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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Has anyone had a previous FWB that they split ways from a while ago and miss them? I recently found out mines got married last month. We saw each other every week for about a year. She'd message me and I was always free at mines. Randomly think of them from time to time and wish I could start it up again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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*nods* I reckon you might have the old romantic version of fomo though? The fact she’s got married has made you wistful about her and getting yourself a new fwb, all pretty normal reactions |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My very first FWB and I are still friends (benefits stopped a long, long time ago) so no, I don't miss him as he is still an important part of my life x"
That's nice that you're still friends though! We couldn't remain friends. Just grew apart basically. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"*nods* I reckon you might have the old romantic version of fomo though? The fact she’s got married has made you wistful about her and getting yourself a new fwb, all pretty normal reactions "
Certainly not fomo I know that. She comes up as a recommended friend on FB and every time I see her profile I get that flashback. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think fondly about previous lovers on occasion because I have great memories of times with them (and some are platinic friends now). However, my last FWB was one that I do not think about anymore as that relationship was toxic (although I had gone back to her a couple of times despite warnings from friends [after all the benefits were fun] - but not seen or communicated with her for at least a year now). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think fondly about previous lovers on occasion because I have great memories of times with them (and some are platinic*** friends now). However, my last FWB was one that I do not think about anymore as that relationship was toxic (although I had gone back to her a couple of times despite warnings from friends [after all the benefits were fun] - but not seen or communicated with her for at least a year now). "
One day I will proof read before sending ***platonic |
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I tend to have fond memories of everyone I've shared time and affection with.
Sometimes those feeling get mixed in with painful stuff too. That's ok though.
I've been there and started up again it was awesome then it went to the same place it did last time. She struggled with trust and turned controlling. She saw it the second time around though and walked away. To give space for my wife and I. Both relationships couldn't co-exist.
She asked me to choose her. I didn't. So she walked - not without leaving her mark first. I'm ok with that though. That's who she was, part of why I loved her. She was wild and she loved deeply. She changed my life; taught me how to care about myself, what true friendship is and love. She's etched on my shoulder. Kissy-face. |
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"Has anyone had a previous FWB that they split ways from a while ago and miss them? I recently found out mines got married last month. We saw each other every week for about a year. She'd message me and I was always free at mines. Randomly think of them from time to time and wish I could start it up again."
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By (user no longer on site)
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I kind of found this difficult to answer at first but I think it's because although I think fondly of some, if they move on and are happy I'd be happy for them. I'd just count whatever we had as company and being a 'season' in each others lives that we both enjoyed however long it lasted. There's something to be said for the people you can be intimate with in whatever capacity or for however long.
There are some I miss, but I have also been hurt by them.
Others just like playing games and I don't miss them ones.
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I miss the sex we had  , and we always speak when we see each other.
I wish him all the happiness in the world as he became a dad again a few months ago. I definitely wasn't going down the road with him |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think fondly about previous lovers on occasion because I have great memories of times with them (and some are platinic friends now). However, my last FWB was one that I do not think about anymore as that relationship was toxic (although I had gone back to her a couple of times despite warnings from friends [after all the benefits were fun] - but not seen or communicated with her for at least a year now). "
Glad you took heed of what others were saying in the end. It's always difficult to distance yourself once feelings get involved especially if it's a FWB. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I kind of found this difficult to answer at first but I think it's because although I think fondly of some, if they move on and are happy I'd be happy for them. I'd just count whatever we had as company and being a 'season' in each others lives that we both enjoyed however long it lasted. There's something to be said for the people you can be intimate with in whatever capacity or for however long.
There are some I miss, but I have also been hurt by them.
Others just like playing games and I don't miss them ones.
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I'm sorry to hear you were hurt by some of them but happy you had some good experiences. In my case it definitely was as what you called a "season" as we saw each other all the time but I know she must of thought it was more but I didn't feel the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah was seeing a lady for about 8 yrs we stopped seeing each other before COVID very amicable we still chat most weeks her health isn't great also hubby found out ??"
Oh shit that's not good the hubby found out  |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah was seeing a lady for about 8 yrs we stopped seeing each other before COVID very amicable we still chat most weeks her health isn't great also hubby found out ??"
That sentence didn't end the way I thought it would! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah was seeing a lady for about 8 yrs we stopped seeing each other before COVID very amicable we still chat most weeks her health isn't great also hubby found out ??
That sentence didn't end the way I thought it would! "
Certainly took a wild turn didn't it?! |
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By *addad99Man
over a year ago
Rotherham /newquay |
"Yeah was seeing a lady for about 8 yrs we stopped seeing each other before COVID very amicable we still chat most weeks her health isn't great also hubby found out ??
That sentence didn't end the way I thought it would!
Certainly took a wild turn didn't it?!"
definitely did but as said we are still great friends and talk every week |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t miss any of them. I had some excellent times with them, but they are just part of my past.
Some were kinder than others and the sex was great.
Life changes and it’s just part of the rich tapestry of the many experiences I have had.
I am looking for a new FWB though.    |
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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago
Norfolk East anglia |
Yes there's one guy.
We stopped meeting as he met someone he wanted to be with, they are still together a year down the line.
We speak on and off just to catch up as friends
But he was there through a big change in my life and helped me through it and I will always be grateful to him and for opening my eyes to an amazing sex life is and what I enjoy now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think my FWB will always be there in the background of my life, he built my confidence back up, he introduced me things that certainly certainly weren’t vanilla but WOW! |
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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago
Tipton |
"My very first FWB and I are still friends (benefits stopped a long, long time ago) so no, I don't miss him as he is still an important part of my life x"
Mine went to go & Live in Oz but has come over a few times, but not much for conversation & the sex wasnt the best either |
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
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I fucked up the perfect goodbye by acting like a nutjob baby who lost his dummy and bear once i realised i was losing her i regret my behaviour and am haunted by it and will miss her until im dead but in the end i deserve to lose for my mental frailty |
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"I fucked up the perfect goodbye by acting like a nutjob baby who lost his dummy and bear once i realised i was losing her i regret my behaviour and am haunted by it and will miss her until im dead but in the end i deserve to lose for my mental frailty "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was a stop gap for both my past fwb, which suited us both just fine. That was the understanding. They both eventually found a more permanent relationship and moved on. We parted amicably..I have fond memories but don’t miss them as such. |
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"Yeah was seeing a lady for about 8 yrs we stopped seeing each other before COVID very amicable we still chat most weeks her health isn't great also hubby found out ??
That sentence didn't end the way I thought it would! "
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