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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

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By *illan-KillashMan over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs "

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Very childish. I don’t tend to share pics much so I don’t really think about and there’s not a chance in hell the people I meet would be involved in any group chat on here. All

A bit sad really. I’ve been invited to a few over the years but I can’t stand group chats so I’ve always ignored. Even the family one gets on my nerves

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By *sername already in useMan over a year ago

manchester

Wait…. You mean, even though all the girls don’t have time to read and reply to their hundreds and thousands of messages (daily) they still have time to discuss messages they have received, on other platforms?

I just don’t know what to believe now?

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

In a world full of gossip lovers and selfish people, but are surprised by this behaviour?

People can be and are vile (not everyone!). A lot of people are highly hypocritical yet will deny as such. The group chat thing may not be overly common but it does exist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve been a victim of this so am now much more wary of what I send.

Lest I become another target for being tagged as ‘this ugly fucker’ again.

The fuckin cheek of it, me! Ugly?

I’m handsome as fuck. As for being a fucker……well yes……obviously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s incredibly childish and it makes me wary of who I talk to. If I’m sharing pictures I expect them and the conversation to stay private, it’s really not too much to ask.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I’ve heard the rumours and I don’t send pics to people I think may be involved.

No one’s ever invited me to any groups so I can’t confirm or deny the accuracy

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By *imply DeeWoman over a year ago

Wherever

I am either being very naive or very stupid and possibly both but I have never thought that could be the case.

I guess I was somehow right all along never send anything to anyone and it makes me even more wary about it now.

Anyone actively engaging in this kind of crap is having just a miserable life, shitty attitude and nothing better to do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was in a group chat about 2 years ago. I lasted a few hours as it was rife with bitching.

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By *ddkkk91Man over a year ago

fife

Dont sounds creepy and scary.

You woumd think there would be a mutual trust and some discreetion.

We all have private lives and work outside of here

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By *sername already in useMan over a year ago

manchester

So THIS is why you’re not all sending me boob pictures?

There’s a vendetta against me, it’s the only logical explanation.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple over a year ago

Staffordshire

We’ve never gotten involved.

It’s been a good decision.

People have sex with us quite a lot.

That’s why we hang around here.

Good day to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We’ve never gotten involved.

It’s been a good decision.

People have sex with us quite a lot.

That’s why we hang around here.

Good day to you."

Gotten!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also it's why I talk to people that generally don't like other people.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

One of the biggest reasons I’ll never install telegram, that and it’s shit.

I’m only in a few group chats on WhatsApp , none of them include anyone from here.

This stuff happens in another universe to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The shit that goes on in a world full of adults that are supposed to be mentally and emotionally mature enough to handle multiple partners and/or swing is absolutely crazy.

The dramas! You could sit in the middle of the Sahara desert with no phone or WiFi and you'd still get dragged into something.

I've been here since 2019, you don't need to be in a group chat to get sent things. Just one to one with other forumites is enough.

A few years ago something happened where people went digging for info on someone's social media and then outed what they'd found on the forums. I got sent it. I hadn't spoken to one of the sender's for a few months but they suddenly decided to 'fill me in'. I'd not interacted with the person it was about either. So I really didn't need to be sent any of it. I did not ask for it and did not consent to it either. The length some people will go to is shocking. Its a shame unsolicited drama isn't viewed the same way as unsolicited cock pics are with laws against it. And unsolicited face pics of other users.

And just by being sent something, that you didn't actually ask for or consent to, you could actually be implicated in it as well.

I assume that my face pic has been shared and everyone's seen it now I've been here so long.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One of the biggest reasons I’ll never install telegram, that and it’s shit.

I’m only in a few group chats on WhatsApp , none of them include anyone from here.

This stuff happens in another universe to me"

Did you actually just post that? Wow

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"One of the biggest reasons I’ll never install telegram, that and it’s shit.

I’m only in a few group chats on WhatsApp , none of them include anyone from here.

This stuff happens in another universe to me"

Same. I haven’t got any of those chat apps either. If I’ve met someone they get my number, otherwise I only chat on here.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs "

Well on the one hand the sad reality is that once you send a pic to anyone you have to accept that it night go somewhere. One reason why many will not share nudes/action shots with head/face showing - one or the other.

On the other yes of course it shouldn't happen and it is terrible behaviour. By gossipy group chats do you mean ones involving Forum? I have heard that there some WhatsApp groups of Forum members that can at times be a bit schoolyard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I assume that my face pic has been shared and everyone's seen it now I've been here so long."

Not everyone

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs "

Could you please elaborate on this it's the first time I have heard about it???

Am I correct in reading.

Users set up a group chat elsewhere and chat to each other then copy and paste messages they have received including pictures for the people to see them gossip and comment on it, does this include forum posts?

I'm slightly confused

Or is this a group chat including non site users?

So if we've ticked the preference box not to allow images to be used elsewhere theoretically they are breaking the law sharing our pictures??

Sorry I'm confused

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I assume that my face pic has been shared and everyone's seen it now I've been here so long.

Not everyone

You can keep trying but I'm not sending it.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Also I used to run a very popular local kik group for a few years with some friends and I was in many others as admin at times. Ours was tightly run and anybody posting anything of somebody else was booted immediately. Sadly other groups were took this less seriously and some of the people running those groups still have them today and even run events.

Once somebody posted some relatively extreme private BDSM type pics of a lady "with their permission". We removed quickly but a friends of her saw them. She hadn't given permission and was mortified that they had been shared with strangers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also it's why I talk to people that generally don't like other people.

I don't like other people, but you never talk to me!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Gossip and drama, some people thrive on it.

I discovered when I first started using internet forums in the early 2000s or even late 1990s that people who use them will also talk privately about other users and it'll rarely be complimentary. I vowed after a particularly nasty incident to keep myself to myself on the net and only share information about myself with other people. I remain aware that humans are gossips and often delight in sharing information about other people nasty or nice. My opinion is that if by some chance they find me interesting enough to talk about at least they're leaving somebody else alone but they really should try to find themselves another hobby.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Also it's why I talk to people that generally don't like other people.

Hahahaha. Same

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

"Also it's why I talk to people that generally don't like other people.

Hahahaha. Same

Nora sent me a pic of her rat!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Oh and yes, I think it does make people feel popular and possibly a bit superior to be part of an 'exclusive' group.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Also it's why I talk to people that generally don't like other people.

Hahahaha. Same

Nora sent me a pic of her rat! "

Only coz I know I can trust you my love

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

"Also it's why I talk to people that generally don't like other people.

I don't like other people, but you never talk to me!"

Consider yourself extremely lucky!

It's a chore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not part of any group chats, I have no interest in them but I’ve seen it happening first hand. I’ve had to shut down a conversation for sharing conversations they had with someone else. It was sent before I even had the chance to tell them I wasn’t interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also it's why I talk to people that generally don't like other people.

I don't like other people, but you never talk to me!

Consider yourself extremely lucky!

It's a chore. "

It could be that she is using one of her other personalities to speak with me. However, I get confused and the voices in my head tell me that they never liked Carrie.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything."

Private inboxes and face pics as well as others.

Mrs

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Oh and yes, I think it does make people feel popular and possibly a bit superior to be part of an 'exclusive' group. "

You mean like a cxxxxe?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"I was in a group chat about 2 years ago. I lasted a few hours as it was rife with bitching.

Sounds like my kinda hell.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow..I’ve literally just heard of people doing this. What do people gain by doing this?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"The shit that goes on in a world full of adults that are supposed to be mentally and emotionally mature enough to handle multiple partners and/or swing is absolutely crazy.

The dramas! You could sit in the middle of the Sahara desert with no phone or WiFi and you'd still get dragged into something.

I've been here since 2019, you don't need to be in a group chat to get sent things. Just one to one with other forumites is enough.

And just by being sent something, that you didn't actually ask for or consent to, you could actually be implicated in it as well.

I assume that my face pic has been shared and everyone's seen it now I've been here so long."

I'm totally with you on this & going through someone's social media is just wrong.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not part of any group chats, I have no interest in them but I’ve seen it happening first hand. I’ve had to shut down a conversation for sharing conversations they had with someone else. It was sent before I even had the chance to tell them I wasn’t interested.

I get people have grievances with others on here and gossiping will inevitably happen but when you get to the point of sharing full conversations and pictures others have trusted you enough with to send them in the first place is wild. "
the only group chats I’m part of is my kids school mums and definitely wouldn’t share anything with them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's definitely concerning and a very clear breach of privacy

Would rather not be exposed to anyone who is immature and disrespectful like that

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

Could you please elaborate on this it's the first time I have heard about it???

Am I correct in reading.

I'm slightly confused

Or is this a group chat including non site users?

So if we've ticked the preference box not to allow images to be used elsewhere theoretically they are breaking the law sharing our pictures??

Sorry I'm confused

Yes group chats of fab users screenshotting and sending private inboxes, face pics and other pics they've received privately.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

Yes involving forum users

Mrs

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

Could you please elaborate on this it's the first time I have heard about it???

Am I correct in reading.

I'm slightly confused

Or is this a group chat including non site users?

So if we've ticked the preference box not to allow images to be used elsewhere theoretically they are breaking the law sharing our pictures??

Sorry I'm confused

Yes group chats of fab users screenshotting and sending private inboxes, face pics and other pics they've received privately.

Mrs "

Well that's just not on.

I'm not worried about me but Mrs chats with guy's on her profile although she's very selective about what she sends and to whom it easy to be duped.

Thanks for this I'll let her know and to be more careful.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

Yes this is it for me, sharing full conversation, face pics anything they can screenshot just isn't on!

Mrs

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

Never been in a group chat on this, have only ever done one on ones.

Sometimes others do get brought up but that's natural I think. We are humans and talk about people. But I genuinely don't give a crap and will never bitch about anyone unless they're a real dickhead and even then in a jokey way.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS over a year ago

chichester

"Wow..I’ve literally just heard of people doing this. What do people gain by doing this? "

Pics to wank over / trolling / taking piss / being nosy / selling said pics privately / impersonating etc take your pic of reasons

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I heard the rumours last time and it makes me a lot more careful who I share face pics with.

I am admin of a group chat away from here - people who came to the social and wanted to keep chatting afterwards. No one talks about anyone not in the chat. No pictures of others are shared (apart from pets

in the chat. It's a really nice group.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"It's a really nice group."

I think those are called ‘friends’, y’know.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

By my inbox it seems it's a lot more common than I actually thought

Mrs

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I haven't read most of the posts above but I have seen this happening first hand.

I've been sent facepics and personal info of people on the forums by people on the forums and of other people in chatgroups.

None of those were solicited and when I challenged them as to why they felt the need to send them to me, the reply was mostly so that I could see the hideous person I was chatting to.

Bad enough in itself you might think but these are people they are really friendly with on the forums and have met and verified.

It's hard to know if they are being two faced or testing me and my reactions.

I've spoken to lots of women on here over the years who have been invited to chatgroups which are dressed up as a safe way of avoiding dangerous men. The vast majority of those have told me they left the groups because of what was being shared including private messages and personal info including places of work and real names of men and women.

Calling people out for doing so has put me on their naughty list and my details have been given to others who have approached me at socials claiming to recognise me from the chatgroups which I've never been in.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Also it can be easy to forget that although the people we chat to on here seem plausible and genuine for the most part, we don't really know who they are. You can represent yourself as an all round good person in public quite easily

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Eurrgh I loathe stuff like this, so creepy. Only good thing that comes out of this is that the admins/groupees get what they deserve eventually - what goes round ALWAYS comes back around

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs "

For us it’s not a problem, as we don’t send anything we don’t post publicly

However it is a sad reflection on the members heee that people can’t be trusted.

Unfortunately it comes down to the sender and posters to be aware that any image on the internet can be shared no matter what protections a site may have.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Group chats are not for me! Been in a few for very short time! And tbh I don't think anyone would find me interesting enough to share my stuff x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm totally with you on this & going through someone's social media is just wrong.

Mrs "

I'm now glad a crazy ex put me in the precarious position to delete all my social media accounts

Tbh we do leave ourselves quite vulnerable, quite willingly.

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By *ris GrayMan over a year ago

Dorchester

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs "
The underground of fab where people are praised, slagged or gossiped about has existed since the site existed, people gossip unfortunately and theirs sod all you can do about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs The underground of fab where people are praised, slagged or gossiped about has existed since the site existed, people gossip unfortunately and theirs sod all you can do about it

"
Still a bit pathetic though, must not have much going on to have to resort to that

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"By my inbox it seems it's a lot more common than I actually thought

Mrs "

I know I’m cynical, but I tend to assume that people, en masse, are generally a bit shit. As individuals they’re often lovely, but the bigger the group, the shittier the behaviour.

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By *ris GrayMan over a year ago

Dorchester

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs The underground of fab where people are praised, slagged or gossiped about has existed since the site existed, people gossip unfortunately and theirs sod all you can do about it

Still a bit pathetic though, must not have much going on to have to resort to that

"
Hey its like rubbish one mans rubbish is another mans gold mine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s incredibly childish and it makes me wary of who I talk to. If I’m sharing pictures I expect them and the conversation to stay private, it’s really not too much to ask. "

This 100%

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

This, if it's a photo outing someone's hypocrisy or lies then I can't see the problem.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

This, if it's a photo outing someone's hypocrisy or lies then I can't see the problem. "

I've already answered several times it's private conversations, face pics, nude pics etc.

Anything private shouldn't be shared elsewhere.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

This, if it's a photo outing someone's hypocrisy or lies then I can't see the problem. "

That person themselves should be challenged in that case in my opinion

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I'll add to what I said above.

I know for a fact that some of these individuals actually have files on everyone they engage with.

I know this because they are able to send screenshots of messages and pics that in my case were more than 2 years old.

Information is currency and some very high profile forumites with amazing pics and verifications are guilty of this.

There is obviously an audience for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I heard the rumours last time and it makes me a lot more careful who I share face pics with.

in the chat. It's a really nice group.

This is a good balance. There are good people too.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"I'll add to what I said above.

I know for a fact that some of these individuals actually have files on everyone they engage with.

I know this because they are able to send screenshots of messages and pics that in my case were more than 2 years old.

Information is currency and some very high profile forumites with amazing pics and verifications are guilty of this.

There is obviously an audience for it. "

That's a lot of effort to b a cunt.

People can be vile.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Trust no one in life especially on the net.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was sent a quite serious allegation a few years ago out of the blue from someone I'd never interacted with before. No proof, just information. I just replied oh.

People could be spreading all kinds of shite lies.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess. "

I wouldn't be surprised if the contents of this thread are being discussed in private groups as we speak.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think it’s happened to us on here but off fab we got to know a guy really well became good friends with him, after a few meetings we trusted him to send some pics of me (Mrs) “not unsolicited ones may I add”

then found out he had been forwarding my pics and the messages we sent to his friends it felt like such a violation at the time. Lesson well learned

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"I was sent a quite serious allegation a few years ago out of the blue from someone I'd never interacted with before. No proof, just information. I just replied oh.

People could be spreading all kinds of shite lies. "

I've been approached at socials and messaged by people who start the conversation by saying "I know you don't like gossip or scandal but......"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I wouldn't be surprised if the contents of this thread are being discussed in private groups as we speak. "
This! Tragically funny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Many people don’t get past a school yard mentality

Makes them feel big and important to do it.

Need to grow up

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

What I don't understand but then I am probably quite naïve. If so many fabbers are so against this kind of despicable behaviour, and if they then decided not to associate with people play childish games. Wouldn't it reduce this kind of thing? Or am I missing something?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also regarding sending intimate pictures to other people is already a crime in the uk and if someone you know does it, do go to the police and report it

Falls under revenge porn type stuff

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By *ansoffateMan over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"Wait…. You mean, even though all the girls don’t have time to read and reply to their hundreds and thousands of messages (daily) they still have time to discuss messages they have received, on other platforms?

I just don’t know what to believe now?"

that gave me a giggle

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I have to say though that given what we know about human nature it's hardly surprising this goes on. I am often surprised though at the information people publicly and privately share that they'd never share with random strangers in the street. I think we're often lulled into a false sense of security on the net because we feel we know people...we don't, the net allows people to be who they want to be.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"What I don't understand but then I am probably quite naïve. If so many fabbers are so against this kind of despicable behaviour, and if they then decided not to associate with people play childish games. Wouldn't it reduce this kind of thing? Or am I missing something? "

Mostly because if we're not part of the groups we don't know who is.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Mostly because if we're not part of the groups we don't know who is. "

Sorry should have explained myself better. These threads occur on a fairly regular basis. And there are those who say they joined a group and then left of say they've received screenshots on here etc. I mean those people not those who have no clue who these people are.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Mostly because if we're not part of the groups we don't know who is.

Oh right

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Mostly because if we're not part of the groups we don't know who is.

Oh right

One day I'll learn to think before I type!

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman over a year ago

south coast IOW

I’m not in any fab groups outside of fab and unless I trust someone I don’t chat to them on WhatsApp. I left Kik when it went live and became full of adds and haven’t got telegram so via my profile or openly in forums is the only way you can talk to me. I must admit I am too trusting on fab with pictures of me I think but my actual friends list is small considering how many years I’ve been on here. I guess I need to think more about pictures I share.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Mostly because if we're not part of the groups we don't know who is.

Oh right

One day I'll learn to think before I type!

. One day I might learn to think

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Mostly because if we're not part of the groups we don't know who is.

I know who was sharing info with me and I know who has been asking questions about me because I've also been sent screenshots of those conversations by someone in one of the groups.

I've been calling them out for years without ever using their names because then I would be as bad as them.

I've had people contact me to say they know exactly who I'm talking about and then mention another fabber I've never even heard of so it is fairly widespread.

I've seen those that I know are doing it pop into threads like this to say how horrible it is and drop in their own sob story to sweeten the deal and because of who they are perceived to be and who they have met they get the sympathy they expect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also it can be easy to forget that although the people we chat to on here seem plausible and genuine for the most part, we don't really know who they are. You can represent yourself as an all round good person in public quite easily "

Damn, you have seen through my disguise. I shall have to come back with a new reincarnation!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mostly because if we're not part of the groups we don't know who is.

I know who was sharing info with me and I know who has been asking questions about me because I've also been sent screenshots of those conversations by someone in one of the groups.

I've been calling them out for years without ever using their names because then I would be as bad as them.

I've had people contact me to say they know exactly who I'm talking about and then mention another fabber I've never even heard of so it is fairly widespread.

That’s juicy

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Damn, you have seen through my disguise. I shall have to come back with a new reincarnation!"

I don't think anyone's cottoned on to me yet...

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By *illy IdolMan over a year ago

Midlands

If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!"

Ffs. Made me look!

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman over a year ago

south coast IOW

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!"

Damn does that mean we can’t see it on here.

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!

Ffs. Made me look!

Shame, Nora! I've seen it. It's good. You are missing out.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!

Ffs. Made me look!

Shame, Nora! I've seen it. It's good. You are missing out. "

Soooooo not fair!

Can you share it on the group chat please?

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By *illy IdolMan over a year ago

Midlands

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!

Ffs. Made me look!

Shame, Nora! I've seen it. It's good. You are missing out. "

The things I have to send you to see noras rat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I wouldn't be surprised if the contents of this thread are being discussed in private groups as we speak. "

Of course it is, and I’d wager it wouldn’t take much guesswork as to the culprits. Conspicuous in their absence?

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!

Ffs. Made me look!

Shame, Nora! I've seen it. It's good. You are missing out.

Soooooo not fair!

Can you share it on the group chat please?

No! He made it just for me.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!

Ffs. Made me look!

Shame, Nora! I've seen it. It's good. You are missing out.

The things I have to send you to see noras rat"

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By *illy IdolMan over a year ago

Midlands

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!

Ffs. Made me look!

Shame, Nora! I've seen it. It's good. You are missing out.

The things I have to send you to see noras rat

Very nice by the way Nora

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I've seen it first hand when I was in a couple of groups and I've gotten it in my pms as well on here at time. I've seen people's real names and face pics and even at one stage someone's FB account. It's why I no longer join groups from here. Even when you say on a group that isn't right you get vilified and then find out that the person running the group has contacted people you know looking for info on you to share. And yes unfortunately I have also had my own info shared on here by someone I stupidly trusted.

It taught me to be very wary of who I tell personal info to as people will try and use it as currency on here,because there are those who thrive on info sharing. It's no coincidence that those people in those circles are always those involved in constant drama on here though behind the scenes.

If someone hasn't shared their own info with me I've no interest in getting it off others. I've no interest in rumours either about people I'll make up my own mind.

Public and private personas can be so different on here. And fab like everywhere else will have those who thrive on gossip and info. And quite simply if someone is sharing others info with you do you really think at some point they won't share yours .

Best thing to do is keep your circle small unless you don't mind your info getting out not just on here but in your life outside of here also. Do not be naive and think just because it's a swingers site there aren't vindictive jealous people on here.

In saying all that yes there are amazing people on here as well and that is what makes it worthwhile.

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By *weetiepie99Woman over a year ago

cardiff

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I wouldn't be surprised if the contents of this thread are being discussed in private groups as we speak.

Of course it is, and I’d wager it wouldn’t take much guesswork as to the culprits. Conspicuous in their absence? "

You can't say that...some people are in work etc!! I've only commented because i didn't want to be conspicuous by my absence!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I wouldn't be surprised if the contents of this thread are being discussed in private groups as we speak.

Of course it is, and I’d wager it wouldn’t take much guesswork as to the culprits. Conspicuous in their absence? "
This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not in any fab groups outside of fab and unless I trust someone I don’t chat to them on WhatsApp. I left Kik when it went live and became full of adds and haven’t got telegram so via my profile or openly in forums is the only way you can talk to me. I must admit I am too trusting on fab with pictures of me I think but my actual friends list is small considering how many years I’ve been on here. I guess I need to think more about pictures I share. "

For me the basic assumption is anything I share on Fab or with an individual might get out there - so don’t share anything you don’t want out in the wide world! Best rule - you share face pics, no nudity; if it’s nudes, no face

TBH I probably didn’t always do that in the early days but then I don’t really care if people see it - it’s just sex, we all have it, I don’t about from the rooftops I’m kinky but then I don’t feel guilty about it either so won’t be mortified if it comes out.

As I’ve said multiple times before on here, for me swinging is all about consent. I’d never share anyone elses’ pics unless they explicitly gave me consent - and I ask my lovers the same. But overall I’m probably less bothered than most if it did happen, because I know that’s the risk I take taking and sharing pics

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I wouldn't be surprised if the contents of this thread are being discussed in private groups as we speak.

Of course it is, and I’d wager it wouldn’t take much guesswork as to the culprits. Conspicuous in their absence? "

I don't think speculation serves any purpose.

On the net we need to be wary of every person we interact with. We're always telling youngsters and old people to be careful of catfish but merrily throw caution to the wind ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I wouldn't be surprised if the contents of this thread are being discussed in private groups as we speak.

Of course it is, and I’d wager it wouldn’t take much guesswork as to the culprits. Conspicuous in their absence?

I don't think speculation serves any purpose.

On the net we need to be wary of every person we interact with. We're always telling youngsters and old people to be careful of catfish but merrily throw caution to the wind ourselves. "

I’m not getting into the speculation. I’m merely hypothesising, and thinking out loud.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

But how is it pop to know everyone who is playing these childish games to know who to avoid, I mean that would be the simplest solution but other then 1 person I don't know the rest by name.

Mrs

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's extremely common across most social media groups. If I don't want it shared, I don't release it to the internet. Simples

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

But how is it pop to know everyone who is playing these childish games to know who to avoid, I mean that would be the simplest solution but other then 1 person I don't know the rest by name.

Mrs "

I agree with you, but if everyone started avoiding these people. Surely with time there will be consequences to their action? As more and more people avoid them.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's v sad that people do this and breech the trust of others.

I don't do fpf anymore after hearing this goes on & the only group I've ever been in was one for the Manchester social.

Thankfully i never saw this type of behaviour in that group and people were supportive and friendly.

I wouldn't join in any other chats/groups away from the forum, I can choose who I interact with here and what I share with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I wouldn't be surprised if the contents of this thread are being discussed in private groups as we speak.

Of course it is, and I’d wager it wouldn’t take much guesswork as to the culprits. Conspicuous in their absence? This

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Also the ones commenting but slightly perturbed and panicky

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By *aizyWoman over a year ago

west midlands

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess. "

I highly doubt it, probably having a laugh about it in their group chats

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

This, if it's a photo outing someone's hypocrisy or lies then I can't see the problem. "

Whether something is hypocritical or even a lie is not always clear. That is one person's judgement often and doesn't justify sharing things that are meant to be private with a large number of strangers. Bang out of order however you spin it.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"If my windmilling video has been doing the rounds in group chats, I won't be happy!"

Jeez this is actually quite a serious topic. Sometimes no no need to hijack with jokes and make it about yourself.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

This, if it's a photo outing someone's hypocrisy or lies then I can't see the problem.

I've seen private messages shared in groups to show how nasty or abusive another individual is but strangely the other side of the conversation is redacted so we never get to see what may have triggered that reaction

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By *estinyIsAllCouple over a year ago

Staffordshire

People are shit in all walks of life, here is no different.

It's very sad and certainly a cause for concern.

D x

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I highly doubt it, probably having a laugh about it in their group chats

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like moderators views on this.

Anything off here group chat wise moderators involving what the op suggests happens, is this breaking rules of contract.

Or.. Is anything off here nothing to do with fab swingers?

Those that share stuff from here in group chats what is the rule please moderator?

I remember someone I chatted with had screen shotted my photos, sent them to me off here said he was wanking over them. No one in my mind has a right on here to copy photos. Although you post them and think they safe.. My profile can be seen on google. Safety should be paramount surely mods.

Is screen shotting our photos allowed moderators. I am sure mine are not the only one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like moderators views on this.

Anything off here group chat wise moderators involving what the op suggests happens, is this breaking rules of contract.

Or.. Is anything off here nothing to do with fab swingers?

Those that share stuff from here in group chats what is the rule please moderator?

Is screen shotting our photos allowed moderators. I am sure mine are not the only one.

Is doesn't matter what the rules are. Because people will break them regardless.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

It’s incredibly childish and sad and it’s been going on for years. I remember the incident PW is talking about and I’d been off here for a year at the time. It was vile.

I share my face via threads and am comfortable doing so. my conversations are limited and generally nonsense. I’ve nothing of interest to anyone else so good luck creating drama there. But the simple fact is here, if you piss off the wrong kind of person you become a target for nasty behaviour. If you are hiding this life from those you love then you have more to lose.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like moderators views on this.

Anything off here group chat wise moderators involving what the op suggests happens, is this breaking rules of contract.

Or.. Is anything off here nothing to do with fab swingers?

Those that share stuff from here in group chats what is the rule please moderator?

Is screen shotting our photos allowed moderators. I am sure mine are not the only one.

Nothing mods or admin can do. Once it’s off the site, it’s nothing to do with them.

Best way to think is that if you don’t want it screenshotted or potentially used for skullduggery, then don’t upload it to a public website.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I highly doubt it, probably having a laugh about it in their group chats

lol true - if anybody happens to see my face pic knock yourselves out

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’m sure there are chat groups away from FAB - it’s been noted on here that people will send a telegram/kik message.

Some people create drama - some people like drama.

We don’t chat in groups unless going to a social and a chat has been set up but we wouldn’t waste our energy talking about other people. We don’t know most people to talk about them anyway…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I highly doubt it, probably having a laugh about it in their group chats

lol true - if anybody happens to see my face pic knock yourselves out

I’ve already spaffed a couple of loads over it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like moderators views on this.

Anything off here group chat wise moderators involving what the op suggests happens, is this breaking rules of contract.

Or.. Is anything off here nothing to do with fab swingers?

Those that share stuff from here in group chats what is the rule please moderator?

Is screen shotting our photos allowed moderators. I am sure mine are not the only one.

You can take your profile off Google searches. But anyone can join the site and view, screenshot, download, distribute pics. It's not up to Fab admin to police what people do.

If people don't want their pics on porn sites or passed around the local pub, don't post them online.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Fingers crossed that some of the culprits read these and feel a tiny bit of shame/guilt/embarrassment.

I suspect not, but you never know. Pigs could fly too I guess.

I highly doubt it, probably having a laugh about it in their group chats

lol true - if anybody happens to see my face pic knock yourselves out

I’ve already spaffed a couple of loads over it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs "

Hi Op

In terms and conditions of when we join this service under section 10 Your Content section, and 10.5 it says that no one has permission to copy and share.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Like moderators views on this.

Anything off here group chat wise moderators involving what the op suggests happens, is this breaking rules of contract.

Or.. Is anything off here nothing to do with fab swingers?

Those that share stuff from here in group chats what is the rule please moderator?

Is screen shotting our photos allowed moderators. I am sure mine are not the only one.

You can take your profile off Google searches. But anyone can join the site and view, screenshot, download, distribute pics. It's not up to Fab admin to police what people do.

If people don't want their pics on porn sites or passed around the local pub, don't post them online. "

This

. Common sense really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

Hi Op

In terms and conditions of when we join this service under section 10 Your Content section, and 10.5 it says that no one has permission to copy and share. "

There's probably also words somewhere in the world that says don't kill another human being but........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

- a prominent forumite I’ve met once or twice but who is an incredibly indiscreet/member of various chat groups… (and tries to hide it..) messaged me randomly last week. I wasn’t going to reply but felt mischievous so replied with a juicy story (some true, some of it not AKA the traitor-eliminator) as expected - he disappeared no doubt imparting the details to whatever other saddos in one of his groups

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

It’s sad to think people do that. But we all know it’s a risk because anyone can be anyone online.

I don’t share a face pic I wouldn’t be comfortable knowing was being passed around. If someone wants to rip me apart behind my back for how I look, that’s for them and their conscience.

Anything with nudity, I don’t show my face so at least if it’s shared there’s a level of anonymity on a wider scale.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

Hi Op

In terms and conditions of when we join this service under section 10 Your Content section, and 10.5 it says that no one has permission to copy and share. "

Indeed and one would hope that Admin would act if there was concrete proof in the form of screenshots of group chats. Maybe some of these Forum WhatsApp groups have sleeper spies. Would be rather ironic if a chat screenshot was to be reported

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

I just don’t know what to believe now?"

Yeah, isn't it strange how some folk have little interest in listening to hundreds of randoms, but still enjoy chatting with their friends? If someone I don't know refuses to reply to me, there should be a law that they aren't allowed to talk to anybody!

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"- a prominent forumite I’ve met once or twice but who is an incredibly indiscreet/member of various chat groups… (and tries to hide it..) messaged me randomly last week. I wasn’t going to reply but felt mischievous so replied with a juicy story (some true, some of it not AKA the traitor-eliminator) as expected - he disappeared no doubt imparting the details to whatever other saddos in one of his groups

I got a message a few years ago from someone I had met and been friends with for a couple of years.

She was having a rant about a particular thread in the forums and asked my opinion on the poster.

I told her what I thought about the thread and his posting style in general.

An hour later he commented on his own thread and copied and pasted my private response to her.

That told me all I needed to know about him and also ended that"friendship".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't use external messaging apps. We prefer to keep all our correspondence on here. There was just too many unsolicited messages from single males wanting to meet alone. The juice just isn't worth the squeeze anymore

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

It's probably prudent to just paddle your own canoe on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An hour later he commented on his own thread and copied and pasted my private response to her.

That told me all I needed to know about him and also ended that"friendship". "

*Facepalm*

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I got a message a few years ago from someone I had met and been friends with for a couple of years.

She was having a rant about a particular thread in the forums and asked my opinion on the poster.

I told her what I thought about the thread and his posting style in general.

An hour later he commented on his own thread and copied and pasted my private response to her.

That told me all I needed to know about him and also ended that"friendship". "

My brief experience of group chats has changed how I discuss mutual friends. If friend X asks me about person I've met Y, I will now give very minimal information - with the aim of being as juicy as a stone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got a message a few years ago from someone I had met and been friends with for a couple of years.

She was having a rant about a particular thread in the forums and asked my opinion on the poster.

I told her what I thought about the thread and his posting style in general.

An hour later he commented on his own thread and copied and pasted my private response to her.

That told me all I needed to know about him and also ended that"friendship". "

that’s just sick! I understand there are people like this but it’s still somewhat disappointing when they show their true colours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it me or should be case what said and shown in vegas stays in vegas ..

I.e on Here .....or that too much like sensible common respectful sense

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

The only chats I generally get involved with are social group chats in the lead up to them, and other than that it's just 121 friend chats.

I mean no blighter wants to talk to me anyway so

Tinder

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By *ansoffateMan over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I have to say though that given what we know about human nature it's hardly surprising this goes on. I am often surprised though at the information people publicly and privately share that they'd never share with random strangers in the street. I think we're often lulled into a false sense of security on the net because we feel we know people...we don't, the net allows people to be who they want to be. "

I agree. I've been trained by a woman who lost her family in the holocaust (two women actually). Who designed a course to experientially demonstrate clique forming behaviour and the detrimental effects of antilocution. I was also asked to become a facilitator after I completed it.

Antilocution eventually becomes elimination. Witch hunting/scapegoating.

How do you know?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

But how is it pop to know everyone who is playing these childish games to know who to avoid, I mean that would be the simplest solution but other then 1 person I don't know the rest by name.

Mrs

I agree with you, but if everyone started avoiding these people. Surely with time there will be consequences to their action? As more and more people avoid them. "

If I knew them all I'd definitely avoid them, I only know 1 by name (& with proof) the others I'm not sure of & that 1 person has gone UNLOS thankfully.

Mrs

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By *hirleyMan over a year ago

somewhere

It's a form of bullying, nobody should be subject to that. I can't see any reason that images or chats should be shared under any circumstance really, there's no plausible reason for it

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

But how is it pop to know everyone who is playing these childish games to know who to avoid, I mean that would be the simplest solution but other then 1 person I don't know the rest by name.

Mrs

I agree with you, but if everyone started avoiding these people. Surely with time there will be consequences to their action? As more and more people avoid them.

If I knew them all I'd definitely avoid them, I only know 1 by name (& with proof) the others I'm not sure of & that 1 person has gone UNLOS thankfully.

Mrs "

Was the proof a screenshot or a message shared with you

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

[Removed by poster at 27/10/23 13:25:19]

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By *uggy55TV/TS over a year ago

Fife

Hmm, may have to think twice before sharing photos with, what I assumed to be trustworthy people.

May I ask, where do these people share our photos? And how are we made aware of it?

Apologies for the number of questions, genuinely interested for the info.

Xxx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"Hmm, may have to think twice before sharing photos with, what I assumed to be trustworthy people.

May I ask, where do these people share our photos? And how are we made aware of it?

Apologies for the number of questions, genuinely interested for the info.

Xxx"

Telegram/kik groups & unfortunately you won't be made aware unless someone lets you know.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

But how is it pop to know everyone who is playing these childish games to know who to avoid, I mean that would be the simplest solution but other then 1 person I don't know the rest by name.

Mrs

I agree with you, but if everyone started avoiding these people. Surely with time there will be consequences to their action? As more and more people avoid them.

If I knew them all I'd definitely avoid them, I only know 1 by name (& with proof) the others I'm not sure of & that 1 person has gone UNLOS thankfully.

Mrs

Was the proof a screenshot or a message shared with you "

No it wasn't.

Mrs

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By *uggy55TV/TS over a year ago

Fife

"Hmm, may have to think twice before sharing photos with, what I assumed to be trustworthy people.

May I ask, where do these people share our photos? And how are we made aware of it?

Apologies for the number of questions, genuinely interested for the info.

Xxx

Telegram/kik groups & unfortunately you won't be made aware unless someone lets you know.

Mrs "

Fair enough. Thanks for the reply. May ease up on the sharing for a while.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

But how is it pop to know everyone who is playing these childish games to know who to avoid, I mean that would be the simplest solution but other then 1 person I don't know the rest by name.

Mrs

I agree with you, but if everyone started avoiding these people. Surely with time there will be consequences to their action? As more and more people avoid them.

If I knew them all I'd definitely avoid them, I only know 1 by name (& with proof) the others I'm not sure of & that 1 person has gone UNLOS thankfully.

Mrs

Was the proof a screenshot or a message shared with you

No it wasn't.

Mrs "

An admission? Gossip? I'm just curious as to how you'd get proof of this

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By *sername already in useMan over a year ago

manchester

Can you all send me my dick pictures back please.

The hard copies that I posted out.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple over a year ago

Merseyside

I like telegram as you can control that aspect in group chats as it’s just not something people should be doing. Out of an adult respect type of way

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By *oldyoudown41Man over a year ago

caledonian

"I was in a group chat about 2 years ago. I lasted a few hours as it was rife with bitching.

I was also part of a group chat and they shared

All sort of stuff from Fab … some are well known people here

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By *oldyoudown41Man over a year ago

caledonian

"I am either being very naive or very stupid and possibly both but I have never thought that could be the case.

I guess I was somehow right all along never send anything to anyone and it makes me even more wary about it now.

Anyone actively engaging in this kind of crap is having just a miserable life, shitty attitude and nothing better to do. "

Same kind of people that deliberately start controversial thread topics knowing it will get tricky … I know a few of them and don’t talk to them ..

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

If lots of people on here, know the culprits, why don't you just report them?

If the same names pop up, surely admin/mods would do something?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"If lots of people on here, know the culprits, why don't you just report them?

If the same names pop up, surely admin/mods would do something?"

If it’s not happening on the site, I’m not sure they can.

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"If lots of people on here, know the culprits, why don't you just report them?

If the same names pop up, surely admin/mods would do something?"

You make a very valid point and I 100% agree

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By *oldyoudown41Man over a year ago

caledonian

"If lots of people on here, know the culprits, why don't you just report them?

If the same names pop up, surely admin/mods would do something?"

Have done , publicly referred to them because reporting them privately didn’t fix it .. but I was banned form the forum for a while because of this

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

But how is it pop to know everyone who is playing these childish games to know who to avoid, I mean that would be the simplest solution but other then 1 person I don't know the rest by name.

Mrs

I agree with you, but if everyone started avoiding these people. Surely with time there will be consequences to their action? As more and more people avoid them.

If I knew them all I'd definitely avoid them, I only know 1 by name (& with proof) the others I'm not sure of & that 1 person has gone UNLOS thankfully.

Mrs

Was the proof a screenshot or a message shared with you

No it wasn't.

Mrs

An admission? Gossip? I'm just curious as to how you'd get proof of this "

Tell someone something that's not true and wait for it to come back, easy really.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"If lots of people on here, know the culprits, why don't you just report them?

If the same names pop up, surely admin/mods would do something?"

I did & they didn't.

Mrs

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

"If lots of people on here, know the culprits, why don't you just report them?

If the same names pop up, surely admin/mods would do something?

Have done , publicly referred to them because reporting them privately didn’t fix it .. but I was banned form the forum for a while because of this "

Well... That makes you wonder then, doesn't it?

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

"If lots of people on here, know the culprits, why don't you just report them?

If the same names pop up, surely admin/mods would do something?

I did & they didn't.

Mrs "

At least you tried

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By *oldyoudown41Man over a year ago

caledonian

"If lots of people on here, know the culprits, why don't you just report them?

If the same names pop up, surely admin/mods would do something?

Have done , publicly referred to them because reporting them privately didn’t fix it .. but I was banned form the forum for a while because of this

Well... That makes you wonder then, doesn't it?"

The whole thing is pointless

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By *illan-KillashMan over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

Private inboxes and face pics as well as others.

Mrs "

I should have been more clear, sorry, it wasnt a question.

I meant the context and intent of why it was being shared.

To take the pics and ridicule someone, or perhaps to warn of unacceptable behaviour.

Either way, I'm not comfortable with it. The story's I've heard about chatgroups on here are pretty vile.

On the flipside, all helps my block list.

Do I want to meet someone who's indiscreet about a stranger, or uses mob mentality to bully, ridicule or belittle others? Nope. But thanks for showing your true colours.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

This is why I very rarely get involved with people who use the forums...

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By *oldyoudown41Man over a year ago

caledonian

"This is why I very rarely get involved with people who use the forums..."

We’re not all bad

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

But how is it pop to know everyone who is playing these childish games to know who to avoid, I mean that would be the simplest solution but other then 1 person I don't know the rest by name.

Mrs

I agree with you, but if everyone started avoiding these people. Surely with time there will be consequences to their action? As more and more people avoid them.

If I knew them all I'd definitely avoid them, I only know 1 by name (& with proof) the others I'm not sure of & that 1 person has gone UNLOS thankfully.

Mrs

Was the proof a screenshot or a message shared with you

No it wasn't.

Mrs

An admission? Gossip? I'm just curious as to how you'd get proof of this "

I know somebody who once saw a screenshot of something posted about her in a WhatsApp group comprised entirely of (regular) Forum members. She had an inside agent

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"This is why I very rarely get involved with people who use the forums...

We’re not all bad

Oh I know but I also know some who deny this behaviour and sadly are the biggest culprits x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

"So it's been brought up again by someone on another post this morning, the warning that people will send your pics & inboxes to group chats.

Why though? It's like school yard crap really isn't it, does the sharing some gossip make people feel popular or something?

How do the others feel viewing something that should be private, is it good to laugh/gossip over others.

On a site that is fairly anonymous it's not really adult behaviour is it.

Does it make you more wary who you send stuff too?

It definitely has me.

Mrs

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

Private inboxes and face pics as well as others.

Mrs

I should have been more clear, sorry, it wasnt a question.

I meant the context and intent of why it was being shared.

To take the pics and ridicule someone, or perhaps to warn of unacceptable behaviour.

Either way, I'm not comfortable with it. The story's I've heard about chatgroups on here are pretty vile.

On the flipside, all helps my block list.

Do I want to meet someone who's indiscreet about a stranger, or uses mob mentality to bully, ridicule or belittle others? Nope. But thanks for showing your true colours."

Yes sorry more ridicule, show people's faces to others, generally to bitch by the sounds of things.

Mrs

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By *ealMissShadyWoman over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I think it depends what's being shared and why it's being shared.

Context and intent are everything.

This, if it's a photo outing someone's hypocrisy or lies then I can't see the problem.

That person themselves should be challenged in that case in my opinion "

I did that, two people actually. And they are still causing trouble and spreading shit behind the scenes now and this was 4 years ago or more.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why I’m glad to be a loner.

I never take chat off Fab unless I have met someone and trust them.

If you’ve got my face pic you’ve earned my trust.

Those on private groups solely for the purpose of malice and mischief making, what sad lives you must lead!

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

It's like being back at school.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel an absence in the air on this thread to OP.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

And tbh it's one of the reasons if you see his face pic uncovered you're lucky as he's been spoke about behind his back before.

Tinder

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Like moderators views on this.

Anything off here group chat wise moderators involving what the op suggests happens, is this breaking rules of contract.

Or.. Is anything off here nothing to do with fab swingers?

Those that share stuff from here in group chats what is the rule please moderator?

Is screen shotting our photos allowed moderators. I am sure mine are not the only one.

What goes on in chat groups away from the site Admin can't police no. If it spills onto this site then that's a different kettle of fish and it should be reported.

There is some info on the FAQ's about pic lifting

https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#rightclick

Having said that, it would be wise to report anyone who tells you they have lifted yours.

To stop your profile been seen on google, use your privacy option here.

https://www.fabswingers.com/my/privacy

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