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Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
The negative things people are told are often the ones that stick in their heads and create brain goblin mayhem. That sucks.
So no, I don't say that stuff. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
Angry people, possibly hurting from rejection or thinking that someone is unattainable/out of their league. They turn that anger on others and lash out wherever they can.
It’s really not you.
P.S. There are no leagues |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.
It’s a straight delete and block.
They must be very sad souls.
Sorry! My bad"
You did it to Saff as well? Brave man... |
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"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.
It’s a straight delete and block.
They must be very sad souls.
Sorry! My bad
You did it to Saff as well? Brave man..."
He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down. |
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It's strange isn't it.
It hasn't happened to us on here but in my personal life a couple of people have very obviously tried to take me down a peg or two. I don't understand it, I'm no danger to anybody |
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"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.
It’s a straight delete and block.
They must be very sad souls.
Sorry! My bad
You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...
He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down. "
He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough. |
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
It's done for reaction and the best reaction is to not react. They don't register on your radar.
Fuck 'em, treat them like the nothing they are with a blank |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.
It’s a straight delete and block.
They must be very sad souls.
Sorry! My bad
You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...
He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down. "
I thought you already had? Isn't the info in the dossier?  |
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"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.
It’s a straight delete and block.
They must be very sad souls.
Sorry! My bad
You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...
He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.
He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough."
 fair point |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.
It’s a straight delete and block.
They must be very sad souls.
Sorry! My bad
You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...
He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.
He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough.
fair point "
The fuck is this shit!  I feel bullied |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
newcastle |
It’s pointless trying to understand the mentality of people like that and why they do it, it’s like trying to understand why chimps at the zoo throw their own shit around that’s the level of intelligence your dealing with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I honestly didn't even know people were doing this.
I can't see or understand why either. Maybe a new account from someone who was blocked? Even then that's so much effort and for what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
A lot of mine have been awful I block and move on. I cannot drop to negative level I am too chilled out. I know how it goes on here. I know people are rude at times simply there is no justification in sending rude first messages.
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"I honestly didn't even know people were doing this.
I can't see or understand why either. Maybe a new account from someone who was blocked? Even then that's so much effort and for what? "
Oh. Fair shout. The last one had only made his account 12 minutes ago when I went to block him.
But still. Why not just move the fuck on and let people do their thing in peace |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
Absolutely not its an app and everyone has equal rights, absolutely no need for crudeness or rudeness mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
Should have replied
" But I am, that's why losers like you take time to message me". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?
It's done for reaction and the best reaction is to not react. They don't register on your radar.
Fuck 'em, treat them like the nothing they are with a blank "
I personally think this comment kind of captures them mind set of those who are negative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
You ok?
Block and delete. He isnt worth your time. Bad behaviour does get called out on the forums, he's just given you a platform/reason/whim to get out there and start a thread. I guess defeating his object ..... Silly man |
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
I've had quite a bit of unprovoked negatively in my inbox and threads from a few ladies on here.
I won't let them drag me down to their level OP  |
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"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.
It’s a straight delete and block.
They must be very sad souls.
Sorry! My bad
You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...
He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.
He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough.
fair point "
Is it ?
This is one great city to live in |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.
It’s a straight delete and block.
They must be very sad souls.
Sorry! My bad
You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...
He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.
He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough.
fair point
Is it ?
This is one great city to live in "
Ha! Screw you both! I've got GC on my side for this one  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"Hurt people hurt or so they say.
I feel sorry for them that the only way to make themselves feel a bit better is to try drag others down.
Em x"
It is okay Em! I fixed everything, I showed her the eyes. |
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"Hurt people hurt or so they say.
I feel sorry for them that the only way to make themselves feel a bit better is to try drag others down.
Em x
It is okay Em! I fixed everything, I showed her the eyes."
Such a kind soul  |
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"I was actually thinking about this earlier, and those that msg you to tell you you're too demanding etc. What's the point? "
Just some constructive criticism to assist you in your future endeavours.
Happy fabbing 
Not passive aggressive at all. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
People who do this kind of thing are just projecting their own insecurities onto others.
That's not justified at all and still a complete dickhead thing to do, but they definitely don't truly love what they see in the mirror |
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"I was actually thinking about this earlier, and those that msg you to tell you you're too demanding etc. What's the point?
Just some constructive criticism to assist you in your future endeavours.
Happy fabbing
Not passive aggressive at all. "
I mean if I was struggling for attention, fair game... But as a single woman? Butt hurt springs to mind lol |
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
It says more about the person making the comments than the person being commented on. Ugliness is more than just looks...any person like that is ugly as f |
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
They have the problem not you , imagine what they’re like in life lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly didn't even know people were doing this.
I can't see or understand why either. Maybe a new account from someone who was blocked? Even then that's so much effort and for what?
Oh. Fair shout. The last one had only made his account 12 minutes ago when I went to block him.
But still. Why not just move the fuck on and let people do their thing in peace "
Probably just someone you said no to and blocked before. Take it as a compliment.  |
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Whoever did that, i hope their next shit is a cactus and may their testicles turn cubical and fester at the corners.
In a word, no. Quite the opposite in fact, i am the kind of guy who will throw a compliment to someone who is looking unhappy or states they're having a bad day.
Maybe because i was raised believing if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
This should extend to online behaviour too |
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Some people literally have nothing better to do & it says a lot about them.
People insecurities, rejection, fears all make them lash out & it's never the right thing to do.
Some people are just cunts Prey unfortunately.
You are "all that"
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People lash out, take their bad days and insecurities out on otners. I don't understand messages like this but I do understand that behind that screen is a very unhappy person which is sad. |
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Negging, isn’t it.
Ridiculous and pointless behaviour.
And yeah I’ve been privy to it myself - once got a death threat on tinder from someone who matched with me just to send the threat.
I can’t imagine seeing life from their perspective and feel lucky for that. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
We can't all be happy all the time however i am, nothing gets me down but far too much negativity on here, i even got a parking ticket yesterday the yellow lines were obscured by the falling leaves i was maybe 9 " over the line and could have reversed a bit and i did look missed the lines because of leaves but this council will not benefit from it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is really strange to think that someone reads a profile, gets wound up and clicks the message button to tell a stranger that they're up themselves or asking for too much or why are they even on Fab if they won't meet today?
I've had all of those and it's just mean-spirited isn't it? On a good day I just roll my eyes. On a bad day, it stings. |
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
As my late father told me, "If you can't say something nice.............keep fucking quiet"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Negging, isn’t it.
Ridiculous and pointless behaviour.
And yeah I’ve been privy to it myself - once got a death threat on tinder from someone who matched with me just to send the threat.
I can’t imagine seeing life from their perspective and feel lucky for that."
Jeez some scary people out there! |
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Some people are just cunts. Unfortunately most of them are also on this site. I kid of course. But you are all that, OP, and these haters don't deserve a response, fucking trolls deserve to be blanked |
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Oh don't worry I do know I am all that
In as much as I'm happy and enjoying my life, I appeal to the people I want to appeal to, and I don't require endless accolades from the sea of unwanted noodles.
It just seems strange to me. Oh they're enjoying their life? I best go try and shit on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's relentless .. its because of this that I've blocked all men..... haven't had any issues since.
I can now browse in peace and contact if I feel so inclined. |
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"Don’t think I’ll ever get my head round why some folk do what they do. Too much time on their hands/boring life maybe? All very sad "
It's very sad, toxic behaviour. It points to loneliness, insecurity and jealousy of all the guys they imagine you'd rather see than them. And when they make these emotions known to you, they just perpetuate their failure even more. But they're just desperate for any response from you really. |
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"it's relentless .. its because of this that I've blocked all men..... haven't had any issues since.
I can now browse in peace and contact if I feel so inclined."
I was going to say block all men as a joke, but I see now it's a valid approach for a lot of women. Glad it's working for you! |
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"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.
What's with that?
I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.
If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?
Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace? "
Yep it's brutal. Not everyone is "all that" we are mere humans seeking a little pleasure in this increasingly impersonal world. Being unpleasant is far too easy for some folks. |
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"I was actually thinking about this earlier, and those that msg you to tell you you're too demanding etc. What's the point?
Just some constructive criticism to assist you in your future endeavours.
Happy fabbing
Not passive aggressive at all.
I mean if I was struggling for attention, fair game... But as a single woman? Butt hurt springs to mind lol"
I believe 'butt hurt' is indeed the technical term. |
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