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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?
We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so
My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530
But a sixth sense told me not to go through it
He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust your instincts.
And next time give them your street or nearby but not precise address, tell them to call you when they are on your street for precise address. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?
We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so
My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530
But a sixth sense told me not to go through it
He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me "
Trust your gut instinct, it's something I need to do more because it's never been wrong. |
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"No you didn’t do anything wrong at all. No one has to do anything they don’t want to, your safety comes first  "
Fluffy, I'll be interested in what certain parties have to say about this though!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You were right to call it off, always follow your intuition. Re: him knowing your address - if he starts getting creepy, make out you’ve male relatives staying over and if need be, vary your routes to shake him off. (Better safe than sorry)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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DO NOT MEET.. your gut feelings are usually right...
Be polite but make sure he knows another man will be there.. a relative or friend.
Never give your address out until you have met in a public place more than once and be happy but it is easy to say that now.
This site is all about you and if you don't want to meet then don't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trust your instincts.
And next time give them your street or nearby but not precise address, tell them to call you when they are on your street for precise address. "
Such good advice! You're more than entitled to change your mind OP and hopefully he'll respect that but please keep the above in mind for future meets. |
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We had an mmf meet set up a few months back. Day of meet he started demanding bareback which is a deal breaker for us. Cancelled straight away to torrents of abuse here and on WhatsApp. That was clear cut but if anything even slightly off happened we would not meet |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"He’s taken it very well … but I’m glad I cancelled … thank you everyone I feel so much better now x"
I'm glad he's taken it well ,you did right to cancel if it felt off to you.Maybe consider meeting people in a public place op,so they don't have your address straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at all, safety is always number 1 and you should trust your gut
Here’s a tip I hope more people follow
Never give your full address, just the street, that way if they don’t show up, or you cancel, you don’t need to worry about unwanted visitors and you’ll feel more safe |
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"Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?
We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so
My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530
But a sixth sense told me not to go through it
He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me "
You definitely did the right thing if you didn't feel comfortable.
Not sure what his questions were. Maybe they were innocent on his behalf.
I once arranged to meet one half of a couple. I innocently asked who would be in? This took her back a bit and asked me to explain. For me I just wanted to know what to expect when I got there. For her it probably rang alarm bells. Sometimes things can be misunderstood over text. It may be worth getting them to explain what they meant by the things they've said.
I would always advise meeting somewhere public first though |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"Trust your instincts.
And next time give them your street or nearby but not precise address, tell them to call you when they are on your street for precise address. "
I 1000% agree with this!!! Never give your full address. Walking a short distance to meet someone is a small price to pay for your safety & no, even the very last second is nit too late to cancel x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No you didn’t do anything wrong at all. No one has to do anything they don’t want to, your safety comes first
Fluffy, I'll be interested in what certain parties have to say about this though!!!!"
Oh I’m sure they’ll be along when they wake  |
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"Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?
We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so
My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530
But a sixth sense told me not to go through it
He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me "
Trust your gut - you aren't wrong for cancelling. He may be disappointed and that's understandable but if you aren't comfortable, you shouldn't feel coerced into something.
I'd recommend going out for the evening if you can though as he has your address. Some people do not take the clear "no thank you, I've changed my mind"' |
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"Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?
We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so
My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530
But a sixth sense told me not to go through it
He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me "
Never feel bad about cancelling if you're concerned. I've also given my address when first joined and didn't realise how dangerous that was as was getting on well through messages and phone calls. Now just give road name and go and get them when they're there. Handy to have a full length coat if you happen to be i your underwear  |
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If we're honest and don't mislead someone, or not inform them, when we can't or don't want to complete a meeting, then we're doing what we can.
We must look after our safety and wellbeing. If there's anything that indicates that we're not right to meet, then cancel, potentially to rearrange. |
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