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By *r Boss OP Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
I posted tbf, the exact same thing a few weeks back, message a girl that viewed my profile, with face pictures, chat, chat chat, interested in meeting, discussing what I’m into… asks for a face picture.. tell her there’s a bunch in the first message.
I get blocked for my fucking face. I got all the possible explanations last time. This time I’m genuinely just fucked off. Like sorry you’re so fucking stupid you didn’t see the symbol for pictures or have sense to even scroll down, then you block me?
Away and fuck some absolute chav. Just getting fucking old now, you wonder why some men are dicks, this is why.
Manners are free. I used mine.
If you don’t have the self confidence to read a message that has a small chance of being a childish tantrum from someone you’ve never met get off the site… and yes I’m smart enough by I see the irony in the final paragraph.
Like the subject says just a vent.
Honestly some people use this site just to wank off their own ego I swear.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't sweat the small stuff in life mate. Let it go and move on. Anger and frustration is self destructing and this place ain't worth that.
Look for the fun light hearted stuff on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"None seems to play atall on here I'm gagging for some pussy on my face and no women wanna play ball  "
 it ain't instashag you know. I find, as with most things in life, amount of effort put in often equals the rewards reaped. |
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By *r Boss OP Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
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I’m not nasty, I have manners I was raised well, I’m really respectful and understanding. I just want the same back. I’ve chatted to woman for weeks, face pictures exchanged and when I said “how would you feel about meeting up?” “I’m not looking for anything right now”. You know what I was? Nice, polite and understanding why, because they were. Unless someone is ACTUALLY rude or offensive you don’t need to block them.
Why I’ve came here to vent and not post a local status update. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
I’m not nasty, I have manners I was raised well, I’m really respectful and understanding. I just want the same back. I’ve chatted to woman for weeks, face pictures exchanged and when I said “how would you feel about meeting up?” “I’m not looking for anything right now”. You know what I was? Nice, polite and understanding why, because they were. Unless someone is ACTUALLY rude or offensive you don’t need to block them.
Why I’ve came here to vent and not post a local status update. "
People can block who they wish, when they wish, and for any reason they choose. You are starting to sound like you're entitled. |
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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago
the pub or in the nude in Paisley |
Consider a block to be a polite "no thanks" and all is good. Mindset and point of view are everything. Plus lots of girls get abuse for saying no thanks so she might have had that experience in the past. |
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By *r Boss OP Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
I’m not nasty, I have manners I was raised well, I’m really respectful and understanding. I just want the same back. I’ve chatted to woman for weeks, face pictures exchanged and when I said “how would you feel about meeting up?” “I’m not looking for anything right now”. You know what I was? Nice, polite and understanding why, because they were. Unless someone is ACTUALLY rude or offensive you don’t need to block them.
Why I’ve came here to vent and not post a local status update.
People can block who they wish, when they wish, and for any reason they choose. You are starting to sound like you're entitled."
Common courtesy is not entitlement. Nor is manners or 12 seconds to say “sorry not my type”. It happens, I get it.
If someone asks you a question and you straight up ignore them in real life (as in block) that’s rude. Again manners are free.
Or… what I would admit, if expecting a polite reply or “no thank you” is your definition of “entitled”… yes I am but to me, it’s just good manners or… a weak personality cos you don’t have bottle to just say no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
I’m not nasty, I have manners I was raised well, I’m really respectful and understanding. I just want the same back. I’ve chatted to woman for weeks, face pictures exchanged and when I said “how would you feel about meeting up?” “I’m not looking for anything right now”. You know what I was? Nice, polite and understanding why, because they were. Unless someone is ACTUALLY rude or offensive you don’t need to block them.
Why I’ve came here to vent and not post a local status update. "
You say your not nasty and your have manners and such but here you are ranting
People choose to block instead off saying no to avoid things like this
You got to understand that yes maybe your nice maybe you have manners but the other 200 men before you weren’t people go from being the most beautiful person on fab
To the 4 letter bad word that would fuck anyone
In one no
So to avoid that some just block
Look how you have handled the block shows how you handle the no |
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By *r Boss OP Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
I’m not nasty, I have manners I was raised well, I’m really respectful and understanding. I just want the same back. I’ve chatted to woman for weeks, face pictures exchanged and when I said “how would you feel about meeting up?” “I’m not looking for anything right now”. You know what I was? Nice, polite and understanding why, because they were. Unless someone is ACTUALLY rude or offensive you don’t need to block them.
Why I’ve came here to vent and not post a local status update.
People can block who they wish, when they wish, and for any reason they choose. You are starting to sound like you're entitled."
This literally just happened, girl I’ve been speaking to years, appears online, I message “is tonight finally the night?” I get “all I want to do is is sleep”. I say “haha I got my hopes up”, not rude not entitled. Polite for polite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
I’m not nasty, I have manners I was raised well, I’m really respectful and understanding. I just want the same back. I’ve chatted to woman for weeks, face pictures exchanged and when I said “how would you feel about meeting up?” “I’m not looking for anything right now”. You know what I was? Nice, polite and understanding why, because they were. Unless someone is ACTUALLY rude or offensive you don’t need to block them.
Why I’ve came here to vent and not post a local status update.
People can block who they wish, when they wish, and for any reason they choose. You are starting to sound like you're entitled.
This literally just happened, girl I’ve been speaking to years, appears online, I message “is tonight finally the night?” I get “all I want to do is is sleep”. I say “haha I got my hopes up”, not rude not entitled. Polite for polite. "
She obviously had her reasons for blocking, and she's allowed to block. If she had told you she was going to block you no doubt you'd of ranted at her like you're doing in here. |
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By *r Boss OP Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
I’m not nasty, I have manners I was raised well, I’m really respectful and understanding. I just want the same back. I’ve chatted to woman for weeks, face pictures exchanged and when I said “how would you feel about meeting up?” “I’m not looking for anything right now”. You know what I was? Nice, polite and understanding why, because they were. Unless someone is ACTUALLY rude or offensive you don’t need to block them.
Why I’ve came here to vent and not post a local status update.
You say your not nasty and your have manners and such but here you are ranting
People choose to block instead off saying no to avoid things like this
You got to understand that yes maybe your nice maybe you have manners but the other 200 men before you weren’t people go from being the most beautiful person on fab
To the 4 letter bad word that would fuck anyone
In one no
So to avoid that some just block
Look how you have handled the block shows how you handle the no "
Have you never ranted out of frustration? Cos it’s not a regular occurrence. When you’re annoyed is it a refection of in your day to day life? Cos there is a difference between annoyed, frustrated, rude and angry. I’m annoyed and frustrated not angry.
Cliches by definition are an over used phrase or expression. Nice guys finish last, I am actually nice contrary to how tone and frustration are being translated on the internet. I’ve never been rude to anyone on this site for them saying no. How the fuck would that get me laid? I wasn’t born yesterday. |
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By *r Boss OP Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
I’m not nasty, I have manners I was raised well, I’m really respectful and understanding. I just want the same back. I’ve chatted to woman for weeks, face pictures exchanged and when I said “how would you feel about meeting up?” “I’m not looking for anything right now”. You know what I was? Nice, polite and understanding why, because they were. Unless someone is ACTUALLY rude or offensive you don’t need to block them.
Why I’ve came here to vent and not post a local status update.
People can block who they wish, when they wish, and for any reason they choose. You are starting to sound like you're entitled.
This literally just happened, girl I’ve been speaking to years, appears online, I message “is tonight finally the night?” I get “all I want to do is is sleep”. I say “haha I got my hopes up”, not rude not entitled. Polite for polite.
She obviously had her reasons for blocking, and she's allowed to block. If she had told you she was going to block you no doubt you'd of ranted at her like you're doing in here. "
Oh damn, you got me. Hook line and sinker. That’s what I would have done. Of course. How silly of me. I wouldn’t have read the message then just not replied. |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"I posted tbf, the exact same thing a few weeks back, message a girl that viewed my profile, with face pictures, chat, chat chat, interested in meeting, discussing what I’m into… asks for a face picture.. tell her there’s a bunch in the first message.
I get blocked for my fucking face. I got all the possible explanations last time. This time I’m genuinely just fucked off. Like sorry you’re so fucking stupid you didn’t see the symbol for pictures or have sense to even scroll down, then you block me?
Away and fuck some absolute chav. Just getting fucking old now, you wonder why some men are dicks, this is why.
Manners are free. I used mine.
If you don’t have the self confidence to read a message that has a small chance of being a childish tantrum from someone you’ve never met get off the site… and yes I’m smart enough by I see the irony in the final paragraph.
Like the subject says just a vent.
Honestly some people use this site just to wank off their own ego I swear.
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Not an ideal situation but do not let it get to you. Whilst you may be polite, some people are not when they get rejected as well.
Just not worth people like that bothering you. Protect your peace |
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"As you have gone off on a weird rant after being blocked. I’m gonna say the person who blocked is entirely justified!"
Agreed.
I do this this post is an excellent example why people block other users on here. |
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"As you have gone off on a weird rant after being blocked. I’m gonna say the person who blocked is entirely justified!
Agreed.
I do this this post is an excellent example why people block other users on here. "
We normally ignore people we’re not interested in, on the occasions we do reply to turn people down, we get either abuse or pleading! Neither is a good look! |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"As you have gone off on a weird rant after being blocked. I’m gonna say the person who blocked is entirely justified!
Agreed.
I do this this post is an excellent example why people block other users on here. "
He's already said he's not angry just frustrated, his face pic was in his gallery and the woman was talking about meeting him, so he naturally assumed she knew what he looked like  |
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"As you have gone off on a weird rant after being blocked. I’m gonna say the person who blocked is entirely justified!
Agreed.
I do this this post is an excellent example why people block other users on here.
We normally ignore people we’re not interested in, on the occasions we do reply to turn people down, we get either abuse or pleading! Neither is a good look! "
Absolutely.
It can be the hardest thing saying not thank you politely after swapping face pictures. I've experienced the pleading as well. Makes me uncomfortable. Whilst this post isn't about me, I'd be irritated if an angry rant about me appeared in the forum like this.
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"As you have gone off on a weird rant after being blocked. I’m gonna say the person who blocked is entirely justified!
Agreed.
I do this this post is an excellent example why people block other users on here.
We normally ignore people we’re not interested in, on the occasions we do reply to turn people down, we get either abuse or pleading! Neither is a good look!
Absolutely.
It can be the hardest thing saying not thank you politely after swapping face pictures. I've experienced the pleading as well. Makes me uncomfortable. Whilst this post isn't about me, I'd be irritated if an angry rant about me appeared in the forum like this.
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Absolutely! It’s not helping the op’s cause! |
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So you wanted to meet said fucking chav, she wasn't attracted to you so you start name calling.
I wonder why men get a bad rep on here, she wasn't a fucking chav when you wanted to fuck her though was she.
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"So you wanted to meet said fucking chav, she wasn't attracted to you so you start name calling.
I wonder why men get a bad rep on here, she wasn't a fucking chav when you wanted to fuck her though was she.
Mrs "
Well to be fair he didn't call her a chav, he told her to go fuck some chav.
Though, fucking a chav seems a much better issue than fucking someone with obvious anger issues, doesn't it. |
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"So you wanted to meet said fucking chav, she wasn't attracted to you so you start name calling.
I wonder why men get a bad rep on here, she wasn't a fucking chav when you wanted to fuck her though was she.
Mrs
Well to be fair he didn't call her a chav, he told her to go fuck some chav.
Though, fucking a chav seems a much better issue than fucking someone with obvious anger issues, doesn't it."
Exactly! I misread the chav but didn't the "fucking stupid & childish" there's just no need.
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Maybe she did look at your pics initially and they were set to delete when viewed so they aren't there any longer?
Maybe she had deleted earlier messages and couldn't go back and look?
Maybe she had simply forgotten and didn't appreciate being sent back to look?
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"Don't sweat the small stuff in life mate. Let it go and move on. Anger and frustration is self destructing and this place ain't worth that.
Look for the fun light hearted stuff on here."
That sounds about right. Chances are it was a bloke anyway. Set your expectations low on here and you avoid disappointment. Want to meet real folks... Go to a pub or somewhere social |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess it's impossible to know the reason why she blocked you but all you can do is take it as a rejection and move on
I understand your frustration. In my opinion, blocking all of a sudden is rude by definition. But from what I've learned reading the forums recently, women are very wary of men here for a lot of reasons. And rightly so because it seems like any guy can be nice only because he's trying to get what he wants, before suddenly turning nasty the moment he either gets it or he doesn't
So, a lot of women would feel much safer blocking, I imagine. Which is completely understandable as it's the safest way to reinforce boundaries without receiving any abuse
I would also feel hurt if it suddenly happened to me. But if you are frustrated and feel a need to vent, please choose your words more carefully in future. People here won't suddenly rally around you, especially not when you're slagging off the person in question because, as others have said, it automatically confirms their suspicions
Hope you've had a chance to calm down now and hope you've taken on board what everyone has said |
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"I guess it's impossible to know the reason why she blocked you but all you can do is take it as a rejection and move on
I understand your frustration. In my opinion, blocking all of a sudden is rude by definition. But from what I've learned reading the forums recently, women are very wary of men here for a lot of reasons. And rightly so because it seems like any guy can be nice only because he's trying to get what he wants, before suddenly turning nasty the moment he either gets it or he doesn't
So, a lot of women would feel much safer blocking, I imagine. Which is completely understandable as it's the safest way to reinforce boundaries without receiving any abuse
I would also feel hurt if it suddenly happened to me. But if you are frustrated and feel a need to vent, please choose your words more carefully in future. People here won't suddenly rally around you, especially not when you're slagging off the person in question because, as others have said, it automatically confirms their suspicions
Hope you've had a chance to calm down now and hope you've taken on board what everyone has said"
A very nice response to the OP conveying the same message as others but not a rant back.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The poor guy is just having a rant and letting off steam. Doesnt make him nasty or that he cant take a no as a no!
This place is highly frustrating at times. The problem being that people hide behind a screen and can do and say what they like.
Online platforms bring out the worst in people. Most wouldn't dare behave in real life the way they behave on here.
Some open minded and level headed advice on here for you to consider. Ignore the crap stuff, dont rise to the bait!
I hope you find someone who deserves your time and matches your efforts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
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By *unchalMan
over a year ago
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"I posted tbf, the exact same thing a few weeks back, message a girl that viewed my profile, with face pictures, chat, chat chat, interested in meeting, discussing what I’m into… asks for a face picture.. tell her there’s a bunch in the first message.
I get blocked for my fucking face. I got all the possible explanations last time. This time I’m genuinely just fucked off. Like sorry you’re so fucking stupid you didn’t see the symbol for pictures or have sense to even scroll down, then you block me?
Away and fuck some absolute chav. Just getting fucking old now, you wonder why some men are dicks, this is why.
Manners are free. I used mine.
If you don’t have the self confidence to read a message that has a small chance of being a childish tantrum from someone you’ve never met get off the site… and yes I’m smart enough by I see the irony in the final paragraph.
Like the subject says just a vent.
Honestly some people use this site just to wank off their own ego I swear.
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You sound like that was a lucky miss for her. |
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"The poor guy is just having a rant and letting off steam. Doesnt make him nasty or that he cant take a no as a no!
This place is highly frustrating at times. The problem being that people hide behind a screen and can do and say what they like.
Online platforms bring out the worst in people. Most wouldn't dare behave in real life the way they behave on here.
Some open minded and level headed advice on here for you to consider. Ignore the crap stuff, dont rise to the bait!
I hope you find someone who deserves your time and matches your efforts. "
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If we create realistic expectations then we are likely to be less surprised by predictable experiences.
Yes just will not be a mutual match to most people, due to preferences. After a chain of messages, hope will die. That's to be expected |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"OP you just need to understand your pov of a block and rationale for a block can be totally different.
I learned many years ago not to take online stuff personally, even when it is intended  "
Exactly some just love using the block button but why would you be upset by someone who hasn't met you so doesn't know what a catch you are |
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I understand your frustration, a lot of time wasted chatting before she decides you're not for her. Blocked without explanation would piss me off too, especially after exchanging messages.
Agh, onwards and upwards. Hope you feel better
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The poor guy is just having a rant and letting off steam. Doesnt make him nasty or that he cant take a no as a no!
This place is highly frustrating at times. The problem being that people hide behind a screen and can do and say what they like.
Online platforms bring out the worst in people. Most wouldn't dare behave in real life the way they behave on here.
Some open minded and level headed advice on here for you to consider. Ignore the crap stuff, dont rise to the bait!
I hope you find someone who deserves your time and matches your efforts. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
Oh this has happened to me a fair few times. Truth is, there is nothing more savage than your body is super sexy, but that face, get the fuck out! Nothing we can do to change the face or make it look much different after all...body parts you can do a degree.
Its bleak but whenever you get blocked for reasons like that, just take a breath and think - would you have wanted to meet them anyway if they're that savage?
But in my opinion there's no kind way to say 'now I've seen your face I want to run to the hills' anyway so whatever form of no more contact is for the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also sometimes people block after seeing a face pic- because they might have recognised you from somewhere and didn’t want to go any further. Especially if they need discretion etc |
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"Oh this has happened to me a fair few times. Truth is, there is nothing more savage than your body is super sexy, but that face, get the fuck out! Nothing we can do to change the face or make it look much different after all...body parts you can do a degree.
Its bleak but whenever you get blocked for reasons like that, just take a breath and think - would you have wanted to meet them anyway if they're that savage?
But in my opinion there's no kind way to say 'now I've seen your face I want to run to the hills' anyway so whatever form of no more contact is for the best "
Although I find your post amusing, let's get real, finding a face pic unattractive (as in you do not see attraction there) is normal not savage. Would you offer a minger (not gender specific and only your pov) a drink in a pub? Maybe if you just want a fuck but no if needing attraction. |
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
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Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"Oh this has happened to me a fair few times. Truth is, there is nothing more savage than your body is super sexy, but that face, get the fuck out! Nothing we can do to change the face or make it look much different after all...body parts you can do a degree.
Its bleak but whenever you get blocked for reasons like that, just take a breath and think - would you have wanted to meet them anyway if they're that savage?
But in my opinion there's no kind way to say 'now I've seen your face I want to run to the hills' anyway so whatever form of no more contact is for the best
Although I find your post amusing, let's get real, finding a face pic unattractive (as in you do not see attraction there) is normal not savage. Would you offer a minger (not gender specific and only your pov) a drink in a pub? Maybe if you just want a fuck but no if needing attraction."
Absolutely and that's what you have to remind yourself! But here is unique in that you can lust and flirt away due to body pics and then see their face and go FUCK NO. It's like Naked Attraction but dragged out and online |
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over a year ago
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives "
No. Most.
It's definitely most. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Oh this has happened to me a fair few times. Truth is, there is nothing more savage than your body is super sexy, but that face, get the fuck out! Nothing we can do to change the face or make it look much different after all...body parts you can do a degree.
Its bleak but whenever you get blocked for reasons like that, just take a breath and think - would you have wanted to meet them anyway if they're that savage?
But in my opinion there's no kind way to say 'now I've seen your face I want to run to the hills' anyway so whatever form of no more contact is for the best
Although I find your post amusing, let's get real, finding a face pic unattractive (as in you do not see attraction there) is normal not savage. Would you offer a minger (not gender specific and only your pov) a drink in a pub? Maybe if you just want a fuck but no if needing attraction."
a minger lol |
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You’re sick of feeling like you get nowhere.
She’s potentially sick of getting abuse or persistent begging when she says no thanks.
She might feel bad knowing you’d been chatting for a while, from your perspective, your face having been seen and have worried there be an assumption in your part that it’s going ahead. In which case she might have thought the kickback would be worse, hence blocking. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"You’re sick of feeling like you get nowhere.
She’s potentially sick of getting abuse or persistent begging when she says no thanks.
She might feel bad knowing you’d been chatting for a while, from your perspective, your face having been seen and have worried there be an assumption in your part that it’s going ahead. In which case she might have thought the kickback would be worse, hence blocking. "
Exactly its not always about looks or personality its quite often about many other things mood and geography play a part, maybe she pressed the block button by mistake as she fell asleep you'll never know, so hence move on and enjoy the next person you speak to but make sure early on she finds you attractive saves wasting time |
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives
No. Most.
It's definitely most. "
Lets explore that a little bit... Your dad, grandad, son, uncle, brother, amazon driver, teacher, ambulance an, postman, dustman, are mostly dicks? I can't speak to your experiences but You have been unfortunate if most of those have been dicks and can assure you that elsewhere they really aren't. |
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"Oh this has happened to me a fair few times. Truth is, there is nothing more savage than your body is super sexy, but that face, get the fuck out! Nothing we can do to change the face or make it look much different after all...body parts you can do a degree.
Its bleak but whenever you get blocked for reasons like that, just take a breath and think - would you have wanted to meet them anyway if they're that savage?
But in my opinion there's no kind way to say 'now I've seen your face I want to run to the hills' anyway so whatever form of no more contact is for the best
Although I find your post amusing, let's get real, finding a face pic unattractive (as in you do not see attraction there) is normal not savage. Would you offer a minger (not gender specific and only your pov) a drink in a pub? Maybe if you just want a fuck but no if needing attraction.
Absolutely and that's what you have to remind yourself! But here is unique in that you can lust and flirt away due to body pics and then see their face and go FUCK NO. It's like Naked Attraction but dragged out and online "
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"Oh this has happened to me a fair few times. Truth is, there is nothing more savage than your body is super sexy, but that face, get the fuck out! Nothing we can do to change the face or make it look much different after all...body parts you can do a degree.
Its bleak but whenever you get blocked for reasons like that, just take a breath and think - would you have wanted to meet them anyway if they're that savage?
But in my opinion there's no kind way to say 'now I've seen your face I want to run to the hills' anyway so whatever form of no more contact is for the best
Although I find your post amusing, let's get real, finding a face pic unattractive (as in you do not see attraction there) is normal not savage. Would you offer a minger (not gender specific and only your pov) a drink in a pub? Maybe if you just want a fuck but no if needing attraction.a minger lol "
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over a year ago
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"I guess it's impossible to know the reason why she blocked you but all you can do is take it as a rejection and move on
I understand your frustration. In my opinion, blocking all of a sudden is rude by definition. But from what I've learned reading the forums recently, women are very wary of men here for a lot of reasons. And rightly so because it seems like any guy can be nice only because he's trying to get what he wants, before suddenly turning nasty the moment he either gets it or he doesn't
So, a lot of women would feel much safer blocking, I imagine. Which is completely understandable as it's the safest way to reinforce boundaries without receiving any abuse
I would also feel hurt if it suddenly happened to me. But if you are frustrated and feel a need to vent, please choose your words more carefully in future. People here won't suddenly rally around you, especially not when you're slagging off the person in question because, as others have said, it automatically confirms their suspicions
Hope you've had a chance to calm down now and hope you've taken on board what everyone has said"
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over a year ago
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives
No. Most.
It's definitely most.
Lets explore that a little bit... Your dad, grandad, son, uncle, brother, amazon driver, teacher, ambulance an, postman, dustman, are mostly dicks? I can't speak to your experiences but You have been unfortunate if most of those have been dicks and can assure you that elsewhere they really aren't. "
I can assure you, they really are.
My Amazon drivers ok though as he doesn't just yeet my parcels across the gate.
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives
No. Most.
It's definitely most.
Lets explore that a little bit... Your dad, grandad, son, uncle, brother, amazon driver, teacher, ambulance an, postman, dustman, are mostly dicks? I can't speak to your experiences but You have been unfortunate if most of those have been dicks and can assure you that elsewhere they really aren't.
I can assure you, they really are.
My Amazon drivers ok though as he doesn't just yeet my parcels across the gate.
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Well.. At least there's one! Sorry to hear most in your life are dicks. Maybe it's the selection process? |
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over a year ago
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives
No. Most.
It's definitely most.
Lets explore that a little bit... Your dad, grandad, son, uncle, brother, amazon driver, teacher, ambulance an, postman, dustman, are mostly dicks? I can't speak to your experiences but You have been unfortunate if most of those have been dicks and can assure you that elsewhere they really aren't.
I can assure you, they really are.
My Amazon drivers ok though as he doesn't just yeet my parcels across the gate.
Well.. At least there's one! Sorry to hear most in your life are dicks. Maybe it's the selection process? "
Yeah it's always the woman's fault. Never the men.
Funny how men are so oblivious. |
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If what you've written in your first post is manners, OP, I would revisit the topic. I regard what you've written as rather rude.
Someone has used the tools of the site to act in a way you don't like, so she's "fucking stupid", "some absolute chav" and the reason why "some men are dicks", and she should "get off the site"?
I don't think "just a vent" excuses such utter rudeness and vile characterisations from you, either.
Maybe some women block because they know that some men will call them fucking stupid, tell them to get off the site and that they're an absolute chav, and blame them for the behaviour problems of men? |
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives
No. Most.
It's definitely most.
Lets explore that a little bit... Your dad, grandad, son, uncle, brother, amazon driver, teacher, ambulance an, postman, dustman, are mostly dicks? I can't speak to your experiences but You have been unfortunate if most of those have been dicks and can assure you that elsewhere they really aren't.
I can assure you, they really are.
My Amazon drivers ok though as he doesn't just yeet my parcels across the gate.
Well.. At least there's one! Sorry to hear most in your life are dicks. Maybe it's the selection process?
Yeah it's always the woman's fault. Never the men.
Funny how men are so oblivious. "
If you're choosing to be around dicks... That's on you. Control what you can control. |
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives
No. Most.
It's definitely most.
Lets explore that a little bit... Your dad, grandad, son, uncle, brother, amazon driver, teacher, ambulance an, postman, dustman, are mostly dicks? I can't speak to your experiences but You have been unfortunate if most of those have been dicks and can assure you that elsewhere they really aren't.
I can assure you, they really are.
My Amazon drivers ok though as he doesn't just yeet my parcels across the gate.
Well.. At least there's one! Sorry to hear most in your life are dicks. Maybe it's the selection process?
Yeah it's always the woman's fault. Never the men.
Funny how men are so oblivious.
If you're choosing to be around dicks... That's on you. Control what you can control. "
Most people can't handle becoming a recluse, though, so some level of being around awful people is baked in to life. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives
No. Most.
It's definitely most.
Lets explore that a little bit... Your dad, grandad, son, uncle, brother, amazon driver, teacher, ambulance an, postman, dustman, are mostly dicks? I can't speak to your experiences but You have been unfortunate if most of those have been dicks and can assure you that elsewhere they really aren't.
I can assure you, they really are.
My Amazon drivers ok though as he doesn't just yeet my parcels across the gate.
Well.. At least there's one! Sorry to hear most in your life are dicks. Maybe it's the selection process?
Yeah it's always the woman's fault. Never the men.
Funny how men are so oblivious.
If you're choosing to be around dicks... That's on you. Control what you can control. "
I think most people are dicks. |
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over a year ago
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On the upside, at least she liked your cock?
People who have a face only a mother could love could go for the whole "masquerade ball mask" type thing. Be mysterious. When asked why you won't show your face, just say it's your persona. |
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"I posted tbf, the exact same thing a few weeks back, message a girl that viewed my profile, with face pictures, chat, chat chat, interested in meeting, discussing what I’m into… asks for a face picture.. tell her there’s a bunch in the first message.
I get blocked for my fucking face. I got all the possible explanations last time. This time I’m genuinely just fucked off. Like sorry you’re so fucking stupid you didn’t see the symbol for pictures or have sense to even scroll down, then you block me?
Away and fuck some absolute chav. Just getting fucking old now, you wonder why some men are dicks, this is why.
Manners are free. I used mine.
If you don’t have the self confidence to read a message that has a small chance of being a childish tantrum from someone you’ve never met get off the site… and yes I’m smart enough by I see the irony in the final paragraph.
Like the subject says just a vent.
Honestly some people use this site just to wank off their own ego I swear.
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If the same thing keeps happening maybe change the way you do things.
Try swapping photos earlier or ask to do a video call.
Though saying unkind things like calling someone a chav now your not meeting isn't the best look.
I tend to rant on a piece of paper then scrunch the paper up and throw it away in a bin. It's quite effective than ranting to strangers on the internet.
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"I posted tbf, the exact same thing a few weeks back, message a girl that viewed my profile, with face pictures, chat, chat chat, interested in meeting, discussing what I’m into… asks for a face picture.. tell her there’s a bunch in the first message.
I get blocked for my fucking face. I got all the possible explanations last time. This time I’m genuinely just fucked off. Like sorry you’re so fucking stupid you didn’t see the symbol for pictures or have sense to even scroll down, then you block me?
Away and fuck some absolute chav. Just getting fucking old now, you wonder why some men are dicks, this is why.
Manners are free. I used mine.
If you don’t have the self confidence to read a message that has a small chance of being a childish tantrum from someone you’ve never met get off the site… and yes I’m smart enough by I see the irony in the final paragraph.
Like the subject says just a vent.
Honestly some people use this site just to wank off their own ego I swear.
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Upsetting someone when you say no thank you after they shared their photo can be awkward.
I once had a woman demanding I tell her why. I started with “I’m sorry not for me thanks” she started hounding me to be specific as she got more annoyed. It went to I don’t find you attractive, she wanted to know exactly why..
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"I posted tbf, the exact same thing a few weeks back, message a girl that viewed my profile, with face pictures, chat, chat chat, interested in meeting, discussing what I’m into… asks for a face picture.. tell her there’s a bunch in the first message.
I get blocked for my fucking face. I got all the possible explanations last time. This time I’m genuinely just fucked off. Like sorry you’re so fucking stupid you didn’t see the symbol for pictures or have sense to even scroll down, then you block me?
Away and fuck some absolute chav. Just getting fucking old now, you wonder why some men are dicks, this is why.
Manners are free. I used mine.
If you don’t have the self confidence to read a message that has a small chance of being a childish tantrum from someone you’ve never met get off the site… and yes I’m smart enough by I see the irony in the final paragraph.
Like the subject says just a vent.
Honestly some people use this site just to wank off their own ego I swear.
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You can't force people to fancy you.
If she doesn't like how you look the she doesn't like how you look.
It's her perogative.
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"Upsetting someone when you say no thank you after they shared their photo can be awkward.
I once had a woman demanding I tell her why. I started with “I’m sorry not for me thanks” she started hounding me to be specific as she got more annoyed. It went to I don’t find you attractive, she wanted to know exactly why..
Blocked."
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"If I let men's behaviour towards me affect my own behaviour I'd be an utter cunt to any man who messages me.
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It's sometimes difficult after receiving a string of vile or abusive first or second messages to get back into a friendly and chatty mood to subsequent contact. I continually battle to reply with 'no thank you' rather than 'just fuck off!'
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QUOTE from O.P.
If you don’t have the self confidence to read a message that has a small chance of being a childish tantrum from someone you’ve never met get off the site… and yes I’m smart enough by I see the irony in the final paragraph.
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It isn't self confidence people lack, it's the courage and self compassion to not deal with immature abusive behaviour.
You have no right to use other people , on here or anywhere, to take out your frustrations on in a verbal diatribe. |
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"Everyone has the right to change there mind at any point in time op
Yes it can be disheartening but it’s best to just brush it off and back to looking
But what dose paint a bad picture
Is you insulting the person by saying just go fuck a chav and a rant post
It makes you come across as pushy that you can’t take a no would make me wary that if I sed no during the moment that you wouldn’t turn nasty
As your post has shown that you do turn nasty to a no
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"We mostly just say sorry there is no attraction.
Most take it the right occasionally some spit their dummy out and get blocked."
And that’s why blocking them as soon as you’ve said no thanks, is the smart play. You get zero chance of any comebacks. |
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"I do agree anyone can block anyone they want without an explanation. Also if you're talking to multiple people it's easy to forget who you've seen, I've done similar before.
But on here it always seems to be that females can do no wrong and the men are scum.
Like it or not,a lot of women do like the ego boost and do act like fucking bitches. I mean, most men are dicks but still. A lot of women are too.
Most men are dicks?
No. Some are. Most men just go about their lives
No. Most.
It's definitely most. "
Im with Back4.... Some men... relatively few men .... a certain type of man but not MOST men.
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If it’s any consolation, I know exactly where you’re coming from. Just when you think things are progressing nicely you send that face pic. And then blocked. I don’t mind someone not liking my face pic, I’m no oil painting by any means. But I would appreciate it when the lady just has the decency to say so. Doesn’t take much to say thanks but no thanks.
But I can understand why they do it, the attention they get is overwhelming at times. |
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Some people are different.
I had a girl arranged to meet and gave me her postcode. (That's normal for me as I was picking her up and usually just get a postcode)
En route asked where she'd want picking up from exactly. No response until I was there... Her internet was bad apparently. Then when I gave her my number it was her phone that was bad.
When I got there ,She was near as I checked the GPS thingy. Yet wouldn't respond. Told her where I was and Waited a good while. Heard nothing but she was posting on fab??
Like I don't mind if you don't want to fuck me or even like me tbh but do not waste my or anyone else's time. |
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"If it’s any consolation, I know exactly where you’re coming from. Just when you think things are progressing nicely you send that face pic. And then blocked. I don’t mind someone not liking my face pic, I’m no oil painting by any means. But I would appreciate it when the lady just has the decency to say so. Doesn’t take much to say thanks but no thanks.
But I can understand why they do it, the attention they get is overwhelming at times. "
I think the internet changed things.
Back in the day, you had to say to someone face to face that they weren't for you. And the number of people who'd jump from that to psycho was exceedingly small.
I'm not saying that people who do it online are a large percentage of people, but it's a much larger percent than who'd do it in person.
So it's worthwhile to realise that... a lot of people block rather than risking a minority of people losing their shit. It's not personal, it's just a way of dealing with one of the pitfalls of the communication method. |
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