Is it ok to judge other people and call them names just because their thing is not your thing? I've seen a few forum posts that are so judgemental! Plus seen others asking if what they do is disgusting, why! I swerve the stuff I'm not into but don't throw shade on those who do stuff I'm not into.
Surely folk should be able to swing their own way (legal activities obvs) & not be subject to others throwing shade their way? What do you think?  |
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"Oh.
I love throwing shade with the people who understand it.
This kind isn't fun."
Yup I'm with you on that lol! Lots of fun and laughter when you open the library - however only for those with a library ticket lol! |
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over a year ago
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"Haters gonna hate. It’s what they do.
It doesn't feel very necessary, I always figured that being a swinger was liberating, it's not great to see some judgement, it's a mood killer for me "
It’s not necessary but it’s what they do. Sone people aren’t floating unless someone else is drowning unfortunately. Ultimately harms no one but themselves though. Who likes a hater? No one. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Is it ok to judge other people and call them names just because their thing is not your thing? I've seen a few forum posts that are so judgemental! Plus seen others asking if what they do is disgusting, why! I swerve the stuff I'm not into but don't throw shade on those who do stuff I'm not into.
Surely folk should be able to swing their own way (legal activities obvs) & not be subject to others throwing shade their way? What do you think? "
Its a forum so not everyone agrees as not everyone would agree with the way you deal with it |
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I've NEVER seen a thread or a post started by someone to belittle a sexual act.
I have seen threads started by people asking for the opinions of others and they are given them and often they are pretty clear about how they feel |
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"Haters gonna hate. It’s what they do.
It doesn't feel very necessary, I always figured that being a swinger was liberating, it's not great to see some judgement, it's a mood killer for me "
You are making judgements now? Is this a wind up thread ? Have I fallen for it ? |
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Depends on context. If someone does a thread asking people’s opinions on something then it’s fair enough for people to say they don’t like it or think it’s gross. Just randomly being nasty about something isn’t fair enough. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Haters gonna hate. It’s what they do.
It doesn't feel very necessary, I always figured that being a swinger was liberating, it's not great to see some judgement, it's a mood killer for me
You are making judgements now? Is this a wind up thread ? Have I fallen for it ?"
yep hook line and centre |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Haters gonna hate. It’s what they do.
It doesn't feel very necessary, I always figured that being a swinger was liberating, it's not great to see some judgement, it's a mood killer for me
You are making judgements now? Is this a wind up thread ? Have I fallen for it ?yep hook line and centre "
sinker even |
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"I'd be interested in the 'names' people have been called ? "
People who like shredding excrement onto baked goods have been called the Grate Shittish Cake Off.
People who like water sports have been called Driving Piss Crazy.
People who like humiliating men from Ireland have been called Cuck of the Irish.
Need I go on? |
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"Haters gonna hate. It’s what they do.
It doesn't feel very necessary, I always figured that being a swinger was liberating, it's not great to see some judgement, it's a mood killer for me
You are making judgements now? Is this a wind up thread ? Have I fallen for it ?"
Hmm fair shout haha, I should have phrased it as
'I favour a positive approach personally so find seeing judgy stuff a bit crap. Being a swinger is liberating for me, it's not great to see judgy comments that are throwing shade, it kills my good mood
Although, I didn't actually say throw shade about those who do it lol |
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"I'd be interested in the 'names' people have been called ? "
The kind of thing that say, "I'm into this but not that because it's awful". Like that's shade on those who do enjoy it, it just feels crap to me to see stuff like that. Like my thing may not be your thing and vice versa but that should be completely OK |
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I think ... people are going to judge.
Some genuinely won't care what others do.
Lots will pass judgement.
Seek out those that indulge in your interest and don't engage with those that don't.
There are some things I do judge - my opinion shouldn't influence someone else's likes/dislikes |
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There are some things I just couldn't get into and the thought of one or two go through me.
To tell someone else that's objectively disgusting is not my thing at all.
It doesn't bother me personally, I have seen people call things disgusting etc that people have shared with me: I feel for them. |
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I don’t care what someone else does. But I use it as a basis to meet/ speak to/ club with that person.
Don’t go out of my way to throw shade to anyone, couldn’t be arsed and don’t care about anyone enough too ha, (unless an opinion is asked for in my inbox) but I do judge people based on decisions or actions on here absolutely  |
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"I think ... people are going to judge.
Some genuinely won't care what others do.
Lots will pass judgement.
Seek out those that indulge in your interest and don't engage with those that don't.
There are some things I do judge - my opinion shouldn't influence someone else's likes/dislikes "
Agreed.
There’s lots of things I categorically disagree with but I wouldn’t go out of my way to throw shade or be nasty to someone who does it. Just avoid that person and next  |
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"There are some things I just couldn't get into and the thought of one or two go through me.
To tell someone else that's objectively disgusting is not my thing at all.
It doesn't bother me personally, I have seen people call things disgusting etc that people have shared with me: I feel for them."
Just this! Some of the sexual acts that others enjoy don't do it for me but it does for them so great, enjoy! Be a little boring if we were all the same right?
It does bother me as in it kills my good vibe |
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I tell you what pisses me off more than people throwing shade for stupid reasons is people throwing quiet shade subtly. Make your point clearly or don’t  |
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"I tell you what pisses me off more than people throwing shade for stupid reasons is people throwing quiet shade subtly. Make your point clearly or don’t "
That made me laugh and think of the phrase, it boils my piss lol! |
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"There are some things I just couldn't get into and the thought of one or two go through me.
To tell someone else that's objectively disgusting is not my thing at all.
It doesn't bother me personally, I have seen people call things disgusting etc that people have shared with me: I feel for them.
Just this! Some of the sexual acts that others enjoy don't do it for me but it does for them so great, enjoy! Be a little boring if we were all the same right?
It does bother me as in it kills my good vibe "
It would be dreadful. Difference is what sparks creativity. I love when someone shares a fantasy and I have that: fuck me that's hot, I never knew that could turn me on sensation. I'm sure there's still room for more discovery.
I hear you, I think it would ruin my good vibe too, if I gave it enough thought. |
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"Got to admit that I've read about quite a few fairly disgusting practces mentioned on this site. some of which would put my few peccadilloes in the shade!"
Is that like beach sliders under your umbrella ? |
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