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I genuinely don't know what to do. Ok think hypothetically, say you had a family member that you never want to see again, but there is stuff of theirs in your house and other stuff to pass on to them.
You can get someone to drop it round to them, not a problem. Would you send back pictures of themselves to them, or is that just cruel, or just dispose of them. |
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"I'd probably just get rid of them tbh ,I think it'd sting more to give them back
Em x"
I did think that. It's not that I'm wanting to be intentionally cruel, I just really don't want these things in my house |
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I would just drop the stuff to that family member and put any photos you don't want into an envelope for them, I myself couldn't burn any photos but that's just me.
I know you don't want to see them again but at least you'll get it out of the way and then you won't have the hassle of getting somebody else to collect the stuff to bring to that family member or worse still having to pay somebody to do it!
You can just drop the stuff over and then walk away straight away and never see them again!  |
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Not sure if you want to go to the expense of a courier OP but might be another option. Personally I'd include photos as I don't think I could bring myself to dispose of them but not knowing the circumstances that's probably a call you'll have to make yourself!! Either way try not to overthink things and go for whatever is easiest for you!! |
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A friend of mine will drop the stuff off for me so not an issue. I've looked at the frames and some of them have personal messages on so there's no way I can just chuck them. I am over thinking it yes. I'm going to bubble wrap them and send the personal ones back, as it may have some kind of sentiment to them. I'm sure I'll be seen as a bitch whatever I do anyway, but it's not my intention to be unkind through sending them. |
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I dont have any sound advice to give but one thing i must say is you profile name is absolutely brilliant. I have been chuckling to my self for ten mins about it. Its made my day  |
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"I dont have any sound advice to give but one thing i must say is you profile name is absolutely brilliant. I have been chuckling to my self for ten mins about it. Its made my day "
Thanks, that's nice to know |
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Send the pictures back.Because unless your going to tell them you threw them away they will know you did not return them which could lead them to think there is hope what ever happened will blow over.
Sending them back sends a clear message you want nothing to do with them. |
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"Send the pictures back.Because unless your going to tell them you threw them away they will know you did not return them which could lead them to think there is hope what ever happened will blow over.
Sending them back sends a clear message you want nothing to do with them. "
That is another good point |
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"I genuinely don't know what to do. Ok think hypothetically, say you had a family member that you never want to see again, but there is stuff of theirs in your house and other stuff to pass on to them.
You can get someone to drop it round to them, not a problem. Would you send back pictures of themselves to them, or is that just cruel, or just dispose of them."
If you have made your mind up never to see this family member again then this is what you do.....
Legally you have NO RIGHT to thrown their stuff out without giving them an opportunity to get them back SO .......
Message them or mail them and ask them for a day and time within the next two weeks that they will be at home to take delivery of their stuff and say ( nicely ) if you have not replied within by day 10 from the date of this letter then all items will be given to charity\put in the bin.
It is not cruel. Just make sure you are civil about it. |
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Do you have storage or anything, so you can just box them up and forget about them? That way they are bot your problem but if you hear through the grapevine that said person wants them back, you can sort it |
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"Yeah, seems petty to throw them away like they meant something to you.
Just return. Tbh return in person as a matter of fact."
Not a chance in hell lol, I really do not want to see the person ever again for my own safety. |
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I would just ask my friend to take them all over to there's with a message saying here is your things now there is no need for us to see or speak ever again that should make it very clear as to what you want and feel without it being uncomfortable for you. xx |
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"Send the pictures back.Because unless your going to tell them you threw them away they will know you did not return them which could lead them to think there is hope what ever happened will blow over.
Sending them back sends a clear message you want nothing to do with them. "
Good point.  |
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"Yeah, seems petty to throw them away like they meant something to you.
Just return. Tbh return in person as a matter of fact.
Not a chance in hell lol, I really do not want to see the person ever again for my own safety."
Hope you don't have to keep in contact with them in the future for any reason. 
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I think if they've not been asking for what ever it is after some time it can't be that important to them and its not your responsibility to be their store man. So I would say it's OK just to bin it. |
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I'd not intentionally impose anything that may be harsh onto others. Their owned property should be returned but associated items, such as photos of them, owned by others, isn't a part of this. Ideally an intermediary would safely return them, when convenient for them. Keep closures as positive as possible, whatever has gone before. |
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