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I apologise if the thread has been posted in the past already. What do you think of those couples or singles that specifically requesto no kissing during the intercourse? In my case it is a completely turn off. No kissing would reduce my act to a mechanical one similar to paying fir sex but, as I said, it is my personal opinion. What about you? |
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over a year ago
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If someone was against kissing, I'd never meet them. It's as simple as that. It would be like if someone tried to wear high heels or chastity, my dick would shrivel into my body and my arse would seal shut, I can think of few greater turn offs. |
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When part of a couple on here, we had a no-kissing stipulation. Met many couples, a few wouldn’t meet because of this. Met loads of single guys only had one refuse to meet because there’d be no kissing- I really really wanted to meet him, but had to say ‘ooh don’t wanna meet him anyway’ to the other half  I’d never go down the no-kissing route again, coupled up or single. Understand why some couples keep it for themselves though |
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"When part of a couple on here, we had a no-kissing stipulation. Met many couples, a few wouldn’t meet because of this. Met loads of single guys only had one refuse to meet because there’d be no kissing- I really really wanted to meet him, but had to say ‘ooh don’t wanna meet him anyway’ to the other half I’d never go down the no-kissing route again, coupled up or single. Understand why some couples keep it for themselves though"
Can i ask why no kissing if you allow your partner ho have full intercourse? |
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If you don't want to meet people like us, quite simply ... don't. Meeting us is not comparable to meeting a sex worker, you'd probably have a better time with a sex worker. Neither is it mechanical.
There's no need to worry though because the people who don't kiss their casual meets fully understand that they aren't compatible with those who feel it's necessary, we don't judge them though. |
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"When part of a couple on here, we had a no-kissing stipulation. Met many couples, a few wouldn’t meet because of this. Met loads of single guys only had one refuse to meet because there’d be no kissing- I really really wanted to meet him, but had to say ‘ooh don’t wanna meet him anyway’ to the other half I’d never go down the no-kissing route again, coupled up or single. Understand why some couples keep it for themselves though
Can i ask why no kissing if you allow your partner ho have full intercourse?"
I do think kissing is the bestest most intimate act there is (when done with compatibles) It’s a truly loving act. Sexual intercourse is usually just that - sexual intercourse. Feeds a need, a lust. I could watch him fuck others and not feel anything but throw kissing into the mix… |
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Initially we had a no kissing rule but it went out the window pretty quickly.
Especially as my friends will randomly come up to me and give me a smooch anyway, so it seemed too much hassle to stick to it and it doesn't cause us any issues.
I don't judge others for it though, each to their own
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"If you don't want to meet people like us, quite simply ... don't. Meeting us is not comparable to meeting a sex worker, you'd probably have a better time with a sex worker. Neither is it mechanical.
There's no need to worry though because the people who don't kiss their casual meets fully understand that they aren't compatible with those who feel it's necessary, we don't judge them though. "
This.
I'm always a little dumbfounded when people make the cold and mechanical claim. If someone lacks the imagination to be unable to envisage how a meet without kissing me on the mouth can be more than just sticking their penis in me then we absolutely are not compatible |
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"I apologise if the thread has been posted in the past already. What do you think of those couples or singles that specifically requesto no kissing during the intercourse? In my case it is a completely turn off. No kissing would reduce my act to a mechanical one similar to paying fir sex but, as I said, it is my personal opinion. What about you?"
The people that put no kissing want just that the mechanical act of sex, kissing is intimate and they don't want intimacy  |
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"I apologise if the thread has been posted in the past already. What do you think of those couples or singles that specifically requesto no kissing during the intercourse? In my case it is a completely turn off. No kissing would reduce my act to a mechanical one similar to paying fir sex but, as I said, it is my personal opinion. What about you?The people that put no kissing want just that the mechanical act of sex, kissing is intimate and they don't want intimacy "
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Is that all there is? Kissing someone on the mouth and the mechanical act of sex? Nothing in between?  |
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Two men have met me and didn't want to kiss although neither told me beforehand that they wouldn't. Another reason to be wary. Kissing is intimate, yes - sex is supposed to be intimate. |
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My FWB couple did start with a no kissing rule but it gradually gave way as we got to know and trust each other - or rather, when they got to realise I wasn't a threat to their relationship. I did miss it very much and would want any future meets to include it. |
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I’ve always been happy to do either. It does seem a little odd to me though and certainly detracts from the experience and spontaneity of an intimate encounter I’m very much a go with the flow sort of guy and do love to kiss. But it’s your game and your rules and I’m happy to work around.  |
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Personally love kissing but sometimes still fun without. Think it is less common one on one but with couples, foursomes, group sex it is not unusual for some not to kiss. Or perhaps a little kiss rather than the full on long snog. That is the rule many couples have The trouble is you don’t always know beforehand unless ask directly which can be a bit crass. Easier to weave it in conversation if just a one on one situation. |
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"If you don't want to meet people like us, quite simply ... don't. Meeting us is not comparable to meeting a sex worker, you'd probably have a better time with a sex worker. Neither is it mechanical.
There's no need to worry though because the people who don't kiss their casual meets fully understand that they aren't compatible with those who feel it's necessary, we don't judge them though.
This.
I'm always a little dumbfounded when people make the cold and mechanical claim. If someone lacks the imagination to be unable to envisage how a meet without kissing me on the mouth can be more than just sticking their penis in me then we absolutely are not compatible "
I'm dumbfounded at how casually people will compare someone they've never met or are likely to meet to sex workers.
Personally I have no problem with it sex workers are pribably bloomin good at what they do but I don't think it's intended to be complimentary  |
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"Personally love kissing but sometimes still fun without. Think it is less common one on one but with couples, foursomes, group sex it is not unusual for some not to kiss. Or perhaps a little kiss rather than the full on long snog. That is the rule many couples have The trouble is you don’t always know beforehand unless ask directly which can be a bit crass. Easier to weave it in conversation if just a one on one situation. "
Its on our profile so people can avoid us |
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I do have recollection of one party this year where ended up alone with female half of a couple who didn’t kiss but it was mind blowing in other ways for both of us. Got my snogging fix with two other ladies there Not every person has to offer everything. |
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"Personally love kissing but sometimes still fun without. Think it is less common one on one but with couples, foursomes, group sex it is not unusual for some not to kiss. Or perhaps a little kiss rather than the full on long snog. That is the rule many couples have The trouble is you don’t always know beforehand unless ask directly which can be a bit crass. Easier to weave it in conversation if just a one on one situation.
Its on our profile so people can avoid us "
Lol that’s good idea if it’s important to you either way. More should do the same. |
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If a nice lady has my cock down the back of her throat Im not going to insist she kisses me. I do feel it adds to the intimacy but if im joining a couple its about respecting mutual boundaries - theirs might be no kissing and mine might be no dildos up my arse.. as long as you know ahead of time you can make an informed decision - i had it sprung on me once and it was a shame as it would have added to it but they also said, no oral either way- just spank her fuck her and leave… decided to just leave as that was try transactional in feel.  |
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"I'm a very tactile person and adore kissing. I'd be very disappointed if it wasn't on offer - just too 'cold' without it"
Let's just say three ladies were on their knees offering to suck your cock together and then you could fuck one or more of them. But no kissing. Would you be disappointed? |
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"I'm a very tactile person and adore kissing. I'd be very disappointed if it wasn't on offer - just too 'cold' without it
Let's just say three ladies were on their knees offering to suck your cock together and then you could fuck one or more of them. But no kissing. Would you be disappointed? "
Brb, just editing my previous comment |
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"I'm a very tactile person and adore kissing. I'd be very disappointed if it wasn't on offer - just too 'cold' without it
Let's just say three ladies were on their knees offering to suck your cock together and then you could fuck one or more of them. But no kissing. Would you be disappointed?
Brb, just editing my previous comment "
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"If you don't want to meet people like us, quite simply ... don't. Meeting us is not comparable to meeting a sex worker, you'd probably have a better time with a sex worker. Neither is it mechanical.
There's no need to worry though because the people who don't kiss their casual meets fully understand that they aren't compatible with those who feel it's necessary, we don't judge them though.
This.
I'm always a little dumbfounded when people make the cold and mechanical claim. If someone lacks the imagination to be unable to envisage how a meet without kissing me on the mouth can be more than just sticking their penis in me then we absolutely are not compatible
I'm dumbfounded at how casually people will compare someone they've never met or are likely to meet to sex workers.
Personally I have no problem with it sex workers are pribably bloomin good at what they do but I don't think it's intended to be complimentary "
Some of my closest friends are or have been sex workers. I love them to bits and I have zero doubt that they are awesome at what they do.
I just need kissing - it's a me thing not an assumption about anyone else. Actually, that's not entirely true - I need one person present where that connection exists. But let's not overcomplicate things |
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"If you don't want to meet people like us, quite simply ... don't. Meeting us is not comparable to meeting a sex worker, you'd probably have a better time with a sex worker. Neither is it mechanical.
There's no need to worry though because the people who don't kiss their casual meets fully understand that they aren't compatible with those who feel it's necessary, we don't judge them though.
This.
I'm always a little dumbfounded when people make the cold and mechanical claim. If someone lacks the imagination to be unable to envisage how a meet without kissing me on the mouth can be more than just sticking their penis in me then we absolutely are not compatible
I'm dumbfounded at how casually people will compare someone they've never met or are likely to meet to sex workers.
Personally I have no problem with it sex workers are pribably bloomin good at what they do but I don't think it's intended to be complimentary
Some of my closest friends are or have been sex workers. I love them to bits and I have zero doubt that they are awesome at what they do.
I just need kissing - it's a me thing not an assumption about anyone else. Actually, that's not entirely true - I need one person present where that connection exists. But let's not overcomplicate things "
I don't think you have made assumptions. . This is very much an 'if the cap fits 'scenario. |
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It does put me off too. Kissing is my biggest turn on, and I actually walked out a meet as I was told that the wife wouldn’t kiss. In fact they told me that they wouldn’t kiss each other during sex |
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"I apologise if the thread has been posted in the past already. What do you think of those couples or singles that specifically requesto no kissing during the intercourse? In my case it is a completely turn off. No kissing would reduce my act to a mechanical one similar to paying fir sex but, as I said, it is my personal opinion. What about you?The people that put no kissing want just that the mechanical act of sex, kissing is intimate and they don't want intimacy .
Is that all there is? Kissing someone on the mouth and the mechanical act of sex? Nothing in between? "
Well for me kissing is foreplay |
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"I apologise if the thread has been posted in the past already. What do you think of those couples or singles that specifically requesto no kissing during the intercourse? In my case it is a completely turn off. No kissing would reduce my act to a mechanical one similar to paying fir sex but, as I said, it is my personal opinion. What about you?The people that put no kissing want just that the mechanical act of sex, kissing is intimate and they don't want intimacy .
Is that all there is? Kissing someone on the mouth and the mechanical act of sex? Nothing in between? Well for me kissing is foreplay "
Ah well, for me there's more to foreplay than kissing someone on the mouth. If someone thought they could just go straight from kissing me on my mouth to putting their penis inside me, we wouldn't be in anyway compatible |
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I will sometimes kiss, but only if I want to on meet - I'll never meet anyone who demands it!
And obviously ( ?) I'm talking about kissing on the lips.
No way am I promising to snog someone before I've met them, no way.
I think that kissing lips to the lips needs to mean at least something to me, even it's just pure passion!
No way am I promising such passion in advance though!
This it the 'Sydney University' topic for me (it's been done a thousand times at least OP) - and the one that's so distinctive to Fabswingers! I've even seen threads that say 'how on earth can people not want this? What nonsense it that?' I don't think it's what everyone would necessarily expect though - ie if you described this place to them.
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Are a lot of people saying kissing a must thinking of one on one encounters only? Need some context I agree in such situations and almost everybody seems to kiss one on one.
In broader swinging world - group situations of various kinds - not kissing or minimal kissing is not unusual and many happy with it. Maybe 50/50. Personally if one on one I want to kiss but if a lady in a group wants to suck my cock or fuck I can survive without kissing  |
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"Are a lot of people saying kissing a must thinking of one on one encounters only? Need some context I agree in such situations and almost everybody seems to kiss one on one.
In broader swinging world - group situations of various kinds - not kissing or minimal kissing is not unusual and many happy with it. Maybe 50/50. Personally if one on one I want to kiss but if a lady in a group wants to suck my cock or fuck I can survive without kissing "
We have no issue with kissing but we very rarely see it in group situations and no one has ever walked out of group play due to not having a kiss .. |
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"I apologise if the thread has been posted in the past already. What do you think of those couples or singles that specifically requesto no kissing during the intercourse? In my case it is a completely turn off. No kissing would reduce my act to a mechanical one similar to paying fir sex but, as I said, it is my personal opinion. What about you?The people that put no kissing want just that the mechanical act of sex, kissing is intimate and they don't want intimacy .
Is that all there is? Kissing someone on the mouth and the mechanical act of sex? Nothing in between? Well for me kissing is foreplay
Ah well, for me there's more to foreplay than kissing someone on the mouth. If someone thought they could just go straight from kissing me on my mouth to putting their penis inside me, we wouldn't be in anyway compatible "
Well for me kissing is a vital part of foreplay and sex and putting the penis in is secondary |
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I like to kiss. I would only do a meet if I felt really really comfortable with someone....and if I couldn't kiss them...then it just would'nt feel right. I respect boundaries, but we wouldn't meet if that wasn't part of our intimate time together. |
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"I like to kiss. I would only do a meet if I felt really really comfortable with someone....and if I couldn't kiss them...then it just would'nt feel right. I respect boundaries, but we wouldn't meet if that wasn't part of our intimate time together. "
That is a good description of how I’d feel about it too. I’d never push anyone to do something they don’t want to do, but that’s too important to me so I just wouldn’t meet somebody instead |
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"We absolutely respect others boundaries but if they insist on kissing we're not going to meet them.
Which is entirely reasonable. It has to be fair both ways doesn’t it. "
Yes it does.
However it's rare to see people who don't kiss stridently insisting that they won't meet those who do. I sometimes wonder (present company excepted) if the kissers'doeth protest too much'.
Apologies to W. Shakespeare for the misquote |
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"We absolutely respect others boundaries but if they insist on kissing we're not going to meet them.
Which is entirely reasonable. It has to be fair both ways doesn’t it.
Yes it does.
However it's rare to see people who don't kiss stridently insisting that they won't meet those who do. I sometimes wonder (present company excepted) if the kissers'doeth protest too much'.
Apologies to W. Shakespeare for the misquote "
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I think this is true, any stridency related to kissing tends to be the other way here (and it's the same over on Fabguys too - I meant to say this topic is idiosyncratic to both the Fabs in my post above).
Shakespeare just messaged to say it's ok btw (and he's enjoying the thread). pt |
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I dislike the notion that of you don't kiss sex becomes mechanical. I'm not particularly fond of kissing it's not the way I express love at all. That doesn't mean I can't feel intimate with someone and sex is always mechanical. Nobody feels the need to say sex is mechanical if you don't do oral sex. Just because something is standard issue with sex doesn't mean everyone enjoys it to the same extent. |
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"We absolutely respect others boundaries but if they insist on kissing we're not going to meet them.
Which is entirely reasonable. It has to be fair both ways doesn’t it.
Yes it does.
However it's rare to see people who don't kiss stridently insisting that they won't meet those who do. I sometimes wonder (present company excepted) if the kissers'doeth protest too much'.
Apologies to W. Shakespeare for the misquote
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I think this is true, any stridency related to kissing tends to be the other way here (and it's the same over on Fabguys too - I meant to say this topic is idiosyncratic to both the Fabs in my post above).
Shakespeare just messaged to say it's ok btw (and he's enjoying the thread). pt"
I expect he's glad to get a mention |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Can i ask why no kissing if you allow your partner to have full intercourse?"
That's a strange one... I debated this with a gf who said her mouth is more intimate, so won't kiss unless he's special but would ride on a cock anytime.
I'm the opposite, I can suck a cock any day but I'll need to really like him before I'll have full intercourse with him...
As for kissing, it's a no-brainer. One of my fuck buddy... If he is soft on performance anxiety, all I need to do is distract him with a good snog.... five mins and he's fully engaged... or is that engorged.... |
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"We absolutely respect others boundaries but if they insist on kissing we're not going to meet them.
Which is entirely reasonable. It has to be fair both ways doesn’t it.
Yes it does.
However it's rare to see people who don't kiss stridently insisting that they won't meet those who do. I sometimes wonder (present company excepted) if the kissers'doeth protest too much'.
Apologies to W. Shakespeare for the misquote
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I think this is true, any stridency related to kissing tends to be the other way here (and it's the same over on Fabguys too - I meant to say this topic is idiosyncratic to both the Fabs in my post above).
Shakespeare just messaged to say it's ok btw (and he's enjoying the thread). pt
I expect he's glad to get a mention "
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He said sorry again for his forum ban  |
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"We absolutely respect others boundaries but if they insist on kissing we're not going to meet them.
Which is entirely reasonable. It has to be fair both ways doesn’t it.
Yes it does.
However it's rare to see people who don't kiss stridently insisting that they won't meet those who do. I sometimes wonder (present company excepted) if the kissers'doeth protest too much'.
Apologies to W. Shakespeare for the misquote
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I think this is true, any stridency related to kissing tends to be the other way here (and it's the same over on Fabguys too - I meant to say this topic is idiosyncratic to both the Fabs in my post above).
Shakespeare just messaged to say it's ok btw (and he's enjoying the thread). pt
I expect he's glad to get a mention
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He said sorry again for his forum ban "
I suppose 700 years is excessive but honestly you can't say 'Aroint thee: go away, rump-fed runion: slut' to a mod and expect to get away with it  |
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"We absolutely respect others boundaries but if they insist on kissing we're not going to meet them.
Which is entirely reasonable. It has to be fair both ways doesn’t it.
Yes it does.
However it's rare to see people who don't kiss stridently insisting that they won't meet those who do. I sometimes wonder (present company excepted) if the kissers'doeth protest too much'.
Apologies to W. Shakespeare for the misquote
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I think this is true, any stridency related to kissing tends to be the other way here (and it's the same over on Fabguys too - I meant to say this topic is idiosyncratic to both the Fabs in my post above).
Shakespeare just messaged to say it's ok btw (and he's enjoying the thread). pt
I expect he's glad to get a mention
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He said sorry again for his forum ban
I suppose 700 years is excessive but honestly you can't say 'Aroint thee: go away, rump-fed runion: slut' to a mod and expect to get away with it "
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I might try it..
Sit on sofa.. No kissing
On bed.. No kissing
Kissing gets in the way just get on with it
You can touch the body
Massage the body
No need to kiss.. |
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I don't meet people that don't kiss because that wouldn't work for me.
I do not judge them for it though, everyone has boundaries etc. I just choose not to meet them. |
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"We have no issue with kissing but we know couples and singles that don’t kiss and no one has ever turned them down due to this..
Maybe some people just like to keep something back for each other."
Pretty much this. We keep anal back for us and that's my rule not John's.
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