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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Boys and girls: Has the sex ever been THAT good, you did a double take on your current relationship? Or your mind constantly wanders and finds itself in that moment with potential regrets about your present? Or you've felt that good that deep down, you've wanted that person to be exclusive to you?
I just read a forum post about a guy who's wife is about to have her first, sole, hotwife experience and he was anxious but the anxiety wasn't as strong as his excitement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dare I say this. I'm sure this is the equivalent of absolutely hanging myself.
Yes..the sex I had with a certain man was bloody amazing, I can't even put into words why and how. But it wasn't just the sex, his company, other things I could list.
But he binned me.
And now I just don't few like anyone else. I've just felt pretty meh ever since.
It's shit.
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Well if a relationship is based solely on great sex it's probably doomed however bad sex can be just as damaging as non.
Once again without wanting to sound like a broken record they key to a good and long lasting relationship is about communication everything else falls in line if you have good communication. |
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"Dare I say this. I'm sure this is the equivalent of absolutely hanging myself.
Yes..the sex I had with a certain man was bloody amazing, I can't even put into words why and how. But it wasn't just the sex, his company, other things I could list.
But he binned me.
And now I just don't few like anyone else. I've just felt pretty meh ever since.
It's shit.
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And you end up comparing everyone else to them.... It's shit and I've been there.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had sex so good that I wanted to see them again and again, It’s never made me question my relationship though.
I think people can get lust confused for something more. |
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No. I've had really good sex but it's never made me want to leave a relationship; sex is a minor part of one. I'm not about to throw away years of love, connection, inside jokes, and sickening sweetness, for some above average snu-snu  
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No. We've been together coming up for 43 years, that lifetime of knowing each other can't be replaced by a casual encounter because the love and intimacy which makes sex special isn't there. Other people might be good, great even but they're never going to be able to match that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m currently having some of the best sex I’ve ever had. What makes it so good is deeper than the sex itself. The way we connect physically and emotionally. We are friends and not solely fuck buddies. We can laugh together. We can share in pleasure in a truly magical way. It’s beautiful. However it doesn’t make me question my other relationship. It makes me happy to have made the connection I’ve made with this person. To have them in my life. It makes me want to spend more of my free time with them and not seek others but not in an exclusivity must be sought way. I certainly don’t fantasise about a future or present of more with them. I do realistically plan to share many, many more moments with them — beyond sex as well, and I’d reckon we are on the same page about this.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex off here.. Mind blowing.
Sex is and should be drama free no emotions because you may get burnt.
I am of the time that I will enjoy everything but the buck stops here at no drama pleasure. Getting feelings and emotions has worked for some here in proof of marriage or becoming partners.
Sex is a pleasure for most but falling too deep too quick.. Watch your fingers.
Talking about your wants before might help par having sex to maybe stop and think is it worth getting too deep too soon.
I am currently not inclusive because I believe I will have many pleasures to come but I am not exclusive either.
Everyone on fab looks for different needs. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Sorry, I should've added.
I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As I get older the less I view good sex in a vacuum
Good sex is a combination of the entire relationship
Technically the best “just sex” I ever had was with a girl 5/6 years ago, her body was a perfect 10 for me and the sex was amazing, but she was toxic, emotional, manipulative and abusive. So given the chance I’d never go back there. She messages me a few times a year to hang out and I always decline
The best actual sex I’ve had is with loving partners that I have a strong connection with and it’s a combination of everything before and after the sex that makes it so amazing |
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When I met my wife. I don't think it was just the sex in fairness, but there was no space in our minds for anyone else. It wasn't even a thought of I want this to be exclusive. We just couldn't put each other down, the sex was phenomenal. I'd say we fucked each other senseless for about 3 months, got a flat to save on hotels. Then remembered that other people existed. |
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"Sorry, I should've added.
I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment."
Personally I doubt that anybody is so good that they could get anywhere close to the mystical and profound connection you describe.
This might be because I'm very much of the mindset that anything outside of our relationship is genuinely*just* sex. I like the people we meet and get along with them but that's as far as it goes. Also we go into meets as a unit rather than individuals |
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"When I met my wife. I don't think it was just the sex in fairness, but there was no space in our minds for anyone else. It wasn't even a thought of I want this to be exclusive. We just couldn't put each other down, the sex was phenomenal. I'd say we fucked each other senseless for about 3 months, got a flat to save on hotels. Then remembered that other people existed."
We pretty much done the same Honeymoon period is always intense |
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"I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment."
In that moment, with the earth shaking life altering sex and the orgasms coursing through, that's all that exists in that moment. And I'll think fondly of it often when I'm alone. I look to spend more time with that person and enjoy more of it.
But when I'm with the people who mean something to me, my mind is always there with them, not off comparing to other experiences or thinking of someone who triggered a physical response in a different way. In the moments that matter, I'm where I need to be, not fantasising about someone or something else when I have something wonderful right there with me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry, I should've added.
I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment."
No. An unsuitable person for me would never share a physical connection with me.
No, the raw physical mind blowing sex has not led me to question other relationships, nor do I look at this mind blowing sex as higher hierarchical speaking than my other relationship. It does make me not want to seek other new connections because I cannot fathom finding this exact thing with anyone else.
My other relationship is not negatively affected by this one as a result of this mind blowing sex. The two are parallels of one another, and as such never intersecting or comparable. I do know this physical, raw connection is unique to this person and myself, and leave it as such without thinking more into it. My other relationship will always be primary to any others but that’s based on variables you’re not keen to add to this. |
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Is a relationship is based solely on sex then it's not a great start, yes good sex is amazing but it's not a solid base for a relationship.
I've yet to have better sex than with the Mr he knows my body he's spent time learning what I like, no one can match that and even if they did, the love, compassion, communication and all the other little things that make a relationship aren't worth throwing away for a good shag.
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"Sorry, I should've added.
I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment."
it's a pretty shallow and emotionally stunted person that would bin off a perfectly good relationship just for a decent fuck.
Because I'm thinking that you'd just end up going from one relationship to another if it's just about awesome sex because no matter how good that person is in bed your going to get bored with them and someone else will eventually top their ability .
I can't think of anything worse than basing an entire relationship on good sex.
It's like an amazing mind blowing meal mmm great but if you eat it everyday and expect nothing but perfection every time you are soon going to be disappointed and bored. |
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"Sorry, I should've added.
I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment. it's a pretty shallow and emotionally stunted person that would bin off a perfectly good relationship just for a decent fuck.
Because I'm thinking that you'd just end up going from one relationship to another if it's just about awesome sex because no matter how good that person is in bed your going to get bored with them and someone else will eventually top their ability .
I can't think of anything worse than basing an entire relationship on good sex.
It's like an amazing mind blowing meal mmm great but if you eat it everyday and expect nothing but perfection every time you are soon going to be disappointed and bored."
I agree and it's nice to share an amazing , mind blowing meal with your partner then go home satiated happy to have some amazing, mind blowing home cooked food the next day |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry, I should've added.
I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment."
For me it’s only ever just sex. There’s been times where I’ve thought about them a lot afterwards and I really look forward to seeing them again, but I know that the relationship we have with each other is worth so much more than that one night of amazing sex. |
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"Sorry, I should've added.
I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment."
I'm not sure I understand this. I don't know whether it's because I need more context or because I am demi-sexual. I'd like to understand though.
AHH yeah I think I know what you mean. In a way. I can be taken there by someone who isn't suitable for me. It links into my CSA. |
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"Sorry, I should've added.
I'm not looking for answers about sex + deeper emotions. I can totally get that bit. In my mind's eye I totally agree about whole person, connections, it all gets better, etc.
What I'd like to know is whether the sex, the raw physical, was THAT good, that it short-circuited those meaningful connections. It had such a profound impact on you that current deep emotion or potentially future deep ones left you double guessing. It could even be that the person involved is knowingly totally unsuitable for you, yet the physical was so strong a part of you deep inside was still in that moment.
I'm not sure I understand this. I don't know whether it's because I need more context or because I am demi-sexual. I'd like to understand though.
AHH yeah I think I know what you mean. In a way. I can be taken there by someone who isn't suitable for me. It links into my CSA."
I had to look up what demi sexual means. |
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