I’m experiencing guys not wanting to leave me a veri making excuses oh I’m so busy but then I see them online on here so not that busy! I just find it rude common etiquette is to leave each other a veri , I know some aren’t bothered but especially as I make it clear before a meet anyone else have this issue ? |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Not regularly no, maybe once or twice in all my past meets. It doesn't bother me though, I just wouldn't leave them one.
Are they leaving other people veries op? If not maybe they just prefer not to leave or receive verifications. |
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I’ve had it in the past, it bothered me to the point I asked forum for their input but still no clear explanation, except from they don’t want to be linked to your profile somehow.
Now I just don’t leave veris, unless it’s from big organised social, and only if they leave their first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t need veris every time I meet someone but if they point blank refused to do it after leaving other people them, I’d be curious on the reason why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had this, I usually assume they are fucking someone on fab and don't want that person or persons to find out.
It's nothing personal, they just don't want to get found out.
Maybe one or all of their people are led to believe they are the only one. That happens a lot!
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We’ve met a whole lot of people who never left us a veri (and we never left them one either). Many of them were forum users, so maybe they didn’t want their connections more widely known. Don’t know. But it doesn’t worry us. Each to their own. |
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"I had this, I usually assume they are fucking someone on fab and don't want that person or persons to find out.
It's nothing personal, they just don't want to get found out.
Maybe one or all of their people are led to believe they are the only one. That happens a lot!
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Very much this. Happened to be the case in my experience as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People can overthink veris too much. I tell people face to face I've had a good time with them so I don't see the need to broadcast it on here. I will if they ask me too but personally not that arsed if I receive them in return. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Veris are strange things - sometimes they can be off putting, sometimes I worry that people use them to then see who might be a similar person they could approach.
I only have two veris, both of which are tame, but because I did not publish the second one the person who gave the first asked for hers to see it and when I said it was from a platonic friend and 'no' she insisted her veri get hidden.
It seems more hassle than it is worth, so they remain hidden and I do not ask for them, and only give them if the other person asks. |
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"I had this, I usually assume they are fucking someone on fab and don't want that person or persons to find out.
It's nothing personal, they just don't want to get found out.
Maybe one or all of their people are led to believe they are the only one. That happens a lot!
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This or they have a gf and don't want them seeing they've met if they found the profile.
Although sometimes people just like their privacy - we don't display graphic sexual verifications I find them cringy.
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I've met a few people multiple times socially who have never reciprocated when I've verified them.
They have said in other threads that they no longer write veries for anyone which is fine except they have done in recent times.
I'm not invested enough to ask why one and not another and I'm not losing any sleep over it.
I have been verified by someone who asked me not to display it publicly because she didn't like advertising who she was meeting and I never have done. |
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"I’m experiencing guys not wanting to leave me a veri making excuses oh I’m so busy but then I see them online on here so not that busy! I just find it rude common etiquette is to leave each other a veri , I know some aren’t bothered but especially as I make it clear before a meet anyone else have this issue ? "
Verifications are funny old things on here. Some people insist on them and some don’t. OP did you leave them a veri first? If so then I’d leave one back as a common courtesy.
Oh and I’d happily leave you a veri but, you’d have to meet me first  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had this, I usually assume they are fucking someone on fab and don't want that person or persons to find out.
It's nothing personal, they just don't want to get found out.
Maybe one or all of their people are led to believe they are the only one. That happens a lot!
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Smart lady right here |
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OP it's hardly fair, you could check the person's own veris and then see if they left a veri for them too. But, you shouldn't have to do all the legwork, it should just happen.
I'll wager everyone on this thread would veri you after a meet and you've just hit an unlucky vein of selfish arseholes. |
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By *zeroMan
over a year ago
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If I've been to a large social event I'll try and veri everybody that I've spoken too (if I can remember their names) or if I've played. I don't really expect anything in return but it's nice if I get one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The most likely cause is they have a fab FWB and don't want any kind of links that may jeopardise that. We wouldn't take it personally but would red flag us for another meet. |
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Veris to us are merely a way of confirming someone or a couple are actually real. That’s all. It shouldn’t be a blow by blow account of a sexual encounter. I know when we look at other peoples it’s purely confirming they are legitimate and not a fake profile. We leave them for people we have met but certainly don’t get upset if we don’t get one in return. X |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
it happens op.
had some not leave me a veri because they didnt want fab friends to find out we had met.
one even told me she wouldnt leave a veri because i wasnt popular on the forum and she was lol.
i didnt get angry, we met, had sex so what?
move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it happens op.
had some not leave me a veri because they didnt want fab friends to find out we had met.
one even told me she wouldnt leave a veri because i wasnt popular on the forum and she was lol.
i didnt get angry, we met, had sex so what?
move on "
There is soooo many reason why I would never leave a veri.
People seem more obsessed with them than the actual sex. |
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Well....it all depends on my mood at the time, personally I love veris as they are my memories, but I can overthink when they hide mine and display everyone else's, I tend to shuffle them to the bottom of the pile and not be available for another meet. Do I cut off my nose to spite my face.... Yes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m experiencing guys not wanting to leave me a veri making excuses oh I’m so busy but then I see them online on here so not that busy! I just find it rude common etiquette is to leave each other a veri , I know some aren’t bothered but especially as I make it clear before a meet anyone else have this issue ? "
Sorry to say it but this reminds me a bit of some of the people I have encountered over the years who go down the route of ‘you haven’t met me yet because you say you’re busy but you’re always online |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't typically ask for them but I would always leave one if I was asked to, unless the meet went particularly badly.
It's nice to have the memories I guess but I don't publish mine. I prefer to keep what we got up to between us. |
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We now tell people if they want a veri, leave us one and we’ll reciprocate. Seldom meet people with a veri so they nearly always can go first. If they don’t, we don’t.
We try not to get too hung up on things we can’t control, so if they don’t we don’t stress it too much. |
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