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I’m becoming increasingly interested in playing with a couple. Having never done so, it is quit a daunting prospect.
I know you set boundaries to begin with and clear dos and donts, but just wondering if anyone has any advice.
I’ve had some offers but I’ve backed out and I really want to move forward with this. Not sure if a club has less pressure than a home visit? |
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"I’m becoming increasingly interested in playing with a couple. Having never done so, it is quit a daunting prospect.
I know you set boundaries to begin with and clear dos and donts, but just wondering if anyone has any advice.
I’ve had some offers but I’ve backed out and I really want to move forward with this. Not sure if a club has less pressure than a home visit? "
Our advice would be swerve couples who treat you as if you're less important than them. Let them know it's the first time you've met a couple anyone with a modicum of empathy will understand and be aware that you're nervous. As you say, discuss boundaries *including yours* and then go ahead bearing in mind that you can take things as slowly as you like  .
Good luck, hope you enjoy |
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"Hey, thank you for the note. I’ve picked up then that perhaps some couples aren’t so interested in the invited male? X"
I do think that *some* couples treat single guys as a commodity and will place all sorts of demands on them. The ratio of men to couples is so high that they *some* men go along with it. If the guys are happy with that it's all good but I don't think it great for a first experience.
I get as nervous as anything...still so always meet socially a couple of times. |
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"Thanks ever so much for the advice. I suppose the hard part now is finding the right couple. Can’t imagine many would want to entertain a first timer ??"
I don't know. We're ok with it. I (f) remember our first meet, the guy was very experienced and extremely understanding of my nerves in a quiet way. |
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over a year ago
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Make social first, choose friendly and warm couple who will also care about your comfort and wants. Just be honest with yourself and them. If you don't feel the vibe, move on. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Plenty of lre meet contact, on the phone not just by message on here.
Ideally a social, whether at an earlier time or just pre-meet to give everyone a chance to make sure they're happy, comfortable and content to move to anything sexual.
And remember - as a single guy you're just as important as the couple. It's not just about them and their needs/desires - yours are equally important. Couples who don't get this are common and it's easy to fall into the trap of going into a meet with the mindset of 'well there's plenty of guys available so I have to jump through hoops'. You don't. Ever.
Most of all have fun and if at any time it stops being fun, stop, say sorry politely and leave. |
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Consider going to clubs, where you can meet others and there's less pressure on individual ones. The same advice follows for all single men here, that the better you manage to sell yourself, including via profile and messaging, the higher the likelihood of engagement that can work well |
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Having always been part of a couple, I don’t have any experience of your position, but we have met lots of singles and heard plenty of horror stories. What always comes through is this: Keep your eyes and ears open for any conflict or disagreement within the couple. Talk a lot first and be open with your experience and wants/hopes. Know that it’s okay for you to have boundaries too. Make sure you have a group chat so you talk to both in the couple at once, and watch how the couple interact with each other. Trust your instincts. If you see doubts or conflicts, then back away. Remember it’s as much your experience and enjoyment as theirs. If you don’t feel you’re respected, then back away. Be patient. A few wonderful experiences are much better and a bunch of bad ones. Good luck x |
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Be respectful!
Remember you are being invited into a couples bedroom
Get to know them, and be interested in them as people.
Personally aim to make a connection as people as it’s daunting on both sides, and can be very scary.
Be prepared also to walk away if the vibe isn’t right |
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the fact is there are so many so-called single males ratio to couples, it is going to be hard to find a couple of any age. We dont ask for a lot and respct the guys and ask the questions before agreeing a meet
go to a club, u may get lucky |
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