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How do you "know"

By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I've never quite got it.

I don't think I've ever upset anyone enough to think that things that are said here are aimed at hurting me.

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By *avexxMan over a year ago

cheshire

im with you here posh how do they know,,

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

Because they talk about the people talking about them?

Did I win?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I've never quite got it.

I don't think I've ever upset anyone enough to think that things that are said here are aimed at hurting me."

I didn't even think of it like that... Good point!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"im with you here posh how do they know,,"

Is a mystery, Dave. A mystery.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's pretty easy for anyone to tell if I don't like them. If I feel you bring the wrong sort of vibe for me, I just avoid any and all interactions

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By *edeWoman over a year ago

the abyss

I just start with the assumption that people don't like me. I don't think I'm interesting enough to be gossip worthy but if I am then at least they are giving someone else a break from being talked about.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Because they talk about the people talking about them?

Did I win? "

You're always a winner in my eyes, K

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Victim mentality + terminally online

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

The blessing and a curse of a damn good old gut feeling, Posh.

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Because they talk about the people talking about them?

Did I win?

You're always a winner in my eyes, K

Wait... Did I just win the participation trophy?

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I don't know, I don't think I'm exciting enough to talk about. But I have had the occasional feeling when replies to me (or lack of) have felt tinged with dislike. But I could be reading too much into that. I'm a bugger for overthinking.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Erm because others who I believe to not be horrible individuals, have told me.

Or their behaviour has shown me that they don't.

Generally though, I think the majority don't care about me one way or another to be honest.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I can only go on the fact that I've been approached by people at socials claiming to recognise me from my pic in the presocial chatgroup.

I wasn't in the chatgroup and wouldn't have shared a pic even if I had been.

I also know based on previous history with certain individuals who used to send me personal details of other forumites I may have disagreed with on a thread.

That info was to be "used as ammo" according to them.

These were people they had met and verified.

Leopards don't change their spots so if they are talking about their fab friends in that way I have no doubt they are doing likewise about me.

I've also had someone I called a friend ask me a question about another forumite and less than an hour later my response was written in a forum comment by the person they were asking about.

The facts speak for themselves.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

There's always people that won't like me, I don't mind that at all, I don't know who, no one's ever made it obvious.

Mrs

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

PG tip

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I'm blocked it gives me an idea.

Snidey comments.

Stuff they told other people who have told me.

I generally don't really care though.

I wouldn't say I was close to anyone on fab so what anyone thinks of me is their problem not mine.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

In all honesty Posh .....

There's probably a good deal of paranoia and assumption underneath much of it.

I never feel that way. If someone is doing something subliminally or making comment i'd miss it. They'd have to confront me or face to face me and then i'd be unshaken.

I know them not and i know they don't know me so i'd not even stir.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It's pretty easy for anyone to tell if I don't like them. If I feel you bring the wrong sort of vibe for me, I just avoid any and all interactions

Ooh. This is an interaction... you must not not like me! Yay!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I just start with the assumption that people don't like me. I don't think I'm interesting enough to be gossip worthy but if I am then at least they are giving someone else a break from being talked about."

Pfft. You're interesting

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Victim mentality + terminally online "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You sweet bitter cynic you

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t. "

Jesus ..... why ?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Victim mentality + terminally online "

Surely that'd be an assumption rather than a "knowing" though?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t.

Jesus ..... why ?"

I mean Steven, Jeeeeeeeeeesus, why ?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"The blessing and a curse of a damn good old gut feeling, Posh. "

I wish I could trust my gut, Dee

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When people show me what they said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Victim mentality + terminally online

Surely that'd be an assumption rather than a "knowing" though?"

It would be assuming

But to those with a victim mentality an assumption is as good as fact

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?"

I disagree, people can block people when they've upset them and have the inability to deal with it and say sorry and throw a shit fit instead.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Because they talk about the people talking about them?

Did I win?

You're always a winner in my eyes, K

Wait... Did I just win the participation trophy? "

Shhhh... you love it.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple over a year ago

kent

On fab, two people have apologised to me for believing lies that were spread about me. One even admitted to helping spread those lies, even though we had never spoken before. She simply believed without question the bullshit she was told, and passed it on to others, and warned people to stay away from me. So yes, pretty certain it happened. Some of the people are still here. After a three year break, do I think these same people still talk negatively about me? I have no idea. Do I care? No I don’t.

In the real world - unrelated to Fab - I had someone spread lies of such appalling wickedness that it almost put me in my grave. Literally. Ailsa hired a law firm to get it to stop. Some people are just vindictive.

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?"

Dislike is one thing. It's often quite easy to get that. To what extent can be tricky, but dislike on some extent can be seen.

But being talked about, 99% of the time it's assumptions. I know it does happen but it really is only a very small minority. Rest of the time it's going to be somebody's own little soap opera.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman over a year ago

Essex

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?"

Pretty much what I was going to say.

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

I disagree, people can block people when they've upset them and have the inability to deal with it and say sorry and throw a shit fit instead."

Is that an apology?

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

Even if people were talking about me I couldn't care less.

They aren't though, as I'm old, boring, and not a threat.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

"The blessing and a curse of a damn good old gut feeling, Posh.

I wish I could trust my gut, Dee

Me too! Everything would be much easier. But I know there are people out there that just KNOW.

Sixth sense and all that.

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By *amie HantsWoman over a year ago

Atlantis

I chat to someone who makes it pretty obvious they don’t like me but I like to keep my thumbs busy so I think it’s mutually beneficial.

They get to be rude, I have something to read on the loo. Win win

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don't know, I don't think I'm exciting enough to talk about. But I have had the occasional feeling when replies to me (or lack of) have felt tinged with dislike. But I could be reading too much into that. I'm a bugger for overthinking.

Jx"

I find that sometimes. More recently. But I tend to overthink it for a moment (which in real time is approximately 1.46 seconds, but in overthinking brain goblins world is about 8½ days) and then decide if there is an issue then I'd hope the person would tell me.

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am just me like me hate me what you see is what you get with me I am the same person on here as I am in real life

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I chat to someone who makes it pretty obvious they don’t like me but I like to keep my thumbs busy so I think it’s mutually beneficial.

They get to be rude, I have something to read on the loo. Win win "

Whole new meaning to shit talk!

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"The blessing and a curse of a damn good old gut feeling, Posh.

I wish I could trust my gut, Dee

Does what people from here say about you bother you that much?

Is it affecting your private life away from here?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t. "

At the time, I have a feeling I didn't think much of you and did say so.

I still don't think we're each others kind of people. But I do like who you are for who you are regardless of compatibility since having a bit more interaction with you.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Erm because others who I believe to not be horrible individuals, have told me.

Or their behaviour has shown me that they don't.

Generally though, I think the majority don't care about me one way or another to be honest. "

I think you're pretty fecking lovely, have done for years

I think the majority don't really care one way or the other about most of us... we are just Internet paper and ink.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I can only go on the fact that I've been approached by people at socials claiming to recognise me from my pic in the presocial chatgroup.

I wasn't in the chatgroup and wouldn't have shared a pic even if I had been.

I also know based on previous history with certain individuals who used to send me personal details of other forumites I may have disagreed with on a thread.

That info was to be "used as ammo" according to them.

These were people they had met and verified.

Leopards don't change their spots so if they are talking about their fab friends in that way I have no doubt they are doing likewise about me.

I've also had someone I called a friend ask me a question about another forumite and less than an hour later my response was written in a forum comment by the person they were asking about.

The facts speak for themselves."

I did actually think of some of these examples when writing the OP, Mr Bites... as I've seen you mention them in the past.

I'd say they're pretty factual facts, but I also am aware that for me to believe is for me to be accepting second or third hand information... and therefore I can't "know", I can merely trust, if that makes sense?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I know some actively don't like me. I've seen the crap they've said. The little digs. And it's fine really. I don't think I'm everyone's cup of tea.

Sometimes I can overthink it. If it involves believing lies (which I can easily show are just that) and it's a bit frustrating. But then I've started to say fuck it a lot more. I like the people I have in my life and would rather focus energy in a positive direction than worry too much about negative noise. They don't get to live rent free in my head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I also know based on blocks and interactions. Some people are friends with people I really dislike and that aren’t a fan of me and are cold with me when they do interact with me (compared to how I see them interact with others). And yeah. You just get a vibe. That’s in here and in real life.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"There's always people that won't like me, I don't mind that at all, I don't know who, no one's ever made it obvious.

Mrs "

You speak for us all with the first part, my lovely. There will always be people who don't like us, no matter who we are and what we do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes also- I’ve been told about things people have said about me behind my back or I’ve been told they were saying about me.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"PG tip

Now I'm confused. Doesn't take much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t.

Jesus ..... why ?

I mean Steven, Jeeeeeeeeeesus, why ?"

So I know who doesn’t like me and who I should avoid

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"When I'm blocked it gives me an idea.

Snidey comments.

Stuff they told other people who have told me.

I generally don't really care though.

I wouldn't say I was close to anyone on fab so what anyone thinks of me is their problem not mine.

Oi! I thought we were as close as conjoined twins ffs.

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By *nFairnessMan over a year ago

The Four Corners

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while."

Asking questions are we?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably because no matter who you’re talking to, they’re talking to someone else. Whether that’s publicly, or privately.

So no matter how much you might trust someone on here, they could be showing people every nasty little thing you’re saying privately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t.

At the time, I have a feeling I didn't think much of you and did say so.

I still don't think we're each others kind of people. But I do like who you are for who you are regardless of compatibility since having a bit more interaction with you."

Yeah you are pretty great. I like you. Even if we aren’t each others kinda people.

Most people on here aren’t my usual kinda people

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"In all honesty Posh .....

There's probably a good deal of paranoia and assumption underneath much of it.

I never feel that way. If someone is doing something subliminally or making comment i'd miss it. They'd have to confront me or face to face me and then i'd be unshaken.

I know them not and i know they don't know me so i'd not even stir. "

That's what I often think, Granny.

I do wonder if those who feel that way about people would actually confront when face to face.

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

"I chat to someone who makes it pretty obvious they don’t like me but I like to keep my thumbs busy so I think it’s mutually beneficial.

They get to be rude, I have something to read on the loo. Win win "

Sounds like a prick because you're super likable!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is this more playground stuff?

She said that about her

He said that about her

They said this about him

Is this the trouble that private WhatsApp/telegram groups cause?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably because no matter who you’re talking to, they’re talking to someone else. Whether that’s publicly, or privately.

So no matter how much you might trust someone on here, they could be showing people every nasty little thing you’re saying privately.

I suppose the only way to prevent this is to not say nasty things behind someone’s back, crazy right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably because no matter who you’re talking to, they’re talking to someone else. Whether that’s publicly, or privately.

So no matter how much you might trust someone on here, they could be showing people every nasty little thing you’re saying privately.

I suppose the only way to prevent this is to not say nasty things behind someone’s back, crazy right

You’d think it’d be that easy, right?

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Probably because no matter who you’re talking to, they’re talking to someone else. Whether that’s publicly, or privately.

So no matter how much you might trust someone on here, they could be showing people every nasty little thing you’re saying privately.

I suppose the only way to prevent this is to not say nasty things behind someone’s back, crazy right

As I said further up, people talking about other people talking about them. The gossip breeds gossip.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?"

I don't think it is about being "smart" or otherwise. Some of the "smartest" people I know have assumed others have particular feelings towards them which turned our to be false.

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t.

At the time, I have a feeling I didn't think much of you and did say so.

I still don't think we're each others kind of people. But I do like who you are for who you are regardless of compatibility since having a bit more interaction with you.

Yeah you are pretty great. I like you. Even if we aren’t each others kinda people.

Most people on here aren’t my usual kinda people

Oh I did the same and that was one hell of a dumping ground

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

I don't think it is about being "smart" or otherwise. Some of the "smartest" people I know have assumed others have particular feelings towards them which turned our to be false."

I'm pretty sure I know for me personally that's all I can say

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By *nFairnessMan over a year ago

The Four Corners

Let them talk! As if people don't have anything better to do than discuss me and my hat. If I'm making your day by being the subject of your ridicule then go for it. Just promise me you are smiling!

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By *uke_silverMan over a year ago

London

If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

People talking about someone else or being out to get someone is something that hardly ever happens, if I had to guess. I certainly don't think I've ever been the "target" - if I did, I'd put it down to "main character syndrome" manifesting itself. Unlike Jose Mourinho, I'm not a special one.

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

"PG tip

Now I'm confused. Doesn't take much."

Tea leaves

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"When people show me what they said.

That'd be a "knowing". I've been there.

But is it not better to confront the mysterious "they" in that case?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Steven... I'm working my way to all your comments together. Haven't ignored you. Just FYI.

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By *ickshawedCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

No-one on fab hates me. I'm universally beloved

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Victim mentality + terminally online

Surely that'd be an assumption rather than a "knowing" though?

It would be assuming

But to those with a victim mentality an assumption is as good as fact "

That's true. It's a shame, but it is true.

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"No-one on fab hates me. I'm universally beloved

Beloved to hate?

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

I seem to recall a quote which states that what people think of you is none of your business. In the context of fab I think I’m fully accountable for my own actions and on that basis gossip would be wasted. So I don’t think about it.

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By *oecutterMan over a year ago

Clonakilty

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while."

You can’t know these things. I never could see the point in caring about any of it, either.

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

"No-one on fab hates me. I'm universally beloved

Damn I don't hate you. I really wanted to be like NO but damn it, you're one of the fun ones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t. "

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By *heArrowsCouple over a year ago

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while."

Hi Posh.

I think 2 things happen.

The first is obvious, disagreements. People in close quarters often get on each others nerves and words are spoken. That person doesn't like me because they disagree with my views on x, y or z. A lot of the time it can be legitimate. And other times someone who doesn't know you at all is living in your head, rent free, because you can't stop thinking about them.

B. People project their feelings onto others. I don't like that poster so he must not like me.

And 3. If they make a comment on a thread and someone else gets the attention/comments, then all these fuckers must hate me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while."

Just people's own self importance.

They think they are so important that other people must hate them.

That's what I read when I hear someone say people don't like them.

There are 2 or 3 like that who post quite a bit on here.

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't interact with any women and am in no group chats so I get no gossip whatsoever. I don't generally lamp post piss and rarely display forum veris. And I'm generally delightful so I'm sure no-one could possibly have a bad word to say about me. And that's how it's like to keep it.

If anyone does feel badly about me, gossip and spread rumours, then the people that listen and believe them are not my kinda people anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Just people's own self importance.

They think they are so important that other people must hate them.

That's what I read when I hear someone say people don't like them.

There are 2 or 3 like that who post quite a bit on here."

State names

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Just people's own self importance.

They think they are so important that other people must hate them.

That's what I read when I hear someone say people don't like them.

There are 2 or 3 like that who post quite a bit on here.

State names

Hey.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think sometimes you just get that vibe that they don’t like you. They interact with you differently or completely blank you, which is fine we can’t be liked by everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Just people's own self importance.

They think they are so important that other people must hate them.

That's what I read when I hear someone say people don't like them.

There are 2 or 3 like that who post quite a bit on here.

State names

Hey.

Inappropriate? Ok ok snm

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On fab, two people have apologised to me for believing lies that were spread about me. One even admitted to helping spread those lies, even though we had never spoken before. She simply believed without question the bullshit she was told, and passed it on to others, and warned people to stay away from me. So yes, pretty certain it happened. Some of the people are still here. After a three year break, do I think these same people still talk negatively about me? I have no idea. Do I care? No I don’t.

I think that those situations are in the "knowing" category

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The blessing and a curse of a damn good old gut feeling, Posh. "
This. I tend not to react though unless directly confronted & even then I won’t react how they’d likely expect me to. I’ve heard many ‘fascinating’ & ‘wondrous’ things on here & irl about myself, it’s like they’re talking about a different person…really wish I was that interesting

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

Pretty much what I was going to say. "

But again... does smart come into it?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Even if people were talking about me I couldn't care less.

They aren't though, as I'm old, boring, and not a threat.

Or because you're pretty awesome, Nanna.

To answer the other question you posed... I'm not talking about me. Whether people are talking about me or not is their business, and if I believe they are and have a mind to, I'll ask them and attempt to at least solve the issue.

That's a fairly new thing for me... last couple of years really.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I chat to someone who makes it pretty obvious they don’t like me but I like to keep my thumbs busy so I think it’s mutually beneficial.

They get to be rude, I have something to read on the loo. Win win "

That is a win. And I mean... you know you're a spanner anyway, right?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I am just me like me hate me what you see is what you get with me I am the same person on here as I am in real life "

I can't imagine people hate you on here, Nat. Good to see you back.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman over a year ago

Essex

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

Pretty much what I was going to say.

But again... does smart come into it? "

Maybe not “smart”. But it seems logical to me.

That said I’ve just had “feelings” that someone doesn’t like me. But I try to ignore those, because it’s usually just self doubt. And it’s destructive. So I follow the logic instead…

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By *mber81Woman over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

I have absolutely no idea if people like me or not.

I have a really bad memory and I am not very good at connecting fab usernames, telegram names and real people and sometimes will interact with people like I have never spoken to them before even if I have had whole conversations with them. I suspect that upsets people. I hate that and get embarrassed by it but I am not sure what to do so I don't spend too much time thinking about it.

If I have upset or offended someone unintentionally I don't like that but if I don't know about it there isn't much I can do. If I do I am always happy to talk it through.

If people dislike me as a person then I am fine with that we can't like everyone.

Generally I am quite oblivious to what people think of me though.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t. "

That's actually a sensible thing to do. I don't know if I saw it or not, but I can't imagine that everyone did or replied?

"I also know based on blocks and interactions. Some people are friends with people I really dislike and that aren’t a fan of me and are cold with me when they do interact with me (compared to how I see them interact with others). And yeah. You just get a vibe. That’s in here and in real life. "

I understand a vibe, and that goes with the gut feeling Dee mentioned earlier. Blocks don't necessarily mean someone doesn't like you, though. There are, as often said, many reasons for those. And does your own feeling towards a person not colour how you read their interactions with you?

"Yes also- I’ve been told about things people have said about me behind my back or I’ve been told they were saying about me. "

This is the part I take issue with, and always will. Because that's second or third hand information, and as George mentioned earlier, isn't always accurate.

Just for the record, I don't not like you. I don't understand some of the things you say because I'm not familiar with some of the terms... living in the depths of the back of beyond surrounded by the elderly probably doesn't help with that. I don't think we have a lot in common but I have no bad feelings towards you. Just wanted to say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am just me like me hate me what you see is what you get with me I am the same person on here as I am in real life

I can't imagine people hate you on here, Nat. Good to see you back."

Aww thank you so much it is good to be back x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I know some actively don't like me. I've seen the crap they've said. The little digs. And it's fine really. I don't think I'm everyone's cup of tea.

I'm there. As I said to Nanna... if I've a mind to, I'll directly ask the person who it's been said has been saying things, if not, no squatting.

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

I will say people have thought I didn't like them before because I don't always reply to them.

That ain't the case.

I'd spend my life on here if I was replying to all the people I respect as good eggs (due to my many fucking threads probably) but I actually think theres alot of good people here and don't hate anyone.

There's one or two that make me want to send them poop through mail but other than that

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Asking questions are we?

I'm not always just spouting porn!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Probably because no matter who you’re talking to, they’re talking to someone else. Whether that’s publicly, or privately.

So no matter how much you might trust someone on here, they could be showing people every nasty little thing you’re saying privately.

That's the inçestuous nature of the forum unfortunately. And the nature of what people can do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t.

That's actually a sensible thing to do. I don't know if I saw it or not, but I can't imagine that everyone did or replied?

Yes also- I’ve been told about things people have said about me behind my back or I’ve been told they were saying about me.

This is the part I take issue with, and always will. Because that's second or third hand information, and as George mentioned earlier, isn't always accurate.

I think you’re nice Posh.

Maybe someone is lying about things others have said. Comes down to how much you trust the person.

And the thread I did, well yeah Lots of people probably missed it. I’ll do another one at some point because at least three people have changed their opinions on me for better or worse

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By *nFairnessMan over a year ago

The Four Corners

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Asking questions are we?

I'm not always just spouting porn!"
hope you find those moments of positivity

huge acknowledgement qnd good intentions your way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So on Fab only? I don't know. I suppose I usually know if someone doesn't like me if they message it directly. But other than that, I don't pay too much attention. I don't take things personally, or read into comments on threads too much because it's so easy to misread tone on here, and I don't think it would be good to overthink what strangers on a forum must think of me.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Is this more playground stuff?

She said that about her

He said that about her

They said this about him

Is this the trouble that private WhatsApp/telegram groups cause? "

I'm just curious. Partly because the playground stuff winds me up.

I don't know if it is even group chats... the ones I've been in have always had a rule of no talking about people on fab. Or they're market groups. And those get proper sketchy.

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By *ickshawedCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"No-one on fab hates me. I'm universally beloved

Beloved to hate? "

Nah, I just wave my boobs in their face. That fixes everything

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Let them talk! As if people don't have anything better to do than discuss me and my hat. If I'm making your day by being the subject of your ridicule then go for it. Just promise me you are smiling!

Well... I'm smiling now. Your hat rocks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No-one on fab hates me. I'm universally beloved

Beloved to hate?

Nah, I just wave my boobs in their face. That fixes everything

You have nice boobs.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

"Main character syndrome"... I've not heard that before. I take it that's where we are all the main character in the story of our life? I'd Google... but that would take the discussion part out.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"No-one on fab hates me. I'm universally beloved

You're naked... so obviously beloved

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I seem to recall a quote which states that what people think of you is none of your business. In the context of fab I think I’m fully accountable for my own actions and on that basis gossip would be wasted. So I don’t think about it. "

Dammit. So the story Rex and I were spreading about your marriage to a 19 year old gigolo and the subsequent triplets...

(Never got any traction. He is crap)

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

You can’t know these things. I never could see the point in caring about any of it, either.

I used to. Less so these days.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Hi Posh.

I think 2 things happen.

B. People project their feelings onto others. I don't like that poster so he must not like me.

And 3. If they make a comment on a thread and someone else gets the attention/comments, then all these fuckers must hate me.

See... number 3 means everyone hates me these days

I agree with all 3 of the points. Conjecture, assumption. And possibly the main character thing that Duke mentioned.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Just people's own self importance.

They think they are so important that other people must hate them.

That's what I read when I hear someone say people don't like them.

There are 2 or 3 like that who post quite a bit on here."

People posting over the last while is what made me wonder, for sure.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don't interact with any women and am in no group chats so I get no gossip whatsoever. I don't generally lamp post piss and rarely display forum veris. And I'm generally delightful so I'm sure no-one could possibly have a bad word to say about me. And that's how it's like to keep it.

If anyone does feel badly about me, gossip and spread rumours, then the people that listen and believe them are not my kinda people anyway

Having met you I have to say you are delightful indeed. And very smiley as I recall!

It isn't just women who do the gossip though... come on Heat me chick, you know that!

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By *obilebottomMan over a year ago

All over

Never worried me. I mainly use the forum for some light relief posting on other interesting threads or do my own. It passes the time

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I think sometimes you just get that vibe that they don’t like you. They interact with you differently or completely blank you, which is fine we can’t be liked by everyone. "

I do think that unless someone blanks you when you've directed something at them in particular (commented on their post being the most obvious), it can't be taken as dislike... because they could be nodding along behind the screen.

Since responding to Steve about the interaction part, though, I did also think that to form an opinion based on that it would need to be a pattern, no? Else they could just be having a bit of a wank day and it comes out in a clipped kind of comment?

And the thing I mentioned about reading what someone says through ones own lens

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By *heArrowsCouple over a year ago

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Hi Posh.

I think 2 things happen.

B. People project their feelings onto others. I don't like that poster so he must not like me.

And 3. If they make a comment on a thread and someone else gets the attention/comments, then all these fuckers must hate me.

See... number 3 means everyone hates me these days

I agree with all 3 of the points. Conjecture, assumption. And possibly the main character thing that Duke mentioned."

You know some of us would never hate you posh. Some of us were quite infatuated with you

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"The blessing and a curse of a damn good old gut feeling, Posh. This. I tend not to react though unless directly confronted & even then I won’t react how they’d likely expect me to. I’ve heard many ‘fascinating’ & ‘wondrous’ things on here & irl about myself, it’s like they’re talking about a different person…really wish I was that interesting

Oh sweets... ditto!

I heard the other day that I'd moved away from the place I live. 3 people told me!

Clearly someone forgot to move all my stuff, and my dogs, and me before spreading that rumour...

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

Pretty much what I was going to say.

But again... does smart come into it?

Maybe not “smart”. But it seems logical to me.

That said I’ve just had “feelings” that someone doesn’t like me. But I try to ignore those, because it’s usually just self doubt. And it’s destructive. So I follow the logic instead…"

I can't deny the logic. And the vibe... although as you say, I think it is often self doubt as well,but who knows.

The logic still fails sometimes though...

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By *nFairnessMan over a year ago

The Four Corners

"Let them talk! As if people don't have anything better to do than discuss me and my hat. If I'm making your day by being the subject of your ridicule then go for it. Just promise me you are smiling!

Well... I'm smiling now. Your hat rocks."
couple of sizes to big maybe?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have absolutely no idea if people like me or not.

If I have upset or offended someone unintentionally I don't like that but if I don't know about it there isn't much I can do. If I do I am always happy to talk it through.

If people dislike me as a person then I am fine with that we can't like everyone.

Generally I am quite oblivious to what people think of me though.

I absolutely could have written that... except the last bit. But I'm working on that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh sweets... ditto!

I heard the other day that I'd moved away from the place I live. 3 people told me!

Clearly someone forgot to move all my stuff, and my dogs, and me before spreading that rumour..."

*nods*

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By *uke_silverMan over a year ago

London

"If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

"Main character syndrome"... I've not heard that before. I take it that's where we are all the main character in the story of our life? I'd Google... but that would take the discussion part out."

That's exactly right, Posh! And now I'm wondering if you talked about it with someone before replying

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I will say people have thought I didn't like them before because I don't always reply to them.

That ain't the case.

There's one or two that make me want to send them poop through mail but other than that

Note to self... don't ever give out address to Brucey...

And now my random brain is focusing on the poop. Would you be supplying it? Would you do it in a bag, in a box? Collect some dog poop?

And this is how threads get derailed...

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"So on Fab only? I don't know. I suppose I usually know if someone doesn't like me if they message it directly. But other than that, I don't pay too much attention. I don't take things personally, or read into comments on threads too much because it's so easy to misread tone on here, and I don't think it would be good to overthink what strangers on a forum must think of me. "

You're a flipping delight.

Tone is almost always as we ourselves colour it when we are reading text, so it can't be trusted, you're right.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Never worried me. I mainly use the forum for some light relief posting on other interesting threads or do my own. It passes the time

It does. I used to use it for way more time than now. Maybe that's one of the reasons my views have changed somewhat. Hmm. That's a thought that'll take some unpacking.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

Hi Posh.

I think 2 things happen.

B. People project their feelings onto others. I don't like that poster so he must not like me.

And 3. If they make a comment on a thread and someone else gets the attention/comments, then all these fuckers must hate me.

See... number 3 means everyone hates me these days

I agree with all 3 of the points. Conjecture, assumption. And possibly the main character thing that Duke mentioned.

You know some of us would never hate you posh. Some of us were quite infatuated with you"

That was back in the days when I was remotely alluring. Those times have certainly passed.

It is good to see you back Mr

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Let them talk! As if people don't have anything better to do than discuss me and my hat. If I'm making your day by being the subject of your ridicule then go for it. Just promise me you are smiling!

Well... I'm smiling now. Your hat rocks. couple of sizes to big maybe?

You'll grow into it

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman over a year ago

Essex

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

Pretty much what I was going to say.

But again... does smart come into it?

Maybe not “smart”. But it seems logical to me.

That said I’ve just had “feelings” that someone doesn’t like me. But I try to ignore those, because it’s usually just self doubt. And it’s destructive. So I follow the logic instead…

I can't deny the logic. And the vibe... although as you say, I think it is often self doubt as well,but who knows.

The logic still fails sometimes though..."

Everything fails sometimes. Except the A team. They never failed. But life isn’t the A Team. Just remember that

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

"Main character syndrome"... I've not heard that before. I take it that's where we are all the main character in the story of our life? I'd Google... but that would take the discussion part out.

That's exactly right, Posh! And now I'm wondering if you talked about it with someone before replying

Does it look like I've had time to have any other conversations during this thread?!

I'm just smart

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

Pretty much what I was going to say.

But again... does smart come into it?

Maybe not “smart”. But it seems logical to me.

That said I’ve just had “feelings” that someone doesn’t like me. But I try to ignore those, because it’s usually just self doubt. And it’s destructive. So I follow the logic instead…

I can't deny the logic. And the vibe... although as you say, I think it is often self doubt as well,but who knows.

The logic still fails sometimes though...

Everything fails sometimes. Except the A team. They never failed. But life isn’t the A Team. Just remember that

That's a shame. I had such a crush on Murdock

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know and quite frankly don't care. I'd probably be oblivious to it

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Unless it's blatant lies I really couldn't give a fuck

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By *uke_silverMan over a year ago

London

"If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

"Main character syndrome"... I've not heard that before. I take it that's where we are all the main character in the story of our life? I'd Google... but that would take the discussion part out.

That's exactly right, Posh! And now I'm wondering if you talked about it with someone before replying

Does it look like I've had time to have any other conversations during this thread?!

I'm just smart

Good point! I'll accept it was your intelligence that allowed you to decipher the meaning of the phrase.

Oh, and thank you, now I can add smart to the list I'm sending people asking me about you with a citation link.

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By *nFairnessMan over a year ago

The Four Corners

"Let them talk! As if people don't have anything better to do than discuss me and my hat. If I'm making your day by being the subject of your ridicule then go for it. Just promise me you are smiling!

Well... I'm smiling now. Your hat rocks. couple of sizes to big maybe?

You'll grow into it

Haha low blow might need more than a unicorn plaster for that one.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don't know and quite frankly don't care. I'd probably be oblivious to it "

I think oblivious is the way forward

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Unless it's blatant lies I really couldn't give a fuck

So... the thing I heard about you and the sausage...

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

"Main character syndrome"... I've not heard that before. I take it that's where we are all the main character in the story of our life? I'd Google... but that would take the discussion part out.

That's exactly right, Posh! And now I'm wondering if you talked about it with someone before replying

Does it look like I've had time to have any other conversations during this thread?!

I'm just smart

Good point! I'll accept it was your intelligence that allowed you to decipher the meaning of the phrase.

Oh, and thank you, now I can add smart to the list I'm sending people asking me about you with a citation link.

I thought it was two citations?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Unless it's blatant lies I really couldn't give a fuck

So... the thing I heard about you and the sausage..."

Ssshhhh

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Let them talk! As if people don't have anything better to do than discuss me and my hat. If I'm making your day by being the subject of your ridicule then go for it. Just promise me you are smiling!

Well... I'm smiling now. Your hat rocks. couple of sizes to big maybe?

You'll grow into it

Haha low blow might need more than a unicorn plaster for that one.

I'll kiss it better

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Unless it's blatant lies I really couldn't give a fuck

So... the thing I heard about you and the sausage...

Ssshhhh

What about the turkey?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple over a year ago

Staffordshire

I know people only talk positively about us because we’re kind of a big deal.

It is known.

Like knowing the sun will rise in the east.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I know people only talk positively about us because we’re kind of a big deal.

It is known.

Like knowing the sun will rise in the east."

That's actually true. I read it on the Internet so it must be true.

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By *ickshawedCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"I know people only talk positively about us because we’re kind of a big deal.

It is known.

Like knowing the beautiful penis will rise in the east."

So very true

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Unless it's blatant lies I really couldn't give a fuck

So... the thing I heard about you and the sausage...

Ssshhhh

What about the turkey?

Well , Plump Breasts an all that

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By *tanley FunseekerMan over a year ago

stanley

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while."

It’s obvious, Logic as follows

“I’ve been on here at least 10 minutes and you’ve not done the sex with me. Ego you hate me “

Seriously though. Forums are entirely text so it’s hard to get context, inflection, intended humour or sarcasm sometimes. So often things can be misinterpreted. If that happens several times in relation to a post from the same person it can be inferred by the recipient as evidence that the poster doesn’t like them. The rest is likely lack of self esteem driven

Humans are fecking complicated things

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By *tanley FunseekerMan over a year ago

stanley

Anyway I know you all adore me especially Preytothefairies who’s defo living in denial about her obsession with me.

Pmsl I’ll get me coat

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By *uke_silverMan over a year ago

London

"If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

"Main character syndrome"... I've not heard that before. I take it that's where we are all the main character in the story of our life? I'd Google... but that would take the discussion part out.

That's exactly right, Posh! And now I'm wondering if you talked about it with someone before replying

Does it look like I've had time to have any other conversations during this thread?!

I'm just smart

Good point! I'll accept it was your intelligence that allowed you to decipher the meaning of the phrase.

Oh, and thank you, now I can add smart to the list I'm sending people asking me about you with a citation link.

I thought it was two citations?"

Actually, I think I'll skip the comment citations. I missed the smart reference to "smart" in the other comments, so I'll just say smart + link to thread

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

When they say "not you again". Maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When they say "not you again". Maybe. "

I literally adore you mrs KC. just so you know.

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By *rAitchMan over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I neither know nor care. I'm so far under the radar that I'm probably just unnoticed.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Unless it's blatant lies I really couldn't give a fuck

So... the thing I heard about you and the sausage...

Ssshhhh

What about the turkey?

Well , Plump Breasts an all that

I knew it was true!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When people show me what they said.

That'd be a "knowing". I've been there.

But is it not better to confront the mysterious "they" in that case?"

Well you can't if they've blocked you which only confirms it anyway. And besides that, I'd feel like I was being confrontational or seeking out drama so I'd rather leave it. Especially if that person is miles away and unlikely to ever be near enough for a coffee.

But like I said on another thread I think guys play women off against each other. So it begs the question why has that person sent you that in the first place? And there's the question of why are you even showing me knowing it's not nice? And I'm just not interested in getting that deep into it. I'd rather bugger off and leave it. It's too much drama.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I keep reading that people know that others don't like them, that others are talking about them, that people are out to get them, etc, etc.

How do you "know" these things? Is it just a feeling? Do others tell you? Have you ever actually had cast iron knowledge that you are being talked about, or that someone doesn't like you?

I'm talking about fab mainly here. And it's not aimed at anyone in particular, just a thing I have spotted over the last while.

It’s obvious, Logic as follows

“I’ve been on here at least 10 minutes and you’ve not done the sex with me. Ego you hate me “

Humans are fecking complicated things "

And therein lies the problem. People will be people and do and say their people things. And take the people things the way they think the people things which isn't necessarily how the people meant the people things. Because... people.

I may have said this before, but generalising sucks

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Anyway I know you all adore me especially Preytothefairies who’s defo living in denial about her obsession with me.

Pmsl I’ll get me coat

Prey lives in denial. Obviously. I've never known anyone less straight talking

(For those who don't realise... that was sarcasm. She is very straight talking and I love it)

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

"Main character syndrome"... I've not heard that before. I take it that's where we are all the main character in the story of our life? I'd Google... but that would take the discussion part out.

That's exactly right, Posh! And now I'm wondering if you talked about it with someone before replying

Does it look like I've had time to have any other conversations during this thread?!

I'm just smart

Good point! I'll accept it was your intelligence that allowed you to decipher the meaning of the phrase.

Oh, and thank you, now I can add smart to the list I'm sending people asking me about you with a citation link.

I thought it was two citations?

Actually, I think I'll skip the comment citations. I missed the smart reference to "smart" in the other comments, so I'll just say smart + link to thread

You work for Sydney, don't you...

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"When they say "not you again". Maybe. "

Trolls will troll though lovely.

You speak too much sense, that's your trouble

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I neither know nor care. I'm so far under the radar that I'm probably just unnoticed."

I notice you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jx"

Exactly! Me too

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"When people show me what they said.

That'd be a "knowing". I've been there.

But is it not better to confront the mysterious "they" in that case?

Makes sense. But then mentioning on the forum the "dislike" people have can stoke the fire, can it not?

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By *tanley FunseekerMan over a year ago

stanley

"Anyway I know you all adore me especially Preytothefairies who’s defo living in denial about her obsession with me.

Pmsl I’ll get me coat

Prey lives in denial. Obviously. I've never known anyone less straight talking

(For those who don't realise... that was sarcasm. She is very straight talking and I love it)"

I’ll ask the question, please answer honestly, can you tell most of my posts are tongue in cheek or taking the mick out of myself or do I just come across as a bit of a dick

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By *oofy321Man over a year ago

moon base zero

I dont register in the forums so I have no one liking or talking about me..and im cool with that

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Anyway I know you all adore me especially Preytothefairies who’s defo living in denial about her obsession with me.

Pmsl I’ll get me coat

Prey lives in denial. Obviously. I've never known anyone less straight talking

(For those who don't realise... that was sarcasm. She is very straight talking and I love it)

I’ll ask the question, please answer honestly, can you tell most of my posts are tongue in cheek or taking the mick out of myself or do I just come across as a bit of a dick

I take them as tongue in cheek. I can't speak for all the people though...

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I dont register in the forums so I have no one liking or talking about me..and im cool with that "

I'm certain you register.

I wish there were a "I've noticed this", or an "I like this", or "what the fuck planet were you on when you posted this" button thingy for posts in the forum. Then people would see that they're seen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Literally the ones who have blocked you, or tell you straight up in DMS they don't like you, or the ones who ignore everything you say.

Those are pretty good indicators. Or maybe...I'm just really smart..?

I disagree, people can block people when they've upset them and have the inability to deal with it and say sorry and throw a shit fit instead.

Is that an apology?

I'm so done with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When people show me what they said.

That'd be a "knowing". I've been there.

But is it not better to confront the mysterious "they" in that case?

Makes sense. But then mentioning on the forum the "dislike" people have can stoke the fire, can it not?"

I do not care at that point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont register in the forums so I have no one liking or talking about me..and im cool with that "

We talk about you

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By *tanley FunseekerMan over a year ago

stanley

"Anyway I know you all adore me especially Preytothefairies who’s defo living in denial about her obsession with me.

Pmsl I’ll get me coat

Prey lives in denial. Obviously. I've never known anyone less straight talking

(For those who don't realise... that was sarcasm. She is very straight talking and I love it)

I’ll ask the question, please answer honestly, can you tell most of my posts are tongue in cheek or taking the mick out of myself or do I just come across as a bit of a dick

I take them as tongue in cheek. I can't speak for all the people though..."

Thank you

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By *tanley FunseekerMan over a year ago

stanley

"I dont register in the forums so I have no one liking or talking about me..and im cool with that

I'm certain you register.

I wish there were a "I've noticed this", or an "I like this", or "what the fuck planet were you on when you posted this" button thingy for posts in the forum. Then people would see that they're seen."

Good ideas, can you suggest them as features for future site releases?

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By *uke_silverMan over a year ago

London

"If someone likes you or not is the only knowable question among those imo - if they make it clear themselves via actions or words.

"Main character syndrome"... I've not heard that before. I take it that's where we are all the main character in the story of our life? I'd Google... but that would take the discussion part out.

That's exactly right, Posh! And now I'm wondering if you talked about it with someone before replying

Does it look like I've had time to have any other conversations during this thread?!

I'm just smart

Good point! I'll accept it was your intelligence that allowed you to decipher the meaning of the phrase.

Oh, and thank you, now I can add smart to the list I'm sending people asking me about you with a citation link.

I thought it was two citations?

Actually, I think I'll skip the comment citations. I missed the smart reference to "smart" in the other comments, so I'll just say smart + link to thread

You work for Sydney, don't you..."

Crikey! Nah mate, I'm just a flaming galah; not smart enough to work for the university.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"When people show me what they said.

That'd be a "knowing". I've been there.

But is it not better to confront the mysterious "they" in that case?

Makes sense. But then mentioning on the forum the "dislike" people have can stoke the fire, can it not?

I do not care at that point."

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By *hunky ChefMan over a year ago

Norwich

"I did a thread asking if people liked me or got me and I made a note of all the people that told me they didn’t. "

Seriously?

What was the percentage of the ones disliked you?

You're more popular than me, so we can compare notes.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I do wonder why most people take a dislike to other forum users.

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Probably because no matter who you’re talking to, they’re talking to someone else. Whether that’s publicly, or privately.

So no matter how much you might trust someone on here, they could be showing people every nasty little thing you’re saying privately.

Exactly. There's always a 3rd party who will chat to both sides and stir the pot.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"I dont register in the forums so I have no one liking or talking about me..and im cool with that "

You keep changing your name.

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By *hunky ChefMan over a year ago

Norwich

"I've never quite got it.

I don't think I've ever upset anyone enough to think that things that are said here are aimed at hurting me."

I don't dislike you anymore, so you're off the blocklist.

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