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Do you like your brownie with ice cream or without?
Do you like metal or pop music?
Do you like 1 or 3 fingers when a dominant woman gets kinky?
Would I be misleading, if I'd admit it in private message:
I like the brownie and the ice cream separately.
I like someone pop music from the 80's, but I prefer metal.
I like at least 2 fingers, but rarely.
So should you be 100% open about little things in your profile?
Should you keep the details for private messages?
Full disclosure before meet or only if it's relavent?
Be nice enough, but honest please.
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"Do you like your brownie with ice cream or without?
Do you like metal or pop music?
Do you like 1 or 3 fingers when a dominant woman gets kinky?
Would I be misleading, if I'd admit it in private message:
I like the brownie and the ice cream separately.
I like someone pop music from the 80's, but I prefer metal.
I like at least 2 fingers, but rarely.
So should you be 100% open about little things in your profile?
Should you keep the details for private messages?
Full disclosure before meet or only if it's relavent?
Be nice enough, but honest please.
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I don't think you need to tell everything, but big things which could cause potential problems you should from the get go ie I have kids or I am married or I'm in the middle of a divorce or things like that. If you don't you may find your potential play mate is vehemently again any of these issues and to say it later maybe awkward or you just continue to hide it.
That's my advice. Just be honest with the big things when you first start chatting. It stops any potential problems in the future. |
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As specific and honest as you want it to be.
I find it saves time to have as much up front as possible. The more vagueness involved at the start the less likely I am to engage personally.
I dislike people keeping things from me specifically because they think it means I won't want to sleep with them. But as long as it's brought up early on, it's all good. |
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"As specific and honest as you want it to be.
I find it saves time to have as much up front as possible. The more vagueness involved at the start the less likely I am to engage personally.
I dislike people keeping things from me specifically because they think it means I won't want to sleep with them. But as long as it's brought up early on, it's all good."
I'm quite specific with my kinks in private messages.
Usually they are suggested in my bio, anyway.
Especially my limits, if bi play involved.
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"Do you like your brownie with ice cream or without?
Do you like metal or pop music?
Do you like 1 or 3 fingers when a dominant woman gets kinky?
Would I be misleading, if I'd admit it in private message:
I like the brownie and the ice cream separately.
I like someone pop music from the 80's, but I prefer metal.
I like at least 2 fingers, but rarely.
So should you be 100% open about little things in your profile?
Should you keep the details for private messages?
Full disclosure before meet or only if it's relavent?
Be nice enough, but honest please.
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We are totally honest on our profile we don’t do anything else other than what’s written on our profile during a meet.
This way anyone that looks at us knows exactly what we look for.
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"Do you like your brownie with ice cream or without?
Do you like metal or pop music?
Do you like 1 or 3 fingers when a dominant woman gets kinky?
Would I be misleading, if I'd admit it in private message:
I like the brownie and the ice cream separately.
I like someone pop music from the 80's, but I prefer metal.
I like at least 2 fingers, but rarely.
So should you be 100% open about little things in your profile?
Should you keep the details for private messages?
Full disclosure before meet or only if it's relavent?
Be nice enough, but honest please.
We are totally honest on our profile we don’t do anything else other than what’s written on our profile during a meet.
This way anyone that looks at us knows exactly what we look for.
Mrs "
I meant specifics in chat, not on profile. Also I meant little things, what I'd mention before meet anyway. |
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I try to make mine clear that you can ask me anything you want to know. Rather than going to nth degree guessing what you may possibly want to know. I'd rather have a conversation.
What's relevant will emerge naturally - if both people are open. |
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"I try to make mine clear that you can ask me anything you want to know. Rather than going to nth degree guessing what you may possibly want to know. I'd rather have a conversation.
What's relevant will emerge naturally - if both people are open."
I'm guessing mine is clear enough and less confusing now.
Shouldn't have to feel ashamed or pressured to put it all out in a public profile, then the kink shaming comes. |
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"Relevant honesty and disclosure.
A profile is probably best if it's not seeking to be a fully authoritative guide/bible upon someone "
I had my full face photo on for awhile.
Didn't want a colleague or a neighbour know every little detail. Obviously I didn't care, if they know I'm here.
To be fair I don't care anymore, so I might have needed that little push.
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No we like to keep it brief. We don't want to list off in great details what we like, don't like. Just give the essence our personality and our style (which is pretty relaxed). Also if you put too much on a profile some people will tell you what they know you want to hear not what they would normally say. People can also read our verifications to see what others have said. We prefer to take people as we find them in person and we assume others are the same. We're not after any specific dynamic or kink, so no need to list off specific sexual intrest (beyond that already stated on the info section). Just here to enjoy good times with people we find hot.
When we do get talking to people we're open, honest and Frank. We don't like to be messed around and we don't like to mess others around. Life is too short for bull shit. |
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My profile is honest about what I'm looking for and the first line is very specific and set in stone.
I don't discuss my likes or dislikes or sexual thoughts on my profile or in a public forum.
I have normal conversations with people initially and don't discuss sex with anyone I've never met.
Even then those conversations only occur if there is a connection during a coffee social and we decide to meet again so in other words it's nobody's business apart from those I chat to and meet. |
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"I message people and grill them via that method. I like to take their profile details with a pinch of salt."
No, stop please!
Secretly I'm just a really hairy woman who lived in Chernobyl for awhile. |
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"My profile is honest about what I'm looking for and the first line is very specific and set in stone.
I don't discuss my likes or dislikes or sexual thoughts on my profile or in a public forum.
I have normal conversations with people initially and don't discuss sex with anyone I've never met.
Even then those conversations only occur if there is a connection during a coffee social and we decide to meet again so in other words it's nobody's business apart from those I chat to and meet. "
Sounds fair game to me. |
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"My profile is honest about what I'm looking for and the first line is very specific and set in stone.
I don't discuss my likes or dislikes or sexual thoughts on my profile or in a public forum.
I have normal conversations with people initially and don't discuss sex with anyone I've never met.
Even then those conversations only occur if there is a connection during a coffee social and we decide to meet again so in other words it's nobody's business apart from those I chat to and meet. "
If they ask something in private message? Let's say it's a 99% sure local meet most likely for more than a coffee. |
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"My profile is honest about what I'm looking for and the first line is very specific and set in stone.
I don't discuss my likes or dislikes or sexual thoughts on my profile or in a public forum.
I have normal conversations with people initially and don't discuss sex with anyone I've never met.
Even then those conversations only occur if there is a connection during a coffee social and we decide to meet again so in other words it's nobody's business apart from those I chat to and meet.
If they ask something in private message? Let's say it's a 99% sure local meet most likely for more than a coffee."
I don't do meets like that. I insist on a social and no sex talk beforehand. They are free to ask whatever they want and I will decide how I want to respond if at all.
Anyone starting a conversation about sex before we've met socially won't be getting a social meet. |
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"My profile is honest about what I'm looking for and the first line is very specific and set in stone.
I don't discuss my likes or dislikes or sexual thoughts on my profile or in a public forum.
I have normal conversations with people initially and don't discuss sex with anyone I've never met.
Even then those conversations only occur if there is a connection during a coffee social and we decide to meet again so in other words it's nobody's business apart from those I chat to and meet.
If they ask something in private message? Let's say it's a 99% sure local meet most likely for more than a coffee.
I don't do meets like that. I insist on a social and no sex talk beforehand. They are free to ask whatever they want and I will decide how I want to respond if at all.
Anyone starting a conversation about sex before we've met socially won't be getting a social meet. "
So you play it like a vanilla date, but a bit more open conversation? |
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"My profile is honest about what I'm looking for and the first line is very specific and set in stone.
I don't discuss my likes or dislikes or sexual thoughts on my profile or in a public forum.
I have normal conversations with people initially and don't discuss sex with anyone I've never met.
Even then those conversations only occur if there is a connection during a coffee social and we decide to meet again so in other words it's nobody's business apart from those I chat to and meet.
If they ask something in private message? Let's say it's a 99% sure local meet most likely for more than a coffee.
I don't do meets like that. I insist on a social and no sex talk beforehand. They are free to ask whatever they want and I will decide how I want to respond if at all.
Anyone starting a conversation about sex before we've met socially won't be getting a social meet.
So you play it like a vanilla date, but a bit more open conversation?"
I don't play it like anything other than 2 people meeting for coffee. I've had many coffee meets over the years and only a handful of those have gone beyond that so I'm not in the habit of discussing everything with everyone. |
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My profile consists of occasional diary-type entries made every six months or so. Whatever I put is pretty well whatever I'm feeling at that particular moment. I don't remove old stuff, just add new bits at the top. As it's more than twenty words I expect that most people give up reading it after the first sentence.
The whole thing gives an image of who I am, how I have changed since joining fab, how I have stayed the same. It makes no attempt to make me look like a sex goddess or to deceive people into wanting me. In fact it probably helps deter people looking for sexual hedonism and a good time from ever wanting to meet me.
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"My profile is honest about what I'm looking for and the first line is very specific and set in stone.
I don't discuss my likes or dislikes or sexual thoughts on my profile or in a public forum.
I have normal conversations with people initially and don't discuss sex with anyone I've never met.
Even then those conversations only occur if there is a connection during a coffee social and we decide to meet again so in other words it's nobody's business apart from those I chat to and meet.
If they ask something in private message? Let's say it's a 99% sure local meet most likely for more than a coffee.
I don't do meets like that. I insist on a social and no sex talk beforehand. They are free to ask whatever they want and I will decide how I want to respond if at all.
Anyone starting a conversation about sex before we've met socially won't be getting a social meet. "
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Right on.
I will man up.
No more whinging.
I can do it.
