you have to have patience
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"Weird in what way?
I don't think normal really exists. Everyone has quirks that you either find endearing or turn you right off. I like to think the people I've had sex with have been on my wavelength on a personal level as well as a sexual one
I think I just mean anyone who says they are someone looking for something and they are just that. I don't get all the pretence and games."
Ahhh that explains it. People like and I think we can guess why they do... |
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"Yeah I go on dates away from here too occasionally
Hmm you've not said if they or you are normal
They’re normal, I’m
Ex military… I don’t think anyone ex mil
Is normal
Thanks and if you can’t smile there’s something wrong.
Normal is not all it is cracked up to be anyway.
I don't think I want to be exactly like anyone else .
You've come out of the forces with a smile still and that is really something these days.
Great smile there too by the way.
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"We had a single guy we played with for over a year but he’s just got himself a GF …so we are looking too and have to agree, you get chatting then they either tell you about their partner they don’t mention on their profile or they just cease chatting…
…it’s time and effort to find the right person(s) and I think you have to have patience
K"
Yeah I get that. I managed it perfectly well as a couple. I get it takes time but they were there. It's so completely different as a single. It's fucking horrible and brutal. My experience with 10+years as a couple and a year or so single. It's a different ball game completely. |
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
What is it specifically that they have done/said? |
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"Why would you want normal
OK maybe not normal. Just someone who isn't deranged with all their lifetime baggage in my face would be nice
Go younger... Less baggage! That's one thing I've learnt."
They just bore me usually. I think you're right though!! |
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"We had a single guy we played with for over a year but he’s just got himself a GF …so we are looking too and have to agree, you get chatting then they either tell you about their partner they don’t mention on their profile or they just cease chatting…
…it’s time and effort to find the right person(s) and I think you have to have patience
K
Yeah I get that. I managed it perfectly well as a couple. I get it takes time but they were there. It's so completely different as a single. It's fucking horrible and brutal. My experience with 10+years as a couple and a year or so single. It's a different ball game completely. "
When you start out, especially as a single or a couple you get completely bombarded with everyone messaging you thinking you are new, naive and fresh meat! So you’ll get all sorts of shite in your inbox!
I’m surprised new single females survive the first month on here because of the crap they go through!
We got completely battered but I know single women will be so much more!
K |
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"We had a single guy we played with for over a year but he’s just got himself a GF …so we are looking too and have to agree, you get chatting then they either tell you about their partner they don’t mention on their profile or they just cease chatting…
…it’s time and effort to find the right person(s) and I think you have to have patience
K
Yeah I get that. I managed it perfectly well as a couple. I get it takes time but they were there. It's so completely different as a single. It's fucking horrible and brutal. My experience with 10+years as a couple and a year or so single. It's a different ball game completely.
When you start out, especially as a single or a couple you get completely bombarded with everyone messaging you thinking you are new, naive and fresh meat! So you’ll get all sorts of shite in your inbox!
I’m surprised new single females survive the first month on here because of the crap they go through!
We got completely battered but I know single women will be so much more!
K"
I've been here nearly 2 years as a single. I know this and am set up right. So it's not that. Even before I deleted I just couldn't work it right as a single. |
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over a year ago
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
I would say I've met a few. Scattered in different locations but I have.
I also like to think I'm pretty normal as well. |
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"I think Covid switched things a bit "
I was going to suggest something similar. I know for a fact that some single guys I know didn't cope with lockdowns well at all, and it sure impacted on their mental well-being to the point that the idea of dating and relationships messed them up in the head somehow. Unfortunately, I think a lot of guys still won't admit to suffering, though, which is a shame. |
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"I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird." Seems familiar. In real life, not Fab, when I've been attached I've had a lot of interest from other ladies, but as soon as I'm a single guy they pretty much all run a mile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am in a similar position.
Recently ended a long term relationship.
We had a joint profile on here as well as solo ones.
I’m not sure if it’s because I’m now feeling more vulnerable as a single woman. As part of a couple I felt shielded to a certain extent.
I haven’t rewritten my profile yet, nor have I changed my looking for to single men.
As it is I get inundated every day with messages from guys who have clearly ignored every word I’ve written.
Time will tell. I think it’s a case of accepting zero BS.
There’s some good, decent ones out there who appear when you’re not even looking.
Good luck OP  |
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Time will tell. I think it’s a case of accepting zero BS.
There’s some good, decent ones out there who appear when you’re not even looking.
Good luck OP "
Yeah it's those ones who are turning out to be weird. I think I've reached the end. |
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I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here. |
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here. "
Awww you're awesome then. It must be me |
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here. "
Definitely seems to be a dumping on guys. Oooh I was in the peaks yesterday walking my pooch. Still can’t we you a guided walk.
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here.
Definitely seems to be a dumping on guys. Oooh I was in the peaks yesterday walking my pooch. Still can’t we you a guided walk.
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Still owe you I meant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
What do you mean by normal? And what have they actually done… and a it maybe your tolerance has changed, or what you’re looking for has changed.
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Keep your chin up Op, some of us are still normal and haven't gone over to the weird side just yet 
All the TV programmes about swinging and dogging over the last 5 or 6 yrs opened it all up and attracted all the loons and chancers.
Most of the guys on here just want a quick shag and move on to the next. Some of us are happy to put in the ground work and get to know you 1st. Well I always have, and it's lead to several long-term swinging partners; single ladies & couples |
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here.
Definitely seems to be a dumping on guys. Oooh I was in the peaks yesterday walking my pooch. Still can’t we you a guided walk.
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Not dumping on guys at all. Just asking. I mean it might well be me now I'm single. But I just feel the dynamics are weird for singles. I didn't feel that as a couple hence why I asked. You carry on walking your dog and attracting the ladies while you do it. I'm gonna ponder my corner as it doesn't seem to work the same way anymore. |
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here.
Definitely seems to be a dumping on guys. Oooh I was in the peaks yesterday walking my pooch. Still can’t we you a guided walk.
Not dumping on guys at all. Just asking. I mean it might well be me now I'm single. But I just feel the dynamics are weird for singles. I didn't feel that as a couple hence why I asked. You carry on walking your dog and attracting the ladies while you do it. I'm gonna ponder my corner as it doesn't seem to work the same way anymore. "
I wasn’t trying to say it’s you… but maybe your dynamics have changed… or are all the messages from
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
Maybe who knows what normal is these days, i think I'm normal, i certainly try to live my life but my present job has taken over all semblance of life its time for change |
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By *ximiaMan
over a year ago
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
I had a couples profile and we met some decent people.
As least you have the luxury of deleting weirdos, single guys on here are competing against numbers, arrogance and weird.
I normal and fun and on the verge of deleting cos I'm better than competing against what you say, lol |
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By *ximiaMan
over a year ago
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"Yes... But they are a rarity.
Mine is actually the first guy I met off here. In all honesty, no one else has ever matched up to him in terms of decency/consistency/communication etc. He's a true friend with benefits."
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here.
Definitely seems to be a dumping on guys. Oooh I was in the peaks yesterday walking my pooch. Still can’t we you a guided walk.
Not dumping on guys at all. Just asking. I mean it might well be me now I'm single. But I just feel the dynamics are weird for singles. I didn't feel that as a couple hence why I asked. You carry on walking your dog and attracting the ladies while you do it. I'm gonna ponder my corner as it doesn't seem to work the same way anymore.
I wasn’t trying to say it’s you… but maybe your dynamics have changed… or are all the messages from
Chancers "
Probably they are. I can't fix that which is sad. |
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here.
Definitely seems to be a dumping on guys. Oooh I was in the peaks yesterday walking my pooch. Still can’t we you a guided walk.
Not dumping on guys at all. Just asking. I mean it might well be me now I'm single. But I just feel the dynamics are weird for singles. I didn't feel that as a couple hence why I asked. You carry on walking your dog and attracting the ladies while you do it. I'm gonna ponder my corner as it doesn't seem to work the same way anymore.
I wasn’t trying to say it’s you… but maybe your dynamics have changed… or are all the messages from
Chancers
Probably they are. I can't fix that which is sad. "
I always say when it feels a chore being in here it’s time to hide the profile, or take a break for a week or two. Comeback if you feel better or leave it a while longer.
Everyone’s tolerance levels get pushed to there limits at times x
Hope you’re ok though x |
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Yeah it's those ones who are turning out to be weird. I think I've reached the end. "
Oh really? That’s not so good  As in getting clingy/jealous or in some other way? |
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
I’ve met normal females and think I’m
A normal guy lol not had anyone I’ve met say different lol |
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here.
Definitely seems to be a dumping on guys. Oooh I was in the peaks yesterday walking my pooch. Still can’t we you a guided walk.
Not dumping on guys at all. Just asking. I mean it might well be me now I'm single. But I just feel the dynamics are weird for singles. I didn't feel that as a couple hence why I asked. You carry on walking your dog and attracting the ladies while you do it. I'm gonna ponder my corner as it doesn't seem to work the same way anymore.
I wasn’t trying to say it’s you… but maybe your dynamics have changed… or are all the messages from
Chancers
Probably they are. I can't fix that which is sad.
I always say when it feels a chore being in here it’s time to hide the profile, or take a break for a week or two. Comeback if you feel better or leave it a while longer.
Everyone’s tolerance levels get pushed to there limits at times x
Hope you’re ok though x"
Thanks. I know when I'm ready for a break. I delete. I don't hide
I know it's not me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one has matched the first guy I met on here. (I'm pretty sure he was the first anyway)
Has never given me anything to complain about, no bullshit, no drama, no games just respectful, chilled and adult.
If carlsberg made single men....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some of my most memorable dates came off here.
Men who took time to properly wine, dine… we skipped past 69 bit.
Tbh, men who have been brilliant communicators, fun to spend time with, keen on building connections before dicking me down.
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"Yeah I go on dates away from here too occasionally
Hmm you've not said if they or you are normal
They’re normal, I’m
Ex military… I don’t think anyone ex mil
Is normal "
I’ve worked with a few, definitely a screw loose but really in the nicest possible way |
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I think some guys, in trying to stand out and appear unique, take their comments and behaviour too far. Others are indeed mental. Some have all the qualities you're looking for and it's because of this they don't blow their own trumpet all over the site making them harder to find.
The forums here are probably a good place to find some of the good ones. Just look for the threads full of swooning women lol then you can see who it is they are keen on and then check the guys comments, profile, etc etc, and see if he floats your boat |
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Majority of mine were from men, trying to treat me as a disposable pleasure, rather than a meaningful pursuit. So I turned my looking for off and put strict filters on, 2 years ago and searched for the compatible ones myself |
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
Yes, it is you 
You, consciously or subconsciously have a type of Male you’re attracted to. Don’t be surprised if they all turn out to be similar |
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over a year ago
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"If you're normal, you aren't on fab.
Got to be 99 to message you haha
Rumour has it women can message first!
Ssshhhh don't tell anyone though.
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Really..?!?!
What kind of sorcery is this..??? |
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
Yes I’ve met some “normal” people but have had to wade through loads of time wasters to find them. |
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I think there should be a happy medium...
Normal is usually boring sorry to say haha ..
I'm far from normal but I don't bullshit anyone about it , I'm me and I like a bit of quirkiness in the people I meet |
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"Why would you want normal
OK maybe not normal. Just someone who isn't deranged with all their lifetime baggage in my face would be nice
Go younger... Less baggage! That's one thing I've learnt.
They just bore me usually. I think you're right though!!"
Sadly, boring is kinda normal. As is baggage. We all have it. Have you met, uh, people? Nothing weird about that.
I have met 4 guys from here, all were the kind of weird but good that I'm looking for. One of them is now an FWB, another found a gf after we had a couple of kinky play dates and we keep in touch, another life got in the way of a second meet but we chat a bit. All of them decent men (as far as you can tell from chatting here and a social).
I have a lot of conversations that fizzle out naturally. That's just dating/hook up apps in general really. Some people you don't want to talk to, some you do but then don't want to meet, some you meet but don't want to play with, and some you play with and don't want to repeat. I find the more open I am about what I want and the less I compromise those standards the better quality those meets I have are. |
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
All I can say as a bi guy is that 95% of women I meet are normal and about 80% of guys
If your meeting a lot of weirdos is most likely your vetting process |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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None of us are normal. Even those that claim to be - we may be to ourselves, and others in some situations may fit in to our our perception of normal. But make no mistake.
None of us are normal.
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I get weird messages. Convoluted and confused. I think the guys I've met (aside from one) would count as normal. Some of them selfish arseholes but I think that still comes under normal. |
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over a year ago
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
Chance of showing someone I'm normal would be nice |
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By *asyGent75Man
over a year ago
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"Yeah I go on dates away from here too occasionally
Hmm you've not said if they or you are normal
They’re normal, I’m
Ex military… I don’t think anyone ex mil
Is normal "
I’m ex Royal Navy so I know for definite I’m not normal |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here.
Definitely seems to be a dumping on guys. Oooh I was in the peaks yesterday walking my pooch. Still can’t we you a guided walk.
Not dumping on guys at all. Just asking. I mean it might well be me now I'm single. But I just feel the dynamics are weird for singles. I didn't feel that as a couple hence why I asked. You carry on walking your dog and attracting the ladies while you do it. I'm gonna ponder my corner as it doesn't seem to work the same way anymore. "
The dynamics are totally different when you're in a couple and you'll attract a completely different audience.
Men looking to meet couples will see two people in a relationship. They'll (usually) be interested in a physical only encounter, maybe something occasionally regular, and whilst there can be an element of friendship and a good social aspect to the connection, there won't (usually) be that mindset of 'this could develop in to more' in their heads. So you'll attract those with more of a level headed 'swinger' mentality that enjoys a threesome dynamic and of course the odd guy that struggles to meet singles. They'll also be aware you have a partner so approaches may tend to be more respectful and considered. And you have that safety net of your other half to help sift through potentials and step in should things turn sour.
With singles meeting singles it's different. Some will say whatever they feel works to get the end result - their dick wet. Some are looking just for a quick and easy bunk up. Some are still harbouring emotional baggage from previous relationships. Some a just, as you say, weird. Some see all women on here as wanting the same thing without bothering to make serious enquiries.
It doesn't matter whether you're a man or a woman. Single life on here will always be different once you switch from coupledom to flying solo. If you're a woman couples will see you as that unicorn. If you're a guy many couples will think you should be grateful of any attention or offer. You also have to consider that if you're lookingbto meet 1-2-1 that you'll now be encountering people looking for everything from a one off play meet to a potential LTR.
It's something that takes time to get used to. Whether that's a month or two or a year or two.
Sometimes it seems easy, other times it's a minefield. The one thing you can never control is the other person in the equation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met some amazing single guys over the years on fabs.
But recently there's been an influx of strange men who expect too much and are very crude with it. I'm not a prude, but porn movies have a lot to answer for!
I hope you find some exceptional men OP x |
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I tend to chat a while before even meeting for a social. It’s not for everyone but it’s the way I’ve always done it. I can usually filter out the loons that way. I haven’t met many men but the ones I have met/am meeting have been great. |
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"I tend to chat a while before even meeting for a social. It’s not for everyone but it’s the way I’ve always done it. I can usually filter out the loons that way. I haven’t met many men but the ones I have met/am meeting have been great. "
This is the same for us. We never rush to meet anyone, and always meet social first. the singletons we have met have mostly been lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lately I can't even get a decent conversion here. Every 'single' guy is either too thirsty or just straight up weird.
I've recently turned a guy down and recieved 20 plus messages from him after of stupid jokes, like he somehow thinks I'll change my mind if he's funny (he's not funny) |
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"I've met plenty of "normal" guys over the years, with only a couple of whack jobs. I've also never had any of the abuse that a lot of ladies say they get. I don't know what I was doing differently, but I've always had a tremendous time on here. "
Exactly the same. |
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"Lately I can't even get a decent conversion here. Every 'single' guy is either too thirsty or just straight up weird.
I've recently turned a guy down and recieved 20 plus messages from him after of stupid jokes, like he somehow thinks I'll change my mind if he's funny (he's not funny)"
You need to use the block button more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lately I can't even get a decent conversion here. Every 'single' guy is either too thirsty or just straight up weird.
I've recently turned a guy down and recieved 20 plus messages from him after of stupid jokes, like he somehow thinks I'll change my mind if he's funny (he's not funny)
You need to use the block button more."
He's blocked. The messages all arrived while I was offline, literally after I turned him down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion it's down to the fact it's a free site and they come on and will not be true to themselves not to women. They want a quick wank and perv at photos. They won't say they are married. They pretend to be a couple but the woman is never around. They request photos on first message (no chance) and they look nothing like they say they do in their profile. "Athletic" my arse. The majority are here for a quick wank that's it. Get their kicks and leave. |
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"I tend to chat a while before even meeting for a social. It’s not for everyone but it’s the way I’ve always done it. I can usually filter out the loons that way. I haven’t met many men but the ones I have met/am meeting have been great. "
Yes this is how I work. I'm not in a hurry and they all seem perfectly normal to begin with. I'm not exactly new to this and I've not changed how I did things when I met alone as part of a couple. Never had an issue before and met some great guys. The only difference is I'm now single. Maybe by being single my outlook has changed and I haven't noticed that I'm approaching things differently? Dammit. It is me isn't it? |
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"No one has matched the first guy I met on here. (I'm pretty sure he was the first anyway)
Has never given me anything to complain about, no bullshit, no drama, no games just respectful, chilled and adult.
If carlsberg made single men....
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Yours and mine ought to give lessons! |
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"I tend to chat a while before even meeting for a social. It’s not for everyone but it’s the way I’ve always done it. I can usually filter out the loons that way. I haven’t met many men but the ones I have met/am meeting have been great.
Yes this is how I work. I'm not in a hurry and they all seem perfectly normal to begin with. I'm not exactly new to this and I've not changed how I did things when I met alone as part of a couple. Never had an issue before and met some great guys. The only difference is I'm now single. Maybe by being single my outlook has changed and I haven't noticed that I'm approaching things differently? Dammit. It is me isn't it?"
Do you think maybe it's because they don't have another man to be respectful for, now you're not with a partner? They think they can get away with more as you're a single woman. |
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Although part of a couple I always played aa a single without any involvement from him. In all my years and all my meets I never had a bad meet whether that was a one off or something more regular. All the guys I met where genuine decent guys |
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"Lately I can't even get a decent conversion here. Every 'single' guy is either too thirsty or just straight up weird.
I've recently turned a guy down and recieved 20 plus messages from him after of stupid jokes, like he somehow thinks I'll change my mind if he's funny (he's not funny)"
Most of my jokes are blummin side-splittingly funny, thank you very much |
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"I tend to chat a while before even meeting for a social. It’s not for everyone but it’s the way I’ve always done it. I can usually filter out the loons that way. I haven’t met many men but the ones I have met/am meeting have been great.
Yes this is how I work. I'm not in a hurry and they all seem perfectly normal to begin with. I'm not exactly new to this and I've not changed how I did things when I met alone as part of a couple. Never had an issue before and met some great guys. The only difference is I'm now single. Maybe by being single my outlook has changed and I haven't noticed that I'm approaching things differently? Dammit. It is me isn't it?
Do you think maybe it's because they don't have another man to be respectful for, now you're not with a partner? They think they can get away with more as you're a single woman."
That is an interesting point. Maybe. Although I had a singles profile they always knew that I had a partner so maybe that put them on their best behaviour. Hmm. |
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I have been fortunate in that I talk a lot before a social so if they are still interested and we agree on wants and needs it’s going to be a great meet. I may have had one odd meet and that was a couple and I left after a couple of drinks.
Or there are more odd guys than odd girls ! |
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"... anyone normal recently?
I'm asking because I was here as part of a couple for about 10 years and met some awesome guys. The minute I turned single I don't know what happened but dudes suddenly went weird. I don't think this is unique to me. Other women I know have the same issues on "normal" dating sites. But I've not met a single guy who has turned out right in the head since I've been single. What is going on here???
Is it me??"
I’m as normal as they come
Happy go lucky 
Funny , polite, good manners
With a little sarcasm here and there
I have to blow my own trumpet because it doesn’t get blown much |
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