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What is being narcissistic?
Describing yourself as good looking or beautiful on Fab, does it mean you are excessively self-absorbed about your looks?
Narcissistic people, are they constantly seeking outside validation?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think describing oneself as attractive on here in a sensible way is OK, profiles are made to attract attention for potential contact so its not bad to say it
It's when it's portrayed in a way to pedestal themselves it's seen as nasty |
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People do tend to confuse narcissism with liking the way they look.
It's far more complicated than that.
If you are genuinely interested it's best to seek information from reputable sites not Fab Forumites....... some of them actually spout shit. |
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over a year ago
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There’s deferent types of narcissist.. you have vulnerable narcissists that are actually quite insecure and then you have overt narcissists who are you loudmouth self absorbed type. Usually stems from trauma or even being too bubble wrapped as a child |
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"Are women who call themselves BBW, goddesses (& men who say they are handsome) conceited and narcissistic ? "
No, the world would be a much happier place if people thought they looked good wouldn't it? |
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"Are women who call themselves BBW, goddesses (& men who say they are handsome) conceited and narcissistic ?
No, the world would be a much happier place if people thought they looked good wouldn't it? "
Inner beauty |
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"Are women who call themselves BBW, goddesses (& men who say they are handsome) conceited and narcissistic ? "
I'm handsome, am I narcissistic?.
We can hold ourselves in high esteem without beinging narcissistic,
I think you need to do some reading up on Narcissistic personality disorder.... |
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"Are women who call themselves BBW, goddesses (& men who say they are handsome) conceited and narcissistic ?
I'm handsome, am I narcissistic?.
We can hold ourselves in high esteem without beinging narcissistic,
I think you need to do some reading up on Narcissistic personality disorder...."
My literature abilities can't cope beyond postcards |
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"Are women who call themselves BBW, goddesses (& men who say they are handsome) conceited and narcissistic ?
I'm handsome, am I narcissistic?.
We can hold ourselves in high esteem without beinging narcissistic,
I think you need to do some reading up on Narcissistic personality disorder....
My literature abilities can't cope beyond postcards "
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"Are women who call themselves BBW, goddesses (& men who say they are handsome) conceited and narcissistic ?
No, the world would be a much happier place if people thought they looked good wouldn't it?
Inner beauty "
Why can't people feel attractive? We are attracted to looks before we can see someone's inner beauty. Spent far too much of my life with body dysmorphia, I've got to a place in life where I think I'm ok. I'm personally a happier person for it, but that would now make me narcissistic? I think not.
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"I read something really interesting the other day about alcoholism and how similar that was to having narcissistic traits.
Opened my eyes quite a bit.
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Hey, what key words would I need to type into goggle to find the article? Only if you remember though. |
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"I read something really interesting the other day about alcoholism and how similar that was to having narcissistic traits.
Opened my eyes quite a bit.
Hey, what key words would I need to type into goggle to find the article? Only if you remember though. "
Can I PM you? |
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"I read something really interesting the other day about alcoholism and how similar that was to having narcissistic traits.
Opened my eyes quite a bit.
Hey, what key words would I need to type into goggle to find the article? Only if you remember though.
Can I PM you?"
Yes of course |
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"So, if I openly describe myself as beautiful & sexy it won't make me a narcissist
Up yourself maybe, but no not narcissistic.
Is being up yourself a nice trait?"
Not usually, no. There’s a difference between being up yourself and being confident in yourself. Similar to being arrogant and assertive I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s unqualified sense of importance ie I do this job so that makes me better, better than what exactly? And this is where the narcissist comes into being, they elevate themselves to a higher than is acceptable status, in relationships they will control using some techniques used in everyday by so called ‘normal people’ but the narc will step it up a gear or two, my and me and I is way more important than you, this is me trashing it by the way you will really need to look it up, emperor syndrome is also a good place to start, acknowledging your own beauty is not necessarily narcissistic although there are levels to everything so if someone thinks then should get treated differently because they think they are gorgeous then that’s narcissistic behaviour but if they just outwardly think they are beautiful and are happy in their own skin that’s just confidence, a true narcissist will skirt over their own faults be it physical or mental and blame others for instance they could have shocking time keeping yet still manage to blame it on partners, overall it’s an unjustified elevated sense of self worth, think I’ve but here’s this enough now go google |
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"There was literally a thread on this exact topic being commented on about 3 days ago OP zzz
I don't know as I don't come on Fab day in, day out...  "
There is a search facility on the forums (not sure if you were aware)  |
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The technical meaning for a narcissist can be found within the words roots. Mainly Latin. Narci meaning my ex and Issist mean did something I don’t approve of |
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"There was literally a thread on this exact topic being commented on about 3 days ago OP zzz
I don't know as I don't come on Fab day in, day out...
There is a search facility on the forums (not sure if you were aware) "
How am I meant to know Narcissistic threads exist, so everyone checks to see if a topic was posted, how far back? Three days, three weeks, three months, three years |
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"The technical meaning for a narcissist can be found within the words roots. Mainly Latin. Narci meaning my ex and Issist mean did something I don’t approve of "
Tbf mate the origins are Greek in nature not Latin.
Coming from Narcissus, who was a hunter who was exceptionally beautiful and also just as proud of his looks, ignoring other people around him. |
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"The technical meaning for a narcissist can be found within the words roots. Mainly Latin. Narci meaning my ex and Issist mean did something I don’t approve of
Tbf mate the origins are Greek in nature not Latin.
Coming from Narcissus, who was a hunter who was exceptionally beautiful and also just as proud of his looks, ignoring other people around him."
Think that’s a myth |
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"There was literally a thread on this exact topic being commented on about 3 days ago OP zzz
I don't know as I don't come on Fab day in, day out...
There is a search facility on the forums (not sure if you were aware)
How am I meant to know Narcissistic threads exist, so everyone checks to see if a topic was posted, how far back? Three days, three weeks, three months, three years "
Oh good lord no, barely anyone checks tbh and you’ll see that with the number of “rate my profile” “does anyone meet” “all fakes” threads that get posted every few days. I think for me I’d found it a really interesting thread so probably why I remembered it, who knows |
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"The technical meaning for a narcissist can be found within the words roots. Mainly Latin. Narci meaning my ex and Issist mean did something I don’t approve of
Tbf mate the origins are Greek in nature not Latin.
Coming from Narcissus, who was a hunter who was exceptionally beautiful and also just as proud of his looks, ignoring other people around him."
I haven’t got a clue, but this sounds like it tracks   |
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"The technical meaning for a narcissist can be found within the words roots. Mainly Latin. Narci meaning my ex and Issist mean did something I don’t approve of
Tbf mate the origins are Greek in nature not Latin.
Coming from Narcissus, who was a hunter who was exceptionally beautiful and also just as proud of his looks, ignoring other people around him.
Think that’s a myth "
It's really a Freudian interruption, of Greek mythology, whether he interrupted it correctly or not is another matter.
It was not until the late 1800s that narcissism began to be defined in psychological terms. Since that time, the term has had a significant divergence in meaning in psychology. |
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So you are not Narcissistic calling yourself "beautiful, sexy"?
So denying any responsibility for their dysfunctional behaviour (being up yourself?) Isn't Narcissism? But apparently to some such tactics used to achieve this are denial is a narcissist trait? |
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"The technical meaning for a narcissist can be found within the words roots. Mainly Latin. Narci meaning my ex and Issist mean did something I don’t approve of
Tbf mate the origins are Greek in nature not Latin.
Coming from Narcissus, who was a hunter who was exceptionally beautiful and also just as proud of his looks, ignoring other people around him.
Think that’s a myth
It's really a Freudian interruption, of Greek mythology, whether he interrupted it correctly or not is another matter.
It was not until the late 1800s that narcissism began to be defined in psychological terms. Since that time, the term has had a significant divergence in meaning in psychology."
Prefer the Latin one, but yours is ok I guess too, whatever tickles you |
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"Can you still be classed as a narcessist if you can’t spell it?
Asking for a friend who happens to have a very beautiful penis."
I checked out your (rather lovely) pics and I suspect he’s not completly happy with his penis and thats why he keeps it hidden inside parts of your anatomy in almost all the shots.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There was literally a thread on this exact topic being commented on about 3 days ago OP zzz
I don't know as I don't come on Fab day in, day out...
There is a search facility on the forums (not sure if you were aware)
How am I meant to know Narcissistic threads exist, so everyone checks to see if a topic was posted, how far back? Three days, three weeks, three months, three years
Oh good lord no, barely anyone checks tbh and you’ll see that with the number of “rate my profile” “does anyone meet” “all fakes” threads that get posted every few days. I think for me I’d found it a really interesting thread so probably why I remembered it, who knows "
I do  I use it regularly if I want to start a thread, but then I normally start weird ones lol |
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"The technical meaning for a narcissist can be found within the words roots. Mainly Latin. Narci meaning my ex and Issist mean did something I don’t approve of
Tbf mate the origins are Greek in nature not Latin.
Coming from Narcissus, who was a hunter who was exceptionally beautiful and also just as proud of his looks, ignoring other people around him.
Think that’s a myth
It's really a Freudian interruption, of Greek mythology, whether he interrupted it correctly or not is another matter.
It was not until the late 1800s that narcissism began to be defined in psychological terms. Since that time, the term has had a significant divergence in meaning in psychology."
Bet those Greeks got really pissed off with Freud constantly interrupting them  |
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"The technical meaning for a narcissist can be found within the words roots. Mainly Latin. Narci meaning my ex and Issist mean did something I don’t approve of
Tbf mate the origins are Greek in nature not Latin.
Coming from Narcissus, who was a hunter who was exceptionally beautiful and also just as proud of his looks, ignoring other people around him.
Think that’s a myth
It's really a Freudian interruption, of Greek mythology, whether he interrupted it correctly or not is another matter.
It was not until the late 1800s that narcissism began to be defined in psychological terms. Since that time, the term has had a significant divergence in meaning in psychology.
Prefer the Latin one, but yours is ok I guess too, whatever tickles you "
Guess it's lucky I don't rely on external narcissistic validation aint it... |
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"Can you still be classed as a narcessist if you can’t spell it?
Asking for a friend who happens to have a very beautiful penis.
I checked out your (rather lovely) pics and I suspect he’s not completly happy with his penis and thats why he keeps it hidden inside parts of your anatomy in almost all the shots. "
Possibly… on the other hand his penis definitely looks happy though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Psychologically speaking, narcissism is a personality trait that every person possesses to some degree. Like any characteristic, it exists on a spectrum. We all fall somewhere along the narcissism continuum |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"What is being narcissistic?
Describing yourself as good looking or beautiful on Fab, does it mean you are excessively self-absorbed about your looks?
Narcissistic people, are they constantly seeking outside validation?
Please no abuse directed at posters please, keep it informational & friendly "
You say this as is its an overal defining trait. In reality we all have certain amount of narcissistic traits. Weather your pictures gets a ton of fabs or you snog the hottest man uni or what ever it is. The here is nothing wrong to seek it a little.
The problem lies when ones makes it their identity or purpose because its shallow and only brings immediate happiness rather than long term wellbeing and conteness. IMO In the west we often focus on it as a negative trait or look at extreme clinical examples.
It also depends on how you view narcissism and your age may impact your views. Misha (an American/Russian/Israeli) who created the Russian Writers program. Is often highly critical of Millennials refering to them as Yahoo kids (or American stereotype) of constant searching for things that give pleasure with our working for then rather than just working hard for things they should do or can do. Ok Boomer!
Your views will depend on your up bringing. In Lossel's case he grew up in a soviet system that discouraged individualism, forced to do a job he was not equipped to do nor what he wanted to do and faced descrimination when he opposed Putin and lived in age when it was Hark at you and your big ideas.
Narcism in my opinion is line nhialism there scary things on paper. But no one 100% narcissistic or nhialist. In the right context both are helpful to the Humen experience. |
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"What is being narcissistic?
Describing yourself as good looking or beautiful on Fab, does it mean you are excessively self-absorbed about your looks?
Narcissistic people, are they constantly seeking outside validation?
Please no abuse directed at posters please, keep it informational & friendly
You say this as is its an overal defining trait. In reality we all have certain amount of narcissistic traits. Weather your pictures gets a ton of fabs or you snog the hottest man uni or what ever it is. The here is nothing wrong to seek it a little.
The problem lies when ones makes it their identity or purpose because its shallow and only brings immediate happiness rather than long term wellbeing and conteness. IMO In the west we often focus on it as a negative trait or look at extreme clinical examples.
It also depends on how you view narcissism and your age may impact your views. Misha (an American/Russian/Israeli) who created the Russian Writers program. Is often highly critical of Millennials refering to them as Yahoo kids (or American stereotype) of constant searching for things that give pleasure with our working for then rather than just working hard for things they should do or can do. Ok Boomer!
Your views will depend on your up bringing. In Lossel's case he grew up in a soviet system that discouraged individualism, forced to do a job he was not equipped to do nor what he wanted to do and faced descrimination when he opposed Putin and lived in age when it was Hark at you and your big ideas.
Narcism in my opinion is line nhialism there scary things on paper. But no one 100% narcissistic or nhialist. In the right context both are helpful to the Humen experience. "
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"I read something really interesting the other day about alcoholism and how similar that was to having narcissistic traits.
Opened my eyes quite a bit.
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There's so many overlapping conditions people can confuse with NPD. BPD, ASD, ADHD, Depression, PTSD... Top of my head - there's more.
PTSD when you are triggered: you are in a flight or fight response. Hyper-arousal state. The body is inherently self-absorbed in survival mode. You are outside the zone of emotional regulation. It's an involuntary, temporary mental state. To the onlooker you are behaving completely inappropriately to the situation. Internally you are re-experiencing a traumatic event.
I know a lot about BPD too but that's a tough one to contrast with NPD in a few lines. |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"So you are not Narcissistic calling yourself "beautiful, sexy"?
So denying any responsibility for their dysfunctional behaviour (being up yourself?) Isn't Narcissism? But apparently to some such tactics used to achieve this are denial is a narcissist trait? "
I think you may be confusing narcissism with conceit. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"What is being narcissistic?
Describing yourself as good looking or beautiful on Fab, does it mean you are excessively self-absorbed about your looks?
Narcissistic people, are they constantly seeking outside validation?
Please no abuse directed at posters please, keep it informational & friendly
You say this as is its an overal defining trait. In reality we all have certain amount of narcissistic traits. Weather your pictures gets a ton of fabs or you snog the hottest man uni or what ever it is. The here is nothing wrong to seek it a little.
The problem lies when ones makes it their identity or purpose because its shallow and only brings immediate happiness rather than long term wellbeing and conteness. IMO In the west we often focus on it as a negative trait or look at extreme clinical examples.
It also depends on how you view narcissism and your age may impact your views. Misha (an American/Russian/Israeli) who created the Russian Writers program. Is often highly critical of Millennials refering to them as Yahoo kids (or American stereotype) of constant searching for things that give pleasure with our working for then rather than just working hard for things they should do or can do. Ok Boomer!
Your views will depend on your up bringing. In Lossel's case he grew up in a soviet system that discouraged individualism, forced to do a job he was not equipped to do nor what he wanted to do and faced descrimination when he opposed Putin and lived in age when it was Hark at you and your big ideas.
Narcism in my opinion is line nhialism there scary things on paper. But no one 100% narcissistic or nhialist. In the right context both are helpful to the Humen experience.
I'm lost in translation "
1. Nacisim is not all.emcompasing personality trait for most people.
2. Having nascistic traits is in all of us and is not always bad thing.
3. Depending on demographics and upbringing will influence your understanding of what is narscism. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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A narcissist is vane. They like everything to be positive and hate anything negative being said about them.
They will lie to you. By omission, therefore they can tell you honestly they don't lie.
A narcissist is manipulative. They want, need to be worshipped and when they don't get what they want or get fed up with that worship from one source they will move on to another. And another.
They are always chasing the next best thing. Until they get fed up with it and move to the next.
They won't recognise the fact they are a narcissist. They will never really be happy.
They will blame the other person even if it is their own fault.
They will never recognise your point of view, unless it works for them.
They are self obsessed, rarely thinking of others unless it suits them to. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Narcissistic personality disordered people don’t have “whole object relations”.
They will gaslight.
They also follow a pattern of love-bombing followed by discard. They repeat this cycle over and over. |
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"What is being narcissistic?
Describing yourself as good looking or beautiful on Fab, does it mean you are excessively self-absorbed about your looks?
Narcissistic people, are they constantly seeking outside validation?
Please no abuse directed at posters please, keep it informational & friendly "
What are your thoughts on the subject? |
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"What is being narcissistic?
Describing yourself as good looking or beautiful on Fab, does it mean you are excessively self-absorbed about your looks?
Narcissistic people, are they constantly seeking outside validation?
Please no abuse directed at posters please, keep it informational & friendly
What are your thoughts on the subject?"
I don't have an opinion. |
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It's a psychological disorder which has been used and abused by popular culture.
It's best left to the professionals, and lay people should probably work on their vocabulary to describe behaviours they see around them. |
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"It's a psychological disorder which has been used and abused by popular culture.
It's best left to the professionals, and lay people should probably work on their vocabulary to describe behaviours they see around them."
I wish I had your ability to be concise. |
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"It's a psychological disorder which has been used and abused by popular culture.
It's best left to the professionals, and lay people should probably work on their vocabulary to describe behaviours they see around them.
I wish I had your ability to be concise."
I wish I had it when it mattered more  |
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"It's a psychological disorder which has been used and abused by popular culture.
It's best left to the professionals, and lay people should probably work on their vocabulary to describe behaviours they see around them.
I wish I had your ability to be concise.
I wish I had it when it mattered more "
Now that's a pearl of wisdom. Always ironic life isn't it. |
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"What is being narcissistic?
Describing yourself as good looking or beautiful on Fab, does it mean you are excessively self-absorbed about your looks?
Narcissistic people, are they constantly seeking outside validation?
Please no abuse directed at posters please, keep it informational & friendly
What are your thoughts on the subject?
I don't have an opinion. "
It's pretty easy to infer someone's opinions when all the leading questions have a theme. |
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