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Being a better father later in life.
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"In my personal experience yes you can be a better father in later life. However. You can be a better father at any age, you just need to try "Yes and I think the same too, be better in later life and at any age as well | |||
"In my personal experience yes you can be a better father in later life. However. You can be a better father at any age, you just need to try Yes and I think the same too, be better in later life and at any age as well "I mean by all means you should really be doing your best all the way through but being better in later life is better than not bothering at all! | |||
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"I was watching a very emotional scene in a movie where the father was looking for his daughter as he missed her so much. I shed a tear. There are alot more to what happened, but I will explain some part of it. He found out beforehand where she was and did for work. When he met her, he explained to her, why he wasnt a good parent as he got her when he was too young and not until now he was ready to be a better parent, he also said to her that he didnt like what she was doing for work, but that didnt matter, she accepted his apology as she also missed him and wanted to start over with her father. What is your view about it, can you be a better father later in life? I would say that yes you can be that as you mature more and may be more ready then "Agreed  | |||
"In my personal experience yes you can be a better father in later life. However. You can be a better father at any age, you just need to try " | |||
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"Do I believe that people can change for the better, acknowledge their mistakes and apologiseto the people they've hurt? Yes, I do. Do I believe that my knobhead of a father is capable of the above? Absolutely not. K" Yes and I also believe that people can change for the better as well | |||
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"I was watching a very emotional scene in a movie where the father was looking for his daughter as he missed her so much. I shed a tear. There are alot more to what happened, but I will explain some part of it. He found out beforehand where she was and did for work. When he met her, he explained to her, why he wasnt a good parent as he got her when he was too young and not until now he was ready to be a better parent, he also said to her that he didnt like what she was doing for work, but that didnt matter, she accepted his apology as she also missed him and wanted to start over with her father. What is your view about it, can you be a better father later in life? I would say that yes you can be that as you mature more and may be more ready then "We had at child when we were 15 and 14 . 40 years later we now have 3 kids and 9 grandkids. The excuse that he was to young is bullshit. You can be a better parent at any age. Some people just can't be arsed with the responsibility of bringing kids up. Basically if you can't be arsed then use protection and don't have them. | |||
"No, not really. Babies, toddlers and young kids are hard work. It takes effort. Work. Putting someone elses needs and wants above your own. Simply turning up once the hard work is done, isn't stepping up to being a better father, its skipping out the hard stuff and wanting to be rewarded for doing nothing. MrsAbz " I agree with this ^ | |||
"It's nice to see the men getting so much love again this morning. We're always going to fuck up. You presense and love is all they want. It's better someone changes for the better than not at all" Can’t really bash women for being bad dads | |||
"It's nice to see the men getting so much love again this morning. We're always going to fuck up. You presense and love is all they want. It's better someone changes for the better than not at all" The thread was about dads... | |||
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"Are you feeling broody Shag "Hi becs and no. I am not feeling that | |||
"It's nice to see the men getting so much love again this morning. We're always going to fuck up. You presense and love is all they want. It's better someone changes for the better than not at all" The thread was about dads. My comment would have been the same regardless of gender. No time for people who don’t step up to their responsibilities. I had a friend who chose a man over her kids because he didn’t want them. She’s no longer a friend. | |||
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"I think I sort of misunderstood the question. I read it as "would I have been a better Father if my daughter was born when I was older?" Probably, yes. I don't think I've been a bad dad but as I've got older I think I've got better at life generally. I used to work too much, I thought it was the right thing to do but you miss a lot. Mr " I read it the same way. The discussion is moot though. What's better parenting? In the story that's presented case, just being alive and present at whatever age was enough to consider it better, but why? They've come back into a life of a now adult. There's zero responsibility for this new better dad to take on. On the contrary, this new dad has somehow got an opinion over the child's decisions in life, and there'll be an element of guilt laid on when, inevitably, the father requires care and the child adult has a responsibility now to give it. I think it's the height of narcissism. I think it breaks down the emotions of a person who's had to deal with the lack of a parent throughout their lives right when they had super stability. | |||
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"I was watching a very emotional scene in a movie where the father was looking for his daughter as he missed her so much. I shed a tear. There are alot more to what happened, but I will explain some part of it. He found out beforehand where she was and did for work. When he met her, he explained to her, why he wasnt a good parent as he got her when he was too young and not until now he was ready to be a better parent, he also said to her that he didnt like what she was doing for work, but that didnt matter, she accepted his apology as she also missed him and wanted to start over with her father. What is your view about it, can you be a better father later in life? I would say that yes you can be that as you mature more and may be more ready then "I think yes you can, but also you can be a great dad from the get go at whatever age and that goes for mam's too. It's facing your responsibilities, stepping up and being able to put somebody else high on the priority list and not just yourself. Yes there can be accidents, but it's how you respond to them. Like in most things, there is a choice, either be there in whatever way you can, or don't. But you have to live with that decision and it's consequences be it good or not so great. | |||
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"Let's start with , Can he be a wiser person and therefore begin to be a father - cos from the O.P. seems he'd never been a father from the start " Yes, maybe he is a lot wiser now as he realised his wrongdoing from when he was younger and now he want to reconcile with her daughter for the lost time, that could one of the reasons for it | |||
"Can you be a better father in later life. Yes, but whether your 'child' can or wants to reconnect is an entirely different matter. That scenario would have been better with my dad. With the exception of some very early memories, I question the validity of, he was not a good dad. He wasn't fit to be around kids and he hated it. As we got older he mellowed a bit, and in his way he was a better dad. The things he'd done tainted that though. People talk about unconditional love, and I agree that's how it should be. But as a choice between nothing and conditional fear - I'd have preferred nothing. I think each case is unique. Being a parent is a responsibility. For some people if they can't do it then the best they can do for their kid is to walk away. " Yes, one can be a better father in life too and you are right there, it depends if the child accepts it too | |||
"I've misunderstood the question. I'm sure you can be a better parent when you get older but being a bad parent when you're younger can rarely be mitigated without honest communication, sincere expression of regret, understanding of the child's feelings and genuine forgiveness from the child. Just changing ones ways without explanation and expecting the child to accept that only leads to confusion. Behaving with your grandchildren how you wish you'd been with your own children doesn't cut it either." Yes, you are right there about that and the forgiveness from the child as well | |||
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"I've also seen men who remarry after divorce and start a second family be more attentive and hands on with the children of that marriage and their step children. That must hurt " Yes, that must hurt as well. | |||
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"So when it's convenient for your life you'll step up and be a decent dad? But when your kids are just an inconvenience and you aren't ready it's ok to be a shit dad? Nope." Yeah, it's a bit late by the time they've grown up, are maybe parents themselves and don't actually need any parenting. Too little, too late, and any damage has been done. | |||
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"It's nice to see the men getting so much love again this morning. We're always going to fuck up. You presense and love is all they want. It's better someone changes for the better than not at all" As the son of a dad that made no effort growing up. A dad that walked away for whatever reason, from somebody that once needed him as an important role during an important point in my life. If he rocked up now, wanting forgiveness and be a part of my life now, he can fuck right off. It is selfish behaviour that had him walk away, and it is selfish behaviour that made him return. He won't have come back for me, or what I need. It's all about him and his need for forgiveness. So he can feel better for and about himself. He had 30 years too muster up that effort. Walking away as he did, causing my mum to have to struggle and go through tough times alone while also taking care of two kids. His actions hurting the person I care for and respect more than any other in this world. There won't ever be forgiveness, nor any kind of pleasant closure for him if he comes knocking. | |||
"It's nice to see the men getting so much love again this morning. We're always going to fuck up. You presense and love is all they want. It's better someone changes for the better than not at all As the son of a dad that made no effort growing up. A dad that walked away for whatever reason, from somebody that once needed him as an important role during an important point in my life. If he rocked up now, wanting forgiveness and be a part of my life now, he can fuck right off. It is selfish behaviour that had him walk away, and it is selfish behaviour that made him return. He won't have come back for me, or what I need. It's all about him and his need for forgiveness. So he can feel better for and about himself. He had 30 years too muster up that effort. Walking away as he did, causing my mum to have to struggle and go through tough times alone while also taking care of two kids. His actions hurting the person I care for and respect more than any other in this world. There won't ever be forgiveness, nor any kind of pleasant closure for him if he comes knocking." | |||
"From my own personal experience, I feel I’m far better equipped, and a far better dad than I would have been had I have met my daughter 10-15 years ago. I was an angry and fairly impatient younger man. The last thing I wanted cluttering up my existence back then, was a child. Now, it’s a far more enriching experience for me. " This is sarcasm, right? I mean just checking cos ya know, tone missing from read words. MrsAbz | |||
"From my own personal experience, I feel I’m far better equipped, and a far better dad than I would have been had I have met my daughter 10-15 years ago. I was an angry and fairly impatient younger man. The last thing I wanted cluttering up my existence back then, was a child. Now, it’s a far more enriching experience for me. This is sarcasm, right? I mean just checking cos ya know, tone missing from read words. MrsAbz " I think he means he had his child relatively recently not 10-15 years ago | |||
"From my own personal experience, I feel I’m far better equipped, and a far better dad than I would have been had I have met my daughter 10-15 years ago. I was an angry and fairly impatient younger man. The last thing I wanted cluttering up my existence back then, was a child. Now, it’s a far more enriching experience for me. This is sarcasm, right? I mean just checking cos ya know, tone missing from read words. MrsAbz I think he means he had his child relatively recently not 10-15 years ago "Oh thank goodness for that. Thanks for making it make sense original FC My bad! Apologies for the prickly reply, am beyond sleepy this eve. MrsAbz | |||
"From my own personal experience, I feel I’m far better equipped, and a far better dad than I would have been had I have met my daughter 10-15 years ago. I was an angry and fairly impatient younger man. The last thing I wanted cluttering up my existence back then, was a child. Now, it’s a far more enriching experience for me. This is sarcasm, right? I mean just checking cos ya know, tone missing from read words. MrsAbz I think he means he had his child relatively recently not 10-15 years ago
Oh thank goodness for that. Thanks for making it make sense original FC
My bad! Apologies for the prickly reply, am beyond sleepy this eve.
MrsAbz "Aye you’re grand! | |||
"From my own personal experience, I feel I’m far better equipped, and a far better dad than I would have been had I have met my daughter 10-15 years ago. I was an angry and fairly impatient younger man. The last thing I wanted cluttering up my existence back then, was a child. Now, it’s a far more enriching experience for me. This is sarcasm, right? I mean just checking cos ya know, tone missing from read words. MrsAbz I think he means he had his child relatively recently not 10-15 years ago
Oh thank goodness for that. Thanks for making it make sense original FC
My bad! Apologies for the prickly reply, am beyond sleepy this eve.
MrsAbz "No apologies necessary. | |||
"From my own personal experience, I feel I’m far better equipped, and a far better dad than I would have been had I have met my daughter 10-15 years ago. I was an angry and fairly impatient younger man. The last thing I wanted cluttering up my existence back then, was a child. Now, it’s a far more enriching experience for me. " That is good that you feel better equipped too | |||
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