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Rules for f buddy's ???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should we have rules , ie are you not to sleep with others ?
I have a Female fuckbuddy and I want her to have sex with other people.
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 I'm shocked. How rude x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If that's the rule then surely you're boyfriend and girlfriend? X
He says he doesn't want me too but wants to watch me with someone else x"
Let me guess. Another girl perhaps? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A fuck buddy is just that Hun, and rules are set depending on what your comfy with between you. Personally I would prefer a fuk buddy who would only play as part of our couple not alone but those types of fellas are very few and far between in my opinion. |
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"A fuck buddy is just that Hun, and rules are set depending on what your comfy with between you. Personally I would prefer a fuk buddy who would only play as part of our couple not alone but those types of fellas are very few and far between in my opinion. "
He confuses me tbh , he does nt want me to meet on my own but doesn't want more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you want more and he doesn't then maybe this whole f buddy thing isn't going the way you want.
Is he willing to have the same rules as he wants you to have? Do you trust him? Do you want a real relationship with him? X |
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"Maybe you need to sit down and have a good chat he sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. Is he still going to play??"
He says no ! If he's seeing one that's it but I beg to differ tbh x |
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"We don't use condoms , so should I say to him we should if we're sleeping with others ? Or carry on as we are I'm confused how it works lol "
How do you know he isn't having unprotected sex away from you? It all sounds a bit controlling to me. Id insist on condoms. |
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"If you want more and he doesn't then maybe this whole f buddy thing isn't going the way you want.
Is he willing to have the same rules as he wants you to have? Do you trust him? Do you want a real relationship with him? X"
Tbh I am falling for him , he says he likes me but wants to take it slow ... Not sure about trust as I found him on pof |
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"We don't use condoms , so should I say to him we should if we're sleeping with others ? Or carry on as we are I'm confused how it works lol
How do you know he isn't having unprotected sex away from you? It all sounds a bit controlling to me. Id insist on condoms."
Tbh I think I need to now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If my fuck-buddy tried to stop me playing with others, he wouldn't be my fuck-buddy for long 
...come to think of it if he stopped playing with others I'd also run a mile 
But I guess some people don't mind being told how to behave...  |
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"Condoms are a must full stop Hun!! Sounds to me like he wants a relationship yet scared to commit. But it's not all about him it's what you want too. "
That's what he's more or less said to me , but like you said I've got to think about myself x x |
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I dont have one fb in fact i dont have any fbs i have gentleman callers, some i see more often than others. I have one rule, when they come through my front door i get their attenton for the night, the minute they go back out we both go back to doing what we want.
Ive even become an assistant to a couple of them in their quest to find more ladies in their area |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want more and he doesn't then maybe this whole f buddy thing isn't going the way you want.
Is he willing to have the same rules as he wants you to have? Do you trust him? Do you want a real relationship with him? X
Tbh I am falling for him , he says he likes me but wants to take it slow ... Not sure about trust as I found him on pof "
Don't fall for him , you'll just end up getting hurt  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
Had an fb for around 18 months. We are both single and both value our freedom and independence. If either one were to start laying down rules about who we could see beyond that then it would be over. That is not what either of us is looking for.
Seems strange that your fb is saying that he doesn't want you to see anyone else. You are single and should be able to please yourself. Who else you see is none of his business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had an fb for around 18 months. We are both single and both value our freedom and independence. If either one were to start laying down rules about who we could see beyond that then it would be over. That is not what either of us is looking for.
Seems strange that your fb is saying that he doesn't want you to see anyone else. You are single and should be able to please yourself. Who else you see is none of his business."
 fuckbuddys are there for sex, yes it can be intimate, i.e. the girlfriend sex but your not a vanilla couple, therefore exclusivity isn't on the table. The line between FB and partner with feelings can get blurry as had this before. and alot on here do start this way and become couples fall in love etc. keep talking and being honest with each other is my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always found fbs, fwb never see u as more than just sex. I had a fwb until recently and it seemed like he had feelings for me cos if the way he acted around me and the compliments etc but he says he could never have a relationship with me cos he doesn't have "them sorta feelings" for me. He didn't wanna hurt me so we put a stop to the sex but are still good friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should we have rules , ie are you not to sleep with others ?
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How can you tell a fuck buddie what to do when they arnt with you? surely if you was taking it to that level its a partner not a friend?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should we have rules , ie are you not to sleep with others ?
How can you tell a fuck buddie what to do when they arnt with you? surely if you was taking it to that level its a partner not a friend??"
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Sorry only just hot back from work , he doesn't want me to see anyone else ! He went mad I went to chams even though I did nt do Anythink more for the social there "
In your shoes I would get rid - right now and not look back.
Even if you HAD done something it is none of his business unless he is prepared to commit to a proper monogamous relationship.
Tell him to do one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry only just hot back from work , he doesn't want me to see anyone else ! He went mad I went to chams even though I did nt do Anythink more for the social there
In your shoes I would get rid - right now and not look back.
Even if you HAD done something it is none of his business unless he is prepared to commit to a proper monogamous relationship.
Tell him to do one."
This.
OP, sounds like deep down you think he cares about you and that's why he wants to keep you for himself.
He doesn't care about you, he doesn't want a relationship with you.
He is controlling and jealous. I'd get out while you can. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Sorry only just hot back from work , he doesn't want me to see anyone else ! He went mad I went to chams even though I did nt do Anythink more for the social there
In your shoes I would get rid - right now and not look back.
Even if you HAD done something it is none of his business unless he is prepared to commit to a proper monogamous relationship.
Tell him to do one.
This.
OP, sounds like deep down you think he cares about you and that's why he wants to keep you for himself.
He doesn't care about you, he doesn't want a relationship with you.
He is controlling and jealous. I'd get out while you can. "
I agree - sounds controlling and manipulative and that is really really unhealthy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From previous experience, men get controlling and possessive when they feel insecure. He will feel insecure as the men to women ratio is not in his favour. It sounds like he is trying to control you in order to have his own needs pandered to - what about yours? You need to socialise but he goes off on one about it?! I would tell him to do one.
As he is not giving you anything else (from what has been said) other than sex, he is in no position to be asking for anything from you. It sounds like he is manipulating you as he knows/suspects you have feelings for him.
Continue to do what makes you happy whatever path that is. Think what's best for you cos it doesn't sound like he is.
Hope it all works out for the best,
crystal |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I really don't know what to do as I do like him alot , / "
Then best to dump him now before you get even more caught up and heartbroken. If it is not fun then it's not worth it. |
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"From previous experience, men get controlling and possessive when they feel insecure. He will feel insecure as the men to women ratio is not in his favour. It sounds like he is trying to control you in order to have his own needs pandered to - what about yours? You need to socialise but he goes off on one about it?! I would tell him to do one.
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As he is not giving you anything else (from what has been said) other than sex, he is in no position to be asking for anything from you. It sounds like he is manipulating you as he knows/suspects you have feelings for him.
Continue to do what makes you happy whatever path that is. Think what's best for you cos it doesn't sound like he is.
Hope it all works out for the best,
crystal"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really don't know what to do as I do like him alot , /
Then best to dump him now before you get even more caught up and heartbroken. If it is not fun then it's not worth it."
He's just not that into you!
Oh and he seems like a real ass!!! |
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